AFC believe

Here's what an AFC can accomplish, so start believing in yourself!

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Hey guys, I'm new to seddit but I wanted to share my experiences so they can serve as an encouragement. If I can do all this, so can you! I started as an average frustrated chump (or even worse!) and I'm partway through learning my way out of it. Here's my story so far:

I moved from Eastern Europe to New York when I was in my early teens. I had no language problem, but I was socially hopeless and I remained socially hopeless until I got to college. High school was a bunch of very weak friendships with random fellow nerds and a few good looking chicks. For some of them, I was in their circle because of a common friend, with others we were both Eastern European and similar heritage goes a long way to create friendships when you're on another continent. Anyway, I was clueless back then. Nothing transpired in high school. College was the beginning of turning my life around. People aren't as mean in college and are more open-minded, so I had a better social life. I was still very clueless. There was a single girl with whom anything happened. I spanked her ass once or twice and grabbed a boob once when the moments were right, but I never thought to kiss her or make any serious move. God, she must have been frustrated with me! In retrospect, I realize how hard she tried to make her intentions obvious to silly incompetent me! In terms of advice, the one piece of it I remember and that had the most impact was my roommate telling me one day that I complain a lot. I stopped, thought about it, agreed internally, and made a strong commitment to stop it. My complaining has dropped to practically zero since then. Don't be a complainer! You'll see this advice around here often.

After college, I moved back to NYC. I had female roommates. After one year, I got bed bugs, from my nasty neighbors probably. While I fumigated my room a number of nights, I got to sleep in my roommate's bed. It was a tight fit. Still, I'm a clueless retard! I explained my bed bug situation to my co-worker buddy after a day or two. He punched me in the shoulder in a friendly and angry manner and told me to kiss her that night when we share the bed. And I was like, "Damn! Duuuh! You're right! We're so friendly with each other. There's no way she's not interested!" So with my heart half palpitating, I leaned over and planted a kiss while in bed in the dark that night. Right then and there, one year of sexual tension and patient waiting was unleashed upon lucky me! We did everything except have intercourse because she only does that in relationships, blah blah blah. I was too stupid to tease and press and try multiple times, or try at all. I told her I understand and didn't try to replace my finger that was in her vagina with my penis. My relationship with her for the next month before we got to intercourse made me understand just how much bullshit we are fed by the feminazies in college! Guys, forget everything you ever heard about sex while in college. It's bullshit. There is "no" and there's "NO!". The difference is huge! Two steps forward, one step back! Keep pressing forward at the pace that feels right. You'll rarely if ever get a real "NO!" unless you rip her underwear off and try to ram it in there within the course of two seconds. Even then, she'll just tell you to slow down because by that point she likes you already. Of course, some girls like that kind of stuff, but I haven't gotten to the point where I can figure out who the nymphomaniacs are. Anyway, back to the roommate, we traveled to the Galapagos for her birthday. (No, no, she paid her own way.) Had I had my game together, I would have lost my virginity in the Galapagos! That would have been nice! But I fucked it up, made her cry with my stupidity, and we finally got to the good part only back in Quito on the way home. So I finally lost my virginity at 24 years old! I'm just shy of 29 right now. We were in a relationship for one year, then we broke up and lived together for two more years, hooking up sporadically. She's a hottie. The kind of hottie that got us looks from guys wondering why she's with me. How do I know that? Well, one guy asked her that point blank. She told me about it much later.

Girl 2: Some ugly friend of ours had the hots for me and it was pretty obvious. We snuck away from a party at my friend's place half drunk and hooked up at my place. She wanted to stay. I dropped her off at her place.

Girl 3: Oh boy! The exgirlfriend-slash-roommate and I were friends with a couple, early 30s. The smoking hot wife had the hots for me and was a gigantic public flirt. Poor guy. We threw her and my roommate a joint birthday party. I fingered her on her birthday at my place while her husband and everyone else was fast asleep all over my house. A month later, towards the end of a party we hosted, her husband crashed in my guest room. The ex-slash-roommate, a mutual male friend, the wife, and me went to the room next to the guest room and a foursome was getting started! Just as the two girls were undressed and kissing and touching each other, my downstairs neighbor came through the front door. I burst out of the room, ran towards the door, and stalled while everyone put their clothes back on. He was at the party earlier and was such a good friend of ours that he would walk in at random if the lights were on. So he walked in at 4am at the worst moment possible. Anyway, disaster averted, foursome ruined! FML!!!!!!! The wife tried to get physical with him, and he put up some half-assed resistance. He's married. We casually agreed that this never happened. People went to sleep, some went kayaking at 5am, the wife and I stayed up, went to my room and fucked. And fucked some more. While her husband was sleeping in the other room. She wanted a second round. Bless me! And what a hottie! A month later I took a day off work, took her around town, and fucked her in my jacuzzi, bubbles, and everything! Okay, okay, look, she hit on me. I would never hit on a married chick. Let's agree to disagree and move on.

