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- Hannah - Yesterday at 9:32 PM
- what do you want to do?
- May 27, 2018
- Hannah - Today at 7:55 AM
- Sierra?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:15 AM
- I dont know....
- Hannah - Today at 11:18 AM
- I would like to try to help with that
- if it is okay
- if it would be unhealthy to pursue that with me
- I understand
- Lexicona - Today at 11:19 AM
- I dont know how you could....
- Hannah - Today at 11:24 AM
- talking
- to me
- might help
- Lexicona - Today at 11:25 AM
- It hasnt helped me find answers so far....
- Hannah - Today at 11:27 AM
- I don't feel like we have been able to talk about that topic
- whenever we get on the topic of what to do to help
- Lexicona - Today at 11:27 AM
- it's been a surprisingly hard topic for me to talk about
- Hannah - Today at 11:27 AM
- it seems to get very difficult
- I understand
- that is why I wanted you to take time if you need
- but it is very important to me
- Lexicona - Today at 11:28 AM
- i know it's important to you...
- Hannah - Today at 11:30 AM
- do you want to maybe try to schedule a time we can talk about it
- where you feel like you are in a safe environment
- I know it is hard to think about
- Lexicona - Today at 11:30 AM
- i never feel like i'm in a safe environment
- in general
- Hannah - Today at 11:31 AM
- I meant a relatively safe one where you would be comfortable talking about stuff with me hun
- Lexicona - Today at 11:32 AM
- this isn't because of you
- but i'll never feel safe or happy talking about this
- even relatively
- i broke down when pestered about something similar in therapy a couple years ago
- Hannah - Today at 11:34 AM
- can you tell me about that
- Lexicona - Today at 11:34 AM
- i mean
- i was talkinga bout something sensitive
- Hannah - Today at 11:34 AM
- ok
- can we talk about what was similar?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:34 AM
- my therapist pestered me and continued asking questions
- and eventually
- i curled up into a ball and sobbed
- Hannah - Today at 11:35 AM
- yeah even good therapists do that
- but I was more curious if
- the substance at all
- could help us in this situation?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:35 AM
- no
- Hannah - Today at 11:35 AM
- you brought it up for a reason yeah?
- oh
- Lexicona - Today at 11:35 AM
- i brought it up
- because
- it was what happens when i'm continuously asked about a sensitive topic, no matter where i am
- Hannah - Today at 11:35 AM
- do you feel you are unable to deal with fear or conflict in general then
- ?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:36 AM
- mhmm
- often
- Hannah - Today at 11:36 AM
- how do you usually
- mitigate that
- in a healthy way?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:36 AM
- i escape
- Hannah - Today at 11:36 AM
- err
- Lexicona - Today at 11:36 AM
- it's not healthy
- none of my life is healthy
- Hannah - Today at 11:36 AM
- well
- I am sure in some instances you conquer your fears yes?
- even small?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:36 AM
- maybe
- it's rare though
- Hannah - Today at 11:36 AM
- some fears can seem daunting because
- we think of the whole task
- at once
- but when we break it up into pieces it becomes easier to manage
- Lexicona - Today at 11:37 AM
- most of my fears have conditioned me to escape
- Hannah - Today at 11:37 AM
- I understand
- Lexicona - Today at 11:37 AM
- because dealing with my mom isn't easy
- Hannah - Today at 11:37 AM
- yeah, I was very much into escapism
- I know it hurts, and my experiences
- can't possibly be the same as yours
- but I do have tools that I used
- to create healthy responses
- and I would really like to share those with you
- Lexicona - Today at 11:38 AM
- Hannah...
- i appreciate that you're trying to help.... but i want to avoid you being my therapist
- Hannah - Today at 11:38 AM
- I am not trying to be your therapist but, if that is what it takes to be my girlfriend then
- I think we should try(edited)
- or perhaps
- you could talk to your therapist
- about it
- Lexicona - Today at 11:39 AM
- i don't have one
- also
- Hannah - Today at 11:39 AM
- I think you should
- when you settle
- Lexicona - Today at 11:39 AM
- being my therapist is something my mother does, even mid fights, so that she can have the upper hand
- it's a really sensitive area for me
- Hannah - Today at 11:39 AM
- I do not want to be your therapist Sierra
- I just want to talk to you again
- and not seeing you happy just motivates me more to want to be close to you
- it has become very difficult with my amount of stress
- that is a personal problem but
- Lexicona - Today at 11:41 AM
- i don't know how to fix this Hannah
- i don't know how to fix myself
- i wish i did
- Hannah - Today at 11:41 AM
- I know
- Sierra
- I am not asking you to figure it out youself
- I am asking you to work with me on our relationship
- if you aren't talking to me, this is a problem
- I'm not just going to say
- Okay Sierra every time you want to escape
- at a certain point, letting you do that is enabling you and...
