Captain Fox - Today at 10:38 PM
I mean it sounds like the thing you should go into.
I never 'lose control' when it comes to furry.
I think you should just take up a few hobbies to distract yourself.
Archon - Today at 10:39 PM
I’ve been trying very hard to.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:39 PM
Let me ask you this
Archon - Today at 10:39 PM
Please
Captain Fox - Today at 10:39 PM
Why do you think you lose control of yourself?
Archon - Today at 10:39 PM
Well, a lot of reasons
Captain Fox - Today at 10:39 PM
Go on
Archon - Today at 10:39 PM
I figure that I’m already in a bit of a forbidden area
Captain Fox - Today at 10:40 PM
Ok lets do each one
Forbidden area, define it
Archon - Today at 10:40 PM
So I’ve already committed myself to acting the villain whenever I dabble in furry.
It’s like
“Well, I’ve already broken my parents trust so I’m already fucked.”
Captain Fox - Today at 10:40 PM
Alright I don't see it that way
It's not some forbidden area to be honest
I don't see how dabbling in furry is some great taboo
Archon - Today at 10:41 PM
My parents think that any furry is unacceptable
Captain Fox - Today at 10:41 PM
Alright ask them why
Make them give you reasons
Archon - Today at 10:41 PM
They’re afraid that it’s a slippery slope
Captain Fox - Today at 10:41 PM
That's a fair reason
Archon - Today at 10:41 PM
My mother just doesn’t want to bargain
I’ve tried approaching her about this several times
Captain Fox - Today at 10:41 PM
Well I mean given your past I understand why.
Father figure?
Archon - Today at 10:41 PM
And she just thinks that I’m only arguing with her about this because I’m already doing it
Captain Fox - Today at 10:42 PM
It sounds like she won't budge then
Archon - Today at 10:42 PM
Father figure is a bit more sympathetic, but he never objects to mother’s decision
Precisely.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:42 PM
I recommend CTRL SHIFT N and clearing history. Maybe an external.
Or using a phone.
Archon - Today at 10:42 PM
What do you mean?
Captain Fox - Today at 10:42 PM
To hide your furry
Archon - Today at 10:42 PM
I’m not good at hiding things
She always finds out eventually
It always catches up to me
Captain Fox - Today at 10:43 PM
Is it your computer or family computer?
Archon - Today at 10:43 PM
It’s mine, but sometimes I get careless
Captain Fox - Today at 10:43 PM
Put a password lock on it
Archon - Today at 10:43 PM
If I’m texting on my phone she gets suspicious
Oh, well that’s super sketchy
Captain Fox - Today at 10:43 PM
I mean not really
Archon - Today at 10:43 PM
Why would I protect something unless I have something to hide?
Captain Fox - Today at 10:43 PM
It's your computer
Archon - Today at 10:43 PM
No, it’s hers
Captain Fox - Today at 10:43 PM
You have shit on there like your email
Archon - Today at 10:44 PM
She bought it
For me to use
Captain Fox - Today at 10:44 PM
Oh then don't do shit on someone else's computer lol
Archon - Today at 10:44 PM
And she can take it from me.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:44 PM
You have a phone right?
Archon - Today at 10:44 PM
same story
“I bought the phone so it’s mine.”
“ I’m allowing you to use it”
Captain Fox - Today at 10:44 PM
Alright so it sounds like you're fucked until you move out.
Archon - Today at 10:44 PM
That’s right.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:44 PM
At this point give her the phone.
Bitch here, it's yours
Have fun never being able to contact me
Archon - Today at 10:45 PM
Well I still need it to function as an adult
Captain Fox - Today at 10:45 PM
Do you have a land line?
Archon - Today at 10:45 PM
And she tracks my position on it.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:45 PM
Alright pause
this sounds like some extreme helicopter parenting
Archon - Today at 10:45 PM
Well it worked
Captain Fox - Today at 10:45 PM
Do you have a job or money saved up?
