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The Blueprint Decoded NOTES



Day 1



Introduction

• Goals evolve. Once you reach one goal, the natural tendency is to always want more.

• At first, most guys just want to get one girl and get out, then they want to get the skill. They get good,

but it's not consistent.

► The blueprint is about becoming consistent. Having that click where you don't have to think
about it anymore. It's not something you're doing, but something you are. (Being, not doing.)

The Secret Code

• You're not meant to understand more than what will take you to the next level.

► Every time you watch it different things will pop out. You'll understand more.

• The same info will mean different things depending on where you're at. If you watch it again in a year
it's gonna hit you at a different level. From surface to deeper levels.

► (de2e: Like when you're underlining important stuff in a book. If you read it again in a year,
ttie stuff you fiad underlined will now seem obvious, it'll feel like you were missing the point.)



built upon the basic belief/frame that the woman is higher value than
the man, on a pedestal, and the man needs to find some way to get

up there through tricks/techniques.

• For guys who've had little success with women, this makes a
lot of sense: She's attractive, socially proofed, guys want her, and
you're just an average-looking guy. It's LOGICAL that she would be
higher value, "above" you socially.

• The Big Realization: THIS IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. In
reality, you're equal.

• When this old paradigm is what you really believe in, your
reality, then everything you see you'll try to fit it into what you believe
in. The Blueprint is about giving you a new reality through pieces of
the puzzle, so you can give yourself permission to do what works.
(From social conditioning and ego to authenticity and self esteem.)

All The Old Stuff Still Applies

• Leaming this stuff doesn't mean you can just sit around. You still have to go out and approach girls
and be social. IF YOU GO OUT, MOST OF YOUR PROBLEMS AUTO-CORRECT.

• All that changes is that we're coming from a different frame now. Being, not doing.

Social Conditioning - Limiting Beliefs

• Most people in the world walk through life in a walking daze. They don't know what their values
are, who they are or what they want out of life.

• What most guys think gets girls:

► Money - No. There is a small % of girls that are attracted to guys with money, but it's the

same as with anything different, like bodybuilders - most girls are terrified of them, but small
% are obsessed. So most are not attracted to money, except for gold diggers, and do you
really want to date those!? But guy sees dude with money and hot chick, and thinks he
NEEDS money. You don't need it for chicks, it's not a bad thing, if you do it for yourself.

► Looks - No. Only thing about this is that being good looking means that you usually have
less limiting beliefs, it's easier to approach because you think you deserve a good reaction.



Old Paradigm

• When pickup first started, it was




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You also get results faster because some girls will select you. "He's cute." But for the most
part, there's no difference. What happens is guys will have this belief and see random
anomalies to validate their beliefs.

► Romance - No. IVIost guys see romance In movies and think that's how you get girls. The
romantic approach could work If the girl wants you so bad that she's intimidated by you. She
thinks you're too amazing to like her, but then she thinks: "Oh, look at these flowers and
chocolates and stuff he bought me, I guess he really does like me."

► Commonalities - No. (de2e: People will rationalize connection and find commonalities if
there Is value, as explained later.)

► Friendship First - No. Lots of guys think they can become good friends with the girl and
sneak in under the radar, listen to her problems, then suddenly come up - "SURPRISE! I
have a dick!" and become her bf.

• There's no cause-effect relationship between all these things and attraction. If attraction already
exists the girl will let the guy get away with these, but they aren't the cause.

Social Conditioning - What Everyone Else Is Doing

• Comes from: the media, society, parents, work, friends, religion, movies, music, television,
advertising, billboards, radio, magazines. Ever since the day you were born, it's hitting you from all
angles.

• The common view is wrong because:

► Girls are wired to go for guys that stand out from the crowd. (The crowd is doing what SC
tells them to.)

► The types of approaches encouraged by SC are, generally speaking: chode, lame,
desperate, needy, weak, beta. They communicate low social value.

Mass Confusion

• Has there ever been a time in history when we as a people had a wrong belief about
something on a mass level? (Ex: Earth is flat.) Could it be possible that maybe even today we could
be wrong about some things?

• We have no clue how most of the stuff around us Is working because we live In such an amazing
society. (Ex: It's normal to fly in airplanes with thin windows, sitting feet from being in midair
thousands of miles above ground.)

► As a result, the natural tendency Is to give authority to society. We let society dictate our
beliefs to us, we think "Weil, they're right about all this other stuff". It's easy to give up control
of beliefs and let society dictate beliefs because it seems to be the right way, just because of
the way that our society is structured.

Social Conditioning - Why It Works

• People are very FAST learners. This Is because they learn and are Influenced socially . We learn from
the people around us constantly. This is both very good and very bad.

• There are 2 ways to learn:

► 1. Firsthand experience.

