Yesss I have the same kink as you. I love that calm authoritative demeanor. My guy doesnt show much emotion and it makes me want him even more. He strokes so evenly, surely, even if I'm squirming around and yelling he shows no reaction at all and just keeps going steady 🥵 He touches me in a way that's not gentle but not aggressive either, it's just firm. Like a touch that says calm down, I've got you in my hands and you're gonna do what I want. I think it's sexy that he's not looking for my approval, he's not starring at my face, he's just concentrating 100% on my body and doing what he knows I love, for as long as I can take it. I feel no pressure to perform and can take my time. There are no quick maneuvers, awkward pauses or changes of pace at the wrong time. He doesn't need any validation or permission, we both know I love that shit. We're in the zone, like if a TV is on I wouldn't hear it at all cuz we're too focused. It feels safe and enjoyable because I can just sit back, relax and be serviced. For women, feeling relaxed is the first step for good sex!