Girl 4: A coworker invited me to an awards show the company was a part of. A crazy girl was the last girl left at the afterparty. It was down to me, her, and 40 year old sleaze from out of town staying at the hotel. We bored him out of his mind, he left, and we went to my place. Mind you, this girl was four inches taller than me; I'm 5'8". Kinky girl wanted it up the ass. I was too drunk to get it stiff all the way. She passed out disappointed. I went to work with a smirk on my face the next day.

Girl 5: I got into online dating. I tweaked my profile and my messages, and I started meeting a few girls. This girl played the three-date rule and we fucked at her place. Turns out I'd been played. She didn't want anything further. Whatever, I respect that. Let's get on with our lives.

Girl 6: My ex told a friend of a friend of hers that we'd be a good match. Social circle plus recommendation equals easy lay. And so we fucked. Let me tell you about inverted nipples. The soap dries up in there. You lick, the nipple un-inverts, and you end up licking soap! Enjoy!

Girl 7: I went with my travel buddy to Hawaii. We chat with an older gentleman at the bar. Two women join him, 42 years old hottie that looks like 30 and 60 years old grandma that looks like a train wreck. I didn't think anything of it, but my friend talks them up, and we meet the next day in Waikiki. We go to their amazing hotel room, 30th floor right above the beach. My friend is a gentleman and lets me have the hottie because he has more game than me, so I need it more. I make out with her in private on the balcony, I get in her bed with her, he gets in grandma's bed with grandma, and we turn off the lights pretending we're civilized people. I fool around with the hottie but we can't take it all the way with our friends in the room. My friend told me the next day grandma tried to get physical with him in bed but he turned her down. I'm just laughing trying to visualize it! I meet 42yo hottie the next day, but we have nowhere private to go. I weird her out a bit by walking into a Waikiki hotel and paying $300 for a room at 11pm. Mind you that's not much money for me, I'm not totally crazy! We consumate our relationship and repeat the next morning. Two days later she sleeps in my room, and we have sex while my friend is sleeping nearby. Hot cougar, CHECK!!!

Girl 8: Girl chats me up at Starbucks. Wannabe model with a nice body and delicious tits. She's fascinated by my Android T-Mobile phone tethering. Really? WTF? Why does she need so much detail? I don't want to talk about tethering. I text-invite her out after leaving Starbucks. After two dates, she ends up in my bed completely naked and cuddly, my finger in her vagina. No intercourse. Damn. No further contact from me. Her face is not good enough.

Girl 9: I sign up for couchsurfing. My friends say it's an easy lay. Boy, did they turn out to be right! Two Texans show up. We go clubbing a few blocks away from home. Tall blonde chick gets drunk. Short boobilicious girl looks up at me with puppy eyes, and says "You have such beautiful juicy lips, please don't kiss me. I have a boyfriend." while pressing herself further into me. I neck down and make out with her. We take drunkie home. We leave drunkie alone for a second, she faceplants my kitchen tiles. I pick her up all panicked, check her teeth, tongue, and nose and they are fine. Her chin though was all banged up and cut open. She proceeds to bleed all over my kitchen and bathroom tiles while her friend cleans her up. She cries nonstop at 3am for half an hour about leaving a bad first impression. Her friend tells me to wait while drunkie falls asleep and she'll come over to my room afterward. We all three pass out though, so nothing happens. Next night, we plan the same maneuver. I pass out, but she wakes me up at 4am and we fuck. Worst sex of my life, but her pleasure is always my first priority, so I deliver, giant headache and everything. Boobies takes a day off from summer camp and visits me. We fuck a bunch. She comes back at the end of summer, we fuck some more. Note to self: visit her in Texas one of these days. Chin girl comes over a week later from another summer camp, with two new female friends from camp. I take them to bars and clubbing. We talk about scars while in the subway. British friend stands up all of a sudden in the subway car, drops her pants before we could say "whoa!", and shows us her thigh scar and pink panties. The whole subway car smiles/laughs. She enjoys it. Later, we're in the back of a cab, I'm in the middle. I wrap one arm around each one, and proceed to fondle them at the same time! That's when I realize that my life is not so shabby! I believe they weren't aware the other friend was getting the same treatment, but I dunno. Maybe they noticed and didn't care to remark. You also could say a threesome could have been had. I make out with the Brit at the bar in front of everyone. We drop the Brit home to pass out and we continue the night. The strip club closed just before we got there. We go home, and she has to sleep in my bed. I nibble on her nipple, she tells me I'm drunk, then we pass out.

