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- actually i should start from the beginning
- hahah
- because i want your opinion on it all
- u got time?
- haha?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- always
- ko
- so..
- let's start from the beginning
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- i like the haha?
- haha
- ok
- so i didn't start talking to this person
- who worked on my staff
- for like more than 6-7 months
- till about january
- didn't even speak a word to her
- prior to then
- first time i talked to her it was in a group chat
- with other pw staff
- it was like a "girl's night"
- but they invited me
- i was a 'honorary girl'
- hahah
- anyways
- it's like a get together where they talk abuot
- their issues and help each other out
- and obviously since it's mostly girls
- they were talking about guy issues
- but my issue was allison so
- i talked about that
- kinda like a "light therapy" session
- anywyas..
- so that was the first time i talked to her
- at that point
- her life didn't come crashing down yet
- so i told u she studies
- psychology
- and stuff right?
- well yeah she kinda helped me see some perspectives and whatnot... through that. and i was grateful for that.
- so fast forward a day or so
- she tells the headstaff she
- got evicted
- because of this crazy situation
- ok so
- "that situation"
- 1. it was her, her mom, and her mom's friend (not family) that was living in the house
- 2. apparently the friend was stealing money and like doing a shit ton of identity theft shit for like a few years
- 3. it all finally caught up to her and then
- they all got evicted
- 4. they took the whole thing to court
- her and her mom are vindicated but
- obviously
- it's been like years of fraud
- and shit
- the friend like impersonated them
- messed with their accounts
- even messed with her mom and her schooling funds
- and stole like everything
- so right now she and her mom are picking up those pieces
- on top of that... she didn't have a great relation ship with her mom
- her mom is apparently very.... emotionally manipulative... and also
- financially very irresponsibile
- anyways... there is more to that
- she also went thru abuse as a child
- when she was young
- not due to mom but other things that happened
- i won't get into details here
- so in general her family life is kinda f'd
- she flourishes when she goes out on her own
- which she is a only child
- so she does a lot
- she is very independent
- and works mostly alone
- and flourishes alone
- so
- her story is
- she hada rough childhood
- denying all the abuse stuff
- then finally as she grew up
- finally accepted and confronted it
- came to terms with it
- changed who she was and how she saw things
- she used to be super hateful
- to everyone
- and then bottling up all the emotion
- and then
- it made it worse
- it made her a bit depressed
- and all that
- and esp staying at home
- made her feel that way
- because
- all that stuff happened there
- she started playing minecraft because of it
- found pw
- loved it
- stayed
- she took a haitus to go to singapore
- and lived there for like 4 months
- studying
- and doing like research abroad at hte schools there
- really liked it
- but super depressed when she had to come home
- came home
- this identity theft stuff happens
- she can't ever go back (for now)
- to singapore
- was in a dark place
- i hellped her
- by talking to her as friend
- she actually
- came to me
- because she knew i was older so
- she wanted to turn to someone that might be more mature and understanding
- to tell about her situation
- i helped her
- she helped me with mine
- we talked more
- and more
- in fact everyday
- we start skyping a lot
- started to skype before we fell asleeo
- next , met in person
- see how that went
- went well
- compatible
- oh one interesting thing
- we actually have 'argued'
- already
- about some things
- and one thing i like about her
- she isn't afraid of it
- like
- she doesn't like it
- yes
- but
- she wants to learn from it
- and use it to learn opposed to
- like being chicken shit about it
- make snese.
- ?
- anyways
- met up
- in person
- got to see how her living habits are
- and how she is in person
- 1. she is mature she takes care of like IRL things well
- 2. she is fast
- like moves fast.. does things fast.. opposite of allison
- more like my mom hahahah
- 3. she does have a bit of naiveness to her
- but i think it's her age
- she can be a total bitch when she is mad
- hahahhaa
- and she admits it
- and i've seen it
- hahaha
- most importantly
- ive been keeping on thing in mind
- ever since you told me
- the whole "rocket metaphor"
- "enough fuel to keep up"
- so far i see that fuel.... i'm wary to see how long it lasts
- but it's been there so far
- i know it's super early
- so that's why
- i'm a bit like o_O O_o
- about the situation
- now here is the kicker
- she hates living where she is
- she wants to move ot another school
- and work off her debt
- because of the "incident"
- she feels like staying in seattle
- is like a trap
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- stuck in the past.
