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- (engaging dramatic music)
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- (keyboard taps)
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- (gentle piano music)
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- (keyboard clacks)
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- (keyboard taps)
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- (keyboard taps)
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- - Try it in black.
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- (uptempo drum beat)
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- 00:01:02,190 --> 00:01:04,976
- Maybe not full black,
- something a little lighter.
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- (percussion beats)
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- Maybe slightly bigger on the font.
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- (snare beats)
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- How about a different color?
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- (rhythmic percussion)
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- Oh, oh yeah, I like that.
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- Now, maybe a little smaller on the font.
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- (light percussion music)
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- Perfect.
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- Great work, Ian, great work.
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- How do you feel about it?
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- 00:01:36,620 --> 00:01:37,910
- - I'm happy if you're happy.
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- - Thank you very much.
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- You know, I knew you
- were the right choice.
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- (laughs)
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- Oh, is there something else?
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- Oh, right, right, right.
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- I'm a bit short on time.
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- Mm-hm.
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- There's progress here.
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- But, it's just not what we're looking for!
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- - Too many notes?
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- - It's just a bit derivative.
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- (dramatic piano music)
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- Great work on the logo, though, truly.
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- - Thanks.
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- - [Taymour] How'd it go?
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- - [Ian] He really liked the logo.
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- 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,917
- (melancholic orchestral music)
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- (delicate piano music)
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- (keyboard clacks)
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- (stirring orchestral music)
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- (keyboard clacks)
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- (computer closes)
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- (Ian sighs)
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- (bed creaks)
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- (birds chirp)
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- (engaging piano music)
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- (strokes violently strike)
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- 00:05:01,767 --> 00:05:04,934
- (uptempo piano music)
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- (somber piano notes)
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- (phone beeps)
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- 00:05:41,727 --> 00:05:43,600
- So, what actually made
- you use a dating site?
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- 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:46,230
- I mean, I'm sure you got guys
- asking you out all the time.
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- 00:05:46,230 --> 00:05:49,060
- - Well, my friend met
- her boyfriend online?
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- and our other friend
- did too, but my sister,
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- she just got engaged
- and she met hims online.
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- So, I figured I must
- as well give it a shot.
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- 00:05:58,547 --> 00:05:59,848
- - You had any luck?
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- - A few dates, it's kind of overwhelming.
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- - Yeah, I know, I hear there's
- so many assholes out there.
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- - I know, the assholes
- are easy to deal with.
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- You just delete whatever crude
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- bullshit they say or whatever.
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- The racially-charged things
- used to bother me a bit more,
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- guys talking about catching Yellow Fever.
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- - Wait, what?
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- People would do that in a message?
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- - Yes, the overwhelming part
- were all the sweet messages.
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- You know, I would get these thoughtful,
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- sincere messages from guys responding
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- to my profile and
- showing general interest,
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- and then I'm just not
- attracted to the person.
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- I used to try to respond
- but it was so much.
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- I don't even know these
- people and suddenly
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- I'm investing so much emotional energy
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- just trying to let them down easy,
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- I just had to stop responding.
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- - I get it, it's exhausting.
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- - I feel bad about it.
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- - No, I send at least 10
- messages a day and every
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- single time and get invested enough
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- to actually write a great
- message and then somehow
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- not be attached to whether
- or not they respond.
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- So, then I'll see like an amazing profile,
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- spend so long trying to
- write an good message,
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- and then nothing, no response, it...
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- - That seems like a lot
- of messages to send.
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- - You know, it's how it works.
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- - [Jessica] Well, I don't
- know, it just seems like a lot.
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- How many messages did you send today?
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- - Okay, totally--
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- - [Jessica] Ian?
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- - When I first started, when
- I first started online dating,
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- I would just message one person,
- and I'd spend three weeks
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- like getting to know them and
- building a real connection,
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- and then we get in person
- and there's nothing.
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- There is no chemistry.
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- You can learn more in five
- minutes of meeting someone
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- than you can in 100s of messages online.
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- - So, let me get this
- straight, you message what,
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- a dozen women a day even when
- you have a date that night?
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- - [Ian] Okay, I get that, that...
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- - Yeah, this was a really
- nice place that you brought
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- me to and you went out and got me flowers.
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- I was excited to be taken out
- instead of just casual coffee,
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- but it's pretty hard to feel
- special when you get the vibe--
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- - You are, you are special.
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- I don't how to say it, I
- don't wanna lie to you.
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- I don't wanna lie to
- you on our first date,
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- but okay, yes, when I
- like someone I go all out
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- and how is that any different than someone
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- who just goes to coffee every single time?
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- - Because I'm aware that
- coffee isn't special.
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- This actually felt special, but actually
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- it's just what you do every single time.
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- - All right, dinner,
- flowers, that stuff used
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- to be standard, that's not my fault,
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- that's other guys these days,
- and what's the alternative?
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- Casual has never worked for me.
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- I mean, I would go to coffee with a girl
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- and I'd think that she was so amazing,
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- and then she'd be like, "Oh, I'm sorry.
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- "I see you more as just a friend,"
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- which of course she did because
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- we got coffee which is what friends do.
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- - Or, maybe if it was truly
- special it would transcend
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- even just getting coffee, and maybe doing
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- all of this makes it feel
- more special than it is.
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- - Okay Jessica, I'm sorry, what,
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- I can't change what happened before.
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- - You know how some couples
- are right on the verge
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- of marriage, and then
- months before the wedding
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- they break up, usually
- because one person realized
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- it wasn't a good fit and had the sense
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- to back out before
- things got even messier?
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- And then, within a year the
- person who got broken up with
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- is married, and it's like
- when that happens the person
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- who got broken up with just
- can't adjust their life plan.
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- They've alread carved out a
- spot for a wife or a husband
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- and now it just feels
- like a big hole is there.
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- So, they just shove the
- next person that fits.
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- Because their plan becomes
- more important than the person.
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- When you try to make everything special,
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- on some level, nothing is.
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- - Another date?
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- Man, you need to be painting, not dating.
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- - [Ian] Dude, they're
- not mutually exclusive.
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- - For you they are.
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- 00:10:06,350 --> 00:10:09,270
- Remember when you got
- rejected form CalArts?
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- Instead of using that
- for your work, everything
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- was suddenly about getting
- back together with Tina.
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- How she was really the one.
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- Listen, dude, you can do this.
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- I know you can.
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- You just gotta stop running
- away from your bullshit, okay?
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- Use that.
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- So, while I'm gone why
- don't you use my space?
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- - No, I don't wanna
- use up all your paint--
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- - I'm gone three months, Ian.
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- These paints, these brushes,
- they need to breathe,
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- they need to live, all
- right, so let them live.
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- (brush scrubs)
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- (paint can clanks)
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- (keyboard clacks)
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- (dramatic piano music)
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- - [Ian] I don't even know
- where to begin, from your love
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- of Berryman, to your preference
- for "The Royal Tenenbaums"
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- over all of the Wes Anderson movies,
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- to your insistence on
- using the oxford comma.
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- We have more in common than
- I could ever list here.
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- I think it is amazing
- that you travel the world.
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- It's so beautiful that you make sure
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- to volunteer one day no
- matter were you travel.
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- I can't imagine what an incredible
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- and humbling experience that must be.
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- You carry around "Letters
- to a Young Poet."
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- I haven't read it 100 times like you,
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- but it is a book that changed my life.
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- What's your favorite quote from it?
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- Mine is easily, "Perhaps
- all the dragons of our lives
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- "are princesses, who are only waiting
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- "to see us beautiful and brave.
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- "Perhaps everything terrible
- is in deepest being,
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- 00:13:07,627 --> 00:13:10,277
- "something helpless that
- wants help from us."
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- Honestly, I could go on and on,
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- but nothing I say is
- gonna top Rilke's words.
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- I'm ian.
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- (birds chirp)
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- 00:13:29,172 --> 00:13:31,589
- (bed creaks)
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- 00:13:42,492 --> 00:13:44,825
- (Ian sighs)
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- 00:14:01,748 --> 00:14:04,915
- (engaging drum music)
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- 00:14:06,492 --> 00:14:07,540
- Who's that?
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- - Christina.
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- 00:14:09,850 --> 00:14:11,820
- - What, you're not gonna see
- her in New York, are you?
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- - Maybe, maybe.
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- 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:15,410
- - Dude, do not go down that road again.
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- - Yeah, you'd do the same for
- the best sex of your life.
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- 00:14:17,970 --> 00:14:18,953
- - What about Samantha?
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- 00:14:19,851 --> 00:14:22,013
- - I don't know, I'm gone all summer, what?
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- - Just for weeks you
- wouldn't shut up about
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- this hilarious joke Samantha made
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- and this amazing conversation you had,
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- or how fucking hot she is.
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- 00:14:28,853 --> 00:14:32,410
- - Look, I know it sounds
- messed up, but I've told you,
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- when a girl gets too
- interested, it doesn't work.
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- 00:14:34,890 --> 00:14:36,400
- - Yeah, so back to the manipulative chick
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- who never really cared about you.
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- 00:14:37,650 --> 00:14:40,730
- - Look, relax, I thought
- we're here to see some art?
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- 00:14:40,730 --> 00:14:44,170
- - All right this, this is not art.
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- - Come on, this is why you're here.
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- I mean, look.
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- - Yeah, no, Pop Art was bad
- enough when it happened,
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- like I get it made some
- commentary on consumerism.
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- The entire movement made one point.
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- To see the same shit 50 years
- later is a waste of time.
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- - [Taymour] What are you so pissed about.
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- 00:15:00,500 --> 00:15:03,170
- - You have this amazing girl
- who could be everything you
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- ever want right in front of
- you, thrown way, because what?
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- She's too interested?
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- - You date her then.
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- 00:15:08,729 --> 00:15:10,410
- - I would date the shit out of Samantha.
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- 00:15:10,410 --> 00:15:12,345
- - Then I'll give her your number okay?
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- - Dude, she doesn't like me,
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- she likes you, just like they always do.
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- Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, I
- know, it's not your fault.
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- I'm good all right?
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- 00:15:22,466 --> 00:15:23,460
- I'm good, let's catch
- your flight, all right?
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- (light percussion beat)
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- (dramatic piano music)
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- 00:15:58,846 --> 00:16:01,263
- (water runs)
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- 00:16:02,928 --> 00:16:05,120
- (phone rings)
- 232
- 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:05,953
- Fuck!
- 233
- 00:16:15,900 --> 00:16:16,890
- Hey.
- 234
- 00:16:16,890 --> 00:16:20,540
- - [Sofia] Hi, do you know who this is?
- 235
- 00:16:20,540 --> 00:16:22,300
- - [Ian] I was hoping.
- 236
- 00:16:22,300 --> 00:16:23,670
- - [Sofia] You sound out of breath.
- 237
- 00:16:23,670 --> 00:16:25,010
- Is this a bad time?
- 238
- 00:16:25,010 --> 00:16:27,270
- - Now I was just brushing my teeth
- 239
- 00:16:27,270 --> 00:16:29,820
- and I raced to grab the call.
- 240
- 00:16:29,820 --> 00:16:32,460
- - [Sofia] Wait, you raced to brush
- 241
- 00:16:32,460 --> 00:16:35,280
- your teeth after sending me your number?
- 242
- 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:36,180
- - [Ian] Ah, maybe.
- 243
- 00:16:37,140 --> 00:16:39,247
- - [Sofia] You brush your
- teeth for a phone call?
- 244
- 00:16:39,247 --> 00:16:41,920
- - Okay, I realize that
- doesn't make any sense.
- 245
- 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:44,542
- - [Sofia] It does and it's very sweet.
- 246
- 00:16:44,542 --> 00:16:45,375
- - Yeah?
- 247
- 00:16:45,375 --> 00:16:46,470
- - [Sofia] Yeah, you're racing around
- 248
- 00:16:46,470 --> 00:16:48,410
- to get ready for a phone call.
- 249
- 00:16:48,410 --> 00:16:50,340
- - Well, I was excited.
- 250
- 00:16:50,340 --> 00:16:54,070
- You know, calling's cool, or whatever,
- 251
- 00:16:54,070 --> 00:16:57,870
- I wasn't overly excited or
- interested after two messages
- 252
- 00:16:57,870 --> 00:17:02,180
- and 30 seconds of a phone
- call, it was whatever.
- 253
- 00:17:02,180 --> 00:17:05,650
- - [Sofia] Oh, well good,
- because I prefer my men
- 254
- 00:17:05,650 --> 00:17:08,530
- to be so aloof and so
- caught up in their own image
- 255
- 00:17:08,530 --> 00:17:11,000
- that I become completely expendable.
- 256
- 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,573
- - Oh perfect, should I neg you now?
- 257
- 00:17:14,560 --> 00:17:15,393
- - Yes, please.
- 258
- 00:17:16,690 --> 00:17:19,490
- - Your voice is kind of okay, I guess.
- 259
- 00:17:19,490 --> 00:17:21,918
- - [Sofia] What kind of neg is that?
- 260
- 00:17:21,918 --> 00:17:23,070
- - I don't know, I've never done it before.
- 261
- 00:17:23,070 --> 00:17:26,393
- Isn't supposed to be like
- this back-handed compliment?
- 262
- 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:29,770
- - [Sofia] I'm not sure,
- but that was neither.
- 263
- 00:17:29,770 --> 00:17:30,857
- It was just vague.
- 264
- 00:17:30,857 --> 00:17:34,483
- - Ah, okay, let me, let me try again.
- 265
- 00:17:37,540 --> 00:17:39,890
- I'm not usually attracted
- to voices like yours.
- 266
- 00:17:41,190 --> 00:17:42,023
- - [Sofia] Ouch.
- 267
- 00:17:42,980 --> 00:17:44,080
- Okay, that was better.
- 268
- 00:17:46,910 --> 00:17:49,480
- Let me try to prove to you how attractive
- 269
- 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,930
- my voice can be in sick validation.
- 270
- 00:17:52,930 --> 00:17:57,120
- - Woo, we are great at this.
- 271
- 00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:57,953
- - Experts.
- 272
- 00:17:57,953 --> 00:18:00,560
- - You know, clearly we have had
- the best dating experiences.
- 273
- 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:01,393
- - [Sofia] Oh, clearly.
- 274
- 00:18:01,393 --> 00:18:03,253
- - Hence, taking our talents online.
- 275
- 00:18:04,740 --> 00:18:08,420
- - [Sofia] Oh, did you not see my profile?
- 276
- 00:18:08,420 --> 00:18:10,860
- I actually have a boyfriend.
- 277
- 00:18:10,860 --> 00:18:12,930
- I just run a service helping guys improve
- 278
- 00:18:12,930 --> 00:18:15,033
- their profiles and send their messages.
- 279
- 00:18:16,070 --> 00:18:18,210
- - Wait, really?
- 280
- 00:18:18,210 --> 00:18:19,043
- - No.
- 281
- 00:18:20,390 --> 00:18:21,223
- - [Sofia] Oh my gosh, you believed me--
- 282
- 00:18:21,223 --> 00:18:24,923
- - All my hopes and dreams
- just flashed before my eyes.
- 283
- 00:18:26,010 --> 00:18:28,253
- - [Sofia] Oh yeah, but I hook.
- 284
- 00:18:30,130 --> 00:18:31,630
- - Amazing.
- 285
- 00:18:31,630 --> 00:18:36,530
- - [Sofia] Well good, you
- know, it's funny, I love art
- 286
- 00:18:36,530 --> 00:18:39,690
- but I swore I would never date an artist.
- 287
- 00:18:39,690 --> 00:18:42,393
- - Oh yeah and why is that, why is that?
- 288
- 00:18:43,570 --> 00:18:45,390
- - [Sofia] All the usual stereotypes,
- 289
- 00:18:45,390 --> 00:18:47,620
- which I guess is unfair.
- 290
- 00:18:47,620 --> 00:18:49,620
- - Hey, I'm just grateful for any
- 291
- 00:18:49,620 --> 00:18:52,160
- of your stereotypes or
- biases that kept you
- 292
- 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,210
- single long enough for me to get my shot.
- 293
- 00:18:55,330 --> 00:18:57,392
- (Sofia chuckles)
- 294
- 00:18:57,392 --> 00:19:00,483
- What was the last piece of
- art that truly arrested you?
