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- ---------- Forwarded message ----------
- From: Valerie Aurora <valerie.aurora@gmail.com>
- Date: Fri, Jul 25, 2014 at 9:31 PM
- Subject: Re: [Votingmembers] Person's blog post with concerns about the application process
- To: Snail <snailtsunami@gmail.com>
- Cc: votingmembers <votingmembers@lists.doubleunion.org>
- On Fri, Jul 25, 2014 at 5:21 PM, Snail <snailtsunami@gmail.com> wrote:
- > Matilda links to something [very small three-letter link in second-to-last
- > paragraph] that explains what she means better than I could -
- > http://amydentata.com/2012/09/13/cissexist-feminism/ - basically she's
- > talking about when misandry/patriarchy/etc. jokes are jokes that hurt trans
- > people because the person making the joke doesn't really think about the
- > implications of what they're saying. Notable Quote - "Every time you equate
- > 'misandry' to 'chopping off dicks', you tell an entire group of women that
- > they’re really men."
- Argh! I have always hated these comments but felt like I must just not
- like them because, I dunno, I am just square. But, I mean, joking
- about violently and non-consensually mutilating genitals is not okay
- in any context.
- I resolve to do more research and speak up more often when I hear
- things like this, as well as be more careful with my own speech.
- > So yeah basically that. When people are joking about the menz sometimes they
- > go into language that is transphobic or just don't really THINK about what
- > their words imply. I have noticed, mostly online, that some feminist women /
- > women / other people are very careful about their language when talking
- > about women & gender but then go and throw that all out when talking about
- > men & gender and wind up shooting themselves in the foot anyway. - Heck, I
- > am probably no saint neither.
- >
- > So we -can- do something to address that in our space if we just make people
- > aware that they should use their words thoughtfully when talking about
- > gender & sex, in general, even about men. (Some people try to skirt around
- Any chance we can pay someone cash money to teach a workshop on
- becoming more aware of and fighting transmisogyny and cissexism?
- -VAL
- > being careful by just always saying "cismen" instead of "men" when making
- > jokes, but I think using words carefully requires more internal reflection
- > than that, to be honest.)
- >
- > .....
- >
- > Everything else about the smokescreen - we can definitely make the process
- > clearer on our submission page - i.e. emphasize the need to have sponsors &
- > meet us in person before people fill out the application, try to explain the
- > criteria we use which IS well defined, and explain that we do want people
- > outside of our current network to join but we want some assurance before
- > bringing people in that they DO actually agree with our base assumptions,
- > etc.
- >
- > I don't know if ANY of these things would ever make Matilda personally feel
- > comfortable at Double Union, and I don't know the best way to respond to
- > her, but we can keep pushing to be better still.
- >
- >
- >
- >
- > On Fri, Jul 25, 2014 at 4:47 PM, Liz Henry <lizhenry@gmail.com> wrote:
- >>
- >> Yah I'm open to that! I don't mean there is nothing we can do about
- >> transmisogyny, obviously we can!
- >>
- >> I just did not know that referring to patriarchy was going to be taken
- >> that way; in my mental model of things transmisogyny is *part of*
- >> patriarchy, rather than "feminists talking about patriarchy is
- >> transmisogynist", which is what I thought Mattilda was saying here. i.e. I
- >> think it is valuable to talk about patriarchy and kyriarchy, etc.
- >>
- >>
- >>
- >>
- >>
- >>
- >> On Fri, Jul 25, 2014 at 4:41 PM, Lynn Cyrin <firemagelynn@gmail.com>
- >> wrote:
- >>>
- >>> """
- >>> This post also mentions a concern about a past Double Union event ("I
- >>> regularly see feminist women make "misandry" jokes that are nothing but than
- >>> cloaked transmisogyny (I've seen this at the one Double Union event I went
- >>> to, even).") but I don't know if there's anything we can do about that.
- >>> """
- >>>
- >>> People could take the time to together get themselves together and
- >>> unlearn cissexism / transmisogyny? Because I'm not seeing any effort to do
- >>> that around here. (And this is something that has personally triggered me
- >>> SEVERAL times)
- >>>
- >>> Lynn Cyrin (http://lynncyrin.me) -Sent from Mobile
- >>>
- >>> On Jul 25, 2014 4:26 PM, "Britta Gustafson" <brittag@gmail.com> wrote:
- >>>>
- >>>> This person is concerned about our open house blog posts saying "good
- >>>> fit" without explanation since that phrase is misused by others, and they
- >>>> are concerned that our public membership information doesn't explain that we
- >>>> have a requirement of meeting people (or what we are looking for in meeting
- >>>> people):
- >>>> http://trapframe.moe/blog/double-union-good-fit-and-smokescreens.html
- >>>>
- >>>> I feel pretty bad reading this post, since I wrote "good fit" on the
- >>>> blog (without thinking about it much) and wrote the update for the
- >>>> membership page without realizing I should note sponsorship by an existing
- >>>> member as a qualification (https://www.doubleunion.org/membership), and I
- >>>> want to be open to this person's concerns and think about how we can do
- >>>> better.
- >>>>
- >>>> They call "good fit" a smoke screen, and we do have a smoke screen here,
- >>>> but I think we can explain it more clearly.
- >>>>
- >>>> I can add a note about sponsorship to the qualifications explanation on
- >>>> the membership page - I think that's a reasonable way to set expectations
- >>>> about the membership process. I can also update the blog posts to point to
- >>>> the membership page to explain what we mean by "good fit" for anyone reading
- >>>> those blog posts without context.
- >>>>
- >>>> This is what I'd add to the membership page, under "Don't let impostor
- >>>> syndrome stop you!": "Along with submitting an application, a qualification
- >>>> for membership is that you've met at least one member who is willing to say
- >>>> you seem like a reasonable potential member (such as that you'd respect the
- >>>> base assumptions, anti-harassment policy, and responsibilities of being a
- >>>> member). Please come to events to meet some of us!"
- >>>>
- >>>> And for the two blog posts that mention "good fit", I'd add this after
- >>>> "good fit", to add context without covering up the original text: "(edit:
- >>>> see the [membership page for explanation of good fit])".
- >>>>
- >>>> Do those additions sound like they would address this person's concerns
- >>>> while staying accurate to what we want to say?
- >>>>
- >>>> This post also mentions a concern about a past Double Union event ("I
- >>>> regularly see feminist women make "misandry" jokes that are nothing but than
- >>>> cloaked transmisogyny (I've seen this at the one Double Union event I went
- >>>> to, even).") but I don't know if there's anything we can do about that.
- >>>>
- >>>> (I saw this post linked from Metafilter comments about the Fast Company
- >>>> article -
- >>>> http://www.metafilter.com/141238/Be-excellent-to-each-other-is-not-a-code-of-conduct#5656257
- >>>> .)
- >>>>
- >>>> Britta
- >>>>
- >>>> _______________________________________________
- >>>> Votingmembers mailing list
- >>>> Votingmembers@lists.doubleunion.org
- >>>> http://lists.doubleunion.org/listinfo.cgi/votingmembers-doubleunion.org
- >>>>
- >>>
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- >>>
- >>
- >>
- >>
- >> --
- >> Liz Henry
- >> lizhenry@gmail.com
- >>
- >> "Electric ladies will you sleep or will you preach?" -- Janelle Monae
- >>
- >> "Without models, it's hard to work; without a context, difficult to
- >> evaluate; without peers, nearly impossible to speak." -- Joanna Russ
- >>
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- >>
- >
- >
- >
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