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- 06[18:49] * Svetlana wishes he was a girl...
- 06[18:50] * @tiffany too ;~;
- 01[18:52] <Svetlana> ugh
- 01[18:52] <Svetlana> I feel extremely terrible today
- 06[18:52] * 4@tiffany hugs svetlana :c
- 01[18:53] <Svetlana> i feel like i'm complaining about my life when i shouldn't and i don't deserve what i have ;~;
- 01[18:53] <Svetlana> yet i just don't feel it's right...
- 06[18:53] * Svetlana hates his body
- 06[18:53] * @tiffany hates how this world works :|
- 01[18:54] <Svetlana> tiffany i can't take it much longer...
- [18:54] <@tiffany> :(
- 01[18:54] <Svetlana> i don't know what to do...
- [18:54] <@tiffany> have you told your parents or do they not care?
- 01[18:55] <Svetlana> i've told my mom i don't like how i look, for example my hairy legs and how i wanted to wax or shave them
- 01[18:55] <Svetlana> she laughed and said "don't be silly, men don't do that"
- [18:55] <nys> i can see my mom saying that
- 01[18:55] <Svetlana> my mom scowls and yells at me for every slightly feminine thing i do
- 01[18:56] <Svetlana> it makes me feel so horrible
- 01[18:56] <Svetlana> tiffany i started crying at school for like 20 minutes today...
- [18:56] <@Lymee> Here?
- [18:57] <@Lymee> Ah.
- [18:57] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, telling her exactly how you feel... if it's not dangerous, I think it's worth a try.
- 01[18:57] <Svetlana> ugh...
- 01[18:58] <Svetlana> she's very judgemental and discriminating
- 01[18:58] <Svetlana> she doesn't like gays and the like
- [18:58] <@Lymee> If that's the case...
- [18:58] <@Lymee> :s
- 01[18:58] <Svetlana> telling her i want to crossdress would probably get me disowned
- 01[18:58] <Svetlana> she might even kick me out of the house in an extreme case
- [18:58] <@Lymee> That... does not sound like a loving parent. >>
- 01[18:59] <Svetlana> either way she'd probably become as depressed as i am now because she'd find out i'm not the PERFECT SON she wants me to be
- 01[18:59] <Svetlana> she already is kinda since i told her i was bisexual...
- 01[18:59] <Svetlana> i feel terrible..
- 01[18:59] <Svetlana> i just wish i had some support...
- 06[20:35] * Svetlana is desperate...
- [20:36] <4@tiffany> svetlana, it'll get better :(
- 06[20:36] * Svetlana wishes he could believe that...
- [20:37] <nys> do you want it to get better?
- 01[20:37] <Svetlana> yes!
- [20:37] <nys> you control your future
- 01[20:37] <Svetlana> not while i'm anywhere near my family
- [20:38] <@Lymee> Then get away from your family.
- [20:38] <@Lymee> As soon as possible.
- 01[20:38] <Svetlana> i want to...
- [20:38] <@Lymee> For certain people.... I don't think things can ever become perfect, but.
- [20:38] <@tiffany> it's not like you're bound to them forever
- [20:38] <@Lymee> You can make your life the best that you can.
- 01[20:38] <Svetlana> i just want to... live with someone who understands and support me... i don't know...
- 01[20:38] <Svetlana> i just
- [20:38] <@tiffany> although... if you want to really get anywhere you have to have money... :x
- 01[20:38] <Svetlana> wish there was something i could do right now
- 06[20:38] * @tiffany needs to get a part time job <_>
- [20:39] <nys> i wonder if you told your mom you were trans, then left for a while
- [20:39] <@Lymee> I dunno.
- [20:40] <@Lymee> Parents are supposed to be caring, and wish the best for their children.
- 01[20:40] <Svetlana> i already mentioned having considered a gender reassignment surgery
- 01[20:40] <Svetlana> she just changed the subject immediately
- 01[20:40] <Svetlana> she doesn't like me mentioning anything slightly feminine
- 01[20:41] <Svetlana> sometimes my nails are long because i'm too lazy to trim them and once i joked, JOKED about wanting to paint them
- [20:41] <@Lymee> Yet, I see parents trying to make their children how they want them to be, or even exactly like them, and in the process hurting their child.
- 01[20:41] <Svetlana> she stared at me with a serious face and said "don't even joke about something like that"
- [20:41] <@Lymee> And sometimes, they try to make their child what they think will make them happy, as if they knew them better than they knew themselves...
- [20:41] <@Lymee> Urg. :s
- 01[20:41] <Svetlana> my mom is usually very nice... lately, she's been just... ugh
- [20:41] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, I'm not sure how this would work, but...
- 01[20:41] <Svetlana> i want to get out of here...
- [20:41] <@Lymee> I suggest you confront her directly about what she's doing and ask her why.
- [20:42] <@Lymee> And if she says it's for your own good, make it clear how far from the truth that is.
- [20:42] <@Lymee> If she tries to dismiss your experiences, call her out on that too.
- [20:43] <@Lymee> And if she's just plain bigoted, well. At least you won't have regrets when you leave her.
- 01[20:43] <Svetlana> "how can you be so sure that's really what you want"
- [20:43] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, "Because I know myself far better than you ever will"
- 01[20:43] <Svetlana> "you're only 17 you've never even been in a relationship"
- [20:43] <nys> that's what my mom told me
- [20:43] <@Lymee> "Even if I don't know what exactly I want, you know it even less. So let me decide"
- [20:43] <nys> and I agree with her
- 01[20:44] <Svetlana> "men don't shave their legs having hairy legs is perfectly normal and you shouldn't feel ashamed of it"
- 01[20:44] <Svetlana> i'm not even ashamed of having hairy legs
- 01[20:44] <Svetlana> i'm downright disgusted with my own body sometimes
- [20:44] <@Lymee> nys, my argument for that is "if I can't know that, why can you"
- 01[20:45] <Svetlana> "because everyone else has hairy legs!"