- 295
- 00:19:01,460 --> 00:19:04,433
- - [Sofia] Wow, now that's a question.
- 296
- 00:19:06,340 --> 00:19:08,393
- Are you familiar with Umberto Boccioni?
- 297
- 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:12,953
- - I know the name but I
- don't really know the work.
- 298
- 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:18,280
- - [Sofia] He was so young when he died.
- 299
- 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:20,430
- He was not like these other artists
- 300
- 00:19:20,430 --> 00:19:23,160
- that kept painting the
- same things over and over,
- 301
- 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,740
- long after art has
- progressed and moved on.
- 302
- 00:19:25,740 --> 00:19:28,973
- No, he was right in the middle of it.
- 303
- 00:19:30,010 --> 00:19:33,633
- I mean, who knows how many
- paintings we don't get now?
- 304
- 00:19:34,590 --> 00:19:38,673
- By the end with Pollock,
- and Picasso, and Ed Ruscha,
- 305
- 00:19:39,570 --> 00:19:42,370
- we felt like that we have
- seen everything that could do,
- 306
- 00:19:43,785 --> 00:19:48,257
- but Boccioni, gosh, he
- as just getting started.
- 307
- 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:53,023
- And it is, "The City Rises"
- to answer your question.
- 308
- 00:19:55,570 --> 00:19:58,030
- - [Ian] Oh wow, wow, I just pulled it up.
- 309
- 00:19:58,030 --> 00:19:59,180
- It looks pretty cool.
- 310
- 00:19:59,180 --> 00:20:01,910
- - [Sofia] What, no, no,
- no, no, what are you doing?
- 311
- 00:20:01,910 --> 00:20:03,438
- Oh my God.
- 312
- 00:20:03,438 --> 00:20:04,271
- - Sorry, sorry, okay.
- 313
- 00:20:05,157 --> 00:20:10,000
- - [Sofia] No, every
- image whether blurs out
- 314
- 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,450
- the brush strokes on top
- that make it come to life,
- 315
- 00:20:12,450 --> 00:20:15,000
- or they capture the brush strokes but then
- 316
- 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:17,353
- the entire images loses shape.
- 317
- 00:20:18,670 --> 00:20:22,140
- Oh, it's like there's a vibrancy.
- 318
- 00:20:22,140 --> 00:20:27,140
- There's a life to this piece,
- like nothing I have ever seen.
- 319
- 00:20:28,100 --> 00:20:31,730
- It literally stopped me in my tracks.
- 320
- 00:20:31,730 --> 00:20:34,180
- That's why I find it so
- striking that you use
- 321
- 00:20:34,180 --> 00:20:38,160
- the word, arrested, because that's exactly
- 322
- 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:39,560
- what this painted did to me.
- 323
- 00:20:42,070 --> 00:20:44,890
- - Well, I don't think I ever wanted
- 324
- 00:20:44,890 --> 00:20:46,760
- to see a painting more in my life.
- 325
- 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:48,820
- - [Sofia] It's part of the
- permanent collection at MoMA.
- 326
- 00:20:48,820 --> 00:20:50,420
- - Oh, we'll have to go sometime.
- 327
- 00:20:50,420 --> 00:20:53,663
- - [Sofia] Yeah, yeah, we will.
- 328
- 00:20:54,580 --> 00:20:58,960
- - Okay, so, I don't usually do this,
- 329
- 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,440
- but I also don't usually hit
- it off with people like this,
- 330
- 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:07,440
- so, I was wondering, do you
- wanna be super spontaneous
- 331
- 00:21:08,450 --> 00:21:09,950
- and got out to dinner tonight?
- 332
- 00:21:12,051 --> 00:21:15,160
- - [Sofia] Oh, Ian, I really
- would love to but I can't.
- 333
- 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,724
- - Yeah, no, yes, of course, right yeah.
- 334
- 00:21:18,724 --> 00:21:19,783
- I understand.
- 335
- 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:24,120
- - [Sofia] No, no, no,
- no, you don't understand.
- 336
- 00:21:24,120 --> 00:21:25,573
- I'm not in LA right now.
- 337
- 00:21:27,020 --> 00:21:28,753
- My mom is sick, she has cancer.
- 338
- 00:21:30,389 --> 00:21:34,393
- - Oh, I'm so sorry.
- 339
- 00:21:36,192 --> 00:21:37,363
- - [Sofia] Don't be sorry.
- 340
- 00:21:38,270 --> 00:21:41,010
- She's going for a double
- mastectomy next week,
- 341
- 00:21:41,010 --> 00:21:42,913
- so I'm here to be with her.
- 342
- 00:21:44,870 --> 00:21:49,337
- - I can't even imagine what
- you're going through right now.
- 343
- 00:21:49,337 --> 00:21:50,713
- I'm so glad she has you.
- 344
- 00:21:52,380 --> 00:21:55,570
- - [Sofia] We are very optimistic.
- 345
- 00:21:55,570 --> 00:21:59,220
- She's a doctor, so she's
- getting the best care possible
- 346
- 00:21:59,220 --> 00:22:02,530
- and the oncologist is very confident
- 347
- 00:22:02,530 --> 00:22:04,280
- that they'll be able to get it all.
- 348
- 00:22:07,234 --> 00:22:09,310
- - [Ian] I'm sorry.
- 349
- 00:22:09,310 --> 00:22:10,560
- - [Sofia] Don't say that.
- 350
- 00:22:12,170 --> 00:22:14,420
- Sorry is for when you lose something.
- 351
- 00:22:14,420 --> 00:22:17,300
- This is I don't know, it's just one
- 352
- 00:22:17,300 --> 00:22:18,853
- of those life moments, I guess.
- 353
- 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:23,423
- But, I am going to be here for a month.
- 354
- 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:26,913
- - Where is here?
- 355
- 00:22:28,050 --> 00:22:29,150
- - [Sofia] Mexico City.
- 356
- 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:33,603
- - Wow, that is far.
- 357
- 00:22:34,610 --> 00:22:37,460
- - [Sofia] Yeah, it is.
- 358
- 00:22:37,460 --> 00:22:40,210
- Look, I understand if
- you're not interested.
- 359
- 00:22:40,210 --> 00:22:41,730
- I was going to delete my profile
- 360
- 00:22:41,730 --> 00:22:45,260
- but then I got your message,
- and I wasn't even going
- 361
- 00:22:45,260 --> 00:22:47,893
- to respond, I had so many things going on.
- 362
- 00:22:49,130 --> 00:22:52,490
- But it was the best
- message I've ever received
- 363
- 00:22:52,490 --> 00:22:56,010
- and I really tried to restrain myself
- 364
- 00:22:56,010 --> 00:22:57,453
- from responding but I couldn't.
- 365
- 00:22:58,291 --> 00:23:00,560
- - That was like less than 24 hours ago.
- 366
- 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,110
- - [Sofia] I know, I got it last night
- 367
- 00:23:03,110 --> 00:23:07,130
- and I might have stayed
- up later than I would like
- 368
- 00:23:07,130 --> 00:23:10,083
- to admit just trying not to respond.
- 369
- 00:23:11,442 --> 00:23:12,653
- - I'm really glad you did.
- 370
- 00:23:13,980 --> 00:23:14,830
- - [Sofia] Me too.
- 371
- 00:23:16,540 --> 00:23:18,720
- But I'm not there.
- 372
- 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,180
- Look, we can always try
- when I get back again,
- 373
- 00:23:21,180 --> 00:23:25,250
- if you're available, when
- can probably meet for coffee.
- 374
- 00:23:25,250 --> 00:23:26,203
- - Sofia.
- 375
- 00:23:27,150 --> 00:23:28,070
- - [Sofia] Yeah?
- 376
- 00:23:28,070 --> 00:23:30,140
- - This is something special.
- 377
- 00:23:30,140 --> 00:23:31,860
- Look at the way we just
- jumped into conversation,
- 378
- 00:23:31,860 --> 00:23:34,393
- skipping all of that boring small talk.
- 379
- 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,220
- Look, maybe you don't have this problem,
- 380
- 00:23:37,220 --> 00:23:39,680
- because you are so damn fascinating,
- 381
- 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,020
- but moments like this are rare,
- 382
- 00:23:42,020 --> 00:23:44,920
- and when I encounter it, I'm
- smart enough to hold onto it.
- 383
- 00:23:46,030 --> 00:23:47,530
- A month is nothing.
- 384
- 00:23:47,530 --> 00:23:51,370
- And, I know you are going through so much
- 385
- 00:23:51,370 --> 00:23:55,393
- and we've just met, but I'm here,
- 386
- 00:23:57,150 --> 00:23:58,700
- as much here as you'll want me.
- 387
- 00:24:01,900 --> 00:24:04,863
- - [Sofia] Wow, you are amazing.
- 388
- 00:24:05,889 --> 00:24:08,624
- - Me, have you seen yourself?
- 389
- 00:24:08,624 --> 00:24:10,862
- - [Sofia] Yeah, I have.
- 390
- 00:24:10,862 --> 00:24:12,112
- - You're the amazing one.
- 391
- 00:24:12,970 --> 00:24:16,033
- - [Sofia] Why does me being
- amazing mean that you aren't?
- 392
- 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:23,000
- I gotta go now, but I would
- love to talk to you soon.
- 393
- 00:24:24,094 --> 00:24:26,444
- - I would love that too.
- 394
- 00:24:26,444 --> 00:24:28,097
- - [Sofia] Thank you, Ian.
- 395
- 00:24:28,097 --> 00:24:29,014
- - For what?
- 396
- 00:24:32,222 --> 00:24:33,055
- Sofia?
- 397
- 00:24:36,621 --> 00:24:39,871
- (engaging piano music)
- 398
- 00:24:42,494 --> 00:24:45,161
- (messages beep)
- 399
- 00:25:53,397 --> 00:25:56,290
- (phone rings)
- 400
- 00:25:56,290 --> 00:25:58,797
- Hey, I thought you with your mom?
- 401
- 00:26:00,094 --> 00:26:01,153
- - [Sofia] I am.
- 402
- 00:26:01,153 --> 00:26:03,550
- I just have to escape for a second.
- 403
- 00:26:03,550 --> 00:26:05,160
- Oh my God, escape it's so bad.
- 404
- 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,330
- - Oh yeah, no, no, I think
- I know what you mean.
- 405
- 00:26:08,330 --> 00:26:10,260
- - [Sofia] I'm in this random stairwell.
- 406
- 00:26:10,260 --> 00:26:12,073
- Everything just feels so crammed!
- 407
- 00:26:13,254 --> 00:26:15,490
- I've been here with my mom so many times
- 408
- 00:26:15,490 --> 00:26:17,070
- when she was working, but it's like
- 409
- 00:26:17,070 --> 00:26:19,845
- everything just feels so phony now.
- 410
- 00:26:19,845 --> 00:26:21,945
- - Oh, hey, hey, hey, hey, how's she doing?
- 411
- 00:26:22,820 --> 00:26:24,163
- How's she doing, is she doing okay?
- 412
- 00:26:25,660 --> 00:26:27,060
- - [Sofia] She's a tough one.
- 413
- 00:26:28,883 --> 00:26:29,793
- - How are you doing?
- 414
- 00:26:31,152 --> 00:26:33,940
- - [Sofia] I'm not quite as tough, but I am
- 415
- 00:26:33,940 --> 00:26:36,237
- trying to stay strong for her.
- 416
- 00:26:36,237 --> 00:26:38,590
- - No, you don't have to do that for me.
- 417
- 00:26:38,590 --> 00:26:40,133
- - [Sofia] That's quite the gift.
- 418
- 00:26:41,264 --> 00:26:43,914
- - All you gotta be is exactly
- who you are, that's it.
- 419
- 00:26:45,110 --> 00:26:47,183
- - [Sofia] You don't
- believe in God, do you?
- 420
- 00:26:49,780 --> 00:26:53,443
- - No, that was unexpected.
- 421
- 00:26:55,050 --> 00:26:56,980
- - [Sofia] I saw it on your
- profile, and it's just
- 422
- 00:26:56,980 --> 00:26:59,980
- with my mom and everything
- that's happening right now.
- 423
- 00:26:59,980 --> 00:27:01,900
- - Yeah, no, I don't
- 424
- 00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,033
- - [Sofia] I don't know how you do that.
- 425
- 00:27:05,890 --> 00:27:08,160
- Religion is so important in my culture.
- 426
- 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,070
- Questioning was never even an option.
- 427
- 00:27:11,070 --> 00:27:14,030
- I mean, even my mom,
- this woman of science.
- 428
- 00:27:14,030 --> 00:27:16,483
- She went to confession every week.
- 429
- 00:27:17,670 --> 00:27:19,400
- And yes, I've always had my doubts,
- 430
- 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,600
- but when everything around
- you is built on believing--
- 431
- 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:25,660
- - I mean, our entire society
- is built on believing.
- 432
- 00:27:25,660 --> 00:27:27,890
- How do you ever get anyone go to die
- 433
- 00:27:27,890 --> 00:27:29,350
- in your war if you think this it?
- 434
- 00:27:29,350 --> 00:27:31,390
- How do you ever comfort their loved ones
- 435
- 00:27:31,390 --> 00:27:33,590
- if they think there's
- not some better place?
- 436
- 00:27:35,492 --> 00:27:38,740
- - [Sofia] You don't think
- there's a better place?
- 437
- 00:27:38,740 --> 00:27:40,510
- - Okay, I realize this is the worst time
- 438
- 00:27:40,510 --> 00:27:43,493
- to say it, but I don't.
- 439
- 00:27:44,730 --> 00:27:46,810
- - [Sofia] That scares me.
- 440
- 00:27:46,810 --> 00:27:50,610
- - Of course, of course it scares you.
- 441
- 00:27:50,610 --> 00:27:53,430
- I mean that's terrifying.
- 442
- 00:27:53,430 --> 00:27:55,120
- - [Sofia] Then why don't you believe?
- 443
- 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:56,490
- - Me wanting something to be true
- 444
- 00:27:56,490 --> 00:27:58,850
- is not enough of a reason to believe it.
- 445
- 00:28:00,422 --> 00:28:02,243
- - [Sofia] I don't wanna
- believe this is it.
- 446
- 00:28:03,591 --> 00:28:05,640
- - Neither do I.
- 447
- 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,090
- - [Sofia] The only way that
- I was able to get through
- 448
- 00:28:07,090 --> 00:28:10,720
- my dad passing was believing
- he was in a better place,
- 449
- 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:15,720
- and yeah, I was 10-years-old,
- but now I can't get over it.
- 450
- 00:28:17,120 --> 00:28:19,350
- I can accept this being
- the only love that I get,
- 451
- 00:28:19,350 --> 00:28:21,890
- but how could I possibly wish that
- 452
- 00:28:21,890 --> 00:28:23,883
- on the people that I love the most?
- 453
- 00:28:25,530 --> 00:28:27,543
- - I only ever want
- Heaven for other people.
- 454
- 00:28:29,310 --> 00:28:30,760
- - [Sofia] What about for you?
- 455
- 00:28:34,790 --> 00:28:38,940
- - I don't know, I guess I don't need it.
- 456
- 00:28:38,940 --> 00:28:41,080
- I just see so many people throwing away
- 457
- 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,780
- their entire lives just
- trying to get to the next one.
- 458
- 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:46,430
- - [Sofia] I don't think
- anyone wants to find out
- 459
- 00:28:46,430 --> 00:28:48,417
- that something that they've spent
- 460
- 00:28:48,417 --> 00:28:49,600
- so long believing in just doesn't exist.
- 461
- 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,160
- - Of course not, who wants
- to be wrong about that?
- 462
- 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,041
- How do you tell some
- Mormon, that oh sorry,
- 463
- 00:28:55,041 --> 00:28:57,641
- you spent your whole life
- looking at the wrong book.
- 464
- 00:29:00,073 --> 00:29:01,540
- (Sofia laughs)
- 465
- 00:29:01,540 --> 00:29:02,690
- - [Sofia] You're funny.
