How do I [58F] get rid of my daughter [18F]?

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My husband and I got married 20 years ago, and 18 years ago our daughter Ella was born. She is our only child, and we love her tons.

That being said, she turned 18 four months ago and she’s still living in our house. She is finally an adult, and I have felt the weight of responsibility lifting over the last few months. She was never a party animal or anything, in fact she was well known in her year for being very clever, but she was still a kid so there was always a sense of responsibility and worry there.

However, I can’t feel completely free of her and happy until she moves out of my house.

She doesn’t know if she’s been accepted into her course yet, but I have no intention of helping her financially. She can’t drive (age is 18 in the UK, not 16), and I have no intention of paying for lessons, insurance or a car.

I honestly just want her out, because I feel she is an adult and her problems are to be handled on her own, as an adult. Her problems aren’t my problem anymore, to be blunt.

My husband doesn’t have much to say on the matter. Every time I talk to my sister about it - who is a mother of adult children not much older than Ella - she either laughs or thinks I’m a terrible mother. So I have nobody to discuss it with, expect you here on Reddit!

I love Ella, obviously, but I am finally free of the burden and stress a child can bring, and I want to enjoy it as soon as possible. How do I break this to her, without sounding like I don’t love her or care about her?

Tl;dr - I don’t know how to get my daughter out of the house without looking like a bad mother.