Girl 10: Picked up a big-breasted nice-smile girl from online dating. We fucked for a month then broke it off. Summer fling.

I go to Peru. My bad Spanish is good enough to pick up a local Peruvian chick at a club. We make out, I spank her ass, she looks mad but lets it be, then I tell her I have to go and left her there with a perplexed look on her face.
At the beach town, a hot and well-dressed Lima girl (who's parents are probably well off) hints that we should dance. I take the bait and start dancing. Her friends pick on some other guys. I got the hotest one though! A few minutes later, she makes a small hint, I start making out with her. We dance and make out for a while, then she leaves me at her doorstep out in the cold. She can't be seen as the slut in front of her friends. I had to leave the next day. I joined a volleyball game the next day before I left. A local dark-skinned girl was playing too. Low cut tshirt, delicious-size boobs, and she's bouncing all over the place! My hormones are kicking me in the balls. I ask her what she's doing that night, turns out she's going to Lima to go to Uruguay. We meet in Lima, but she's under close family supervision, so we make out for three days while being tourists and nothing much more. I didn't care to press harder. I could have, but I'm kindda scared of locals who hook up with tourists. The risk seems too high. So basically it was like a three-day escort service. It also happened that our flights Sunday night were 30 minutes apart, so we met at the airport and made out some more. We kissed goodbye and flew half a world apart. We'll see if we ever meet again. Let me just say that making out with a girl you don't really know at the terminal while waiting for your flight to board makes the wait much more palatable!

Girl 11: Company holiday party two weeks ago. I'm on a mission. I haven't had sex in a while, too busy building websites and shit. I methodically interview every hottie there to figure out how related they are to my coworkers. After a number of quick conversations, I find one unrelated-enough hottie! I tease her and give her a hard time for 30 minutes. At some point she asks if I'm *that* type of guy. I have no clue what I said in my half-drunkedness but I must have said the right thing because we made out in front of the few coworkers left that late in the night. We get in a cab, get kindda inappropriate in the back of the cab, zipping through the streets of Manhattan. I put my hand inside and squeeze nipple and she responds nicely. She blocks my hand from her pants. I'm not invited upstairs either. Next week we met again, eventually I'm invited to crash at her place with the promise that I'm not getting any that night. I sexually tease her for two hours with her top off, but her pajama pants stay on! I've never seen so much determination! She claims next week the pants will come off. I finally give up and we pass out. Well, next week is coming up as we speak! Wish me luck!

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Ok, so that's all. Late to bloom, still kindda socially awkward, but plenty of delicious and/or crazy stories. Most of that stuff happened in the last one year. The ex provided during the previous four. I'd fuck the ex for life, that's how hot she is. I fall just a little short of wanting to share my life with her, so I gotta move on.

So here's the little bits I've learned:

1) Look for signals like a detective! Keep all eyes peeled at all times! Read Leil Lowndes' books. Find them on Amazon or pirate them from scribd.com. It will teach you signals, body language, and all that stuff in a somewhat scientific and methodical way. Re-read them every once in a while. Start noticing them more. They're there. Yes, pointed at the AFC like me and you! The PUAs will teach you the same stuff but in a much more unstructured and lengthy way. Just read her books instead. The reason to read the PUAs material is that it teaches you how brazen and cheeky you can be and get away with. Really, this world is much more forgiving than we all think.
4) Eye contact is important. Read about it on seddit's sidebar. Practice on the subway/metro each day. Hold eye contact with every good-looking chick a little more than comfortable or even let her look away first. But don't give her a creepy stare!
2) Be aggressive. Chicks love it and demand it.
3) Like they say, there's no script. Memorize a few lines for the shit tests, but just play it by ear aside from that. Tease, neg, be witty, give her a hard time, all without insulting. Outcome indifference is key. Just enjoy the fact that you're entertaining a good-looking chick with conversation. If you focus on pleasing her (in conversation as well as in bed if it gets that far) instead of pleasing yourself, things magically fall into place. Don't suck up. Just be a lively interesting fellow, unlike everybody else.

Bottom line, I'm still just another chump. I'm improving each day, but I'm nothing special. If I can have such crazy stories, so can you! Get to it!