- 466
- 00:29:04,334 --> 00:29:08,930
- You know, I just got this
- image of all these Catholics
- 467
- 00:29:08,930 --> 00:29:11,890
- and Muslim extremists walking
- up to the Pearly Gates
- 468
- 00:29:11,890 --> 00:29:15,257
- and St. Peter being like, "Oh, I'm sorry,
- 469
- 00:29:15,257 --> 00:29:18,997
- "actually Scientology was
- the way to eternal salvation.
- 470
- 00:29:18,997 --> 00:29:20,413
- "What do I tell you?"
- 471
- 00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,310
- - I love how in that image,
- it's still St. Peter telling
- 472
- 00:29:25,310 --> 00:29:27,707
- all these people that
- Scientology was the way.
- 473
- 00:29:28,637 --> 00:29:30,700
- - [Sofia] Of course it is.
- 474
- 00:29:30,700 --> 00:29:34,277
- He'll be like, "I know,
- I know, this sucks.
- 475
- 00:29:34,277 --> 00:29:35,557
- "They didn't let me in either.
- 476
- 00:29:35,557 --> 00:29:36,867
- "Why do you think I'm stuck here
- 477
- 00:29:36,867 --> 00:29:39,372
- "with gate duty for all eternity?"
- 478
- 00:29:39,372 --> 00:29:41,705
- (Ian sighs)
- 479
- 00:29:43,980 --> 00:29:45,760
- I gotta go check on my mom.
- 480
- 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:46,593
- - Yeah, I know.
- 481
- 00:29:47,837 --> 00:29:49,356
- - [Sofia] I'll be thinking of you.
- 482
- 00:29:49,356 --> 00:29:50,356
- - Mm, ditto.
- 483
- 00:29:52,939 --> 00:29:54,301
- - [Sofia] Ew.
- 484
- 00:29:54,301 --> 00:29:55,134
- (Ian laughs)
- 485
- 00:29:55,134 --> 00:29:56,890
- Oh gosh, you did not just say ditto.
- 486
- 00:29:56,890 --> 00:29:58,870
- I am hanging up.
- 487
- 00:29:58,870 --> 00:30:00,189
- - Ditto.
- 488
- 00:30:00,189 --> 00:30:02,813
- (Sofia scoffs)
- 489
- 00:30:02,813 --> 00:30:05,480
- (message beeps)
- 490
- 00:30:13,899 --> 00:30:16,982
- (gentle piano music)
- 491
- 00:31:05,323 --> 00:31:08,406
- (bright piano music)
- 492
- 00:31:16,488 --> 00:31:18,103
- (camera clicks)
- 493
- 00:31:18,103 --> 00:31:20,770
- (message sends)
- 494
- 00:31:25,399 --> 00:31:27,481
- (message replies)
- 495
- 00:31:27,481 --> 00:31:29,200
- (phone rings)
- 496
- 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:31,370
- Hey, what are you doing up so late?
- 497
- 00:31:31,370 --> 00:31:33,470
- - [Sofia] You drew me a picture!
- 498
- 00:31:33,470 --> 00:31:34,820
- - A sketch, but yeah.
- 499
- 00:31:34,820 --> 00:31:36,374
- - [Sofia] I love it.
- 500
- 00:31:36,374 --> 00:31:37,890
- - Oh, it's just a doodle.
- 501
- 00:31:37,890 --> 00:31:40,640
- - [Sofia] Oh come on, shut
- up and take your compliment.
- 502
- 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:42,880
- Thank you.
- 503
- 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:43,730
- - You're welcome.
- 504
- 00:31:44,670 --> 00:31:47,090
- What time is there, I
- didn't wake up, did I?
- 505
- 00:31:47,090 --> 00:31:48,833
- - [Sofia] No, it's about four.
- 506
- 00:31:49,730 --> 00:31:52,310
- I woke up and I'm just
- couldn't go back to sleep.
- 507
- 00:31:52,310 --> 00:31:53,880
- - Right, I know that one.
- 508
- 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,820
- - [Sofia] What are you doing up so late?
- 509
- 00:31:55,820 --> 00:32:00,053
- - Well, I didn't know who bell hooks was.
- 510
- 00:32:01,230 --> 00:32:03,430
- - Wait, were you just Googling
- 511
- 00:32:03,430 --> 00:32:06,963
- everything you didn't know in my profile?
- 512
- 00:32:06,963 --> 00:32:10,300
- - Maybe, but the point is that
- I could've just Googled it
- 513
- 00:32:10,300 --> 00:32:13,240
- and not said anything,
- but I'm actually admitting
- 514
- 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,250
- that I don't know, which is a big deal
- 515
- 00:32:16,250 --> 00:32:19,690
- for someone who likes to hide
- behind their intelligence.
- 516
- 00:32:19,690 --> 00:32:24,490
- - [Sofia] Okay, well, so are you ready
- 517
- 00:32:24,490 --> 00:32:26,053
- for your feminism crash course?
- 518
- 00:32:27,530 --> 00:32:29,030
- - I mean, I guess.
- 519
- 00:32:29,030 --> 00:32:32,510
- I just, I don't know if
- I'd call myself a feminist.
- 520
- 00:32:32,510 --> 00:32:35,803
- I'm all for equality but do
- I have to call it fem-in-ism?
- 521
- 00:32:36,715 --> 00:32:37,548
- - [Sofia] Ian!
- 522
- 00:32:37,548 --> 00:32:39,612
- (Ian laughs manically)
- 523
- 00:32:39,612 --> 00:32:41,540
- Oh, you asshole.
- 524
- 00:32:41,540 --> 00:32:42,593
- - I'm so, sorry.
- 525
- 00:32:42,593 --> 00:32:44,493
- I just wish I could've seen your face.
- 526
- 00:32:45,500 --> 00:32:46,850
- - [Sofia] Do you know how often
- 527
- 00:32:46,850 --> 00:32:48,740
- I have to hear shit like that?
- 528
- 00:32:48,740 --> 00:32:50,955
- - [Ian] I am sorry, I am sorry.
- 529
- 00:32:50,955 --> 00:32:52,620
- (Ian laughs strangely)
- 530
- 00:32:52,620 --> 00:32:54,010
- Please, please give me my lesson.
- 531
- 00:32:54,010 --> 00:32:56,590
- - [Sofia] Well, clearly I'm gonna to have
- 532
- 00:32:56,590 --> 00:32:59,370
- to start way farther back than I thought.
- 533
- 00:32:59,370 --> 00:33:00,203
- - Ouch.
- 534
- 00:33:01,751 --> 00:33:05,481
- - [Sofia] Okay, so, first wave we have
- 535
- 00:33:05,481 --> 00:33:09,463
- suffragettes, right to vote, equality.
- 536
- 00:33:10,750 --> 00:33:13,653
- Second wave, it's the bra-burning,
- 537
- 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,090
- claiming that men are the problem,
- 538
- 00:33:17,090 --> 00:33:19,560
- and sore women who want to be housewives.
- 539
- 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,683
- We are still trying to undo the
- damage from the second wave.
- 540
- 00:33:23,660 --> 00:33:27,823
- And, then third wave is bell
- hooks, intersectionality.
- 541
- 00:33:29,051 --> 00:33:30,300
- - And intersectionality is the idea
- 542
- 00:33:30,300 --> 00:33:32,900
- that you can't separate race from gender,
- 543
- 00:33:32,900 --> 00:33:34,820
- from class when you discuss these things?
- 544
- 00:33:34,820 --> 00:33:36,380
- - [Sofia] Mm hm, yeah, exactly.
- 545
- 00:33:36,380 --> 00:33:40,600
- So, first wave we would
- like to have a choice.
- 546
- 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,740
- Second wave, this is the only
- choice that you can make,
- 547
- 00:33:43,740 --> 00:33:45,253
- or you're part of the problem.
- 548
- 00:33:46,530 --> 00:33:49,540
- Third wave, all of the choices.
- 549
- 00:33:49,540 --> 00:33:51,963
- - Smash the patriarchy!
- 550
- 00:33:51,963 --> 00:33:55,680
- - [Sofia] But the patriarchy
- does not mean men.
- 551
- 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,788
- - Yeah, I know, I read bell hooks' essay
- 552
- 00:33:59,788 --> 00:34:02,320
- "Understanding Patriarchy."
- 553
- 00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:03,263
- - [Sofia] You did?
- 554
- 00:34:04,210 --> 00:34:07,930
- - Yeah, the part about a
- man's value being measured
- 555
- 00:34:07,930 --> 00:34:10,433
- by his willingness or
- ability to do violence,
- 556
- 00:34:11,930 --> 00:34:13,730
- well really hit me, no pun intended.
- 557
- 00:34:15,430 --> 00:34:19,490
- - [Sofia] Men are only allowed
- to have one emotion, rage.
- 558
- 00:34:19,490 --> 00:34:20,690
- - Yeah, that was my Dad.
- 559
- 00:34:26,940 --> 00:34:31,940
- My dad was, he was the
- kind of guy, I don't know.
- 560
- 00:34:33,477 --> 00:34:35,440
- You feel weird using certain words,
- 561
- 00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,230
- but he was the kind of guy that thought
- 562
- 00:34:37,230 --> 00:34:39,400
- it was okay to beat up your kids,
- 563
- 00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:44,214
- and we would get beat up
- for all kinds of things.
- 564
- 00:34:44,214 --> 00:34:49,214
- Like, one time I got beat
- up for putting the pizza
- 565
- 00:34:50,210 --> 00:34:51,980
- in the fridge while it
- was still in the box,
- 566
- 00:34:51,980 --> 00:34:53,580
- as opposed to taking it out and putting
- 567
- 00:34:53,580 --> 00:34:56,230
- each piece into individual
- bags so it'd stay fresher.
- 568
- 00:34:58,184 --> 00:35:03,184
- I, saw this one show where
- the kid stands up to his dad
- 569
- 00:35:03,980 --> 00:35:07,660
- and his dad backs down,
- and every time I tried
- 570
- 00:35:07,660 --> 00:35:12,660
- to do it, but I wasn't able to.
- 571
- 00:35:17,850 --> 00:35:18,730
- But this...
- 572
- 00:35:26,930 --> 00:35:28,053
- Sorry, one second.
- 573
- 00:35:34,110 --> 00:35:37,090
- This one time, I was
- in the den watching TV
- 574
- 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,040
- and he came into the back
- and he just slammed me
- 575
- 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,220
- in the shoulder, I didn't
- even know what the fuck I did.
- 576
- 00:35:43,220 --> 00:35:44,053
- He just...
- 577
- 00:35:47,790 --> 00:35:52,423
- And, I told him he didn't
- get to hit me anymore.
- 578
- 00:35:54,612 --> 00:35:55,840
- He said, "What was that?"
- 579
- 00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:57,473
- And I said it again.
- 580
- 00:36:00,020 --> 00:36:05,020
- And he got so calm and he
- walked out of the room,
- 581
- 00:36:05,610 --> 00:36:10,610
- and he walked into my bedroom,
- and he took all my paintings
- 582
- 00:36:10,947 --> 00:36:15,343
- and my drawings, and he
- just started tearing them,
- 583
- 00:36:16,750 --> 00:36:20,370
- and I screaming for him to stop,
- 584
- 00:36:20,370 --> 00:36:24,310
- and he went into the
- kitchen and he grabbed
- 585
- 00:36:24,310 --> 00:36:26,070
- the ones off the fridge, and he ripped
- 586
- 00:36:26,070 --> 00:36:30,193
- those up too, like fucking
- things from when I was like four,
- 587
- 00:36:31,150 --> 00:36:33,140
- and he shoved all the
- pieces under my pillow,
- 588
- 00:36:33,140 --> 00:36:35,400
- and he forced me into the bed
- 589
- 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:37,300
- and he told me to fucking sleep on it.
- 590
- 00:36:38,860 --> 00:36:40,376
- - [Sofia] Ian.
- 591
- 00:36:40,376 --> 00:36:44,580
- - And, the thing they
- never show you about people
- 592
- 00:36:44,580 --> 00:36:47,163
- like that is how nice they are in between.
- 593
- 00:36:49,367 --> 00:36:53,237
- Just so nice to all my friends
- and no one believed me,
- 594
- 00:36:55,530 --> 00:37:00,530
- and it makes you feel like if
- you didn't keep messing up,
- 595
- 00:37:00,810 --> 00:37:04,993
- that maybe they'd still be nice to you.
- 596
- 00:37:06,630 --> 00:37:09,620
- So, I tried to do
- anything I possibly could
- 597
- 00:37:09,620 --> 00:37:14,620
- to prove that I had value,
- I'd win all these contests
- 598
- 00:37:15,070 --> 00:37:17,890
- for my art in the newspaper,
- and the county fairs,
- 599
- 00:37:17,890 --> 00:37:21,913
- and at school, and every
- painting was like the only,
- 600
- 00:37:23,991 --> 00:37:26,873
- and just like that he ripped 'em all up.
- 601
- 00:37:32,154 --> 00:37:37,154
- And, I let him hit me
- whenever he wanted after that.
- 602
- 00:37:37,190 --> 00:37:38,890
- - [Sofia] You didn't deserve that.
- 603
- 00:37:40,550 --> 00:37:41,800
- - Yeah, I know.
- 604
- 00:37:43,870 --> 00:37:46,063
- Sorry, I changed the subject.
- 605
- 00:37:48,270 --> 00:37:50,200
- It all connects in my head.
- 606
- 00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,550
- - [Sofia] No, I see it.
- 607
- 00:37:52,550 --> 00:37:56,140
- Don't ever apologize
- for being open with me.
- 608
- 00:37:56,140 --> 00:37:58,350
- What I hold onto all this time is
- 609
- 00:37:58,350 --> 00:38:01,290
- this longing for my dad to see me now,
- 610
- 00:38:01,290 --> 00:38:02,900
- to have all those moments that I didn't
- 611
- 00:38:02,900 --> 00:38:04,327
- get to have with him, but--
- 612
- 00:38:05,591 --> 00:38:06,424
- - What?
- 613
- 00:38:06,424 --> 00:38:08,690
- - [Sofia] I realized that
- was gonna come up wrong.
- 614
- 00:38:08,690 --> 00:38:11,546
- - You were gonna say
- something about your dad
- 615
- 00:38:11,546 --> 00:38:13,930
- and being glad he wasn't like mine.
- 616
- 00:38:13,930 --> 00:38:15,860
- - [Sofia] I didn't mean it like that.
- 617
- 00:38:15,860 --> 00:38:18,313
- - No, it's okay, it's all right.
- 618
- 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,760
- - [Sofia] My dad used
- to go out every night.
- 619
- 00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:27,773
- He was never gone for long, maybe an hour,
- 620
- 00:38:28,830 --> 00:38:31,743
- it just felt way longer back then.
- 621
- 00:38:33,010 --> 00:38:35,143
- I always wanted to go with him.
- 622
- 00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:41,140
- My mom got mad at him and
- told him to just go after work
- 623
- 00:38:41,140 --> 00:38:43,440
- instead of coming home
- and then leaving again.
- 624
- 00:38:45,700 --> 00:38:48,493
- But he said he always
- wanted to see us first.
- 625
- 00:38:49,890 --> 00:38:52,333
- It was always the same routine.
- 626
- 00:38:53,430 --> 00:38:55,520
- He would go get his shoes on,
- 627
- 00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:58,293
- I would stand in front of
- the door trying to block it,
- 628
- 00:38:59,590 --> 00:39:02,500
- and he would just come
- up to me and kiss me
- 629
- 00:39:02,500 --> 00:39:05,653
- on the head and told me that he loved me.
- 630
- 00:39:09,303 --> 00:39:12,690
- But one day, he said,
- "Okay, let's go then."
- 631
- 00:39:15,410 --> 00:39:18,740
- He took me out on this
- windy road by the coast
- 632
- 00:39:21,736 --> 00:39:24,093
- and we watched the waves and the birds.
- 633
- 00:39:27,740 --> 00:39:32,640
- Then, we got out of the
- car and he carried me
- 634
- 00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:36,460
- in his arms and I remember thinking
- 635
- 00:39:36,460 --> 00:39:39,363
- I was too big for this but I loved it.
- 636
- 00:39:41,090 --> 00:39:46,090
- He carried me until the
- sun sat and the waves
- 637
- 00:39:46,137 --> 00:39:48,397
- and the tide came up to his ankles.
