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- Jessica: one room for artists, one room for everything else
- me: Yeah, that's an idea
- We've got good relations there'
- And stuff
- Jessica: Sure, we give Pearl a lot of money
- and don't wreck up the place
- The worst thing we ever did was stay late one time
- Speaking of
- remember
- We have to have everything out of there by 11
- It worked well last time... started cleanup at like 10:30 or some shit
- or even earlier
- me: Yes, I'm aware- I've planned a sing along for 10:00 so the guys with cars can go get 'em
- While we wrap up winter and various other things
- Jessica: Hm.
- That could be interesting. The singalongs are usually impromptu.
- Oh
- I still have a big pile of $1s in my drawer at work
- from the last con
- I'll bring it to stock the cash box
- and the coins I have left too
- Also I got a bigger cash box which did not arrive in time for the con
- It'd be nice to finally move into it
- the old cash box has like .... only one compartment big enough for bills
- this new one has like five.
- Jarek said he'd go by the Lab to pick shit up
- me: I have another Cash box too
- Figured it'd be good for the meal ticket
- s
- Jessica: Good
- Use the big one for the store
- and the little ones for concessions
- Speaking of
- Did you make arrangements for pizza, water and soda?
- I am going to leave the electronics and cash box and other shit in a pile in the Lab, and Jarek said he'd come by to grab stuff
- so he can grab the stuff
- while I go off to the storage unit to rendezvous with you and Steam Jet.
- me: sounds good, yes I made the plans with 2 Brothers
- And I'm having Nanashi pick up the sodas
- In Brooklyn
- Jessica: That's cool. I'll try to remember to put the pizza cutter in the pile.
- me: Great~
- Winter's gonna slice it for us like last time
- he had a pretty good system worked out
- Sent at 4:54 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: ~sigh~ Winter.
- I wish he'd stop hating me.
- That's the most painful thing of all.
- Somehow him hating me hurts more than Nanashi hating me.
- Probably because he had less involvement with me, so less reason for strong emotions towards me
- me: Idk... It's a tough one
- He's a good kid
- Just show him you're not crazy anymore~
- Or something
- Idk
- I'm nopony to give advice hre
- Jessica: It's hard. He really pushes my buttons hard sometimes, like when he starts paraspriting me.
- My mind interprets paraspriting as bullying and reacts in kind
- I.e.: yelling and anger
- He says he wasn't paraspriting me.
- I donno.
- Maybe he wasn't.
- Maybe I'm just hypersensitive.
- But when he went into #bronycon-staff and made a snide remark, and wouldn't answer direct questions, and would just say "lolo" and ":3", I snapped at him
- It wasn't a good idea, or a productive response.
- Sent at 5:00 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: I've been trying so hard to make amends with him.
- I'm only in therapy because he felt it would be a good idea.
- I wish he'd see that.
- Me going to see a therapist for the first time in years is a show of respect for him.
- me: It's still a good idea
- Jessica: It's not free, either. It costs $175 a session.
- So it's not just a show of respect, it's an expensive show of respect.
- me: He still feels you're irrational / unstable though, primarily because you go crazy at little taunts that don't bother most ponies
- Because something like :3 isn't really that offensice
- Jessica: I was bullied often enough that I became hypersensitive to it.
- Some ponies become numb to the pain
- But in my case, I only became more sensitive to it.
- It's kind of like PTSD
- Being bullied makes me feel like I'm back in school again
- helpless and hated.
- Like having a flashback.
- Only I don't literally see visions or whatever.
- I just experience the same sort of helpless anger that was my daily life for so long.
- me: Hmm... that's why you need therapy, winter or not
- That's a serious problem
- The past can be a misreable place
- Jessica: Probably.
- And yes.
- me: For now it's actually kinda comforting to me, I remember September... it makes me hopeful
- Jessica: What's comforting to you?
- me: that somehow, someway indescribable- we'll get this all sorted out
- Well, just the friendship I experianced in September, the Subway ride
- The partying
- All that, with good ponies like Ohad
- and Winter
- It can't be taken away from me
- for as long as I live
- and as misserable as things get
- Jessica: Do you think that I want to take it away?
- me: No, I think the march of time has a much better shot at that than any pony being
- History's written, fact is fact
- I can actually take some comfort in that
- Jessica: You had fun in September?
- me: Oh yeah, like never before
- I'd never socialized like that ever
- It was an amazing, spontaneous experiance
- Jessica: Would it surprise you to know that I didn't have fun at September?
- Or June?
