2016-01-06 Conversation: "beyond hello"

Greg Malivuk
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Homework: p. 3 “On Your Own” - Watch people talking to each other this afternoon and tomorrow morning. What do you notice about their communication style, gestures, and word choices. Write three things you noticed.

When they talk, people always make hand gestures and facial expressions with their eyes.
People nod a lot when they accept something.
People always talk loudly.
People have a lot of intonation (not monotone).
Some people don’t look at the eyes of the other person. (They don’t make eye contact.)
People speak softly when they are near each other.
People say “hmm” and “uh-huh” a lot.
People sometimes say hello to strangers.
People usually don’t make physical contact when they greet each other.
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p. 4 - in groups of 3, choose three questions from the list to ask your partners.
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In a conversation, what can you do, without saying sentences, to encourage your partner to continue talking? (= to make them feel good about continuing)
- nod, make eye contact, smile, “uh huh”, “wow”, “really?” (these words are interjections)
What are things we can say or ask to encourage our partners?
- And then? And what next? So what happened? Can you continue? That’s good. That’s interesting. What? Are you crazy?

You can also ask specific follow-up questions, which are questions you ask for more information after someone tells you something.
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What if you are in a hurry and you don’t want the other person to keep talking?
- Don’t ask follow-up questions, and give short answers to questions people ask you.
- Use falling intonation with words like “okay” or “interesting”.
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Look at the proverbs on p. 5. Do you understand what they mean?
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Homework: Make sure you understand the sayings on p. 8, and choose your favorite one.