- 638
- 00:39:53,607 --> 00:39:56,830
- Then we went back to the car.
- 639
- 00:39:56,830 --> 00:39:58,233
- He put me in the back seat.
- 640
- 00:40:00,980 --> 00:40:03,283
- He said he was going to take a picture.
- 641
- 00:40:04,790 --> 00:40:06,790
- He went to the back and grabbed the bag.
- 642
- 00:40:08,740 --> 00:40:11,523
- He told me to stay right
- there and keep the car locked.
- 643
- 00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:13,493
- Then he walked away.
- 644
- 00:40:17,170 --> 00:40:18,033
- I heard the bang.
- 645
- 00:40:19,220 --> 00:40:22,663
- I don't know if he thought
- I would hear it, but I did.
- 646
- 00:40:24,326 --> 00:40:25,876
- I just didn't know what it was.
- 647
- 00:40:31,260 --> 00:40:32,093
- - Sofia?
- 648
- 00:40:34,374 --> 00:40:35,541
- - [Sofia] Yes.
- 649
- 00:40:37,158 --> 00:40:39,240
- - Did you feel that?
- 650
- 00:40:39,240 --> 00:40:40,407
- - [Sofia] Yes?
- 651
- 00:40:42,982 --> 00:40:45,315
- (Ian sighs)
- 652
- 00:40:49,736 --> 00:40:52,986
- (engaging piano music)
- 653
- 00:41:28,901 --> 00:41:32,651
- (upbeat orchestral movement)
- 654
- 00:41:58,901 --> 00:42:01,568
- (messages beep)
- 655
- 00:42:07,703 --> 00:42:10,786
- (gentle piano music)
- 656
- 00:42:43,394 --> 00:42:46,982
- (video call rings)
- 657
- 00:42:46,982 --> 00:42:49,482
- (phone rings)
- 658
- 00:42:53,450 --> 00:42:56,740
- - [Sofia] Hey, you
- accidentally video called me.
- 659
- 00:42:56,740 --> 00:42:59,300
- - I know, it was on purpose.
- 660
- 00:42:59,300 --> 00:43:00,456
- - [Sofia] Oh.
- 661
- 00:43:00,456 --> 00:43:03,560
- - It was date night, I
- wanted to make it special.
- 662
- 00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:05,313
- - [Sofia] I'm sorry, I can't.
- 663
- 00:43:06,950 --> 00:43:09,207
- Video-calling is so expensive here
- 664
- 00:43:09,207 --> 00:43:12,215
- and I really need to save
- money when I'm not working.
- 665
- 00:43:12,215 --> 00:43:15,513
- - It's okay, I just got dressed
- up, I wanted to show you.
- 666
- 00:43:17,143 --> 00:43:19,230
- - [Sofia] Oh really?
- 667
- 00:43:19,230 --> 00:43:21,123
- So did I, just give me one second.
- 668
- 00:43:22,583 --> 00:43:25,083
- (phone dings)
- 669
- 00:43:27,445 --> 00:43:28,278
- - Damn.
- 670
- 00:43:30,229 --> 00:43:31,062
- Damn.
- 671
- 00:43:32,710 --> 00:43:34,790
- This would've been, woo.
- 672
- 00:43:34,790 --> 00:43:36,240
- This would've been your view.
- 673
- 00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:40,947
- (camera clicks)
- 674
- 00:43:42,670 --> 00:43:47,670
- - [Sofia] Oh wow, you are so handsome.
- 675
- 00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:51,633
- A suit is literally like the
- equivalent of male lingerie.
- 676
- 00:43:52,744 --> 00:43:55,090
- - Well, if you wanna send a lingerie photo
- 677
- 00:43:55,090 --> 00:43:57,380
- to even us out, I won't object.
- 678
- 00:43:57,380 --> 00:43:58,980
- - [Sofia] I'm sure you wouldn't.
- 679
- 00:44:01,423 --> 00:44:03,150
- Are you okay?
- 680
- 00:44:03,150 --> 00:44:05,293
- Yeah, yeah.
- 681
- 00:44:06,980 --> 00:44:08,280
- Are you lying to me?
- 682
- 00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,253
- - No, I'm good, how was your day?
- 683
- 00:44:13,382 --> 00:44:16,549
- (engaging drum beats)
- 684
- 00:45:08,725 --> 00:45:11,808
- (intense drum beats)
- 685
- 00:45:43,831 --> 00:45:46,998
- (engaging drum beats)
- 686
- 00:45:51,703 --> 00:45:54,203
- (shower runs)
- 687
- 00:45:56,341 --> 00:45:59,841
- (engaging dramatic music)
- 688
- 00:46:21,416 --> 00:46:23,783
- (phone rings)
- 689
- 00:46:23,783 --> 00:46:26,664
- - [Sofia] Hey, I was
- getting a little worried.
- 690
- 00:46:26,664 --> 00:46:28,030
- - Yeah, I was working out.
- 691
- 00:46:28,030 --> 00:46:30,633
- - [Sofia] Hmm, thanks for the visual.
- 692
- 00:46:31,895 --> 00:46:32,750
- - [Ian] You said you were Colombian.
- 693
- 00:46:32,750 --> 00:46:34,700
- What are you doing in Mexico?
- 694
- 00:46:34,700 --> 00:46:36,440
- - [Sofia] My dad was from Mexico City.
- 695
- 00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:37,940
- My mom is from Colombia.
- 696
- 00:46:37,940 --> 00:46:40,597
- So, they moved to Mexico after I was born.
- 697
- 00:46:40,597 --> 00:46:42,150
- - You have Colombian citizenship?
- 698
- 00:46:42,150 --> 00:46:44,043
- - [Sofia] I am indeed dual.
- 699
- 00:46:44,930 --> 00:46:46,890
- My mom would always get
- mad at me for speaking
- 700
- 00:46:46,890 --> 00:46:49,863
- Mexican-Spanish instead of real Spanish.
- 701
- 00:46:51,810 --> 00:46:54,340
- - Don't wanna be cliche,
- but would you mind--
- 702
- 00:46:54,340 --> 00:46:57,163
- - [Sofia] Saying something right now.
- 703
- 00:46:59,285 --> 00:47:00,118
- - Yeah.
- 704
- 00:47:01,586 --> 00:47:03,133
- - [Sofia] Do you speak Spanish?
- 705
- 00:47:04,050 --> 00:47:04,883
- - No.
- 706
- 00:47:06,466 --> 00:47:10,049
- - [Sofia] (speaks Spanish)
- 707
- 00:47:24,322 --> 00:47:27,160
- - Damn, that was, that
- really does it for me.
- 708
- 00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:29,340
- Certain things just--
- 709
- 00:47:29,340 --> 00:47:32,500
- - [Sofia] Just do it for
- you, like accents, right?
- 710
- 00:47:32,500 --> 00:47:34,037
- - Yeah.
- 711
- 00:47:34,037 --> 00:47:35,860
- - [Sofia] And what else?
- 712
- 00:47:35,860 --> 00:47:39,240
- - Asses, I have dealt with
- way more than I should've,
- 713
- 00:47:39,240 --> 00:47:40,882
- abandoned something that was way better
- 714
- 00:47:40,882 --> 00:47:43,350
- than it was, just for a great ass.
- 715
- 00:47:43,350 --> 00:47:46,200
- - [Sofia] You are such a man.
- 716
- 00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:47,800
- - Yeah, despite my best efforts.
- 717
- 00:47:52,300 --> 00:47:53,950
- Why won't you video chat with me?
- 718
- 00:47:55,290 --> 00:47:57,530
- - I told you, it's expensive here.
- 719
- 00:47:57,530 --> 00:47:59,720
- - I know you have Wifi.
- 720
- 00:47:59,720 --> 00:48:01,110
- - [Sofia] I don't have a webcam.
- 721
- 00:48:01,110 --> 00:48:02,453
- - Come on.
- 722
- 00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:05,040
- - [Sofia] What if when
- we meet it's not the same
- 723
- 00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:07,428
- and then we never speak again?
- 724
- 00:48:07,428 --> 00:48:08,261
- - What are you talking about?
- 725
- 00:48:08,261 --> 00:48:09,210
- Of course it will be the same.
- 726
- 00:48:09,210 --> 00:48:11,003
- It'll be fucking better!
- 727
- 00:48:12,930 --> 00:48:15,213
- - [Sofia] Did you ever think
- that you found the one?
- 728
- 00:48:16,890 --> 00:48:18,797
- - Once, but it was in high school.
- 729
- 00:48:20,940 --> 00:48:22,840
- - [Sofia] Mine was more recent.
- 730
- 00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:26,270
- He was from England and
- had joined the Peace Corps.
- 731
- 00:48:26,270 --> 00:48:28,120
- His Spanish was bad so we mainly
- 732
- 00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:31,000
- spoke in English, but he would try.
- 733
- 00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:32,073
- That was important.
- 734
- 00:48:33,150 --> 00:48:35,410
- We fell in love and then
- he went back to England
- 735
- 00:48:35,410 --> 00:48:37,960
- to take care of his visa
- and visit his family.
- 736
- 00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:40,410
- He was supposed to back
- in a couple months,
- 737
- 00:48:40,410 --> 00:48:42,530
- but I never saw him again, never heard
- 738
- 00:48:42,530 --> 00:48:45,314
- from him again, not a text, nothing.
- 739
- 00:48:45,314 --> 00:48:46,740
- I don't understand that.
- 740
- 00:48:46,740 --> 00:48:48,210
- How can you tell someone
- that you love them
- 741
- 00:48:48,210 --> 00:48:50,270
- and then you never text them again?
- 742
- 00:48:50,270 --> 00:48:52,870
- I mean, I get it that if it's hard
- 743
- 00:48:52,870 --> 00:48:54,900
- and I understand if he couldn't
- come back, but nothing?
- 744
- 00:48:54,900 --> 00:48:59,090
- Never knowing, even to this
- day, I can barely think
- 745
- 00:48:59,090 --> 00:49:01,353
- about it, it just eats me up inside.
- 746
- 00:49:02,847 --> 00:49:04,513
- - Yeah, I can't even imagine.
- 747
- 00:49:06,220 --> 00:49:08,900
- - [Sofia] Your biggest fear
- is I'm not who I say I am,
- 748
- 00:49:08,900 --> 00:49:10,600
- that all this will be for nothing.
- 749
- 00:49:11,564 --> 00:49:12,397
- - Yeah.
- 750
- 00:49:13,940 --> 00:49:17,813
- - [Sofia] I understand, that's
- exactly what I went through.
- 751
- 00:49:20,380 --> 00:49:23,520
- My biggest fear is all of a sudden you're
- 752
- 00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,943
- just gonna disappear and
- if I get on video with you,
- 753
- 00:49:27,841 --> 00:49:29,991
- all of a sudden all of
- your fears are gone,
- 754
- 00:49:31,152 --> 00:49:33,352
- but I still wake up
- with mine every morning.
- 755
- 00:49:36,240 --> 00:49:39,633
- But, I'll do it, if that's what it takes.
- 756
- 00:49:40,720 --> 00:49:41,553
- I'll do it.
- 757
- 00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:49,070
- - Ah, you know they say the
- opposite of love isn't hate,
- 758
- 00:49:49,070 --> 00:49:54,070
- it's fear, I don't wanna
- come from a place of fear,
- 759
- 00:49:54,170 --> 00:49:59,170
- so, like every time someone you're with,
- 760
- 00:50:00,310 --> 00:50:01,770
- they go out to dinner, or they work late,
- 761
- 00:50:01,770 --> 00:50:04,960
- you gotta choose trust,
- so that's what I'm gonna.
- 762
- 00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:07,723
- It's only what, 10 more days?
- 763
- 00:50:11,139 --> 00:50:12,803
- I choose trust.
- 764
- 00:50:12,803 --> 00:50:16,053
- (delicate piano music)
- 765
- 00:51:11,474 --> 00:51:14,418
- (audio instructor speaks in Spanish)
- 766
- 00:51:14,418 --> 00:51:17,857
- (Ian speaks Spanish)
- 767
- 00:51:17,857 --> 00:51:20,788
- (audio instructor speaks in Spanish)
- 768
- 00:51:20,788 --> 00:51:23,681
- (Ian speaks Spanish)
- 769
- 00:51:23,681 --> 00:51:28,337
- - [Audio Instructor] Excellent,
- now, where is my hotel?
- 770
- 00:51:28,337 --> 00:51:31,517
- - (Ian speaks Spanish)
- 771
- 00:51:31,517 --> 00:51:32,883
- - [Audio Instructor] That's right.
- 772
- 00:51:33,724 --> 00:51:36,302
- (speaks Spanish)
- 773
- 00:51:36,302 --> 00:51:38,802
- (phone rings)
- 774
- 00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:42,640
- - [Ian] Hey, you.
- 775
- 00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:43,473
- - [Sofia] Hey.
- 776
- 00:51:44,540 --> 00:51:45,960
- - [Ian] What's up?
- 777
- 00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:47,753
- - [Sofia] Just getting
- home from a meeting.
- 778
- 00:51:48,790 --> 00:51:50,610
- - Yeah, what kind of meeting?
- 779
- 00:51:50,610 --> 00:51:52,260
- - Is this a bad time?
- 780
- 00:51:52,260 --> 00:51:55,380
- - No, I was just getting some work done,
- 781
- 00:51:55,380 --> 00:51:57,040
- you know, painting, I'm on a roll.
- 782
- 00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:58,450
- - [Sofia] Well, I can call you back.
- 783
- 00:51:58,450 --> 00:51:59,680
- - It's okay, just trying to squeeze
- 784
- 00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:00,980
- some in before I gotta go.
- 785
- 00:52:03,170 --> 00:52:05,300
- - [Sofia] Okay, why don't you just
- 786
- 00:52:05,300 --> 00:52:07,640
- call me back from the car then.
- 787
- 00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:08,473
- - All right.
- 788
- 00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:11,910
- - [Sofia] I'm nervous for you.
- 789
- 00:52:11,910 --> 00:52:13,183
- - Don't be, I'll be fine.
- 790
- 00:52:18,397 --> 00:52:19,900
- - [Audio Instructor] Excellent.
- 791
- 00:52:19,900 --> 00:52:22,943
- Now, where is my hotel.
- 792
- 00:52:24,388 --> 00:52:27,388
- (speaks in Spanish)
- 793
- 00:52:28,334 --> 00:52:30,970
- (speaks in Spanish)
- 794
- 00:52:30,970 --> 00:52:32,700
- - [Sofia] When was the
- last time you were home?
- 795
- 00:52:32,700 --> 00:52:34,060
- - Oh, maybe six months ago.
- 796
- 00:52:34,060 --> 00:52:35,780
- - [Sofia] Wait, how long is your drive?
- 797
- 00:52:35,780 --> 00:52:37,070
- - It's only two hours?
- 798
- 00:52:37,070 --> 00:52:39,820
- - [Sofia] And you haven't
- been home in six months?
- 799
- 00:52:39,820 --> 00:52:41,870
- - Yeah, just with my dad and everything.
- 800
- 00:52:41,870 --> 00:52:43,870
- - [Sofia] Oh sorry, I know.
- 801
- 00:52:43,870 --> 00:52:46,363
- I just thought you wanted
- to see everyone else.
- 802
- 00:52:47,550 --> 00:52:50,120
- So, you're brother just
- graduated med school.
- 803
- 00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:51,550
- You must be super proud of him.
- 804
- 00:52:51,550 --> 00:52:52,383
- - Yeah, I am.
- 805
- 00:52:54,660 --> 00:52:55,493
- Earlier it seemed like there was
- 806
- 00:52:55,493 --> 00:52:57,760
- something you wanted to tell me.
- 807
- 00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,514
- - [Sofia] Yeah, do you want
- the good news or the bad news?
- 808
- 00:53:00,514 --> 00:53:02,730
- - Bad news first, always bad news.
- 809
- 00:53:02,730 --> 00:53:03,890
- - [Sofia] Can I do the good news first?
- 810
- 00:53:03,890 --> 00:53:05,650
- - Yeah, of course.
- 811
- 00:53:05,650 --> 00:53:07,650
- - [Sofia] I got offered
- an internship at Google.
