[A4A] [Script Offer] It's Okay to Grieve [Mom Version}

I know today is hard. I know all the days are hard. It's okay. If you need to cry, you can cry. I'll be here.

I know that nobody can't replace her. I'll never even try. A place in your heart will always be for her.

I know that nobody can love you like a mother can. It's a special irreplaceable kind of love.

I just want to help you anyway I can. Let me know what you need okay?

Yeah, I can hold you for as long as you want. Shh, it's alright.

I'll be here for you. I know it's cheesy, but she'll always be here for you too.

I'm just sad that she can't hold you too.

I never knew her, but I bet she was wonderful. After all, she raised you didn't she? And you're incredible!

She would be so proud of you. You've grown and accomplished so much. It's all she would have ever wanted.

That's the secret they don't tell you. All mothers are trying to teach you how to live without them.

Your mom did such a good job that you were ready way before anybody could have expected you to be.

That doesn't mean that you have to be strong. That doesn't mean that you have to pretend that it doesn't hurt. Just the fact that you're here and you're living life is enough. She wanted that for you.

As much as she would have liked to, she knew that she couldn't protect you from all the pain. Instead, she did her best to prepare you for it. She would be so impressed with how were you were able to get through it all.

It's okay that you need to cry. She wouldn't have expected you not to cry. If anything, it shows how strong you are. You're brave enough to not ignore the sadness. You let yourself grieve. Even though it hurts, you let yourself feel it. A lot of people are not strong enough to do that. I'm not sure that I would be.

I'm not going to say that I understand. I don't. I've never experienced the loss of parent.

I know it's not liking losing a pet or grandparent. I'm sure those experiences are painful too, but people really shouldn't compare them. You expect to say goodbye to a grandparent or pet while you're still young. You don't expect your mom to suddenly not be there.

I know it's a kind of pain that many people never know. And I'm sorry that you have to go through it. But I promise that I want to help. You don't have to hide from me, okay?

Shh, it's alright. I can stay for as long as you need.

I promise. It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling.

Shh, it's okay. You don't have to cry anymore.

It's alright to not be sad all the time. She would have wanted you to be happy again.

It's alright to still sometimes get angry with her. She wasn't perfect. She knew that too. She would have wanted you to remember how she was and not place her on some pedestal.

And it's alright to feel guilty about everything else you're feeling even though you know that you shouldn't

She would have wanted you to give yourself break though. There is no such thing as perfect grieving process. You don't have to justify your emotions to anybody even yourself. Just let yourself accept that however you're feeling is enough both for her and you.

And let yourself heal only when you're ready to heal.

I know that grief never really ends. She'll always be a part you and her loss will always stay with you. There is nothing wrong with that. You don't need to 'get over' her death to be healthy. You can be healthy just by continuing to live your life as best you can.

It's okay to let to her death have an impact on you. It's even okay to let it shape who you are.

People change and people grow. I know that you will too. And I know that her death may change how you grow.

I realize all that can be scary.

It's okay to be afraid, but I know you'll be alright.

You're an amazing person no matter what. Okay?

Even if you'll never be the same person as before, you're still amazing. You're still wonderful. And I'm still here for you-everyday for a long as you need.

On days when you miss her, on days when you need her, on days when you hate her, and on days where you can't bare to feel anything at all-I'll still be here.

It's doesn't matter if you need me to talk to you, to make you laugh, or listen, or just hold you in silence. I'm happy to do it all.

Your relationship with her was important. You don't have to pretend otherwise for my sake. Believe me I want to be here-on good days and on bad days.

Just promise me one thing?

She would have wanted you to know that you're worth it. So, try to remember that everyday, okay?  Promise?

Good.

(sighs) You'll always be worth it to me too.