ArtielToday at 3:55 AM
Hey, Alviss. Hit me up when you're around. Wanted to talk to you about something important.

AlvissToday at 5:54 AM
I just woke up. What's the matter?

ArtielToday at 6:05 AM
Basically, I'm worried you may be making some other members a little uncomfortable recently.

AlvissToday at 6:09 AM
I am?
Let me guess you're going to ban me now? Like that hasn't happened before due to me having emotions.
I hate having autism. No one ever wants to try to understand me
Well go on then do your worst. Just know I'll have to get used to the fact that my whole life people are going to be hypocrites just because of my emotions I shouldn't have.
I'm honestly fed up with people like that

ArtielToday at 6:13 AM
Alviss, I'm not going to ban you.
I'm just going to ask that you take a break for a little while. I'm not going to remove you from the site, I'm not going to remove/archive your characters. I'm just gonna ask that you take some time and feel better.

AlvissToday at 6:15 AM
That's surprising
No one ever gives me a chance
at all
It usually ends with me being banned just because I have emotions
Honestly at this point i've come to expect it
People are hypocrites and never want to understand other people
Also if I take a break I'll be removed anyway for inactivity

ArtielToday at 6:18 AM
Nah, I'll leave them on the roster for you. I'm not looking to gip/cheat you here. My nephew is autistic.
I understand your issues and know that sometimes the best way to feel better is to take a safe break.
One where you don't have the pressure to change behavior on a dime or conform to rules you don't see well.

AlvissToday at 6:19 AM
Okay
Well can you take a look at my app while I am away?

ArtielToday at 6:21 AM
Of course.
I'm going to ask that you take a month or so, and I'll also give you some resources where you can find people to listen to you. Natalie mentioned you've been feeling down and a little unheard.

AlvissToday at 6:22 AM
Not just unheard. No one wants to understand me
It's made me scorn the world because people never want to try
And I've come to expect being banned as a natural response

ArtielToday at 6:26 AM
Understandable. So what I'm going to do now is pass you a couple of links.
These links are basically places where people volunteer to listen to others.
They offer you the chance both to be heard (no matter what) and the chance to hear others, if you want to.
https://www.7cups.com/ Here's one.
7 Cups - Free Care & Therapy
Find Help, Online Therapy & Free Counseling and Someone to Talk to while on the go! We are here to listen.
It's definitely my favorite and I've used it before.

AlvissToday at 6:30 AM
A whole month though? That's going to make me miss all the activity checks
Is this your way of telling me to get lost?

ArtielToday at 6:31 AM
Nah, if I were telling you to get lost, I'd tell you to get lost.
This is me giving you the chance to recup a bit so that I don't feel the need to tell you to get lost.

AlvissToday at 6:32 AM
I won't earn any exp rewards though

ArtielToday at 6:32 AM
Yeah, but you'll still be on the site.
Thankfully, the EXP rewards from check-ins aren't all that much.

AlvissToday at 6:37 AM
Okay so how am I making people uncomfortable? People never tell me why they just start with. "I need to talk to you about something important." Then. "I am afraid we will have to ban you." Before I can ask why though it already happened.
Sometimes they don't even say the first line
They just ban me outright
Actually no that's most of the time

ArtielToday at 6:38 AM
Some of your behaviors make you a little hard to talk to. It feels a little like you aren't connecting well with others, and I think that having a place to be listened to will allow you the chance to figure out some better ways to do that without making people uncomfortable.

AlvissToday at 6:39 AM
That's vague

ArtielToday at 6:39 AM
It's because it's hard to explain without specifying who's brought the concern to me.
I'd rather not out them for privacy's sake.

AlvissToday at 6:39 AM
Natalie tells me to elaborate on my app but you won't on this subject?

ArtielToday at 6:40 AM
On the subject of the app or the subject of people feeling uncomfortable?

AlvissToday at 6:40 AM
both
I'm saying that you guys ask for things you can't deliver on your own

ArtielToday at 6:41 AM
If I couldn't deliver this on my own I wouldn't be speaking to you, Alviss.
Elaborating on an application (based around fictional characters and the merits of your writing) isn't the same thing as elaborating on a social issue that makes someone difficult to deal with; the only thing that links them together is the knowledge that both rely on the person in question accepting constructive criticism.
No criticism I give you or have given you will be to tear you down.

AlvissToday at 6:43 AM
I see
A whole month seems a little excessive though

ArtielToday at 6:45 AM
I want to make sure you have the time you need to adjust.

AlvissToday at 6:45 AM
I don't have any idea what to adjust to

ArtielToday at 6:46 AM
Your goal, more or less, is to learn how to connect with others. To do that, you want to start by being listened to. And then, to learn to listen better.
Talking to you a lot of the time feels like talking to a brick wall, or a narcissistic one.
It's not often fun because it doesn't feel as though it's a two way conversation.
It's partially because of your autism, which I don't fault you for.

AlvissToday at 6:46 AM
I hate having it
It's brought me nothing but grief

ArtielToday at 6:47 AM
But I think there are ways you can get around that (in part) by taking some time to think about rules to interact with others.

AlvissToday at 6:49 AM
Well after highschool I had left a lot of my closest friends behind since I was no longer there
Now I hardly have any friends that live close to me
I'm always inside talking to people I can't meet up with

ArtielToday at 6:51 AM
Mhm. It may be a good idea to get out.
Use an app like Meetup or etc to find a friend or two to do something with.

AlvissToday at 6:52 AM
Maybe

ArtielToday at 6:53 AM
It may be a good idea.
But what I'm going to do for now (just for now) is send you a friend request on here and temporarily remove you from the Discord. In one month's time, I'll readd you to it (and if you think I've forgotten, you can use the link on the site to rejoin manually).

AlvissToday at 6:54 AM
Why remove me?

ArtielToday at 6:54 AM
Just to make sure you take the time you need.
Having the temptation can make things harder.
I know that one from experience.