- 812
- 00:53:07,650 --> 00:53:10,280
- - Wait, what, that's
- incredible, for coding?
- 813
- 00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:11,160
- - [Sofia] Yes.
- 814
- 00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,100
- - Oh my God, that's amazing.
- 815
- 00:53:13,100 --> 00:53:15,170
- What's the bad news?
- 816
- 00:53:15,170 --> 00:53:17,363
- - [Sofia] The job is here in Mexico City.
- 817
- 00:53:18,660 --> 00:53:19,493
- - Oh.
- 818
- 00:53:19,493 --> 00:53:20,810
- - [Sofia] It's only three months
- 819
- 00:53:20,810 --> 00:53:22,560
- and it would give me more time with my mom
- 820
- 00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:24,623
- and I'd actually be making money.
- 821
- 00:53:25,651 --> 00:53:28,490
- - Yeah, right, of course.
- 822
- 00:53:28,490 --> 00:53:31,400
- - [Sofia] But also, I
- really care about you
- 823
- 00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:34,720
- and I know this isn't
- what you signed up for.
- 824
- 00:53:34,720 --> 00:53:37,470
- - I mean, it's Google, you
- don't say no to Google.
- 825
- 00:53:37,470 --> 00:53:38,303
- Also it's your mom.
- 826
- 00:53:38,303 --> 00:53:41,300
- I wouldn't want you picking me
- over either of those things.
- 827
- 00:53:41,300 --> 00:53:42,710
- When do you start?
- 828
- 00:53:42,710 --> 00:53:44,110
- - [Sofia] In two weeks, why?
- 829
- 00:53:45,427 --> 00:53:47,987
- - Well, maybe we still use
- that ticket you have back,
- 830
- 00:53:47,987 --> 00:53:49,860
- spend a weekend together, and then
- 831
- 00:53:49,860 --> 00:53:52,230
- I pay for you to fly to Mexico.
- 832
- 00:53:52,230 --> 00:53:53,660
- - [Sofia] That is so sweet of you,
- 833
- 00:53:53,660 --> 00:53:56,483
- but I would never let
- you pay for my ticket.
- 834
- 00:53:57,520 --> 00:53:58,500
- I really wanna see you.
- 835
- 00:53:58,500 --> 00:54:01,220
- I just have to figure this all out.
- 836
- 00:54:01,220 --> 00:54:02,853
- - Yeah, of course.
- 837
- 00:54:04,912 --> 00:54:07,360
- - [Sofia] Are you sure you're okay?
- 838
- 00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,000
- - I'm sorry if it seems like I'm not.
- 839
- 00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:11,673
- I really am happy for you.
- 840
- 00:54:12,630 --> 00:54:15,280
- I was just also really excited to see you.
- 841
- 00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:16,960
- - [Sofia] I know, you will soon.
- 842
- 00:54:18,210 --> 00:54:19,360
- - Yeah.
- 843
- 00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:21,104
- - [Sofia] I gotta tell my mom.
- 844
- 00:54:21,104 --> 00:54:21,937
- - Oh, you told me first?
- 845
- 00:54:21,937 --> 00:54:24,900
- - [Sofia] Of course, (speaks Spanish)
- 846
- 00:54:24,900 --> 00:54:25,820
- - Sofia?
- 847
- 00:54:25,820 --> 00:54:27,050
- - [Sofia] Yeah.
- 848
- 00:54:27,050 --> 00:54:28,637
- - I truly am happy for you.
- 849
- 00:54:33,570 --> 00:54:36,612
- (door knocks)
- 850
- 00:54:36,612 --> 00:54:37,660
- - [JD] What's up sis?
- 851
- 00:54:37,660 --> 00:54:39,193
- - [Ian] Congratulations, buddy.
- 852
- 00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:43,193
- - Hi, Ian.
- 853
- 00:54:43,193 --> 00:54:44,026
- - [Ian] Hey mom.
- 854
- 00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:49,020
- - I missed you.
- 855
- 00:54:49,020 --> 00:54:50,053
- - I missed you too.
- 856
- 00:54:51,492 --> 00:54:52,325
- Where's Dad?
- 857
- 00:54:52,325 --> 00:54:53,240
- - He's in the kitchen.
- 858
- 00:54:53,240 --> 00:54:54,790
- - [DJ] You see that Allison?
- 859
- 00:54:54,790 --> 00:54:55,623
- - Hey Ian.
- 860
- 00:54:55,623 --> 00:54:57,430
- - [Ian] Hey Allison.
- 861
- 00:54:57,430 --> 00:54:58,810
- How's nursing school?
- 862
- 00:54:58,810 --> 00:54:59,820
- - It's tough but worth it.
- 863
- 00:54:59,820 --> 00:55:01,630
- Just one more year until I'm a RN.
- 864
- 00:55:01,630 --> 00:55:03,073
- - [Ian] That's really awesome.
- 865
- 00:55:04,117 --> 00:55:05,083
- I gotta find my dad.
- 866
- 00:55:06,741 --> 00:55:09,241
- (knives chop)
- 867
- 00:55:11,090 --> 00:55:12,863
- - There you are.
- 868
- 00:55:16,959 --> 00:55:18,459
- - [Ian] Hiya, Dad.
- 869
- 00:55:21,619 --> 00:55:22,820
- - You were cutting it a
- little close don't you think?
- 870
- 00:55:22,820 --> 00:55:24,890
- - [Ian] There was traffic.
- 871
- 00:55:24,890 --> 00:55:26,183
- - There's always traffic.
- 872
- 00:55:30,130 --> 00:55:31,830
- - [Ian] You need a hand?
- 873
- 00:55:31,830 --> 00:55:33,593
- - No, no, I got that, you get that.
- 874
- 00:55:36,226 --> 00:55:38,170
- (light percussion)
- 875
- 00:55:38,170 --> 00:55:41,720
- So, did you hear back
- from the art gallery?
- 876
- 00:55:41,720 --> 00:55:43,203
- - [Ian] I did actually.
- 877
- 00:55:44,130 --> 00:55:46,210
- They're all booked up
- but they liked my stuff.
- 878
- 00:55:46,210 --> 00:55:47,610
- - Congratulations.
- 879
- 00:55:47,610 --> 00:55:49,540
- - [Ian] And they want me to submit again.
- 880
- 00:55:49,540 --> 00:55:50,920
- - Well, of course they did.
- 881
- 00:55:50,920 --> 00:55:52,060
- - That's so awesome.
- 882
- 00:55:52,060 --> 00:55:53,820
- I'd love to see some of your art.
- 883
- 00:55:53,820 --> 00:55:55,649
- - He did the one in the
- hallway you said was weird.
- 884
- 00:55:55,649 --> 00:55:58,003
- - I didn't say it was weird.
- 885
- 00:55:58,003 --> 00:55:59,480
- I just didn't know what it was.
- 886
- 00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:01,480
- - [Ian] It's not supposed to be anything.
- 887
- 00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,480
- It's supposed to make you feel something
- 888
- 00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:05,360
- more than it's supposed to be something.
- 889
- 00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:07,810
- - And what is this one
- supposed to make you feel?
- 890
- 00:56:09,370 --> 00:56:10,830
- - [Ian] I mean, it varies for each person.
- 891
- 00:56:10,830 --> 00:56:15,300
- I'm not gonna tell someone
- what they're supposed to feel.
- 892
- 00:56:15,300 --> 00:56:17,100
- - Seems to me if you knew
- what you were saying,
- 893
- 00:56:17,100 --> 00:56:21,003
- the art galleries would
- respond to you more, favorably.
- 894
- 00:56:22,460 --> 00:56:25,168
- I mean, your brother always
- knew what he wanted to be.
- 895
- 00:56:25,168 --> 00:56:27,280
- Since he was 13-years-old, wanted to be
- 896
- 00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:30,360
- an orthopedic surgeon, not a
- doctor like the other kids,
- 897
- 00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:35,010
- but something very
- specific, he always knew
- 898
- 00:56:35,010 --> 00:56:37,683
- what he wanted to be and look at him now.
- 899
- 00:56:40,220 --> 00:56:41,843
- - [JD] Same thing I did with Allison.
- 900
- 00:56:45,330 --> 00:56:46,780
- - I need to use the restroom.
- 901
- 00:56:49,390 --> 00:56:50,850
- (light percussion)
- 902
- 00:56:50,850 --> 00:56:53,517
- (messages beep)
- 903
- 00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:58,467
- (drums play more intensely)
- 904
- 00:57:33,584 --> 00:57:36,334
- (toilet flushes)
- 905
- 00:57:46,810 --> 00:57:49,460
- - [Jonathan] What on Earth
- took you so long, man?
- 906
- 00:57:49,460 --> 00:57:50,780
- - He was probably taking a shit.
- 907
- 00:57:50,780 --> 00:57:51,613
- - [Sandra] JD!
- 908
- 00:57:51,613 --> 00:57:53,440
- - I was texting a girl.
- 909
- 00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:54,390
- - [JD] What's his name?
- 910
- 00:57:54,390 --> 00:57:55,223
- - [Sandra] Quiet.
- 911
- 00:57:55,223 --> 00:57:56,623
- - Her name is Sofia.
- 912
- 00:57:57,500 --> 00:57:59,376
- - [Sandra] So, do you have any pictures?
- 913
- 00:57:59,376 --> 00:58:00,209
- - Yeah.
- 914
- 00:58:03,331 --> 00:58:04,871
- - Oh, she's beautiful.
- 915
- 00:58:04,871 --> 00:58:05,954
- - Let me see.
- 916
- 00:58:08,730 --> 00:58:09,723
- Dude, she's hot.
- 917
- 00:58:11,210 --> 00:58:13,317
- What are you texting Tina for?
- 918
- 00:58:13,317 --> 00:58:14,380
- - Who is that, your new girlfriend?
- 919
- 00:58:14,380 --> 00:58:16,000
- - [Sandra] His ex-girlfriend.
- 920
- 00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:17,880
- - [JD] Trying to reignite
- an old high school fling?
- 921
- 00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:19,204
- - JD!
- 922
- 00:58:19,204 --> 00:58:20,037
- - [Ian] No, I'm with Sofia.
- 923
- 00:58:20,037 --> 00:58:22,600
- - Then why isn't Sofia here?
- 924
- 00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:24,130
- - She's in Mexico.
- 925
- 00:58:24,130 --> 00:58:25,820
- - Your girlfriend lives in Mexico?
- 926
- 00:58:25,820 --> 00:58:27,590
- - Her mom has cancer.
- 927
- 00:58:27,590 --> 00:58:29,063
- - Oh my God, I'm so sorry.
- 928
- 00:58:30,700 --> 00:58:32,210
- - How did you two meet?
- 929
- 00:58:32,210 --> 00:58:33,610
- - [Ian] Online.
- 930
- 00:58:33,610 --> 00:58:34,960
- - [JD] You have met her though, right?
- 931
- 00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,350
- - Yeah, no, of course
- we want on a great date
- 932
- 00:58:37,350 --> 00:58:38,940
- and then her mom get sick.
- 933
- 00:58:38,940 --> 00:58:42,140
- I'm not gonna call it off
- just because her mom's sick.
- 934
- 00:58:42,140 --> 00:58:44,205
- - That is so sweet of you.
- 935
- 00:58:44,205 --> 00:58:46,320
- - [JD] You have any pictures of you two?
- 936
- 00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:47,403
- - [Ian] Stop it, give me my phone.
- 937
- 00:58:47,403 --> 00:58:48,900
- - Man, come on share your phone.
- 938
- 00:58:48,900 --> 00:58:50,710
- Your brother doesn't have any secrets.
- 939
- 00:58:50,710 --> 00:58:51,543
- - It's my phone.
- 940
- 00:58:51,543 --> 00:58:53,675
- - If I recall you're on my phone plan.
- 941
- 00:58:53,675 --> 00:58:54,585
- - [Ian] That's because you won't take
- 942
- 00:58:54,585 --> 00:58:55,418
- the money whenever I
- try to give it to you.
- 943
- 00:58:55,418 --> 00:58:56,464
- - That's not the point.
- 944
- 00:58:56,464 --> 00:58:58,273
- - The point is you can't hold it
- 945
- 00:58:58,273 --> 00:58:59,748
- over my head and also refuse it.
- 946
- 00:58:59,748 --> 00:59:01,300
- - It's my house, I can do what I want.
- 947
- 00:59:01,300 --> 00:59:02,420
- - [Ian] Yeah, you made that clear.
- 948
- 00:59:02,420 --> 00:59:04,270
- - What's that supposed to mean?
- 949
- 00:59:04,270 --> 00:59:06,931
- - Don't start with the Dad
- was abusive shit, again.
- 950
- 00:59:06,931 --> 00:59:07,764
- - [Allison] What?
- 951
- 00:59:07,764 --> 00:59:09,026
- - [JD] Ian he likes to say--
- 952
- 00:59:09,026 --> 00:59:10,640
- - You don't know what it was like.
- 953
- 00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:12,070
- - We don't know what it was like, huh?
- 954
- 00:59:12,070 --> 00:59:13,870
- Well, then tell us.
- 955
- 00:59:13,870 --> 00:59:15,846
- Tell us little buddy, what was
- 956
- 00:59:15,846 --> 00:59:17,170
- it like to be such an abused child.
- 957
- 00:59:17,170 --> 00:59:18,870
- - [Sandra] Okay, Jonathan,
- let's just drop it.
- 958
- 00:59:18,870 --> 00:59:20,410
- - No, I wanna hear it
- from the artist here.
- 959
- 00:59:20,410 --> 00:59:21,860
- Come on tell us.
- 960
- 00:59:21,860 --> 00:59:23,560
- Congratulations, you made what was
- 961
- 00:59:23,560 --> 00:59:26,293
- supposed to be JD's night all about you.
- 962
- 00:59:27,430 --> 00:59:30,120
- I put a roof over your head ever day.
- 963
- 00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:35,120
- I put food on your plate every
- day, every day, every day.
- 964
- 00:59:40,102 --> 00:59:41,463
- - I don't have to take this.
- 965
- 00:59:42,370 --> 00:59:43,203
- - I love you all, but I don't have
- 966
- 00:59:43,203 --> 00:59:44,893
- to take this just because I love you.
- 967
- 00:59:46,211 --> 00:59:47,461
- - [Sandra] Ian?
- 968
- 00:59:48,970 --> 00:59:50,113
- - Hey, hey asshole.
- 969
- 00:59:51,180 --> 00:59:52,880
- You get your ass back in this house,
- 970
- 00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:55,850
- you apologize to your
- brother, and your mother.
- 971
- 00:59:55,850 --> 00:59:57,651
- - [Ian] I'll call 'em later, I'm leaving.
- 972
- 00:59:57,651 --> 00:59:58,701
- - No, no, no, no, no.
- 973
- 00:59:59,908 --> 01:00:01,604
- (tense dramatic music)
- 974
- 01:00:01,604 --> 01:00:03,940
- You think life is so hard, it isn't.
- 975
- 01:00:03,940 --> 01:00:08,470
- When I was in high school
- I wanted to be a rock star,
- 976
- 01:00:08,470 --> 01:00:11,927
- but I manned up, your mother
- got pregnant so I married her.
- 977
- 01:00:11,927 --> 01:00:13,280
- - Oh, I'm sorry I stopped
- 978
- 01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,750
- the Red Eye Ducks from international fame.
- 979
- 01:00:15,750 --> 01:00:17,090
- (slaps)
- 980
- 01:00:17,090 --> 01:00:19,684
- - That remind you of how I abused ya?
- 981
- 01:00:19,684 --> 01:00:20,741
- Let me remind you again.
- 982
- 01:00:20,741 --> 01:00:23,330
- (slaps)
- 983
- 01:00:23,330 --> 01:00:24,507
- You don't say a word.
- 984
- 01:00:25,444 --> 01:00:29,510
- You don't get to say shit til
- you walked a mile in my shoes.
- 985
- 01:00:29,510 --> 01:00:33,033
- Following your dreams is easy,
- manning up is what's hard.
- 986
- 01:00:36,963 --> 01:00:39,380
- - That's what being a man is?
- 987
- 01:00:41,950 --> 01:00:43,150
- You coulda kept playing.
- 988
- 01:00:47,160 --> 01:00:48,710
- - [Johnathan] It hurt too much.