- [20:45] <@Lymee> And even more experience in life isn't an answer to that. Because your experiences arn't mine.
- 02[20:45] * Colson (~osx@adsl-68-222-183-164.clt.bellsouth.net) Quit (Quit: Computer has gone to sleep.)
- [20:45] <nys> I know myself better than she does, but I don't know myself that well
- [20:45] <@Lymee> Then what you do, you should decide, right?
- [20:45] <@Lymee> ^^
- [20:45] <nys> i've never actually tried a dress on or kissed a guy yet
- 01[20:45] <Svetlana> ...
- 01[20:46] <Svetlana> i'm going to be honest with you guys...
- [20:46] <nys> how should I know how these things make me feel?
- [20:46] <@Lymee> nys, I dunno... I guess a very good imagination helps.
- 01[20:46] <Svetlana> i've worn some of my sister's clothes on a few occasions when i had the chance.
- 01[20:46] <Svetlana> nobody knows about this.
- [20:46] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, that's perfectly fine~
- [20:46] <@Lymee> ^^
- [20:46] <4nys> Svetlana, what are we gonna do, find your sisters contacts? :D
- 01[20:47] <Svetlana> i'm just saying
- 01[20:47] <Svetlana> it
- 01[20:47] <Svetlana> made me feel nice, i don't know why but it did
- 01[20:47] <Svetlana> i just
- 01[20:47] <Svetlana> don't know how to deal with this
- [20:47] <nys> if wearing dresses makes you feel good you should wear dresses
- [20:47] <nys> well
- [20:48] <nys> women's clothes, I mean
- 06[20:49] * Svetlana cries
- [20:49] <nys> I mean, you should do things you like to do if they don't cause people pain
- [20:49] <@Lymee> If society says you shouldn't do something, but that something hurts nobody...
- [20:49] <@Lymee> I think it's more than likely nothing more than bigotry.
- 01[20:50] <Svetlana> i wish i knew anyone supportive as you guys...
- [20:50] <@Lymee> People will try to hurt you for doing what you do at times. There are people trying to change that, but... I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon.
- [20:50] <nys> it depends on what you mean by nobody
- [20:50] <nys> take bestiality
- [20:51] <@Lymee> There's nothing you can do but try your best to have the happiest life you can, in any way you can. ^^
- 01[20:51] <Svetlana> but how...?
- [20:51] <nys> do what you like to do
- [20:52] <@Lymee> I've heard trans people say that transition does help a lot with quality of life. If you don't pass, people will be very bigoted, but... I've heard a lot of claims that that's better than being seen as and expected to conform to the wrong gender.
- [20:53] <nys> Lymee, you are, or suspect you are mtf, right?
- 01[20:53] <Svetlana> i don't even know if i should be considered being in the wrong gender... what if i'm wrong about all of this
- 01[20:53] <Svetlana> what if i don't really want to be a woman
- 01[20:53] <Svetlana> that's what scares me
- [20:53] <nys> make up washes off
- [20:54] <@Lymee> nys, ...?
- [20:54] <nys> the first stages of transition are not permanent
- [20:54] <@Lymee> Umm... ^^;
- 01[20:54] <Svetlana> nys something like that doesn't wash off people's memories as easily though
- 01[20:54] <Svetlana> REMEMBER WHEN YOU USED TO THINK YOU WERE MEANT TO BE A GIRL HAHA THAT WAS VERY DUMB WHAT WERE YOU THINKING, RIGHT?
- [20:55] <nys> they aren't your friends
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> they aren't
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> that would be my brother
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> he'd probably say something like that
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> i have no friends
- [20:55] <nys> you have everyone here
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> no i don't
- 01[20:55] <Svetlana> i have everyone there
- 01[20:56] <Svetlana> not -here-
- [20:56] <nys> friendship is more than touch or eye contact
- 01[20:57] <Svetlana> call me shallow then but if just text on a screen really helped maybe i could write "you are being hugged now" on a piece of paper and look at it every time i feel bad
- [20:57] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, I suggest you read up on feminism, etc. If the discrimination in this world isn't enough to sway you, I don't think you are wrong about yourself.
- 01[20:57] <Svetlana> hint: it won't work
- [20:57] <@Lymee> There are people typing these words, right? ^^
- 01[20:57] <Svetlana> still... it really hurts me not being able to actually hug them
- 01[20:58] <Svetlana> i guess i'm just an idiot
- [20:58] <nys> no
- [20:58] <nys> you just have a physical contact love language
- [20:58] <nys> I learned it in SCHOOL
- [20:59] <nys> *physical touch
- 01[20:59] <Svetlana> i'm a mess
- [20:59] <nys> but it will get better
- 03[21:02] * Colson (~osx@adsl-68-222-183-164.clt.bellsouth.net) has joined #kawaisa
- 06[21:02] * @Vivio hugs Colson
- 01[21:02] <Svetlana> i wish i could just... be somewhere else right now...
- 01[21:03] <Svetlana> with someone supportive...
- [21:03] <4@Lymee> Svetlana, do you know if your mother is doing what she thinks is best for you, or is she just outright bigoted?
- 01[21:03] <Svetlana> i have no idea
- [21:04] <@Lymee> I raise this question because if it's the former, it's not hopeless.
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