01:24 - dogfish: hey man
01:24 - Hamtaro: hey
01:24 - dogfish: how are you?
01:25 - Hamtaro: been better
01:25 - Hamtaro: you?
01:25 - dogfish: a little better than yesterday I guess
01:25 - dogfish: what's up?
01:25 - Hamtaro: not much really, played a bit of fightclub earlier
01:25 - Hamtaro: you?
01:26 - dogfish: just watching some streams and tv shows
01:26 - dogfish: so what's bothering you?
01:26 - Hamtaro: zoe doesnt want to be with me anymore
01:26 - dogfish: oh wow
01:26 - dogfish: do you mind if I ask what happened?
01:27 - Hamtaro: i argued again with her earlier
01:27 - Hamtaro: so now she cant be with me anymore
01:28 - Hamtaro: but she has just said that we haven't broken up, so i dont really understand how things are
01:28 - Hamtaro: i really dont want to lose her
01:29 - dogfish: what was the cause of this arguing?
01:29 - Hamtaro: last night after we started over, she made me promise her that we will brake up if things got that bad again
01:30 - Hamtaro: and earlier today i said to her that i didnt want to promise that
01:30 - Hamtaro: and she didnt like it
01:32 - Hamtaro: i just really love her
01:33 - dogfish: hm
01:33 - dogfish: first of all I don't think you should make promises like that
01:33 - dogfish: you only set yourselves up for fail then
01:33 - Hamtaro: me neither
01:34 - dogfish: can I ask you something personal?
01:34 - Hamtaro: i dont want her to be giving me false hope
01:34 - Hamtaro: okay
01:34 - dogfish: how much experience with girlfriends do you have?
01:34 - Hamtaro: not that much
01:34 - Hamtaro: i had 1 before zoe
01:34 - dogfish: online?
01:35 - Hamtaro: yeah
01:35 - dogfish: and what went wrong with it?
01:35 - Hamtaro: she stopped coming online
01:36 - Hamtaro: its a long story i guess
01:36 - dogfish: well
01:36 - dogfish: if you really love zoe you should respect that she has other views than you on things
01:36 - dogfish: and instead of arguing about it try to listen and understand what she says instead
01:37 - Hamtaro: okay
01:37 - Hamtaro: she thinks we are better off as friends
01:37 - Hamtaro: thats what she had been saying before
01:37 - Hamtaro: but now shes said we havnt broken up
01:37 - dogfish: thats just girls man
01:37 - dogfish: they never make sense
01:38 - dogfish: its up to us to do our best at understanding them
01:39 - dogfish: but if we keep questioning and arguing with them over small things that really doesn't matter
01:39 - dogfish: they will eventually have had enough
01:40 - Hamtaro: yeah :S
01:40 - Hamtaro: to me things matter because i love her
01:40 - dogfish: yeah of course
01:40 - dogfish: but you told me about that car thing
01:40 - dogfish: don't make a big thing out of things like that
01:41 - Hamtaro: i wont ever again
01:41 - dogfish: being with someone means accepting their differencies
01:42 - dogfish: if you dont accept that she will have other views on small things that doesn't matter then it won't work
01:42 - dogfish: do you get really upset over the tiniest things and maybe say stuff to her that you don't mean at all?
01:43 - Hamtaro: yes :x
01:43 - dogfish: okay so
01:43 - Hamtaro: i musnt
01:44 - dogfish: if you get upset over a "stupid" thing like she didn't ride in your car once because it was faster and better for the mission or whatever
01:44 - dogfish: just let it pass, she only did it for the sake of the mission
01:44 - dogfish: not to piss you off or to insult you in any way
01:45 - Hamtaro: i understand
01:46 - dogfish: so instead of promising you will break up
01:46 - dogfish: promise that you both will work on your problems and talk them out
01:46 - dogfish: because no relationship ever is just smooth sailing
01:46 - dogfish: they go up and down all the time
01:47 - dogfish: its up to you if you want to let your personal views ruin it during a bad time, or try your very best at seeing it from her side and climb out of that hole with her
01:49 - Hamtaro: im going to try and see it from her side and i wont ever let small things annoy me
01:49 - dogfish: good boy
01:49 - dogfish: now get your girl back
01:49 - Hamtaro: i fear for the worse :S
01:49 - Hamtaro: she has always said that she cant do it anymore
01:49 - Hamtaro: and just says no to all the things i say
01:50 - Hamtaro: even though she says she loves and has feelings for me still
01:50 - dogfish: she can't do the arguing over stupid things anymore
01:50 - dogfish: its not that she can't be with you
01:51 - Hamtaro: im not sure how to make her understand that i wont do it anymore
01:51 - dogfish: you will just have to prove it to her
01:51 - dogfish: maybe she wont take you back right now
01:51 - dogfish: but she will still want to be your "more than a friend" that she can always play with
01:54 - dogfish: and over time she will see that you have changed for her sake