- 989
- 01:00:50,993 --> 01:00:52,790
- - Where do you think all that pain went?
- 990
- 01:00:53,813 --> 01:00:57,063
- (tense dramatic music)
- 991
- 01:01:08,580 --> 01:01:12,033
- - Oh my God, I almost thought
- you weren't gonna show.
- 992
- 01:01:16,516 --> 01:01:17,980
- Are you okay?
- 993
- 01:01:17,980 --> 01:01:19,493
- - [Ian] Why didn't we work out?
- 994
- 01:01:22,566 --> 01:01:25,740
- - You mean 'cause I was going to school
- 995
- 01:01:25,740 --> 01:01:28,168
- in Boston and then you went to LA?
- 996
- 01:01:28,168 --> 01:01:29,850
- - No after that, when you came back?
- 997
- 01:01:29,850 --> 01:01:33,190
- - Do you really wanna do this again?
- 998
- 01:01:33,190 --> 01:01:34,450
- - I gave you everything.
- 999
- 01:01:34,450 --> 01:01:35,283
- I gave you all of myself.
- 1000
- 01:01:35,283 --> 01:01:37,880
- - Congratulations, so what?
- 1001
- 01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:38,920
- - So what?
- 1002
- 01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:40,250
- You're saying so what to
- me giving you everything.
- 1003
- 01:01:40,250 --> 01:01:42,453
- - Okay, what the hell
- happened at your Dad's?
- 1004
- 01:01:45,623 --> 01:01:50,623
- Hey, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh.
- 1005
- 01:01:51,794 --> 01:01:56,794
- Hey, come here.
- 1006
- 01:02:00,293 --> 01:02:01,126
- Hey, hey.
- 1007
- 01:02:06,261 --> 01:02:11,261
- Do you remember when we snuck
- into that construction site
- 1008
- 01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:14,963
- and we climbed the scaffolding,
- 1009
- 01:02:16,330 --> 01:02:19,860
- and you packed all that stuff, and you had
- 1010
- 01:02:19,860 --> 01:02:23,780
- this whole little picnic thing planned,
- 1011
- 01:02:23,780 --> 01:02:27,310
- but when you pulled the blanket out
- 1012
- 01:02:27,310 --> 01:02:31,735
- you sent all the food flying
- off the side of the building?
- 1013
- 01:02:31,735 --> 01:02:33,143
- - Yeah, that really sucked.
- 1014
- 01:02:33,143 --> 01:02:34,640
- - And then the boombox wouldn't work.
- 1015
- 01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:36,510
- - Yeah, stupid JD took the batteries.
- 1016
- 01:02:36,510 --> 01:02:39,300
- - Yeah, so you sang to me instead.
- 1017
- 01:02:39,300 --> 01:02:41,310
- - Yeah, but I didn't
- know any of the lyrics.
- 1018
- 01:02:41,310 --> 01:02:43,224
- - So you just kept singing.
- 1019
- 01:02:43,224 --> 01:02:44,370
- ♪ I don't wanna wait ♪
- 1020
- 01:02:44,370 --> 01:02:48,069
- Over, and over, and over again.
- 1021
- 01:02:48,069 --> 01:02:50,319
- (Ian hums)
- 1022
- 01:02:52,185 --> 01:02:53,500
- It was the most beautiful
- thing I'd ever had.
- 1023
- 01:02:53,500 --> 01:02:54,833
- - That is not true.
- 1024
- 01:03:05,224 --> 01:03:06,891
- - Hey, are you okay?
- 1025
- 01:03:08,620 --> 01:03:09,453
- - Yeah.
- 1026
- 01:03:22,218 --> 01:03:24,968
- (engaging music)
- 1027
- 01:03:27,496 --> 01:03:29,663
- (panting)
- 1028
- 01:03:37,624 --> 01:03:40,874
- - They really did a number on you, huh?
- 1029
- 01:03:42,391 --> 01:03:44,409
- Shh, it's okay.
- 1030
- 01:03:44,409 --> 01:03:46,992
- (bright music)
- 1031
- 01:03:48,165 --> 01:03:49,832
- Hey, where'd you go?
- 1032
- 01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:53,033
- Come back.
- 1033
- 01:03:57,301 --> 01:04:00,648
- (bright music)
- 1034
- 01:04:00,648 --> 01:04:02,815
- (panting)
- 1035
- 01:04:07,734 --> 01:04:10,317
- (bright music)
- 1036
- 01:04:12,037 --> 01:04:13,954
- - I'm sorry, okay Tina.
- 1037
- 01:04:15,557 --> 01:04:16,390
- - [Tina] What?
- 1038
- 01:04:16,390 --> 01:04:18,406
- - I can't, I can't.
- 1039
- 01:04:18,406 --> 01:04:19,239
- - What?
- 1040
- 01:04:22,216 --> 01:04:24,631
- Where are you going?
- 1041
- 01:04:24,631 --> 01:04:25,464
- Hey!
- 1042
- 01:04:42,037 --> 01:04:44,870
- (phone rings)
- 1043
- 01:04:44,870 --> 01:04:46,730
- - [Sofia] Hey, are you okay?
- 1044
- 01:04:46,730 --> 01:04:48,640
- - Yeah, I'm so sorry about earlier.
- 1045
- 01:04:48,640 --> 01:04:50,020
- - [Sofia] What are you sorry for?
- 1046
- 01:04:50,020 --> 01:04:52,340
- - I wasn't as excited
- as I should have been.
- 1047
- 01:04:52,340 --> 01:04:54,400
- You are so amazing.
- 1048
- 01:04:54,400 --> 01:04:55,277
- You're going through such a hard time.
- 1049
- 01:04:55,277 --> 01:04:57,420
- You get this incredible
- news about thing you worked
- 1050
- 01:04:57,420 --> 01:04:59,690
- so hard for and that
- you completely deserve,
- 1051
- 01:04:59,690 --> 01:05:03,190
- and I made it all about
- me, and you deserve
- 1052
- 01:05:03,190 --> 01:05:05,660
- better than that and I am so sorry.
- 1053
- 01:05:05,660 --> 01:05:07,737
- - [Sofia] I really
- appreciate you saying that,
- 1054
- 01:05:07,737 --> 01:05:10,073
- but it's okay, I get it.
- 1055
- 01:05:10,073 --> 01:05:12,260
- - It isn't okay, I'm going to be better.
- 1056
- 01:05:12,260 --> 01:05:13,980
- - [Sofia] You're already amazing.
- 1057
- 01:05:13,980 --> 01:05:17,880
- - Still, it frustrates
- me so much sometimes.
- 1058
- 01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:19,800
- Like, what if something happened to you?
- 1059
- 01:05:19,800 --> 01:05:21,704
- Would anyone even know to call me?
- 1060
- 01:05:21,704 --> 01:05:22,920
- Would I get to talk at your funeral?
- 1061
- 01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:24,640
- - [Sofia] Jesus, how
- often are you thinking
- 1062
- 01:05:24,640 --> 01:05:26,450
- about something terrible happening to me?
- 1063
- 01:05:26,450 --> 01:05:27,447
- - I didn't mean it like that,
- 1064
- 01:05:27,447 --> 01:05:29,563
- but does anybody even know about me?
- 1065
- 01:05:30,906 --> 01:05:32,790
- It's just so hard not having anything
- 1066
- 01:05:32,790 --> 01:05:34,253
- I could literally hold on to.
- 1067
- 01:05:35,370 --> 01:05:37,240
- - [Sofia] Do you think it's easy for me?
- 1068
- 01:05:37,240 --> 01:05:38,890
- I take care of my mom.
- 1069
- 01:05:38,890 --> 01:05:41,720
- I spent all night refreshing myself
- 1070
- 01:05:41,720 --> 01:05:45,610
- on Python and C++ and then
- I'm distracted the whole time,
- 1071
- 01:05:45,610 --> 01:05:49,040
- because the guy that I'm super
- into went from texting me
- 1072
- 01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:51,080
- all the time to not texting me at all.
- 1073
- 01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:52,400
- - I'm really sorry about that?
- 1074
- 01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:54,210
- - [Sofia] And meanwhile,
- I have this other guy
- 1075
- 01:05:54,210 --> 01:05:57,100
- hitting me up that I was
- talking to before I met you.
- 1076
- 01:05:57,100 --> 01:05:58,650
- - Wait, wait, wait, what other dude?
- 1077
- 01:05:58,650 --> 01:05:59,836
- - [Sofia] It doesn't matter.
- 1078
- 01:05:59,836 --> 01:06:02,220
- Some guy I went with on a couple dates.
- 1079
- 01:06:02,220 --> 01:06:03,760
- - Wait, what happened?
- 1080
- 01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:05,260
- - [Sofia] You happened, dummy.
- 1081
- 01:06:06,506 --> 01:06:09,780
- - I'm sorry I didn't mean to--
- 1082
- 01:06:09,780 --> 01:06:11,580
- - [Sofia] That's not
- what I'm trying to say.
- 1083
- 01:06:11,580 --> 01:06:14,910
- What I'm trying to say
- is you are my life now
- 1084
- 01:06:14,910 --> 01:06:16,860
- and if I hadn't met you
- I probably would have
- 1085
- 01:06:16,860 --> 01:06:19,550
- gone out with him and
- it would have been okay,
- 1086
- 01:06:19,550 --> 01:06:21,850
- and who knows, maybe it
- could've been something more,
- 1087
- 01:06:21,850 --> 01:06:26,850
- because I'm 30 and I didn't
- find what I was looking for,
- 1088
- 01:06:28,100 --> 01:06:30,220
- that thing that I thought was out there.
- 1089
- 01:06:30,220 --> 01:06:33,700
- But then I met you and I realized
- 1090
- 01:06:33,700 --> 01:06:35,833
- I didn't have to give up on that hope,
- 1091
- 01:06:36,830 --> 01:06:39,170
- and I'm not trying to make you feel bad
- 1092
- 01:06:39,170 --> 01:06:41,210
- for not texting me and
- me being distracted.
- 1093
- 01:06:41,210 --> 01:06:44,640
- It's not that, it's just
- I'm revealing to you
- 1094
- 01:06:44,640 --> 01:06:46,910
- what I'm not supposed to reveal,
- 1095
- 01:06:46,910 --> 01:06:49,870
- that I'm upset when we're not talking.
- 1096
- 01:06:49,870 --> 01:06:51,240
- I miss you and I'm--
- 1097
- 01:06:51,240 --> 01:06:53,190
- - I missed you, I missed you too.
- 1098
- 01:06:53,190 --> 01:06:55,847
- Okay, I have never felt anything like this
- 1099
- 01:06:55,847 --> 01:06:57,763
- and I am terrified of losing you.
- 1100
- 01:06:59,247 --> 01:07:01,260
- - [Sofia] I thought
- you gonna choose trust.
- 1101
- 01:07:01,260 --> 01:07:05,023
- - Yeah, yes, I am.
- 1102
- 01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:09,957
- You're able to video chat aren't you?
- 1103
- 01:07:09,957 --> 01:07:12,364
- All that other stuff is just--
- 1104
- 01:07:12,364 --> 01:07:13,417
- - [Sofia] Ian, I--
- 1105
- 01:07:13,417 --> 01:07:16,023
- - No, no, no, no, hey, I get it.
- 1106
- 01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:22,480
- I do, I just, I wanna show you me.
- 1107
- 01:07:24,557 --> 01:07:27,149
- I want you to see the look in my eyes.
- 1108
- 01:07:27,149 --> 01:07:29,036
- - [Sofia] You don't have to do this.
- 1109
- 01:07:29,036 --> 01:07:30,703
- - I know, I want to.
- 1110
- 01:07:39,770 --> 01:07:40,603
- Hey.
- 1111
- 01:07:41,596 --> 01:07:43,843
- - [Sofia] Hi, it's your face.
- 1112
- 01:07:44,690 --> 01:07:45,560
- - It is.
- 1113
- 01:07:45,560 --> 01:07:46,800
- - [Sofia] I love it.
- 1114
- 01:07:46,800 --> 01:07:48,600
- - You've seen it before.
- 1115
- 01:07:48,600 --> 01:07:50,848
- - [Sofia] It's different in action.
- 1116
- 01:07:50,848 --> 01:07:55,848
- I didn't realize how nice your jaw is.
- 1117
- 01:07:56,260 --> 01:07:57,713
- - A girl told me once that's how
- 1118
- 01:07:57,713 --> 01:07:59,230
- she knew I was a good kisser.
- 1119
- 01:07:59,230 --> 01:08:00,330
- - [Sofia] Subtle brag.
- 1120
- 01:08:02,540 --> 01:08:05,180
- I can always judge by lip size.
- 1121
- 01:08:05,180 --> 01:08:06,150
- - Well, I'm not winning there.
- 1122
- 01:08:06,150 --> 01:08:08,350
- - [Sofia] Oh shush,
- you're lips are prefect.
- 1123
- 01:08:10,396 --> 01:08:11,993
- - I really wish I could kiss you.
- 1124
- 01:08:12,945 --> 01:08:14,161
- - [Sofia] Where are you?
- 1125
- 01:08:14,161 --> 01:08:15,311
- - The side of the road.
- 1126
- 01:08:16,401 --> 01:08:18,710
- - [Sofia] Isn't it late
- and you can just go home?
- 1127
- 01:08:18,710 --> 01:08:19,610
- We can talk later.
- 1128
- 01:08:20,688 --> 01:08:22,579
- - I wanted you to see me.
- 1129
- 01:08:22,579 --> 01:08:24,246
- - [Sofia] I see you.
- 1130
- 01:08:25,425 --> 01:08:26,270
- Ian.
- 1131
- 01:08:26,270 --> 01:08:27,908
- - Yeah.
- 1132
- 01:08:27,908 --> 01:08:29,154
- - [Sofia] Kiss me.
- 1133
- 01:08:29,154 --> 01:08:31,904
- (engaging music)
- 1134
- 01:08:33,284 --> 01:08:35,615
- (lips smack)
- 1135
- 01:08:35,615 --> 01:08:38,698
- She was right, you are a good kisser.
- 1136
- 01:08:42,690 --> 01:08:43,773
- - I want you.
- 1137
- 01:08:45,570 --> 01:08:46,573
- - [Sofia] I need you too.
- 1138
- 01:08:48,450 --> 01:08:52,113
- - Imagine my lips kissing
- down your neck, gently,
- 1139
- 01:08:53,313 --> 01:08:55,563
- gently down over your body.
- 1140
- 01:08:56,513 --> 01:08:57,774
- - [Sofia] Mm hmm
- 1141
- 01:08:57,774 --> 01:09:00,382
- - Down in between your breasts,
- 1142
- 01:09:00,382 --> 01:09:03,049
- down your belly, down your legs.
- 1143
- 01:09:05,007 --> 01:09:07,009
- - [Sofia] I can feel that.
- 1144
- 01:09:07,009 --> 01:09:07,842
- - Do you feel that?
- 1145
- 01:09:07,842 --> 01:09:09,214
- - [Sofia] Yes, I can feel that.
- 1146
- 01:09:09,214 --> 01:09:12,214
- - Feel my hands rubbing up your leg.
- 1147
- 01:09:13,374 --> 01:09:16,041
- Feel me when I was between them.
- 1148
- 01:09:18,863 --> 01:09:20,638
- (panting and moaning)
- 1149
- 01:09:20,638 --> 01:09:23,467
- Feel the way you make me grow.
- 1150
- 01:09:23,467 --> 01:09:24,973
- - [Sofia] Oh God, I'm waiting.
- 1151
- 01:09:24,973 --> 01:09:26,270
- - I'm gonna get inside you.
- 1152
- 01:09:26,270 --> 01:09:27,550
- - [Sofia] I need you inside me right now.
- 1153
- 01:09:27,550 --> 01:09:30,447
- - Oh yes, please, yes, yes.
- 1154
- 01:09:30,447 --> 01:09:33,468
- - [Sofia] Just like that,
- oh God, it's amazing.
- 1155
- 01:09:33,468 --> 01:09:34,301
- - Sofia.
- 1156
- 01:09:34,301 --> 01:09:35,631
- - [Sofia] Oh give it to me,
- just like that, just that, yeah.