► 2. Socially. We know most things without having to actually try it. People are constantly
looking at what other people are doing; they're looking to see who they can learn off of. (Ex:
Don't have to jump out of a very high window and get hurt to l<now it's bad. Learn it from
mom/TV/teacher. This is good.)

• MOST SOCIAL CONDITIONING IS A GOOD THING, lets you survive. But it messes guys up in the
rare case it isn't right.

• We accept ideas socially based on:

► 1. How certain they are of their Ideas.

► 2. How In alignment they are with their own Ideas.

► 3. The number of other people that buy into those ideas.



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• So whenever something passes through those filters your unconscious mind teiis you "this must be
true. " The consequence is that IDEAS, NO MATTER HOW STUPID, CAN SPREAD LIKE
WILDFIRE. Most myth, propaganda, etc. is based on the logic: "It's true. I can feel it."

• You have to become a person that can look at stuff with your own set of eyes and outside of social
conditioning because social conditioning...

► Gets you to look at the surface of things and not the depth.

► Gets you addicted to never-ending stimulation.

► Gets you addicted to letting other people think for you.

► Gives you beliefs that seem so real because so many other people believe them that you
don't listen to your own common sense.

Value

• The core root of all attraction. You get attraction when you know how to communicate value.

• Value is anything that:

► Helps you survive.

► Helps you have kids.

► Has characteristics that those kids would survive.

► Beyond that, it's anything that gives you good emotions.

• Value is like a magnet. Your focus goes to the value. (Ex: If you're really hungry and talking to your
friend, then someone walks by with a plate of hot food, you're focus will instinctively go to the food,
make you look at it. Same as if a hot girl walks by.)

► For millions of years, we've been hardwired to want short-term more than long-term benefit.
(We eat oversaturated foods, we procrastinate, we have faulty belief systems that make us
feel good, take drugs, drink alcohol, believe in convenient falsehoods, etc. -> Guys like
attractive women even though one you pick based on looks may not be a good mother.)

► Day-to-day, the quest most people are on is pleasure, building value for themselves.

• What constitutes value for a man is different than for a woman.

► Man : wants attractive, skinny(represents youth and health), large breasts(represents fertility).

► Woman : decisiveness, resourcefulness, dominance, confidence, fearlessness, a guy who
dictates reality and does not have reality dictated to him, leadership. (These qualities are
gonna be a lot more important to survival than anything else.)

• If you're walking up to a woman and you're nervous, your heart is beating fast and you talk like
you're unsure of yourself and quiet, THAT HAS ZERO VALUE. NONE. That's like having negative
value. How well could you kill an animal to eat in caveman days if a woman intimidates you?
(Sidenote: Cavemen didn't need a mirror, you don't need one either.)

• Before, being a provider to a woman had value. Now she has male groupie/parents/job to take care of
that. She doesn't need money to survive, so being a provider isn't all that appealing anymore. Some
respond to that, but most don't.

Sub-Communication

• It takes a guy a couple seconds to decide if a woman is attractive, takes a woman a couple hours.

Why? -> Men look for visual cues, women look for behavioral cues.

• Communication is the words that you're saying, the surface level. Women are looking for sub-
communication, the communication beneath all of that. The words that you say very rarely register to
a woman, you're thinking that they are, but they're not. The more attracted she is, the more that the
words that you're saying are irrelevant. You could talk in gibberish.

• 2 types of sub-communication:

► 1. Your behavior.

► 2. How people react to you.

• Some examples of sub-communication:

► Eye contact, vocal tonality, body language, your sense of individuality, humor and
playfulness, comfort in your environment...

► indifference to what people think of you,

► your concepts and boundaries of what you will and will not accept,

► your control over your own emotions and your own sense of reality.



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► your confidence to say what's on your mind and stand out,

► your self-directedness, conviction and grasp of your own standards,

► your sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want,

► and the types of things you say and the way in which you say them all in relation to the other
peopie there.

• If your behavior is on, but logically you're not the l<ind of guy that she goes for, then she's still gonna
be attracted. It's why, even when a girl finds out Tyler teaches pickup, she's still attracted. It makes
no difference. The attraction triggers are not influenced by logic.

► (Sidenote: As soon as you go all "logic" on her, you have cut off the process of attraction that
you two've been building up.)

• As a man, your behavior, and therefore your attractiveness, can change second-to-second. This also
means that attraction is a very fast and straightforward process. It happens within seconds.

► Also, attraction either happens or it doesn't. She either likes you or she doesn't. Don't try to
change her mind if she's not attracted. It's done. Tyler doesn't get crushes on girls that don't
like him.

Objectif ication (and Why It Doesn't Work)

• On some level, you can sense that women look at you as an object of value, just like you may look at
them. So the tendency is to objectify yourself, turn yourself into something that has value.

