Dharm Sodha
We could go to panera, I think I have a gift card
2:20 PM
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Ripal Sheth
Panera probably works
7:52 PM
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Dharm Sodha
So what time does the evening last till?
8:33 PM
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Ripal Sheth
The evening ended 30 min ago (sorry, I was reading Atonement and boycotted electronics)
8:39 PM
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Dharm Sodha
So does that mean we are meeting up or probably not as usual
Idk how willing my parents would let me leave without me giving them a reasonable fake story.
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Ripal Sheth
Probably not...my parents will definitely not let me leave
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Dharm Sodha
Oh well, I kept my expectations low this time so it's alright. Let me know if you are ever free while we still eachother, cause it really doesn't matter if I'm free or not at this point. I was waiting at first but then remembered it was you so it probably won't happen.
8:57 PM
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Ripal Sheth
I'm sorry
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Dharm Sodha
Not sure how much I can believe that at this point, but it's alright.
10:17 PM
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Ripal Sheth
Okay, I'm sorry for bringing this up I noticed that you were kinda salty about this and it's been bugging me, so explain. What's up?
10:19 PM
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Dharm Sodha
So what happened today?
10:27 PM
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Ripal Sheth
From my perspective? Well, we were gonna hang out but like you texted me at 8pm and that was late and I'm still pretty sick and it just didn't work out. What's your perspective?
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Dharm Sodha
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My perspective was me deliberately not bringing it up ever since it was scheduled since I think I put in too much effort. Then you brought it up a couple of times the last couple of weeks just to make sure it's still happening. Then today rolls around, I msg you at like noon to check what time works for cause idk if it's happening or not, cause idk if it's happening or not I am talking to the person who always lets me down. You say evening, im like ok. My cousins called me and asked if I wanted to go see a movie with them, I say no cause I thought I had plans. I waste free my entire day and waste 3 hours staring at a screen instead of writing an essay cause I don't want to miss it when you message me. Then it's 7 50, I msg you. And I have a day wasted and a person who doesnt respect me or my time. So that's my perspective.
10:38 PM
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Ripal Sheth
Well, I mean when I said the evening earlier in the day you could have asked for a specific time we could have decided on one together. I understand that I probably could have proposed one earlier, but I wanted you to be a part of the decision.
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Dharm Sodha
I cleared my day for you 2 weeks ago. You could have said 4 am and I would have been there and you know that.
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Ripal Sheth
But I didn't want to be the person making the decision because that's also not respecting your time.
I don't understand. I thought we were going as friends. Why did this have to be something special that you cleared your day for?
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Dharm Sodha
So when your friends try to make plans in advance you find it ok to just find out if you are busy or not a couple of hours before?
10:45 PM
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Dharm Sodha
The thing that just gets to me is that you chose the day. You brought it up and made sure it was happening, but then didnt care if it happened or not. I realize that you are someone that I should not have cleared my day for, sorry for treating you like an actual friend of mine.
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Ripal Sheth
You didn't seem to care either. You didn't even follow up with me about a time.
When your friends ask you to hang out do you sit at a computer screen staring and not being productive waiting for them to text back?
I don't understand why you're trying to make me feel guilty. I wanted to hang out as friends. That's why I followed up in the first place
10:54 PM
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Dharm Sodha
Why didnt we hang out in the evening as friends?
I didnt say anything because everytime I try to do anything with you it never works out. You have literally told me before that you don't appreciate me doing things for you. So I tried to just let you handle this hang out, whatever you said ill just go along with it. But somehow things didnt work out and I don't know. But when my friends tell me they want to hang out in the evening, we are together in the evening. If something is unclear or something comes up one of us let's each other know. Evening is ambiguous enough of an answer, but I don't know why I am mad. I don't know why I expect you to reciprocate any sort of effort. I just assumed that if you made a commitment you would care about it enough to make it happen, that for once I could trust you to care enough as a friend.
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Ripal Sheth
I never said that I don't appreciate you doing things for me, rather that I'd rather not you come to my house unexpected. I'm sorry if it seems like I don't care, but you've got amazing friends, and you're holding me up to a standard that I'm not used to. I thought that if it didn't happen, even though it would be fun, it wouldn't be a big deal.
I'm sorry again if it felt like I was being insincere. I really am.
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Dharm Sodha
I have been holding you to that standard for more than a year now, I try to treat you like someone who matters in my life. It would not have been a big deal if it was a one time thing, if sorry was actually genuine and meant something. If everytime my efforts went unreciprocated, there would be some effort on your side as well. I am sorry that I keep trying to swim across this ocean, when it's clear you wouldn't even walk over a puddle. What do you want me to do? Because I am not sure what I can do and if I can keep being friends with someone who only lets me down.
11:12 PM
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Ripal Sheth
Here, I'm going to give you some perspective: the only time during my senior year that I've hung out with someone one on one was with Mahima at the movies in November. I'm not a naturally extroverted person. And this not happening isn't something that you should take personally, really. It's not an obligation for me to ever hang out with my closest friends. But if you feel like it's not worth it, that's fine...we can figure it out
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Dharm Sodha
I want to be friends with you. I want to be a something in your life, I think you are an awesome person. I just wish you cared. You've hung out with Jsun over winterbreak, youve hung out with people at taco bell, you have found time and effort for people. I just don't know anymore.
And regardless of what you say this is going to be something that affects me personally. Because it is the one time in our friendship that you tried to make something happen. That you made an effort and for once I kinda thought that I would get to see you today. But I am getting tired of trying. I probably should have said something earlier today, that's my bad but why don't you care enough to ask?
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Ripal Sheth
Care enough to ask to hang out?
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Dharm Sodha
care enough to say something. I didnt know what was going on. I msg you at 2 if Panera works. You said it probably does, then what if I went to Panera for the whole evening and waited out there? Like I don't know, why do I always have to be the one to set up a time, to pick what we are doing, to try again and again and again.
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Ripal Sheth
I'm sorry, yeah I get that that was my fault. I should have said something.