- There were some up moments, but the weekends were, by and large, hell for me.
- And January... you already KNOW that January was hell
- me: I know Cupcakes didn't have fun at September
- And several other ponies as well
- But you had friends to help you out in September, even in January
- Even If I was having a miserable time, I'd take comfort in that there where ponies that gave a damn about me
- Jessica: I was still overtired, overworked, and drastically overstressed.
- me: Well that's something that can be helped with propper delegation and what not
- Jessica: I'm going to tell you something very important.
- me: Yes/?
- Jessica: I never cared if I was happy at cons. I never cared if you were happy either, or any of the other staffers. The happiness of the staff-- especially my own personal happiness-- weren't even on my radar.
- Completely meaningless to me.
- A nice extra, if we were happy
- But not at all a priority, not even a low-level ones
- ...one
- The ONLY thing I cared about was the congoers
- If THEY were happy, that was all that mattered to me
- I was used to torturing myself and torturing the staff
- It did not bother me.
- me: But it doesn't have t be that way you know...?
- Jessica: I suppose it doesn't, with enough planning
- and enough delegation.
- me: Yeah, unfortunatly still not the type that we have now
- Eventually I'll speak up about the council being too verbose
- Till the I'm giving Andrew a fair chance
- Jessica: Andrew's probably going to shrink the council.
- And I can't imagine he wouldn't give individual staffs (staves?) more autonomy.
- It's only natural.
- The council started because Sean didn't want me making unilateral decisions.
- So I evolved it into a body where EVERY TINY DECISION was deliberated verbosely and voted on by everypony but me
- So that no one could accuse me of doing things behind closed doors
- and making unilateral decisions.
- It still wasn't enough; ponies still resented that I was trying to set the agenda
- which I was
- but
- It also set the precedent of verbosity
- and "everything needs to be discussed"
- and blurred the lines between departments perhaps too much.
- me: Yes, but making your situation an extreme just to appease sean was no solution either
- The middle of the road is the right place to go
- And it takes a fair amount of time to do that
- That's kinda what I like about Everfree NW
- Their top down manegerial style was crafted over time, and ordained such that individuals on the small council could render effective decisions of their own volition without verbose proceedings
- and what not
- It's based off of other NPO's/// yet I still don't agree with it entirley
- On the grounds that, yes it's a strong organization built on a strong foundadion
- But in that time,we had like, two conventions!
- We hit the ground running, although carelessly...
- And for two cons, made something that inspired the rest of the world....
- Jessica: Exactly.
- And I've discussed this with Andrew.
- Everfree is TOO prudent
- TOO slow.
- If I was like Everfree, the first BronyCon wouldn't have occurred until somewhere around March.
- and not last June.
- There's a balance to be had.
- me: Yeah, but the real balance is- right now, Everfree's pretty much up to the perfect speed
- I've been working with them on A/V
- They take just the right amount of time to turn around paperwork
- And there's never been wild deliberation
- either
- Jessica: I must admit my bias to you. I am exceptionally angry at Everfree.
- me: Sure it's a beuracracy, but now that it's up to steam- it's clearly the superior system
- Jessica: They backstabbed me, and us.
- me: Mindless Politics, another flaw with our system
- Jessica: Are you suggesting that being betrayed isn't a valid concern?
- me: Well, I don't think they've ever actually taken such intolerable actions as you're conferring they have... Enlighten me?
- Jessica: On multiple occasions, I've promotd Everfree.
- I have even put my own reputation, and BronyCon's, at risk to help them.
- Specifically
- When that kid who wanted to run Bronystock was scheduling his event date
- it was going to be very close to Everfree's date.
- I helped Roy convince him not to do that
- and
- in the process, I was within two sentences or so of threatening to blackball half the musicians in the world if they hurt EVERFREE
- (Which would have hurt BRONYCON)
- I also told them to give Everfree a 3- or 4-week leeway period
- and BronyCon only a 1-week
- I bent over backwards to protect Everfree
- at the cost of BronyCon.
- me: I think I've heard this one before, the whole thing still seems kinda petty to me... kinda tied to your stigma specifically-
- Jessica: What do you mean?
- me: Sometimes you just need to forgive and forget... it's a powerful virtue
- Jessica: It's not just that
- me: I mean, to you it may seem like they "Screwed us over"
- Jessica: After January, Bejoty-- who was a staffmember-- posted a negative review of BronyCon on the meetup page
- me: But I don't really see anything immediatly negative coming out of it,
- Jessica: Bejoty has been talking smack about me behind my back to the EqD ponies
- me: Oh COME ON! I would have said the same thing had I not been working there, and afraid of your immediate backlash
- There was some legitimate bloodshead that day
- The 7th
- No lying about that
- no making it all pretty
- Escapism is fun, but reality's reality
- Jessica: You don't post negative comments about your employer.