• SC tells us that the way to get value isn't to become a better person, more authentic, but to:

► 1. Get the job.

► 2. Get the money.

► 3. Become like the guy you see on TV. (He has the girls.) You see how he looks, what

products he uses, etc.

• Society has in many ways evolved to preserve social order. It is designed to give you a set of
achievable goals that you can strive towards and meet. It gives you never ending mental stimulation.
Gives you the answer to everything. The unconscious assumption is that if you believe in the system,
everything will be fine. Go to work, get the girls.

► Fight Club: "You are not a special snowflake. You are not the contents of your wallet. You are
not your furniture. You are not your fucking khakis."

► All the things society tells you to do will not inspire the confidence or qualities to get attraction
and have success with women. All it'll do is give you a temporary fix of confidence, but not a
real set of values or self esteem.

► Society is in many ways a lot like a Hollywood movie. There's a good guy, a bad guy, and an
ending that reinforces social norms. It's real simple - everybody believes they're good, the
other guy's bad, there are no differing opinions. People don't want to have to dig in deep or
be required to be aware all the time.

• Attraction will never work by a superficial set of values (looks, money,etc.) because, by a
superficial set of values, an attractive girl is the pinnacle of achievement. You could be a doctor that's
saved 1000's of lives and a 19-year-old girl with fake tits, some nice clothes/hair, skinny because she
does coke will have more value than you if you believe in that set of values. No matter how high you
go, you cannot win this game if you believe in SC. This game is rigged against you. YOU CANNOT
WIN THIS GAME.

Social Conditioning - Consumerism

• When you buy something, like when someone buys their 1 2'^ pair of shoes, they aren't buying the 12'^
pair for comfort, utility, etc, but for a little piece of self esteem for a couple weeks. You feel great for
the first couple weeks wearing a new shirt, then the feeling wears off until you buy a new one. But has
it ever occurred to you that you should feel that way ALL THE TIME?

► Best consumer: mild paranoia, confusion, no identity, no values (just wants what other people
want.)

• There's nothing wrong with possessions, a good job, etc if you're doing what you love to do and

you're not doing it to impress anybody or live up to somebody else's standards that you didn't even
create. The problem is when you see a cute girl and hesitate and think you need more money, looks,
etc to talk to her.



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• All guys who are good at pickup understand SC on a very deep level. They look around like in the
matrix and see how much everyone is affected by what other people think of them.

Spectatorism

• We're constantly looking for other people to have the glory. We're looking at movies, 6 hr/day of TV.
People would rather watch a show about the natural environment than actually go out into wilderness.
It's easier to watch other people.

• THE GLORY IS TO BE HAD. This is your life. Turn the TV off, turn off the web surfing. It's garbage.

► Tyler believes in a life of your own design. Doesn't worry what other people think. Life's too
short. Do what you want, because this is all there is.

Social Conditioning - How It Affects Your Perception of Your Value

• When you see a girl you like, your mind is processing your value to her. Is she out of your
league? Do you live up to her standards? Are you good enough?

► If you're looking for other people's standards to determine your value, you will always come
up short. Even if you're successful, you're still a dumb chode that spends all his time living up
to other people's standards. You still are coming from a foundational level where you react to
other people is how you spend your days.

• If you have your own standards, and you walk up to an attractive girl and she has one of your
values (beauty for example), and you're screening her for more, then you don't really care what she
thinks. You're not immediately won over just because she's attractive.

► All this is sub-communicated - when she can sense that she's trying to live up to your
standards, and you're not trying to live up to hers, she's gonna be far more attracted. (Who's
reacting to who more? Who's trying to get the other person's validation? The lower value
person in any interaction iool<s to the higher value one to dictate their identity.)

► But most guys go up: "Please give me lOls so that I can go into state. Tell me I'm cool." Then
they try to live up to her values.

Living In Reaction

• Lacking a crystal-clear concept of:



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1.


Who you are.


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2.


What you value.


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3.


What you're grateful and appreciative for.


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4.


How your emotions work.


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5.


What you really want out of life.


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6.


Why certain influences are positive or corrupting



• Say you go out and get plastic surgery or you go out and purchase things that'll impress people -
while on the surface level it feels like you're helping yourself, on the deeper level you're establishing
the pattern that you're constantly living up to other people's standards. A pattern of living in reaction
through habits of behavior.

• People want the shortcut, the magic pill, they don't want a slow, gradual process. They want tactics,
not principles. We don't want to fix the larger problem, or face the complexities. When we're living in
reaction, we're just putting a band-aid on our problem.

The Self Is Always Coming Through

• When you're a cool guy, you can say the dumbest stuff and get away with it. A different guy who isn't
cool could do the exact same thing and get a very bad reaction. Who he is is showing through the
cracks of what he's physically doing.