- I just can't do that anymore
- I'm sorry
- Lexicona - Today at 11:43 AM
- it's the only way i stay sane right now
- i'm sorry i'm such a problem...
- Hannah - Today at 11:43 AM
- it seems like the opposite
- tbh
- like it is keeping you depressed and comfortable there
- because a huge change is scary
- right not, talking about the meta problems
- this is what is going to drive you crazy x.x
- I don't think that talking about our communication honestly will be
- difficult over time
- Lexicona - Today at 11:44 AM
- i don't think i can talk about this right now...
- i'm sorry...
- i'm almost never in a good position...
- and i know you say it's bad for me or depressive or whatever
- but
- it also takes an insane amount of mental strength for me
- Hannah - Today at 11:45 AM
- that isn't what I said
- I hope you don't feel
- I am blaming you and attacking you Sierra
- Lexicona - Today at 11:46 AM
- no
- i don't
- Hannah - Today at 11:46 AM
- I come from a place of love and great understanding
- Lexicona - Today at 11:46 AM
- i understand everything you're saying
- Hannah - Today at 11:46 AM
- but also concern
- then I hope
- you understand
- we need to make time to talk about this
- not now but
- eventually, preferably soon
- Lexicona - Today at 11:46 AM
- i hope i can stomach it....
- Hannah - Today at 11:47 AM
- you are capable of a lot more than you give yourself credit Sierra
- the human body is capable of unimaginable things
- and your body never stays the same
- it is constantly changing
- life is not as permanent as the problems we reinforce in our own minds
- those things just make us try to force reality into that permanence
- so that it is simple and easily understood
- Lexicona - Today at 11:48 AM
- i don't know hannah...
- i'm sorry...
- Hannah - Today at 11:51 AM
- when do you want to make time to talk about it?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:52 AM
- i don't know....
- Hannah - Today at 11:53 AM
- well.. I know I am not your therapist but.. I do know an incredible amount about the human brain, conflict resolution therapy, and you
- and you seem to trust me a great deal
- if I can separate myself from you romantically for the duration
- I don't see a problem in us talking about it
- I have some concerns but I can address those with you in time
- is that alright?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:54 AM
- i guess....
- Hannah - Today at 11:54 AM
- would you like it if I made a time?
- would that be easier or?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:55 AM
- i'd probably completely forget
- Hannah - Today at 11:55 AM
- can you set an alarm in your phone calendar?
- Lexicona - Today at 11:55 AM
- i can but i'd rather not....
- i'm sorry i'm so resistant
- it should be clear why
- i don't want to make you feel like i don't like you
- Hannah - Today at 11:58 AM
- I have to be honest Sierra, if we can't find time for this ever
- it's going to be a big problem for me
- I know that is a lot of weight on you
- but I have to think of the both of us
- including myself
- Hannah - Today at 12:00 PM
- how do you feel right now?
- Lexicona - Today at 12:00 PM
- This is why I apologize so much
- Because everything i do makes me a burden
- You shouldnt have to deal with it
- Hannah - Today at 12:05 PM
- I would much rather take on the burden of being your confidant(edited)
- than the burden of making you feel sorry all the time Sierra
- Lexicona - Today at 12:06 PM
- Its nobodys fault i feel sorry all the time
- Hannah - Today at 12:06 PM
- I know
- Lexicona - Today at 12:06 PM
- You have done nothing
- Hannah - Today at 12:06 PM
- ?
- Lexicona - Today at 12:06 PM
- To make me feel sorry
- Hannah
- Hannah - Today at 12:07 PM
- that includes you you know
- Lexicona - Today at 12:07 PM
- You are a blessing to my life
- Hannah - Today at 12:07 PM
- its not your fault either
- Lexicona - Today at 12:07 PM
- Ok one person makes me feel sorry
- Only myself
- Hannah - Today at 12:09 PM
- that isn't how it works hun
- this is why we need to talk
- I have to be able to explain behavior in the context of your historical and biological background because... you obviously feel like this is inherent
- but even things about our person can be affected by nurture, and when we process those memories again
- we have a chance to let them pass our hippocampus again
- the problem you are facing is that
- another problem will occur
- before you can deal with the last one
- Lexicona - Today at 12:11 PM
- i don't think it's inherent, i think it's been completely forced into me
- permanently
- Hannah - Today at 12:11 PM
- well
- you often talk about how you have autism
- that is all I meant
- regardless of what your biology actually may be, we need to be able to talk about these behaviors
- you have already done such a good job talking to me
- I know how strong you are Sierra, I have seen it
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