this is what happened:
he started a friendship with me because he seemed to have a strange interest in me despite knowing. after befriending me he basically made it his goal to meet me and start a relationship

i told him i wasnt interested several times and it agitated him a lot and trying to be blunt made him very upset and aggressive. he would message me while i was at work and accuse me of things i didnt do, question me a lot, and tried to dig up my personal information. if i didnt provide information about myself he would get very mad and insult me. information he wanted was pictures of myself (i provided two), my real name, my exact location, my private social media accounts, and my internet history with other people

i still really wanted to stay friends because i appreciated that he made me feel liked by someone and i confided in him with my personal issues and all that. i told him a lot of my information but repeatedly he would turn this information against me and only use it to find out more of my background. he very commonly made me very scared and seemed to hint at knowing a lot about me that i didnt tell him and as a result interacting with him sometimes made me extremely uncomfortable

even though i tried to stay friends with him while making it clear that i wasnt interested in a relationship and would only meet up with him IRL if he made major changes to his personality, he still clearly was focused on trying to make me fall in love with him or something. he messaged me saying he loved me and tried to appear caring or something because he wanted me to like him more and was upset whenever i showed any signs of not loving him back (because i didnt)

today was basically the last straw. he got upset because he noticed that, when i talk to him, i am active in other discords and on KTT. he felt hurt because i wasnt paying attention to him and he disapproved of the idea of me making a server (i just recently made one) because i would talk to him less. i told him basically to get over it and he acknowledged he was upset for no reason and said that if i wanted to stop being friends then it was fine

i said yes, lets stop being friends. i told him that if he changes as a person we could be friends again some time later, then after a few parting words i removed him from my friend list

he then added me on an alt, found a private server im on (maybe to show that he knew more about me than he let on?) that i use to roleplay a niche fetish i have and dont like to share information about. he continued messaging me and asked for me to send a full body picture as one last request. does that not seem creepy? i thought he wanted to cry while jacking off to me or something. i said no and told him that the bizarre and sudden violation of boundaries meant we werent going to reconnect

he continued messaging me desperately asking to be friends and even now i still tried to be nice and give him advice on where to go from here, since ive been in his shoes with a girl online before. after seeing him sad long enough i had to block him.

i know i hurt him but he hurt me too and being his friend has really made my life miserable for the past month and a half. he needs to get his shit together. i still think hes a good person and can change and find another girl, but im not the one for him. he comes off as controlling, bitter, depressed and hurt. he is untrusting and generally isnt my type.

shortly after cutting him off like this he started to message my friends and further intrude. after about a day, i was awakened in the middle of the night by Wolf80 calling me on discord. he posted an extended suicide note and claimed he was going to head out into a forest and kill himself. all of us were extremely upset by this and we contacted police and tried to make some effort to find him and keep him from doing any harm

the next day when i woke up i find out police were unconcerned because he did not go through with it. it was essentially an attention-stunt. since this hes only grown more paranoid and off-putting. he has mostly been contacting my friends and trying to send me messages on literally every form of social media he can find me on

i wish we could have been friends but he ruined it. i hope that he is okay and he can be happy but its not going to be with me. im not interested