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<Liliana60> oh yeah
<Liliana60> yesterday on TV
<Liliana60> I don't want to mention TV but this was just... dunno, pretty bad
<Liliana60> basically they attempted to portray a girl with DID
<Liliana60> I think you can imagine what that was like
<RachelSnowmew> Please don't call it DID
<RachelSnowmew> Ugh
<Liliana60> why
* SaturnAmy doesn't even know what that stands for
<RachelSnowmew> Because it is overmedicalised and makes it sound like there is something wrong with being plural
<Liliana60> hmm
<Liliana60> well in any case they grossly overexaggerated everything
<Liliana60> it was like
<RachelSnowmew> Liliana60: FYI, we're plural if you didn't know
<Liliana60> they said there was a car accident and everyone died except for that one young (around 20 yo) girl and so she assumed the identities of all her former family members
<Liliana60> ah
<RachelSnowmew> Allie and foxiepaws are the other members of the system
<Liliana60> so it was like, she'd switch from being a little humble girl to an old pipe-smoking person over to a guy in puberty who likes hitting on girls
<Liliana60> (especially the latter part oh gods)
<RachelSnowmew> Sigh
<Liliana60> ah, I didn't know that
<Liliana60> but yeah that portrayal of her
<Liliana60> also they said she broke out of the psych ward
<Liliana60> as if plural people have to stay in a psych ward
<Liliana60> but yeah that was typical TV representation of mental illnesses
<Liliana60> well, "illness"
<Liliana60> (I should kill myself for keeping offending people)
<RachelSnowmew> ...
<RachelSnowmew> Seriously?
<RachelSnowmew> Don't say you should kill yourself.
<RachelSnowmew> That's the wrong response
<RachelSnowmew> If you say something and you get called out, the right response is to apologize and acknowledge what you did, and move on
<Liliana60> I just keep doing it all the time because I have literally no social skills
<Liliana60> that's how I managed to fail real life
<RachelSnowmew> And that's why you listen and learn
<RachelSnowmew> You don't start out fully aware of what's offensive or triggering. You have to learn it from people calling you out and telling you, as well as just generally learning
<SaturnAmy> yeah
<SaturnAmy> and standard language on neurodiversity is just
<SaturnAmy> ....horrendous
<RachelSnowmew> Yeah.
<SaturnAmy> no one will blame you for making mistakes
<SaturnAmy> we've all had to learn
<RachelSnowmew> Remember: getting called out is us accepting that everyone makes mistakes, and that you can learn from yours. As well as acknowledgement that you didn't mean what you said/did
<RachelSnowmew> If it was interpreted as you meant it? You would have just been kicked out like the trolls/reactionaries who've been here before
<SaturnAmy> also
<SaturnAmy> when a reaction is blunt, it's not because of you, but because of the language
<RachelSnowmew> Social skills are something you learn... Something I'm still learning
<Liliana60> I wonder how neurotypical people are born with social skills
<RachelSnowmew> They aren't, they just pick them up faster
<RachelSnowmew> Much much faster

-2 hours later-

<Liliana60> Wednesday will be fun, my endo's appointment is at the worst possible time, in the middle of rush hour
<Liliana60> I'm seriously considering using my scooter again, I haven't used it in more than a year
<Liliana60> but I might need it to squeeze through the cars
<Liliana60> it's a very not girly thing to do p:
<RachelSnowmew> sigh
<Liliana60> oh yeah I was gonna leave anyway
<Liliana60> no need to tell me to go away
<RachelSnowmew> Liliana60: ?
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