Archon - Today at 10:45 PM
I got into Stanford
Trying to get one
Captain Fox - Today at 10:45 PM
Alright so you need to get good grades and a work history
Then leave
Is your only option
Archon - Today at 10:46 PM
That’s been my plan.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:46 PM
It sounds like she doesn't want you to mess up
Which I understand
Archon - Today at 10:46 PM
I don’t want to mess up.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:46 PM
Good
It's gonna be 4 or 8 years
Archon - Today at 10:46 PM
I mean the other issue is that
Whenever I get sexual urges
I’ve always needed to act on them
Captain Fox - Today at 10:47 PM
Why?
Archon - Today at 10:47 PM
I don’t know
Captain Fox - Today at 10:47 PM
I feel like you should ask a therapist why
Archon - Today at 10:47 PM
Because feeling like you need to fuck is really uncomfortable.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:47 PM
Or just ignore them
Control thy penis
Archon - Today at 10:48 PM
I’ve been trying to for the past three months.
I don’t know how to sexually negotiate.
And I mean furry has basically been the only thing I’ve found erotic for the past 5 years I’ve been sexually scribe
Active
Captain Fox - Today at 10:49 PM
Alright I mean there isn't really an issue with that
Archon - Today at 10:50 PM
The case could be that at this point I do have more sexual self control
But I don’t want to put my eggs in that basket
Captain Fox - Today at 10:50 PM
Honestly it sounds like a self control issue
I really recommend telling your mom you need to see someone professional to help with that issue
Archon - Today at 10:51 PM
I’ve been working on my self control
Captain Fox - Today at 10:51 PM
Do you think you can do it on your own?
Archon - Today at 10:52 PM
Well, I was doing okay for a couple of months
But 3 months is typically the longest I’ve been able to completely abstain from furry
After that point I’ve typically forgotten about the shitstorm
Captain Fox - Today at 10:52 PM
I mean if you fully abstain from it, of course you'll go back to it.
Just moderate yourself
Archon - Today at 10:53 PM
That’s the only option in my parents minds
Captain Fox - Today at 10:53 PM
You don't have to devote your life to it
Archon - Today at 10:53 PM
I don’t want to
Captain Fox - Today at 10:53 PM
Good
Archon - Today at 10:53 PM
I want to browse the internet for porn now and then
Captain Fox - Today at 10:53 PM
I mean everyone does it
Archon - Today at 10:53 PM
Make some friends, maybe find some people that are into ERP
Captain Fox - Today at 10:53 PM
There are servers for that
Archon - Today at 10:53 PM
I know.
But like
Captain Fox - Today at 10:54 PM
Although I don't participate in them because I find them to be awful
Archon - Today at 10:54 PM
Ugh, tell me about it
Captain Fox - Today at 10:54 PM
The one liners make me reee.
My last response to a short reply was 777 words(edited)
It's not tough people
Archon - Today at 10:54 PM
Hm.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:54 PM
But either way
It's good to hear you are working on self control
And if you truly believe that furry is causing issues, abstaining from it is fine
Archon - Today at 10:55 PM
It’s complex.
I don’t know what to pin on the misbehavior yet
Maybe I’ve just been desperate for human connection all my life
Captain Fox - Today at 10:55 PM
I'm the opposite
I hate people
Well most
Archon - Today at 10:56 PM
I hate a lot of people too
Captain Fox - Today at 10:56 PM
But either way, I find this discord server to help
Likewise the people I have met here I talk to daily
I've played games with these guys
Archon - Today at 10:56 PM
That’s fun.
Captain Fox - Today at 10:57 PM
I mean games with people are one of the best ways to distract yourself
Archon - Today at 10:57 PM
can’t find any people
Captain Fox - Today at 10:57 PM
I didn't find people, they asked me
I was active enough on the server that the connection I made have led to me finding games
Likewise there are the LFG posts
Archon - Today at 10:59 PM
It’s just confusing