• It's a liberating thing because you realize you don't need to keep "doing stuff" all the time just
to attract a girl.

• Also why this stuff will keep on working no matter how much media coverage it gets. You're just a
cool guy, women's magazines can't warn women: "Watch out for any guy that seems cool."



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Value Causes Rationalization

• On one level, you have the person you think you are. The values you have. On another level, you
have your biological drives. Your biological drives are telling you to do what will be good from the
perspective of value .

• There's sometimes a tension in some situations because what would benefit us the most, selfishly,
goes against our values. The tension is resolved through backwards rationalization .

► To feel good about your emotionally motivated actions (and feel like you're the one in
control), we invent logical reasons for them during or after the fact. All of us do it to some
extent.

Value Comes 1st (Rationalization)

• How you are perceived depends on your value. A nice guy with low value won't really be seen as
being nice, but a total dick with high value who does one nice thing for a girl will make her say "He's
such a nice guy." -> Because he's high value and the gih likes him, she will find something to
rationalize why she likes him. "I like him because he's nice." She will impose the qualities that she
likes in men onto him unknowingly.

• Some gihs will say: "I don't care if a guy has value, I just want a guy who can make me laugh / that I
can feel a connection with."

► But if you have value, how easy is it to make a girl laugh? When you have enough value,
sense of humor is automatic, you could do anything and the girl will laugh at it uncontrollably.
Think about the popular guys in high school who said stuff that wasn't even really objectively
funny, but everyone still laughed at it.

► And when someone has value, we pay more attention to them and see these slight little
things in common and say: "Oh, wow, we have a connection." It's the value that makes the
girl receptive to the idea of having a connection with you in the first place.

• It's not that you shouldn't worry about your sense of humor or making a connection with a woman, it's
just that value tends to be a prerequisite. It's not everything, but it tends to come first. She's gonna
give you much more of a chance, listen more, and be more affected by you if you have value.

• Because we only have so much time and energy, we tend to seek out the relationships that
provide us the most benefit. It's not good or bad - it is what it is. Recognize it, but don't analyze or
judge people for it.

► Every relationship is up for grabs. The second someone senses that they benefit more by
directing their time + energy from an old relationship to a new one, their mind is wired to start
seeking out reasons to do so.

RAS (Reticular Activation System)

• Part of the brain which filters out that which is of no value to you and zones in on that which
does have value.

• This also works with your memories of past events. When a relationship has value, your RAS causes
you to remember the good stuff in the past of the relationship. But when the relationship has no value
anymore, the focus changes. You start to only see the bad things about the person and in the past of

the relationship.

• To get around RAS and not put too much value on the girl, you have to treat her as if she is like a
guy, if she can get your full attention fast, then subconsciously she thinks: "Oh, I have value." When
you can be normal around a very attractive woman, that's gonna get a pull of attraction.

• With RAS you know how to pull the social energy in your direction, and you also know how to make
people fight to get within your field of vision.

► The game the girls play is trying to get you to react to them, they're trying to get into your
RAS.

• Point is, people sustain relationships by focusing on what they get out of it. When the value changes,
what they focus on is subject to change.

• What you shouldn't take away from this is (DEAR GOD!) not that everyone is rationalizing against you
- that's a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can recognize what's going on but at the same time you just
chill and assume the best.



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The most liberatinp mindset:

Accept that the world owes you nothing, and in the end you'll
get back no more, no less, than you deserve.

• The world is a light place, so don't get too caught up in this stuff. Understand it, but don't focus on it.
Value Is Your Magnet

• When you have value, people will listen to what you have to say and they'll try to impress you in
conversation. You'll change the topic of conversatlon/venue/etc and they're Into It.

• People want to be in the warm end of the pool, not get kicked out. Want to be at the popular end of
the table, instead of looking over at it.

Situational Value / Subjective Perception

• Social value could come as a result of a specific situation. It's a form of value that isn't worth
anything on its own, but in a particular situation, as a result of the environment, is worth a lot. The
environment gives someone status they wouldn't have on their own.

► (Ex: Professor giving inspiring lecture, performer performing concert, guy throwing party at
his house, DJ, celebrity, bartender, etc.)

• This leads to situational confidence. If you know that you can anticipate a positive response based
on your environment, you're gonna feel confident. You assume value and when you know that you
have value, you will tend to be outside your head, when you don't think you have value, you will tend
to be inside your head. In the moment vs. micromanaging.

► When you are outside your head you are: enjoying yourself, acting in the moment, letting
your real personality come out, saying what's on your mind, being unaffected by how other
people react, being detached from the outcome of any one particular interaction, taking things
as they come, being fully present to what's going on around you and expecting that everyone
is your friend.