- 1157
- 01:09:35,631 --> 01:09:36,719
- Ian, Ian.
- 1158
- 01:09:36,719 --> 01:09:38,332
- - Yes, yes, yes Sofia.
- 1159
- 01:09:38,332 --> 01:09:39,999
- - [Sofia] Oh my God.
- 1160
- 01:09:41,468 --> 01:09:44,885
- (screaming and grunting)
- 1161
- 01:09:47,501 --> 01:09:50,159
- (laughing)
- 1162
- 01:09:50,159 --> 01:09:50,992
- Oh my God.
- 1163
- 01:09:53,167 --> 01:09:55,279
- - I made such a big mess.
- 1164
- 01:09:55,279 --> 01:09:56,431
- - [Sofia] In the car?
- 1165
- 01:09:56,431 --> 01:09:58,906
- - No, all over the side of the road.
- 1166
- 01:09:58,906 --> 01:10:01,156
- (laughing)
- 1167
- 01:10:02,170 --> 01:10:06,807
- - [Sofia] I don't think I've
- ever orgasmed this hard.
- 1168
- 01:10:06,807 --> 01:10:08,113
- - I know I haven't.
- 1169
- 01:10:11,210 --> 01:10:12,043
- Sofia?
- 1170
- 01:10:13,050 --> 01:10:15,580
- - [Sofia] What is it?
- 1171
- 01:10:15,580 --> 01:10:16,413
- - I--
- 1172
- 01:10:18,122 --> 01:10:19,289
- - [Sofia] Ian.
- 1173
- 01:10:20,666 --> 01:10:21,499
- - Yeah?
- 1174
- 01:10:23,371 --> 01:10:25,121
- - [Sofia] I love you.
- 1175
- 01:10:26,423 --> 01:10:27,477
- - I love you too.
- 1176
- 01:10:33,740 --> 01:10:35,753
- - You really turned a corner here, Ian.
- 1177
- 01:10:36,649 --> 01:10:41,577
- There is something so fresh
- and raw about these paintings.
- 1178
- 01:10:42,700 --> 01:10:44,500
- These are all the same woman, right?
- 1179
- 01:10:45,450 --> 01:10:50,450
- It's like you couldn't get
- all of her in one painting,
- 1180
- 01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:53,343
- so you had to do more
- to get all of her sides.
- 1181
- 01:10:55,790 --> 01:10:56,623
- Wow.
- 1182
- 01:11:01,010 --> 01:11:02,160
- This is the one, right?
- 1183
- 01:11:11,660 --> 01:11:14,220
- This is it, you know what?
- 1184
- 01:11:14,220 --> 01:11:16,820
- The feature artist that we
- were gonna show next month got
- 1185
- 01:11:16,820 --> 01:11:20,663
- snatched up by MOCHA, would
- you be interested in the slot?
- 1186
- 01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:26,297
- - [Sofia] Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.
- 1187
- 01:11:26,297 --> 01:11:29,300
- I'm so happy for you?
- 1188
- 01:11:29,300 --> 01:11:31,260
- I want you to tell me everything.
- 1189
- 01:11:31,260 --> 01:11:33,510
- I haven't even seen one of the paintings.
- 1190
- 01:11:33,510 --> 01:11:34,940
- - They're a surprise.
- 1191
- 01:11:34,940 --> 01:11:37,460
- - [Sofia] Oh my God, you are such a tease.
- 1192
- 01:11:37,460 --> 01:11:39,693
- - Okay, okay, here.
- 1193
- 01:11:43,000 --> 01:11:46,810
- - [Sofia] Wait, is that
- one of the paintings?
- 1194
- 01:11:46,810 --> 01:11:47,643
- - Yeah.
- 1195
- 01:11:47,643 --> 01:11:49,380
- - [Sofia] It's of me.
- 1196
- 01:11:49,380 --> 01:11:50,800
- - [Ian] Yeah, I know.
- 1197
- 01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:52,280
- - [Sofia] You showed a curator
- 1198
- 01:11:52,280 --> 01:11:54,393
- a painting of me before you showed me?
- 1199
- 01:11:57,545 --> 01:11:59,900
- - Do you know how
- difficult you are to paint?
- 1200
- 01:11:59,900 --> 01:12:00,920
- Do you know how many times I had
- 1201
- 01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:02,983
- to start over just trying to get it right?
- 1202
- 01:12:04,330 --> 01:12:06,280
- - [Sofia] What are the other paintings?
- 1203
- 01:12:08,856 --> 01:12:09,689
- Ian?
- 1204
- 01:12:11,030 --> 01:12:15,930
- Ian, are you gonna fill
- a gallery with paintings
- 1205
- 01:12:15,930 --> 01:12:19,473
- of me when I can't even be there?
- 1206
- 01:12:20,610 --> 01:12:21,490
- - I thought it'd be a surprise.
- 1207
- 01:12:21,490 --> 01:12:23,333
- I thought I could fly you out.
- 1208
- 01:12:26,030 --> 01:12:28,060
- - [Sofia] Let's just drop it.
- 1209
- 01:12:28,060 --> 01:12:30,783
- - No, I don't want this
- hanging between us.
- 1210
- 01:12:31,710 --> 01:12:34,510
- - [Sofia] You are filling
- a a gallery with paintings
- 1211
- 01:12:34,510 --> 01:12:37,060
- of me without my permission
- and then you're guilting
- 1212
- 01:12:37,060 --> 01:12:40,823
- about not being able to be
- there, so let's just drop it.
- 1213
- 01:12:43,980 --> 01:12:45,550
- - I'm sorry.
- 1214
- 01:12:45,550 --> 01:12:46,383
- - [Sofia] Ian--
- 1215
- 01:12:48,329 --> 01:12:53,329
- - Look, I'll cancel, I'll
- cancel the show, okay?
- 1216
- 01:12:53,570 --> 01:12:54,890
- I'll cancel the show, it's not worth it.
- 1217
- 01:12:54,890 --> 01:12:56,474
- I don't wanna fight with you.
- 1218
- 01:12:56,474 --> 01:12:59,170
- - [Sofia] No, no, you
- will not do such a thing.
- 1219
- 01:12:59,170 --> 01:13:03,770
- Look, it's okay, I'm fine, I promise.
- 1220
- 01:13:03,770 --> 01:13:07,870
- I am really flattered.
- 1221
- 01:13:07,870 --> 01:13:11,553
- I just wish you would have told me.
- 1222
- 01:13:16,660 --> 01:13:20,973
- And, what's your schedule like next week?
- 1223
- 01:13:23,260 --> 01:13:24,093
- - Why?
- 1224
- 01:13:24,093 --> 01:13:27,340
- - [Sofia] I know it's your
- birthday, so I figure you're
- 1225
- 01:13:27,340 --> 01:13:28,830
- gonna be with friends and everything,
- 1226
- 01:13:28,830 --> 01:13:31,973
- but I would love to
- have one of those days.
- 1227
- 01:13:33,690 --> 01:13:35,000
- - The whole day?
- 1228
- 01:13:35,000 --> 01:13:35,833
- - [Sofia] Yep.
- 1229
- 01:13:40,030 --> 01:13:41,970
- - I would really love that.
- 1230
- 01:13:41,970 --> 01:13:42,803
- - [Sofia] Good.
- 1231
- 01:13:44,956 --> 01:13:47,456
- (phone rings)
- 1232
- 01:13:49,640 --> 01:13:50,473
- - Good morning.
- 1233
- 01:13:51,320 --> 01:13:53,970
- - [Sofia] Happy day, we're
- celebrating your birthday!
- 1234
- 01:13:54,920 --> 01:13:56,971
- Aftofore to be shortened
- to, Happy Birthday?
- 1235
- 01:13:56,971 --> 01:13:58,550
- - Aftofore?
- 1236
- 01:13:58,550 --> 01:14:00,710
- - [Sofia] The opposite of heretofore.
- 1237
- 01:14:00,710 --> 01:14:03,303
- Try to keep up, we have
- a very very, busy day.
- 1238
- 01:14:04,275 --> 01:14:05,250
- - Oh yeah.
- 1239
- 01:14:05,250 --> 01:14:07,347
- - [Sofia] Happy Birthday,
- get up, get up, get up.
- 1240
- 01:14:07,347 --> 01:14:08,671
- Go check your computer.
- 1241
- 01:14:08,671 --> 01:14:09,933
- - Okay, okay, okay.
- 1242
- 01:14:18,410 --> 01:14:20,340
- - [Sofia] Check your email.
- 1243
- 01:14:20,340 --> 01:14:24,200
- - Okay, what is all this?
- 1244
- 01:14:24,200 --> 01:14:25,523
- - [Sofia] Our itinerary.
- 1245
- 01:14:26,780 --> 01:14:30,113
- (bright engaging music)
- 1246
- 01:14:33,180 --> 01:14:34,040
- - [Ian] This looks so good.
- 1247
- 01:14:34,040 --> 01:14:36,320
- - [Sofia] You said you
- always wanted to go.
- 1248
- 01:14:36,320 --> 01:14:37,170
- - You remembered.
- 1249
- 01:14:40,690 --> 01:14:42,480
- Oh my God, it's so good.
- 1250
- 01:14:42,480 --> 01:14:43,530
- - [Sofia] I told you.
- 1251
- 01:14:44,870 --> 01:14:48,253
- - Wow, what have I been doing?
- 1252
- 01:14:49,119 --> 01:14:51,070
- (Sofia laughs)
- 1253
- 01:14:51,070 --> 01:14:54,290
- - [Sofia] Pick out a
- book, anyone you want.
- 1254
- 01:14:54,290 --> 01:14:55,840
- It's your birthday.
- 1255
- 01:14:55,840 --> 01:14:58,473
- So, I want you to really treat yourself.
- 1256
- 01:15:00,520 --> 01:15:01,493
- Read me one.
- 1257
- 01:15:02,497 --> 01:15:04,187
- - "I could scream down 90 mountains
- 1258
- 01:15:04,187 --> 01:15:05,707
- "to less than dust
- 1259
- 01:15:05,707 --> 01:15:08,447
- "if only one living human
- had eyes in the head
- 1260
- 01:15:08,447 --> 01:15:09,967
- "and heart in the body,
- 1261
- 01:15:09,967 --> 01:15:11,985
- "but there is no chance,
- 1262
- 01:15:11,985 --> 01:15:12,818
- "my god,
- 1263
- 01:15:12,818 --> 01:15:13,651
- "no chance.
- 1264
- 01:15:13,651 --> 01:15:16,547
- "rat with rat dog with dog hog with hog,
- 1265
- 01:15:16,547 --> 01:15:18,656
- "play the piano drunk
- 1266
- 01:15:18,656 --> 01:15:20,727
- "listen to the drunk piano,
- 1267
- 01:15:20,727 --> 01:15:22,027
- "realize the myth of mercy
- 1268
- 01:15:22,027 --> 01:15:23,367
- "stand still
- 1269
- 01:15:23,367 --> 01:15:25,480
- "as even a child's voice snarls
- 1270
- 01:15:26,517 --> 01:15:28,717
- "and we have not been fooled,
- 1271
- 01:15:28,717 --> 01:15:30,710
- "it's only that we wanted to believe."
- 1272
- 01:15:30,710 --> 01:15:33,340
- - [Sofia] You already
- knew that one, didn't you?
- 1273
- 01:15:33,340 --> 01:15:34,737
- - Yeah, it's one of my favorites.
- 1274
- 01:15:34,737 --> 01:15:35,670
- - [Sofia] Pick up a book full of ones
- 1275
- 01:15:35,670 --> 01:15:37,610
- that you have never read before.
- 1276
- 01:15:37,610 --> 01:15:38,443
- - Okay.
- 1277
- 01:15:45,670 --> 01:15:46,700
- - [Cashier] Will that be all for you?
- 1278
- 01:15:46,700 --> 01:15:48,880
- - [Sofia] Tell them you're Ian.
- 1279
- 01:15:48,880 --> 01:15:50,143
- - What?
- 1280
- 01:15:50,143 --> 01:15:52,217
- - [Sofia] Tell them you're Ian.
- 1281
- 01:15:52,217 --> 01:15:53,580
- - I'm Ian.
- 1282
- 01:15:53,580 --> 01:15:55,483
- - [Cashier] Oh, well this
- is all taken care of then.
- 1283
- 01:15:55,483 --> 01:15:56,780
- Happy Birthday.
- 1284
- 01:15:56,780 --> 01:15:58,630
- - Thank you, how did you--
- 1285
- 01:15:58,630 --> 01:15:59,996
- - [Sofia] Next place.
- 1286
- 01:15:59,996 --> 01:16:03,329
- (bright engaging music)
- 1287
- 01:16:21,220 --> 01:16:22,827
- - The swan?
- 1288
- 01:16:22,827 --> 01:16:24,077
- - [Sofia] I know, I know.
- 1289
- 01:16:24,077 --> 01:16:25,101
- - Seriously?
- 1290
- 01:16:25,101 --> 01:16:25,944
- The swan?
- 1291
- 01:16:25,944 --> 01:16:26,777
- - [Sofia] You love it anyways.
- 1292
- 01:16:26,777 --> 01:16:28,140
- - Do you have any idea
- how ridiculous I look.
- 1293
- 01:16:28,140 --> 01:16:30,106
- - [Sofia] It's your birthday.
- 1294
- 01:16:30,106 --> 01:16:31,806
- You're allowed to look ridiculous.
- 1295
- 01:16:35,300 --> 01:16:36,450
- - [Ian] Wow.
- 1296
- 01:16:36,450 --> 01:16:38,850
- - [Sofia] This is my favorite place in LA.
- 1297
- 01:16:38,850 --> 01:16:40,600
- - It really is beautiful.
- 1298
- 01:16:40,600 --> 01:16:41,900
- - [Sofia] If you look under the tree
- 1299
- 01:16:41,900 --> 01:16:44,780
- you're gonna find pen
- and paper to write with.
- 1300
- 01:16:46,000 --> 01:16:47,690
- I wrote you something.
- 1301
- 01:16:47,690 --> 01:16:49,103
- - Wait really?
- 1302
- 01:16:49,103 --> 01:16:52,673
- - No, not there silly, I
- don't want anyone to get it?
- 1303
- 01:16:55,730 --> 01:16:57,100
- - Still, that means so much to me.
- 1304
- 01:16:57,100 --> 01:16:58,993
- No one's every written
- something for me before.
- 1305
- 01:16:58,993 --> 01:17:00,490
- - [Sofia] Shut up and let me read it.
- 1306
- 01:17:00,490 --> 01:17:02,230
- - Okay, okay.
- 1307
- 01:17:02,230 --> 01:17:05,210
- - There's something that happens
- when we get up high enough.
- 1308
- 01:17:05,210 --> 01:17:08,200
- The things once important
- suddenly so small,
- 1309
- 01:17:08,200 --> 01:17:10,640
- like the world of ants
- bustling beneath us,
- 1310
- 01:17:10,640 --> 01:17:13,900
- that never gives us pause
- as we tread on homes.
- 1311
- 01:17:13,900 --> 01:17:16,370
- You were the first thing
- that lifted me high enough
- 1312
- 01:17:16,370 --> 01:17:20,480
- to make ants of my troubles
- and sand for my fears.
- 1313
- 01:17:20,480 --> 01:17:23,530
- You took all my tomorrows
- and turned them into years,
- 1314
- 01:17:23,530 --> 01:17:27,310
- for the first breath of air
- after wishing in a tunnel,
- 1315
- 01:17:27,310 --> 01:17:29,030
- the excitement of an ice cream truck
- 1316
- 01:17:29,030 --> 01:17:31,080
- when you just got your allowance,
- 1317
- 01:17:31,080 --> 01:17:33,713
- you snow-fallen Christmas,
- rain in the desert.
- 1318
- 01:17:34,579 --> 01:17:36,840
- You bring thanks to
- people on a daily basis,
- 1319
- 01:17:36,840 --> 01:17:38,983
- but most of all you mean the world to me.
- 1320
- 01:17:42,160 --> 01:17:42,993
- - Thank you.
- 1321
- 01:17:44,700 --> 01:17:45,990
- - [Sofia] What is it?
- 1322
- 01:17:45,990 --> 01:17:47,400
- - My battery's dying.
