Hey /u/brigantus, I understand how you're feeling, and from an overall standpoint, your concerns are completely valid.

My only thoughts are that, I don't think /u/CrossyNZ is doing this maliciously or as an usurpation.  I think it was more of a situation where time was of the essence, and a non-ideal decision made quickly was more important than a good decision not being made in time.

But rather than argue too much on her behalf, maybe it might be worthwhile to take Crossy up on her offer to just have a person to person chat?  I always find problems tend to be resolved easier when people in conflict who have the same goals in mind are able to express their concerns directly to each other, and to feel heard as well as to find common solutions.