- You just don't do that.
- Not if you don't want to get fired
- and possibly blackballed.
- But at least fired.
- Anyways
- The Everfree guys dragged me into a horrific INQUISITION before EqD and other media ponies, asking all kinds of intrusive questions about our finances and legal status, before EqD posted the story about John de Lancie
- Ben led the questioning
- he did almost all (if not all) of the talking
- Pried into things that were none of his business
- None of Everfree's business
- None of EqD's business
- None of anyone's business
- I answered ALL their stupid questions
- I even volunteered tremendous sums of information that they DIDN'T yet ask about
- To PRE-EMPTIVELY answer MORE questions
- All stuff that is none of anyone's business except BronyCon's
- me: It depends, things you do personally could reverberate loudly throughout the community
- Jessica: It was a fucking inquisition.
- me: But now that you're supposedly no longer involved, it's not really a problem anymore?
- And besides, nopony expects the Spanish Inquisition...
- Jessica: I'm still involved in Bronycon, I'm just not the chair.
- And even if I wasn't involved, it wouldn't change the past.
- This was a brutal interrogation session.
- They had no fucking business prying into internal BronyCon finances or policies.
- It was none of their concern.
- It was incredibly rude and presumptuous.
- me: Well, consider if we where an Actual NPO...
- EVERYTHING would have to be publicly visible
- Jessica: Up to a point.
- me: As Gaston would say "Publicly Humiliated"
- Jessica: Budgets, yes
- Not, say, meeting minutes
- or internal email addresses or whatever.
- But, yes, to a point
- me: You have to be a politician, as horrible as that sounds
- Hath ye no dirt, then ye be a fine sutor
- Jessica: Unfortunately, I'm a pony being (more or less)
- me: Yes, in a way we all are
- Which is why it might have been a little better for somepony with a little more rational for this stuff to step up... I'm not saying Sean
- But somepony personable
- Brockert's a good step
- He's kinda mechanical, I like allot of his style
- Weather or not he can survive the coming storm, of finances and bookings and everything- Only time will tell
- Jessica: Are you testing me?
- me: No not really
- It's just petty philosophy
- I speak my mind too from time to time, it's not always good
- Jessica: I'm not passing judgment on good or bad
- I was just not aware if you were aware what the effect of your words is.
- me: I'm not aware, I'm often accused of being too oblivious to others- if anything that's my biggest flaw
- Sent at 5:35 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: Malfunctioning mirror neurons.
- Same thing I have.
- Anyways
- Watch this clip.
- This should offer you a little insight into my present mental state.
- Jessica: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLvIFRNbqOs
- Gollum
- Sent at 5:37 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: At this point, if I could switch off my emotions entirely, I probably would.
- me: I see...
- No, I would too... sounds like an episode of Fairly Odd parents or something
- LoL
- But In a way I kinda have
- I just emulate emotions
- I lack empathy
- Jessica: ...You never saw 'Lord of the Rings'?
- me: Tis' why I'm lonley
- No I've seen lord of the rings
- I have a cardboard cutout of Smegol around somewhere too
- Haven't seen it in a while
- Jessica: Smeagol was a good pony. He was corrupted by his lust for the One Ring, which was his before the hobbits stole it from him.
- He hates the hobbits.
- But he also hates himself.
- And he's constantly at war with his own dark side.
- me: Self contradiction get's nothing done sadly
- Just don't jump into the fire
- If you have that kinda problem, you gotta pull yourself out of involvement with others... because you can't love anyone or anything else until you can learn to love yourself
- It's a sad fact, that though you have to spend time being unproductive (Which really bothers me) you just gotta, until you can come to terms with yourself
- Jessica: That may never happen.
- me: But surely you believe that someday it may, otherwise why live on in a world with no hope- I'm glad you
- 're still here because it just means to me that you believe things will get better
- Somehow
- Jessica: Incorrect.
- I live on for only one reason.
- My mother is still alive.
- me: ?
- Sounds like an odd reason
- Jessica: My mother already lost one child. I won't take another from her.
- I love her too much
- If she was dead, I would have committed suicide last week.
- I had a plan.
- I was going to do it.
- Then I remembered her.