- 1323
- 01:17:47,400 --> 01:17:49,028
- - [Sofia] Oh it's okay.
- 1324
- 01:17:49,028 --> 01:17:49,861
- That was the last thing on the itinerary
- 1325
- 01:17:49,861 --> 01:17:51,180
- and I have to go soon anyway.
- 1326
- 01:17:52,090 --> 01:17:54,490
- - I just thought there
- was maybe something else.
- 1327
- 01:17:54,490 --> 01:17:55,780
- - [Sofia] Like what.
- 1328
- 01:17:55,780 --> 01:17:57,715
- - Well, it is my birthday.
- 1329
- 01:17:57,715 --> 01:18:00,450
- - [Sofia] Oh, I see, well we can have sex
- 1330
- 01:18:00,450 --> 01:18:03,020
- later tonight after I get my mom into bed.
- 1331
- 01:18:03,020 --> 01:18:04,470
- - I wasn't talking about sex.
- 1332
- 01:18:05,460 --> 01:18:07,630
- - [Sofia] Oh, Ian, I can't.
- 1333
- 01:18:07,630 --> 01:18:09,130
- - Yes you can.
- 1334
- 01:18:09,130 --> 01:18:10,240
- - [Sofia] I told you.
- 1335
- 01:18:10,240 --> 01:18:11,919
- - Yeah, but just because
- you told me before
- 1336
- 01:18:11,919 --> 01:18:12,752
- doesn't mean we can't do this.
- 1337
- 01:18:12,752 --> 01:18:14,030
- - [Sofia] So what, you just presumed
- 1338
- 01:18:14,030 --> 01:18:16,160
- that because it was your
- birthday I would get on camera
- 1339
- 01:18:16,160 --> 01:18:17,300
- with you and now you're mad
- at me because I didn't--
- 1340
- 01:18:17,300 --> 01:18:18,403
- - I'm not mad, it's just--
- 1341
- 01:18:18,403 --> 01:18:21,507
- - [Sofia] After the entire
- day that I planned for you,
- 1342
- 01:18:21,507 --> 01:18:23,830
- all you can focus on is
- that I did not get on camera
- 1343
- 01:18:23,830 --> 01:18:25,730
- with you after you told me
- that you were okay with my--
- 1344
- 01:18:25,730 --> 01:18:26,960
- - It's weird, okay, it's okay.
- 1345
- 01:18:26,960 --> 01:18:29,110
- Like, I get in the
- beginning but you know me.
- 1346
- 01:18:29,110 --> 01:18:30,400
- I've given you everything.
- 1347
- 01:18:30,400 --> 01:18:31,300
- When will it be enough?
- 1348
- 01:18:31,300 --> 01:18:32,880
- When will I be enough?
- 1349
- 01:18:32,880 --> 01:18:34,460
- - [Sofia] Enough for what?
- 1350
- 01:18:34,460 --> 01:18:35,400
- You have me.
- 1351
- 01:18:35,400 --> 01:18:37,600
- - No, I don't!
- 1352
- 01:18:37,600 --> 01:18:39,943
- - [Sofia] You're right, you don't.
- 1353
- 01:18:42,000 --> 01:18:45,361
- - Sofia, Sofia?
- 1354
- 01:18:45,361 --> 01:18:47,778
- (drums play)
- 1355
- 01:18:51,089 --> 01:18:52,322
- - [Machine] Your call has been
- 1356
- 01:18:52,322 --> 01:18:56,930
- forwarded to an automated.
- 1357
- 01:18:56,930 --> 01:18:59,847
- Your call has been forwarded to an.
- 1358
- 01:19:07,213 --> 01:19:08,810
- - Fuck.
- 1359
- 01:19:08,810 --> 01:19:12,393
- (intense percussion plays)
- 1360
- 01:19:23,550 --> 01:19:24,913
- Come on, come on.
- 1361
- 01:19:26,065 --> 01:19:26,940
- - [Machine] Your call has been forwarded
- 1362
- 01:19:26,940 --> 01:19:28,610
- to an automated voice messaging.
- 1363
- 01:19:28,610 --> 01:19:30,337
- When you finish recording you may hung up
- 1364
- 01:19:30,337 --> 01:19:33,310
- or press one for more options.
- 1365
- 01:19:33,310 --> 01:19:35,564
- - Hey, it's me.
- 1366
- 01:19:35,564 --> 01:19:37,173
- I know that was bad.
- 1367
- 01:19:39,120 --> 01:19:40,750
- Call me back when you can, please.
- 1368
- 01:19:40,750 --> 01:19:42,830
- My text messages aren't going through.
- 1369
- 01:19:42,830 --> 01:19:45,083
- I don't know if it's the service out here.
- 1370
- 01:19:47,181 --> 01:19:49,660
- I'm sorry, okay, I love you.
- 1371
- 01:19:49,660 --> 01:19:52,077
- (drums play)
- 1372
- 01:20:08,269 --> 01:20:10,936
- (message beeps)
- 1373
- 01:20:22,100 --> 01:20:26,690
- Hey, just call me please, please.
- 1374
- 01:20:38,710 --> 01:20:43,710
- Hey, Sofia, it's me, sorry
- about the other voice mails.
- 1375
- 01:20:46,560 --> 01:20:49,720
- I really don't wanna
- sound like a crazy person.
- 1376
- 01:20:49,720 --> 01:20:51,183
- It's me, it's Ian.
- 1377
- 01:20:51,183 --> 01:20:52,766
- I just don't even know.
- 1378
- 01:20:52,766 --> 01:20:53,888
- I love you.
- 1379
- 01:20:53,888 --> 01:20:54,925
- Call me back.
- 1380
- 01:20:54,925 --> 01:20:56,047
- I guess I should say.
- 1381
- 01:20:56,047 --> 01:20:56,880
- I don't know if something happened.
- 1382
- 01:20:56,880 --> 01:21:00,560
- Hey, it is your daily call
- from Ian, day number four.
- 1383
- 01:21:00,560 --> 01:21:02,270
- Sofia, please pick up, please.
- 1384
- 01:21:02,270 --> 01:21:04,100
- It was nothing that bad.
- 1385
- 01:21:04,100 --> 01:21:06,530
- I mean, are we really going
- to end this over something
- 1386
- 01:21:06,530 --> 01:21:08,910
- like that, come on that's stupid.
- 1387
- 01:21:08,910 --> 01:21:11,090
- Sofia, Sofia, Sofia, Sofia.
- 1388
- 01:21:21,600 --> 01:21:24,267
- (drawer creaks)
- 1389
- 01:21:29,920 --> 01:21:31,053
- Hey, it's me.
- 1390
- 01:21:34,350 --> 01:21:35,823
- It's been nine days.
- 1391
- 01:21:40,690 --> 01:21:44,693
- Voicemail number 127.
- 1392
- 01:21:46,364 --> 01:21:47,664
- I hope it's not that many.
- 1393
- 01:21:50,878 --> 01:21:52,223
- I don't know what else to say.
- 1394
- 01:21:55,705 --> 01:22:00,157
- ♪ But of all these friends and lovers ♪
- 1395
- 01:22:00,157 --> 01:22:02,407
- ♪ I really ♪
- 1396
- 01:22:03,915 --> 01:22:05,703
- You don't even like "The Beatles," I know.
- 1397
- 01:22:08,525 --> 01:22:10,323
- It still makes me think of you every time.
- 1398
- 01:22:18,846 --> 01:22:22,679
- ♪ In my life I loved you more ♪
- 1399
- 01:22:27,690 --> 01:22:30,883
- Call me, please.
- 1400
- 01:22:32,653 --> 01:22:35,153
- (shower runs)
- 1401
- 01:22:41,997 --> 01:22:44,497
- (phone rings)
- 1402
- 01:22:51,566 --> 01:22:52,399
- Hello.
- 1403
- 01:22:52,399 --> 01:22:53,763
- - [Grandma] Hi, honey.
- 1404
- 01:22:54,700 --> 01:22:55,900
- - Hey, Grandma.
- 1405
- 01:22:55,900 --> 01:22:57,230
- - [Grandma] Are you okay?
- 1406
- 01:22:57,230 --> 01:22:59,490
- - Yeah, no, I was just showering.
- 1407
- 01:22:59,490 --> 01:23:01,330
- - [Grandma] Well, that's okay.
- 1408
- 01:23:01,330 --> 01:23:04,423
- I just wanted to see if you
- got my birthday card I sent.
- 1409
- 01:23:05,350 --> 01:23:09,257
- - I did, I just, I'm sorry.
- 1410
- 01:23:09,257 --> 01:23:11,860
- - [Grandma] Are you sure you're okay?
- 1411
- 01:23:11,860 --> 01:23:13,370
- You always call right away.
- 1412
- 01:23:13,370 --> 01:23:14,933
- I sent it weeks ago.
- 1413
- 01:23:15,890 --> 01:23:16,813
- - Yeah, no, I am.
- 1414
- 01:23:18,450 --> 01:23:20,910
- I should've called, I'm really sorry.
- 1415
- 01:23:20,910 --> 01:23:22,820
- Can I call you back, Grandma?
- 1416
- 01:23:22,820 --> 01:23:25,470
- - [Grandma] It's okay honey, I love you.
- 1417
- 01:23:25,470 --> 01:23:26,387
- - I love you too.
- 1418
- 01:24:11,480 --> 01:24:14,313
- (door bell rings)
- 1419
- 01:24:21,720 --> 01:24:24,053
- (Ian sighs)
- 1420
- 01:24:44,265 --> 01:24:46,682
- (knife cuts)
- 1421
- 01:25:02,670 --> 01:25:05,913
- - [Sofia] Hey handsome,
- I know this is late.
- 1422
- 01:25:06,760 --> 01:25:10,400
- I know because I'm sending it
- the day before your birthday
- 1423
- 01:25:10,400 --> 01:25:14,290
- and overnight shipping from
- Mexico costs a million dollars.
- 1424
- 01:25:14,290 --> 01:25:17,520
- So, you're just going to have
- to deal with the lateness.
- 1425
- 01:25:17,520 --> 01:25:21,210
- Anyway, by this point we will have spent
- 1426
- 01:25:21,210 --> 01:25:23,720
- an amazing day together, and anything
- 1427
- 01:25:23,720 --> 01:25:25,710
- I can say will be out-of-date,
- 1428
- 01:25:27,098 --> 01:25:31,265
- but know that I love you
- and I am always with you.
- 1429
- 01:25:32,246 --> 01:25:33,163
- Your Sofia.
- 1430
- 01:26:09,719 --> 01:26:12,552
- (keyboard clacks)
- 1431
- 01:26:40,085 --> 01:26:42,835
- (crickets chirp)
- 1432
- 01:26:48,279 --> 01:26:51,779
- (engaging dramatic music)
- 1433
- 01:27:39,845 --> 01:27:43,262
- (uptempo engaging music)
- 1434
- 01:27:57,093 --> 01:28:00,676
- (announcements in Spanish)
- 1435
- 01:28:03,846 --> 01:28:07,263
- (uptempo engaging music)
- 1436
- 01:28:23,222 --> 01:28:26,722
- (Pilot speaks in Spanish)
- 1437
- 01:28:32,566 --> 01:28:35,899
- (bright engaging music)
- 1438
- 01:28:46,245 --> 01:28:48,745
- (birds chirp)
- 1439
- 01:29:07,046 --> 01:29:08,379
- - [Ian] Gracias.
- 1440
- 01:29:30,577 --> 01:29:32,910
- (Ian sighs)
- 1441
- 01:29:37,685 --> 01:29:40,185
- (door knocks)
- 1442
- 01:29:48,087 --> 01:29:50,587
- (door knocks)
- 1443
- 01:29:58,583 --> 01:30:01,333
- (traffic blares)
- 1444
- 01:30:04,837 --> 01:30:07,337
- (door knocks)
- 1445
- 01:30:19,941 --> 01:30:20,774
- Ingles?
- 1446
- 01:30:34,525 --> 01:30:35,375
- - Si.
- 1447
- 01:30:35,375 --> 01:30:36,576
- - Si, si?
- 1448
- 01:30:36,576 --> 01:30:37,409
- - Si.
- 1449
- 01:30:37,409 --> 01:30:38,826
- - Muchas gracias.
- 1450
- 01:30:45,553 --> 01:30:49,053
- (bright orchestral music)
- 1451
- 01:31:36,194 --> 01:31:38,694
- (phone rings)
- 1452
- 01:31:45,810 --> 01:31:47,360
- Hey.
- 1453
- 01:31:47,360 --> 01:31:48,815
- - [Sofia] Hey.
- 1454
- 01:31:48,815 --> 01:31:50,220
- - How are you?
- 1455
- 01:31:50,220 --> 01:31:52,704
- How have you been?
- 1456
- 01:31:52,704 --> 01:31:54,273
- What are you up to?
- 1457
- 01:31:55,407 --> 01:31:56,893
- - I'm just getting home from work.
- 1458
- 01:31:59,247 --> 01:32:02,747
- (engaging dramatic music)
- 1459
- 01:32:06,390 --> 01:32:07,433
- What are you up to?
- 1460
- 01:32:14,233 --> 01:32:15,330
- - I'm...
- 1461
- 01:32:23,050 --> 01:32:24,650
- Just getting home from work too.
- 1462
- 01:32:27,070 --> 01:32:28,203
- - [Sofia] I've missed you.
- 1463
- 01:32:29,620 --> 01:32:31,170
- - [Ian] I've really missed you.
- 1464
- 01:32:32,348 --> 01:32:35,265
- (children chatter)
- 1465
- 01:32:56,060 --> 01:32:59,310
- (engaging piano music)
- 1466
- 01:33:12,345 --> 01:33:15,149
- ♪ I could paint you a portrait ♪
- 1467
- 01:33:15,149 --> 01:33:18,506
- ♪ I could paint you an ocean ♪
- 1468
- 01:33:18,506 --> 01:33:23,506
- ♪ You could say that I've
- lost my faith in it ♪
- 1469
- 01:33:28,061 --> 01:33:31,326
- ♪ I could give you the desert ♪
- 1470
- 01:33:31,326 --> 01:33:34,671
- ♪ I could give you the mountains ♪
- 1471
- 01:33:34,671 --> 01:33:39,671
- ♪ But I don't know how to make them fit ♪
- 1472
- 01:33:43,358 --> 01:33:47,148
- ♪ This could be the real thing ♪
- 1473
- 01:33:47,148 --> 01:33:50,317
- ♪ We need a room to find out ♪
- 1474
- 01:33:50,317 --> 01:33:53,643
- ♪ If this could be the real thing ♪
- 1475
- 01:33:53,643 --> 01:33:58,643
- ♪ And it's too soon to have these doubts ♪
- 1476
- 01:34:01,961 --> 01:34:06,961
- ♪ Oh, I will get to you somehow ♪
- 1477
- 01:34:09,630 --> 01:34:13,084
- ♪ Somehow ♪
- 1478
- 01:34:13,084 --> 01:34:16,523
- ♪ 'Cause it tasted like a promise ♪
- 1479
- 01:34:16,523 --> 01:34:19,929
- ♪ 'Cause I feel like a bargain ♪
- 1480
- 01:34:19,929 --> 01:34:24,929
- ♪ Would you break it off to let me see ♪
- 1481
- 01:34:29,308 --> 01:34:32,586
- ♪ Does it break like a window ♪
- 1482
- 01:34:32,586 --> 01:34:35,900
- ♪ Does it break like a spirit ♪
- 1483
- 01:34:35,900 --> 01:34:40,900
- ♪ Well at least I tried to make it be ♪
- 1484
- 01:34:43,853 --> 01:34:47,339
- ♪ This could be the real thing ♪
- 1485
- 01:34:47,339 --> 01:34:50,698
- ♪ But we need to a room to find out ♪
- 1486
- 01:34:50,698 --> 01:34:53,978
- ♪ This could be the real thing ♪
- 1487
- 01:34:53,978 --> 01:34:58,978
- ♪ And I don't wanna have these doubts ♪
- 1488
- 01:35:02,426 --> 01:35:07,426
- ♪ Will you get to me somehow ♪
- 1489
- 01:35:10,076 --> 01:35:12,243
- ♪ Somehow ♪
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