Does Law of Attraction Imply I'm To Blame?

Does Law of Attraction Imply I'm To Blame For The Bad Things That Happen to Me?

A common pitfall for newcomers to Law of Attraction (LOA) is to conflate the idea that you create your own reality with the idea that you are to blame for your misfortune. People will often summarily dismiss LOA on these grounds, deeming it "victim-blaming" or "heartless." I'd like to provide a broader perspective of LOA that eradicates any presumptions of blame.

Life is a set of different arrangements. In the human game, these are arrangements of the mind. A poor person is no worse than a rich person. A victim is no worse than one who is unscathed by life. They are simply different arrangements. To presume that one arrangement is better or worse than another is where "blame" arises, and that's an extremely misled mindset. In fact, the assignment of "wrong" and "blame" only serves to attract more wrongness and blame-ness, whether internalized ("I'm wrong," "I'm to blame") or externalized ("They're wrong," "they're to blame"). The universe gives you more of what you believe.
People attract everything that happens to them whether they were "asking for it" or "asking for not-it," because the contents of your experience reflect what your emotional focus is predominantly placed upon. If you say "I love this," you'll get more of it. If you say "I hate this," you'll get more of it. If you're indifferent, it will subside, and if your feelings are split (like if you want something but doubt that it's possible), the dominant feeling wins out. This is essential to understand.
Most people are unaware that they're doing it and unaware that they can play any role they choose, but they're attracting nonetheless. This doesn't make them bad, wrong or deficient. Not at all. It's just how they're currently arranged.
What I'm describing is a law governing the patterns of reality, which anyone with notions of "blame" tries to twist into a system of moral judgment. But there is no moral judgment going on here. Look at nature. If a baby gazelle is ripped apart and devoured by a crocodile, would you call this "injustice" or a "tragedy"? Perhaps. If I were to tell you "that's just the way things go," because a gazelle is a gazelle and a crocodile is a crocodile, would you accuse me of "blaming" the baby gazelle? Would the gazelle blame itself? That's silly. The gazelle is an arrangement too, though confined to the natural workings of its biology and shared ecosystem. It does not choose its arrangement as humans can, and humans share an ecosystem of their own.
Now here's a human example: a person may have been abused as a child, and that becomes a major assumption of how their world operates. They will then attract abusive relationship after abusive relationship all throughout their adult life. There is no need to "blame" them for this, yet this is an obvious pattern that you see often, and that's LOA. It is quite straightforward and impersonal, like gravity, until someone comes along and says "it's just not nice, therefore it must not be true."
A person who feels victimized will attract circumstances that reflect their victimhood. Women who have been raped, for example, did indeed attract the rape, but it's not their "fault." They're certainly not "wrong" or "to blame" for being raped and absolutely, fully deserve all the love, support and nourishment in the world. They still, however, "invited" it into their experience by the arrangement of their mind. It simply doesn't matter if this idea disturbs you. Learn to separate "you are to blame" from "you attracted it."
It may still seem very obvious that if a person experiences something traumatic, especially in their childhood, then that trauma ought to be blamed for shaping the person. It may seem obvious that even if LOA were true, that thoughts and emotions create reality, then the things we attract are still dictated by the experiences that made us who we are. But this all depends *only* on what the individual makes of those experiences. It's only as damaging as you believe and allow it to be. It only controls you insofar as you agree to be controlled by it. You could have had a life of pain and trauma, yet it's up to you whether or not this makes you a "victim." It's only "you" insofar as you identify with it. This is not a cold, non-compassionate dismissal of anyone's painful experience. It is an insistence of your own absolute power, control, self-actualization, and wholeness, something that any so-called "victim" can benefit from immensely.
Children attract abuse, but it's not their "fault" either. It is completely fair to say that children are especially susceptible to the vicious whims of the world. When they're born, their subconscious is basically wide open and receptive to any impression you give it. That's what lays the foundations of their personality, major assumptions, behaviors, orientations, etc. and so all of these things make up the repeating patterns of their life experience. While these foundational qualities are certainly mutable, a child is quickly discouraged from their capability to choose by a constant barrage of ideas from adults about trade-offs, scarcity, limitation, impossibility, delayed gratification, duty, morality, etiquette, and narratives of pain and powerlessness. They are taught to outsource their experience to the demands of culture or God, and so their life becomes that. It's no wonder that when a child is victimized, a victim is all they think they are and will be. They accept the role as they do any other role assigned to them by their culture.
Let me make something clear. It is perfectly natural, appropriate and healthy to express your pain, rage, sorrow and disapproval at the horrible things you've endured. Not only does this provide emotional release, but it affirms your natural, inborn knowing that you are worthy of good things. But at some point, if you want to be happy, you have to discard the narrative. The past is the past, and you're here *now* with an infinite landscape of possibilities before you that you otherwise could not see if you were to continue to wallow in old, negative concepts of self. You are the Self, the formless consciousness, underlying your every experience, not confined to any one of them. And in your knowing this, all experiences are available to you.
Taking 100% *blameless* responsibility for your life can be, if viewed properly, the most uplifting, empowering, de-victimizing thing a person can do. It is a responsibility to feeling good, a responsibility to feeling love, joy, worthiness, happiness. It is a responsibility that affords you the *power* to say "I did that," whatever "that" may be - good or bad. It is not about "owning up" to your "mistakes" or holding others responsible for theirs, because there is no mistake in this game. Impossible as it may seem to accept, this understanding is actually the key to anyone's power; the key to never being a victim again.
The silver lining to this is that if you acknowledge the potential to create a "feedback loop" of misery, you can acknowledge the potential to do the same for joy, for love, for prosperity. If you've gone through intense suffering, know that there is absolutely nothing keeping you from going through happiness of the same caliber. Your life can be just as wonderful, and more so. You have the very special privilege of choosing. This is Law of Attraction.