► When you are in your head you are: not enjoying the moment for what it is and saying to
yourself "How can I make this moment better?", "How can I get more
status/liked/acceptance/validation?" You are trying to change your personality specifically to
make people like you, feeling flustered by all the social things that you feel like you need to
be doing, being emotionally affected by other people's reactions, feeling like some particular
interaction HAS to work or you might not get another chance, trying to think a step ahead and
analyze how everyone will respond to you, being too stuck in your mind to even pay attention
to what's going on around you and feeling like you're being judged. Makes you feel:
unnatural, forced, needy, contrived.

The Best Way To Make People Like You:

• Just express your personality freely and let the chips fall where they may.

• This implies that you are secure with who you are and probably have the value to back it up. What
you're sub-communicating is so much more powerful when you can just be in the moment and allow
the words to come out, shows you aren't even trying.

► What you'll find is that anytime you go into your head to try to impress, you'll lose the girl.
Even if what you are saying is not as intelligent as if you had gone into your head to fish it
out, you'll still hold more attraction. You'll be saying nonsense and she'll be enjoying it, but as
soon as you go into your mind of some cool thing that you wanted to say to impress her,
you'll repel her.



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Reactiveness

• In any social interaction, one person's reacting more to the other
person than the other person's reacting to them. Always.

► They change their personality/act different to get your
acceptance; they analyze how they are taking up your
space and time.

• When you are having these types of reactions to people you are
giving your power away. People don't want you to do that,
everyone wants to be around the cool, fun, charismatic dude that
doesn't do that.

Core Confidence

• Whereas people with situational confidence will become inhibited and reactive when you put them
into a new situation, someone with core confidence doesn't depend on being in a situation. They
assume value all the time, they have core value as opposed to situational value.

• The reason why you should have core confidence is simply because people will buy into it. You can
see the glitch in the matrix, how other people are walking around and if you just appear a little more
confident than them, you'll have the dominant reality.

► "If you act like a rockstar, you'll get treated like a rockstar. "

• Anyone can understand how and why you should have core confidence intellectually, but to really
become a guy that's great with women, you really need to have that "click" in your head: "Okay, I
have core value." A lot of this seminar is how to create that click.

• This is about being able to be that same cool guy no matter where you are or who you're with. Able to
go into any environment and be the person who you're meant to be, not relying on any personality
shell or situational confidence.

Love

• When most guys get in, they want one girl. Truth is, you have to become good with women in
general. You have to get out of the model of the world where every girl you meet you're "failing in love
with".

• It's a big mindscrew when your 1^* girlfriend breaks up with you, and you want to get her back more
than anything, especially with SC, and many guys come into the community wanting to "win" their old
girlfriend back.

• What is love? Language is a weird thing in how it sometimes dictates our reality, instead of
describing it. In most languages, there are many words for many different types of love (brotherly
love, love for a father, love for a mother, infatuation, long term love, etc.) while in English it's just
"love".

► When you break the one word up and you don't have this one all-encompassing word that's
supposed to mean everything, then the self-hypnosis most guys get into is not so common.
("Forever" is the key word in self hypnosis.)

• A lot of people see love as having supernatural properties. (Ex: Only one soulmate for tfiem out there,
true love lasts forever, fate will handle love for them.)

► With the belief systems that there's these types of "powerful forces" at work, it's no wonder
people self-hypnotize themselves into wacky beliefs and emotional pain.

• Love is not caused by another person. It's a trance that you put yourself into caused by yourself.
As we loop our thoughts over and over around the concept of a particular person, our mind shifts the
way that we perceive them and suddenly everything makes sense - it's love. Our thinking makes the
person into someone they're not.

• A chode is walking around with a gap in his self esteem, gets to plug the gap temporarily if he finds a
woman. Mistakes validation or codependence for love. But you should be able to self-generate that
feeling -> a lot of guys are stuck in unhealthy-land, use the girl as a pillar because they're
disconnected from their own self esteem. Use the woman as a sort of situational confidence.

► The difference in Tyler's relationship is that he wasn't coming from a position of lack, and
neither was she. There was an offering of value there, like fueling fire, not codependence.




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When you first start talking to a girl in a club and you two hit it off, you may start to feel as if you two
have a connection. This is bad because when you were just having fun, she was giving you her "hot
guy" personality, but once you start to become outcome-dependent and she starts to lose attraction to
you, you start to lose state

► Get over it by: l<nowing that you do not l<now somebody until you've gotten to l<now them over
a significant period of time. Don't make judgments/assumptions.

Love is something that you experience everywhere. To become very good at picking up chicks,
sounds weird, but you have to get that spiritual side of you figured out. You become a person who
is independently happy, validated and amused.

► That good feeling, that validation most guys get when they have a gf - you should be feeling
that about the whole world, and once you do, then you can focus it on one person. It's no
longer needy/attached/codependent.



