K. I'll explain what I am struggling with and hopefully someone will jump in.
have Raspian installed on my pi, added naizvoru to sources, installed freeswitch-meta-vanilla and freeswitch-conf-vanilla
started fs and setup xlite on on ext 1001. call to 9195 works fine
did an apt-get install of mod_dingaling or jingle cant remember now
moded some config files per http://raspberrypipbx.blogspot.ca/ like http://raspberrypipbx.blogspot.ca/ can remember exactly nownow (was drunk by then) and it appears to be fine.
fs_cli > uload mod_dingaling > load mod_dingaling gives me:

freeswitch@internal> load mod_dingaling
+OK Reloading XML
+OK

2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [INFO] mod_enum.c:876 ENUM Reloaded
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [INFO] switch_time.c:1191 Timezone reloaded 530 definitions
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [CONSOLE] switch_loadable_module.c:1409 Successfully Loaded [mod_dingaling]
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:147 Adding Endpoint 'dingaling'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:313 Adding API Function 'dl_debug'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:313 Adding API Function 'dl_pres'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:313 Adding API Function 'dl_logout'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.014501 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:313 Adding API Function 'dl_login'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.034479 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:313 Adding API Function 'dingaling'
2014-03-21 22:20:48.034479 [NOTICE] switch_loadable_module.c:425 Adding Chat interface 'jingle'
Type control-D or /exit or /quit or /bye to exit.

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