Here's the test for diagnosing covert narcissism:

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Choose 1 - 5, with 1 being "very inaccurate" and 5 being "very accurate".

        ___ I can become entirely absorbed in thinking about my personal affairs, my health, my cares or my relations to others.

        ___ My feelings are easily hurt by ridicule or the slighting remarks of others.

        ___ When I enter a room I often become self-conscious and feel that the eyes of others are upon me.

        ___ I dislike sharing the credit of an achievement with others.

        ___ I feel that I have enough on my hand without worrying about other people's troubles.

        ___ I feel that I am temperamentally different from most people.

        ___ I often interpret the remarks of others in a personal way.

        ___ I easily become wrapped up in my own interests and forget the existence of others.

        ___ I dislike being with a group unless I know that I am appreciated by at least one of those present.

        ___ I am secretly "put out" or annoyed when other people come to me with their troubles, asking me for their time and sympathy.

        ___ I am jealous of good-looking people.

        ___ I tend to feel humiliated when criticized.

        ___ I wonder why other people aren't more appreciative of my good qualities.

        ___ I tend to see other people as being either great or terrible.

        ___ I sometimes have fantasies about being violent without knowing why.

        ___ I am especially sensitive to success and failure.

        ___ I have problems that nobody else seems to understand.

        ___ I try to avoid rejection at all costs.

        ___ My secret thoughts, feelings, and actions would horrify some of my friends.

        ___ I tend to become involved in relationships in which I alternately adore and despise the other person.

        ___ Even when I am in a group of friends, I often feel very alone and uneasy.

        ___ I resent others who have what I lack.

        ___ Defeat or disappointment usually shame or anger me, but I try not to show it.