Full Circle




Player



• Sometimes you have to go on a
journey in order to get what you
really want.



Day 2



Identity

• A concept that relates you to and also separates you from your social environment. Your concept of
who you are and how you're different from people. -> "Here's what gives me a certain status
relative to other people and as a result I can act in all these different ways.", "I'm cool so I can act
cool."

• We are always processing our world through that little seed in our mind that is identity. What we
perceive, the way that we perceive it, what we think about other people, way
our emotions respond to other people.

• If you think you are down low on the totem pole and you meet a guy who's up
high, your experience of that person is gonna be a lot different than someone's
who's as high as him.

• There's nothing physically stopping you from being who you want in social
situations. We all have a construct of what a cool guy looks like, but we don't
give ourselves permission to be that guy. The only thing that's really
stopping you from being that guy is your sense of identity. If you don't think
you're the cool guy high up on the totem pole, then anytime you try to be cool,
it'll feel weird and you won't want to do it, like swimming upriver.

• Ultimately, your potential for social success is unlimited, but It's your identity
that's going to push you forward or pull you back. Anything that involves
elevating your status or going beyond the constraints of your identity, you will
block out that idea subconsciously. "That's not me."

• Most of your personality is arbitrary. It could have developed one way or another, depending on your
circumstances. You may think that you came up with your personality ("That's me, I can't do
something that's not me!"), but most of It at this point you did not come up with. -> When you were
young, did something and got validation, started to develop those personality traits.

► Although your core never changes, many of your personality traits have developed in
reaction . (Beta behavior, introversion, etc.)



You Can Be The Person Who You're Meant To Be



► The biggest thing is not to get too attached to what you believe right now. To grow and evolve
you can't be attached.

• Everybody has a good idea of what they deserve, including the types of women. When you believe
that you're on a girl's level, you're gonna behave naturally and you're easily gonna be able to create
attraction with that girl. When you think you deserve her, attraction is automatic.

► But when you're going into your head to relate to what she's saying or impress her, on some
SUBTLE, SUBTLE level the power's being given away.

• The core difference between guys who are dancing monkeys (entertainers) and guys that pull is that
the guys that pull know who they are.

Social Feedback

• You don't figure out how the world works on your own. You learn not to do a lot of stuff through 2"^
hand feedback - learning socially.

• On a subtle level, what we're doing all the time is looking how other people are reacting to our
behavior. Because we can read social cues, we can learn what is normal, permissible behavior.

► So if you were young while your identity was forming and you tried to step up and you saw
other people say "that's not permissible behavior", "That's not the right way to act" then your
mind goes "no, don't do that" - "don't act cool, don't act popular, don't be fun, etc."

• A great deal of your reality is unverified and second-hand . We don't have enough time to learn
everything on our own, so we learn to trust secondary info. We trust it based on how certain the other
person is of what they are saying.



Totem Pole




Cool




Guy




You



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• When someone has a lot of certainty about who you are, there's a lot of psychological pressure put
on you to become that person.

Imprints

• In your mind, you have a concept of what a cool/uncool person looks like, it's an instinct to know what
high status behaviors are.

• Your mind is always pinging to find out how you're supposed to act. In different situations you
act differently, depending on where your mind thinks you are on the social totem pole.

► These different ways of acting are called imprints. You use different imprints in different
situations. So depending on how people are reacting to you when you ping, you choose a
different imprint.

• Your mind lets you choose a different personality based on what it thinks people will accept/like. It
does this because for the first millions of years of evolution if you made someone unhappy they would
take a rock and bash your head in. Now you can do practically anything and get away with it.

► Yes, you'll get humiliated a lot and feel uncool since you're trying to be someone you're not
when you're working on your personality, but you won't get injured, you won't die . If you're
afraid of humiliation and discomfort, then you'll never grow.

► It's harder to willingly humiliate yourself then get in a fight for most guys because, while being
a manly man is part of your identity, being a dumbass chode is not.

• The mind has developed an emotional system that doesn't let you act above your range
because it wants to keep you alive. It gives you encouragement to access the confident part of your
personality, the "confident imprint" whenever you think you have value and gives you discouragement
from accessing it when you don't. You still have this system even though most of the threats it was
designed to help you avoid no longer exist. There's no risk of getting kicked out of the tribe and dying.
Now it's only "really embarrassing and annoying".

State / Nimbus

• Fancy word for confidence. You give yourself permission to be the person who you're meant to be.
When you're in state:

► A feeling of being complete,

► A surge of positivity, steadiness and dominance,

► A sort of naturalness where everything clicks,

► A feeling that you are the source of good emotions in the environment,

► A feeling of total abundance where nothing could go wrong,

► Your jokes hit and you can say anything,

• When you're out of state:

► A feeling of being incomplete,

► A burden of being weighed down, anxious or antsy,

► A sort of unnaturalness where everything is off-rhythm and ill-timed,

► You view other people as the source of good emotions (value scanning).

