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Warning: I am very cringe-inducing and stupid. Please do not kill me for it. I made this throwaway because I do not want to look like a loser on my regular account lol. If you can make it through this essay and have a response, I will be infinitely appreciative.

Hello:

I am a male Sophomore in High School. I had my first somewhat serious relationship with a Freshman girl late last year prior to Christmas. We had been friends since the beginning of the year and were noticeably flirty. I confessed my feelings to her before Thanksgiving break, and I got a response a few days later that she felt the same way. Nothing extreme happened, we just went to homecoming and on a few dates. We generally had a good time, as neither of us had really dated before.

Before Christmas, we went on a great date, spent time together, and seemed generally like a happy couple. I gave her a gift, and she told me mine would come after Christmas due to the holiday shipping congestion. We said our good-byes and both seemed sad to part, as she was going home to another country since we go to a boarding school. The only issue that I saw in our relationship at the time was a lack of completely clear communication. She is quiet by nature, and I am very passionate by nature, meaning that I was always the one driving conversations, initiating dates, and being the first to buy gifts. She was never particularly expressive, generally using a sheepish smile or a sweet text message to show appreciation. Silence could sometimes be awkward, because she was generally too shy to randomly bring up a topic without some kind of prompt.

We went away, initially communicating pretty well. Once she arrived home, I wanted to give her enough space to spend time with her family. I would text her about once a day to see how she was doing and tell her about my break. She was pretty short with her messages, which could be a tad frustrating, but I understood. I made one kind of asinine passive aggressive comment after I tried to ask her about her hometown and got a kind of abrasive response, and I felt bad afterwards.

Skip to the end of break and we had just returned. I was delighted to get to see her, and I immediately wanted to have lunch with her. I sent her a text about it, but she was not especially responsive. I expressed my feelings to her, and she told me maybe we could have lunch another day. I understood that she probably wanted to see her friends, so I moved on. I later asked by text if she wanted to walk around that afternoon to talk and catch up. She made another excuse, and I, (being the annoying moron that cannot read signs), was pretty rude to her. I asked her why she was even dating me if she did not want to see me after being gone for a few weeks. She was obviously annoyed that I would ask that and told me she wanted some time to think. I obliged, and at that moment I knew I would have to end the relationship soon since I was clearly overwhelming her. I went home that night to begin my pile of work and got the pleasure of a snapchat message at 10 or 11 PM on a Monday night saying "Hi, I am sorry, but I don't want to do this anymore." Surprisingly, I responded like an adult and told her that I wished her well and hoped we could still have a strong friendship like we did prior to our relationship. She said she hoped so too, and I immediately deleted that Snapchat, (I had made it for her), and cut my ties with her.

Seeing her at school after that became reasonably awkward. We would wave to each other and exchange greetings, and I expected that we would become friends again in a small amount of time. We even exchanged friendly messages through a friend of hers one time when they were together, so I was optimistic. However, it suddenly began to go downhill. She started to look away whenever we would pass, her friends that became my friends while we dated stopped talking to me and acted extremely weird, and I got a bad feeling. It's been like that since February or so, and I see her every single day because our school community is quite small. I hate this and wish I could just go back to being her friend. I don't know what to do to fix it, and I feel like the rift gets bigger with each day. I have lost multiple friends that I met through her, but one of our mutual friends that I met first stayed friendly. I talked with her and learned that the reason that I was dumped was that my girlfriend just realized she did not have the same feelings. I understand this, and I just would like to be friends at this point. I do not know what to do that does not make me look like a lonely loser or something. Any suggestions?