- and I realised I had no out.
- I am trapped here.
- I do not wish to exist.
- But I would rather exist, and suffer for it, then cause her that kind of pain again.
- me: A noble cause, but far from a good reason
- Jessica: Are you suggesting that I should kill myself anyways?
- Mind you, I wouldn't.
- me: No, quite the opposite actually
- You have every reason to exist
- I just long for the day when you'll realize that you can live and love yourself too
- Sounds impossible?
- Jessica: Highly improbable.
- I had self-esteem once.
- When I was .... 3?
- Then I entered school...
- It was all downhill from there.
- I was a very happy little child.
- me: It may be, but for the sake of citing the past- a whole bunch of pretty impossible things have happened
- Jessica: By the time I was a not-so-little child, I was no longer happy.
- me: Yeah, they can be tough in this here public education system
- You'd have probably been happier had certain testing modifications and other stuff existed
- Jessica: The actual academics were only a small portion of the problem.
- The other students were the overwhelming majority of the problem.
- I never thought I'd make it to 18.
- I thought I'd kill myself first, from the bullying.
- me: But that's no real reason to be sore about it... I was pretty badly brused by the system, and the ponies in it- but I can't be sad about it because- It's inefficient.. and if there's one thing I hate it's inefficiency
- I guess that's where we differ
- Jessica: I was the 'school nerd'.
- me: You are Ethos, I am Logos- all we're missing is Pathos
- LoL
- Jessica: I was a verbal punching bag for the entire school population.
- It was BAD.
- Sent at 5:52 PM on Thursday
- me: Didn't you at least have Zorin to stand up 4 you?
- Jessica: I met Zorin when I was 16, and he lived in Miami.
- I lived in Orlando.
- By the time I was 16, the bullying was over and the damage was done.
- The worst years for me were around 6-14
- Which happen to be some of the most fundamental formative years for the pony psyche.
- Sent at 5:55 PM on Thursday
- me: Wow, so you just continued on damaged from that point on? That's a loong time to hate yourself
- damn son
- Jessica: You can only be told so many times that you're a worthless ugly stupid pathetic fabric before you start believing every word.
- Oh, and 'nerd'
- don't forget that.
- me: Nerd is kinda a re-enforcing word these days though... "Talk to me nerdy"
- It's kinda like "Nigga" yo- a stigma that's been embraced
- Jessica: Some would say "fabric" is too, but it still stings me
- and ponies still mostly use that as an insult
- "nerd", sure, it's been reclaimed in a lot of ways.
- But anyways
- This is actually a little off-topic
- Because this isn't the self-hatred I was referencing
- I was talking about how I hate myself for how I acted, and act, towards my friends
- I cringe when I hear how I'd treated Cupcakes so poorly
- And every time I scream at ponies, I feel awful about it later
- It's embarrassing.
- But it's very hard to avoid, because when I get angry, it all comes out directly
- I don't hide it or bottle it up
- It just comes out through my mouth.
- There's no filter there.
- me: The psychologist can help you make dissociations between when to act and when to just listen...
- Sadly I'm terrible as Psychology
- We'll get Winter back on board for that one
- If he can calm minty down like that, he can work mareacles
- Jessica: He calmed Minty down?
- me: Oh yea, that one night with sean and you
- And she wanted to kill me
- more legit than usual, and I just gave the phone to winter
- and she magically understoof
- I could never do that
- Sent at 6:05 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: The problem is actually a lot simpler than that
- and a lot harder
- I know when I'm not supposed to say what's on my mind
- if I actually stopped to think about it
- and if I was able to act purely on logic and reason
- Usually, it's pretty obvious when saying something will upsetsomepony
- and yelling and screaming at them almost always does.
- The problem is that I never learned to 'think before I speak'
- I say what is on my mind
- I don't think beforehand 'Should I say this?'
- me: Yeah, you gotta learn to do that...
- It's possible
- I used to ramble on for hours about irrelbint thing back in High School
- Well, before that
- It's why I didn't really have any friends
- Jessica: Yep
- I can relate
- me: I went for Re-socialization therapy
- helped allot, I had to study it actually... render my thoughts into coherent conversation
- Jessica: I've never had a problem speaking coherently, merely speaking appropriately.
- me: Well, that too- that was a big one actually
- When I was a kid, I tell ya- I said the worst things
- Jessica: So did I
- "Why is that lady so fat?"