• Key distinction: you have good emotions and you don't care vs. you have no good emotions and
you're self-conscious. Your mind quiets, you're in the moment and you're totally outside of your head.

• Naturals tend to go in state more than regular people, it's what makes them natural.

• When you're in state, people's unconscious mind says: "this guy must have value, he must be the
shit". You're also communicating authentically, which is what people like - when you're coming from a
position of abundance, you have less need to be inauthentic.

• The problem: when you know about state you get self-conscious and try to force it.

► While on one level you can understand that state is liberating, state allows you to do what
you want, say what you want and it'll work great, on another level you have to have a
personal boundary : Never monitor whether or not you're in state, just go:

"If I'm not in state, I'm JUST GOING TO GO THROUGH THE

MOTIONS ANYWAY"



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Resistance



• Concept from eastern philosophy, a new emotion.

• Resistance is the emotion that you experience when you wish that the reality that is in front of you
was different in some way. It's the opposite of acceptance. Never resist tlie reality tliat's in front of
you, just accept it and take right action.

► Instead of: "Oh, I'm so depressed. I hate being depressed." do: "I'm depressed. I don't mind."
Creates space between you and the emotion.

• So the first gateway out of not being in state is just accepting. "That which you resist, persists."

Taking Right Action

• Taking right action is a muscle. We live in a society where the idea that [bad emotions are a valid
excuse not to act] is a good reason not to do something. Taking right action is like saying "This is
what is required to be done and I'm gonna do it regardless of emotion." You feel the emotion in your
body, but you just move forward anyway.

► It's like when you're drunk and the police officer asks you to walk in a straight line. You're
totally shit-faced, but you try, you just try. THAT'S LIKE WHAT MOST OF TYLER'S LIFE IS.

• The only difference between courageous and cowards is being able to walk through a fog of bad
emotions. Even Tyler doesn't take right action all the time, maybe 1/3 of the time, but most people do
it 2% of the time.



2 Qualities To Cultivate:

• Non-Resistance

• Right Action



Identity Criterion - State Thermometer

• There is truth to the idea that people in impoverished countries are happier than those who have
many luxuries. The reason?

► Someone who lives in impoverished may have less rules about when they allow themselves
to experience happiness. "I can be happy when I'm out dancing." Vs "I can be happy when I
have this and this and when I've accomplished this in my job, etc"

• What does your mind need to view yourself as a worthwhile guy? Your identity/entitlement criterion is
where your mind looks to reference how much value you have. (A.k.a. the rules you have to decide
whether or not you can go into state.)

• The "thermometer" that you use to decide whether or not you go into state is actually
programmable . Much of the programming you have in your thermometer now is done through social
conditioning. These are most of the ways guys chase after state:

► 1. Superficial Standards - looking good (incl. clothes, haircut), having a high status job,
making money or owning nice things. Society's unrealistic standards.

► 2. Alliances - friendships or relationships. When you feel guaranteed acceptance because of
the people around you.

► 3. Competencies - When you have anything that makes people want something from you.
Access/knowledge/expertise/jokes. Something the community has been based on for so long
- get in state because it allows you to feel you can provide the good emotions.

► 4. Roleplays - When the circumstances in your life call on you to assume a role.
Teacher/being around people of lesser status.

• These things are kind of like rules that you want to move past. Try going out not dressed as good or
alone to accumulate new reference experiences and learn not to depend on any external forces. Nice
clothes aren't bad - dress nice if you want to, but don't be limited by it. Move past it.

► It's letting that confidence come from within and not needing something else to be there.



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• Pickup lines. WInen a pickup guru wino Inas so mucin authority and social proof tells you "use this line",
your subconscious mind believes it, says "look at this, I have something to offer now." You say it with
confidence, in a way that conveys value, because you now truly believe that you have value.

CORE VALUE: The Final Criterion On State Thermometer

• IVIost guys spend their lives chasing circumstances, it's a self-destructive pattern. The problem is,
most guy's perception of the cause-effect relationship with these things is sinewed.

► Ex: Cool clothes. Most new styles were created by guys who have enough charisma to pull
them off. Hip hop clothes were first created by people who didn't have money, but they

decided it was cool and believed in it so much that it became cool. So rather than going out
and trying to get the perfect clothes, what if you said "I'm gonna make these clothes cool.
Own what I'm wearing." Anything that you have, you can make cool. Don't be the guy who
reacts to trends, be the guy who creates them.

► Likewise, most people are looking in a venue for friends/relationships, "When I have these
relationships, then I'm gonna feel confident." But in reality, core confidence is what brings the
relationships to you.