- unable to move forward
- yeah
- so
- she is trying to get out of t here
- so i 'offered' to house her as she goes to school in california... NOW
- i know
- 'trap'
- i know
- but i told her
- i won't be paying for her in anything
- other than just housing her
- her food, her
- etc
- etc
- all on her
- and she agrees
- now... am i being a total idiot?
- this wouldn't happen btw
- till allison stuff is over
- just fyi
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- haha
- ok 1.
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- you put yourself in a tricky situation
- yes
- i knwo
- 1. tho
- i know that
- i don't want another allison
- i know i put myself in a tricky situation
- where it's another potential
- but does that mean it will be?
- idk
- what you think
- now i haven't told anyone
- but i told her
- i was gonna tell u
- because
- i trust you the most
- out of all my friends
- ☺
- and she knows i'm telling u now
- i told her i wanted a 2nd opinion
- and she understood
- she also said
- "at anytime if u don't feel like this is right .. tell me i'm figure out another solution"
- so she isn't pressuring me
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- ok, there are 2 big topics here. one is the house situation youre now in. the other is her/you/connection
- ok
- explain?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- the housing thing i complicated.
- and she has nothing to do with it
- oh you man
- mean
- her own house
- the identity theft
- thing?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- no the her living at your place
- oh ko
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- it doesnt matter who she is/ how cool she is... there are certain .. precautions. to take
- on one hand... its actually good in that you get to see what shes like "all the time" best/worse/problems/day to day
- which is HUGE
- when getting to know someone
- yeah
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- but there are giant issues that could kill it... as you know youre kind of a control freak/ bit selfish.
- so there is a danger that you use this situation to make her feel awkward
- in that even though non intentionally... she "owes" you something
- or she should "contribute"
- if you go through with this... id recommend make this very nonchalant / not a big deal. because it could get awkward fast
- ok
- explain
- nonchalant
- give me example?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- ok..extreme example.
- little elementary school kid talks to girl... he's blushing/ mumbling/ super embarrassed...
- so much so
- she feels the same
- awkward
- and nothing good will come of it
- opposed to.
- casual
- hey
- !!!
- talk, sure no problem
- zero expectations
- not awkward
- it's only a big deal, if you make it a big deal
- and the bigger the deal you make it... the more unnatural it will feel
- that make any sense?
- yeah
- well yeah
- i get it
- ok what else
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- housing wise. that's it. be casual. set the rules first/ 100% honesty which doesnt sound like an issue
- treat her like a roommate
- give her responsibilities
- that actually is kinda big
- dont help her too much
- but didn't you say
- don't expect too much
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- thats one lesson the allison thing probably taught you... you dont want to do all the work for someone
- but responsibilities?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- yeah. like a roommate
- if you had a roommate
- hrm
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- would you do shit for them?
- haha
- no, youd make them
- but it would be fair
- true, so basically you are saying like she use a dish, wash a dish?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- yeah
- ok
- what else
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- like a roommate
- i think the casual is the biggest
- also plan.
- how long is she staying?
- where is she going to school
- part time job?
- car?
- commute?
- yeah we are working that out before she comes down
- that's important
- to her too
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- but that all just 2 people living together.
- ok
- what else?
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- as far as you and her go. fuck it man. normal is an illusion.
- as long as she has a plan
- and youre not a sugar daddy
- as long as you think of it as a friend staying on your couch when theyre down/ getting it together.
- i see no problem with this
- sugar... daddy?
- wtf is that?
- rofl
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- HAHA
- sugar daddy is a guy who takes care of a chick financially
- oooh ok
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- throws $$ at her
- right right
- no i don't want that
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- give her everything she wants
- etc
- that's the whole allison thing again
- ok thanks for clearing that up
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- yeah, learn from that. dont fall into it
- yep
- ok thanks man
- i appreciate your perspective
- Jarrod Hale (jhale1445@yahoo.com, jhale4514@gmail.com)
- hah, i dont think i helped at all. but, anytime
- Jarrod Hale
- you have
- and thanks
- Now
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