- me: Just ask women about menstration... do all sorts of weird shit
- in conversations
- Jessica: yep
- me: Exactly
- Jessica: No filters
- me: and there's therapy that can help with that
- Totally
- You should get a legitimate diagnosis sometime though
- Jessica: I'm not certain it would help.
- me: Like, from a Psychiatrist
- Maybe help you get some state funding for therapy though
- It does exist
- Jessica: For adults?
- me: I'm not too sure how to apply for it
- Jessica: NON-IMPOVERISHED adults?
- Most state funding is for poor ponies and/or kids.
- me: Yeah, especially- you may need to be in like, an adult home for a short period of time- but there's definatly socialization programs out there
- Jessica: uuuuhhhhh.
- Yeah, I'm not going to live in a special pony's home
- me: There's a good center for Autism in Bellmore- not like an asylum or something, it's just a place
- and they hold programs for autistic adults
- to meet and compare expriances
- Pro bono sometimes
- Jessica: Would I be the only one there not stimming or talking through a box?
- Or is it mostly high-functioning ponies?
- me: Mostly High Functioning, the high functioning ones survive
- Jessica: Sad.
- (For the implication of what happens to the non-high-functioning ones)
- I've read essays written by ponies with more conventional capital-A Autism
- I can't really relate to them
- Any more than I, as a transgendered female, can relate to gay males
- I'm on the opposite side of the autistic spectrum
- like I'm on the opposite side of the LGBT spectrum
- The only thing I can relate to is facing prejudice
- Sent at 6:18 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: Anyways.
- How's therapy like that work anyhow?
- Do they challenge you until you can not react?
- Like, show you the most outrageous thing possible until you can show no reaction to it?
- Or do something to provoke you until you stop reacting to it?
- me: Not necessarily, they just outright tell you how you should condition your thoughts
- I mean, yeah they used more advanced tactics sometimes, like double sided mirrors
- Jessica: If it's mostly talk and technique, then perhaps there is a book on the subject.
- Social appropriateness theory for dummies?
- The aspie's guide to not being an ashole?
- ...asshole
- me: Essentially, it's a decision you kinda have to make
- but the techniques they employ become less noticable over time
- Jessica: What's the decision?
- me: You decide that you can learn, and make things better by doing so
- Allot of autistic ponies think they're already right
- and that they have nothing more to learn
- and that such abstract things could never work
- Jessica: hmmm.
- Well, part of me feels like not expressing my feelings wholly to a friend is lying.
- Like, if I'm furious at you, if I hold my tongue and say nothing, it feels like I am doing you a disservice.
- It's paradoxical, but I think you see what I mean.
- I'm willing to hide my true feelings from a cop to avoid getting arrested, since I don't see a cop as a pony
- merely a 'thing' who can harm me
- like an angry animal, or a lunatic with a gun
- (which is basically what a cop is)
- But to my friends, I find it exceptionally difficult to conceal my feelings.
- Sent at 6:25 PM on Thursday
- me: I almost wish things where black and white like that sometimes
- But the world is every shade of grey
- Jessica: I know that in theory.
- But in practice, I don't FEEL that.
- If that makes any sense.
- An example
- Right now, I basically hate the entire Council.
- Seething, roiling hatred.
- Sometimes I can get myself distracted by work
- my day job, or working on a postcard, or a web page, or whatever
- But sometimes, somepony says something to set me off, and the hatred and anger boils over
- and for me NOT to say something becomes almost physically painful.
- me: Is there any way you could talk yourself down from that enraged state?
- Jessica: Perhaps.
- Such as by reminding myself that I would have done the same thing the Council did
- or worse
- in their situation.
- But it does not change the feelings of betrayal.
- or of jealousy, or of anger.
- Or of embarrassment.
- Sent at 6:31 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: I don't know if I will ever NOT hate the Council.
- Or Andrew.
- Even if I can learn to not show it, or not talk about it
- I suspect the hatred will remain.
- me: It's interesting, I hate the council because they'er so inefficient...
- I guess you hate them for that sloppy Coup De' eta
- Jessica: D'etat.
- And not really
- I hate them for having a coup in the first place
- Not for it being sloppy.
- I hate them for taking what I created away from me.
- Stealing MY PRECIOUS.
- Watch the Gollum clip again.
- That's me.
- Sent at 6:34 PM on Thursday
- Jessica: anywyas, l8r
- me: Peace~
- Jessica: Sorry for being such a downer, BTW
- me: It's okay, I needed some grimdark to put my life in perspective~
- Hopefully you can take some of my sunshine into yours~
- Jessica: Hopefully!
- K later
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