► Most people need people reacting to them in order to feel confident, but they don't realize the
cause and effect that when you are confident people react to you.

• The first layer of getting core confidence is the flipping of cause and effect. You can stop chasing all
the circumstances. It's not gonna happen right away. We're just planting the seeds here. If you don't
know how your old, outdated emotional system works, it all feels so real. Knowing about this
allows your core confidence to just sort of come out. And as you get more reference experiences your
mind starts to accept "This is the truth."

• Traits to cultivate to get core value:

► You identify yourself as an individual that can't be categorized, with a dynamic and flexible
identity that could evolve at any time that you choose.

► You know what you've been through in life and trust yourself to get by no matter what
situation you choose.

► You value your opinion of yourself more highly than the values and opinions of others and

you determine your own value by a criteria that is your own .

► You know that your acceptance in any particular situation is never a threat to your overall
well-being.

► You know what your best qualities are and that even if people don't see them or acknowledge
them, you know very well that they exist. (You don't need other people to validate that your
best qualities exist. Your state will not go down.)

► You know that you offer real value to people and if they don't see it, it's their issue, not yours.

► You believe that your life, perspective and energy have an inherent value whether other
people acknowledge it or not.



Guv With Situational Confidence



Guv with Core Confidence





You



• His roots, where he draws his state
from, are all outside of him.



He doesn't need the roots of his
confidence to extend outside of
him. It comes from within.



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Conflicting Realities - Anticipated Responses

• Whenever you do anything, you have an anticipated response. You can predict, so your sense of

reality is winat allows you to make predictions about the world.

► You have a model in your head about all the different cause-effect relationships. It's your
view of how the world works, how people are like and how they should respond to you and
your view of what you deserve out of life.

• "Whoever has the strongest reality wins." They'll tend to impose that reality onto the other people
around them. They have the stronger belief about who they are, how people should treat them, and
where they stand on the totem pole. It will suck other people into that reality, and people will begin to
treat them through that context.

► So while most people are always pinging to see how they should act.




...people with strong realities ping much less than others, and are less affected. They act mostly
the same in all situations...




• Ex: strong reality of a hot girl in a bar vs. a dude who gets a lot of girls:





Hot Girl Believes:




Cool Dude Believes:


►


1. I'm a hot girl.


►


1 . 1 have no shortage of options.


►


2. You are the next guy of the


►


2. I'm chatting you because I'm




night.




having fun. Girls are


►


3. You need




silly/adorable/fun to be around, and




validation/approval/sex from me.




I'm chatting you. That's it.


►


4. 1 am too hard for you to get...


►


3. 1 am totally fulfilled in everything.


►


5. . . .but feel free to entertain me if




1 have everything 1 need.




you like.


►


4. You seem cool, and if you turn








out different from the other girls, we








might hang out.






►


5. When 1 want something 1 take it,








but for now I'm just chatting and








having fun.



• How to tell who has a stronger realitv in an interaction:

► Who is Screening vs. Qualifying - who is trying/reacting more in the interaction? Can be
obvious (trying to impress) or very subtle (who is going into their head more and exerting
more effort?) -> There's no "tactic" for this. The self is always coming through. Ex: Even if you
are talking more than her maybe you're just in a blabbermouth mood and she's trying to
impress you by seeming aloof.



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► Who is emotionally affected by the other person's acceptance, and who would feel no

change?

► Who is losing their concept of what's cool and who feels no change?

► Who is changing the way that they normally talk in order to keep up and who is setting the
tone of the conversation? (Ex: White guys who start talking gangsta, "Yo", if around a cooler
dude who does it all the time.)

► Who would be having just as much fun if the other person wasn't there and who would feel
like they're getting kicked out of the wamn end of the pool? The ability to amuse yourself is
one of the most attractive qualities anyone can have, because it's gonna eradicate the
highest level of neediness and you're the party.

Being Unreactive

• By feeling good, you're not feeling that pull of neediness and it allows you to be unreactive.
Neediness makes you react. By not allowing your own behaviors and emotions to be thrown off by
the other person's reality, you are being the most unreactive.

• This DOESN'T mean being unresponsive or inexpressive. It's about being yourself, responding to
the world, but on your own terms. Another way of looking at being unreactive is acting through your
own intentions. When a girl tries to push you into the role of chasing/impressing her, you don't allow
that into your reality. You don't react to that as being a part of your reality.

• THE KEY: You stay positive, upbeat and being you, and draw her into that good reality and state that
you're in. "Not only do I not put up with negativity, I don't even realize that negativity exists, because
I've never seen it." -> It's outside of your reality, like trying to fit a square block into a circular hole.

Trust In Your Faculties

• Most people need to be told what to do by watching others, they do not have the muscle to go off of

first-hand experience.

• When a girl tests you (Ex: "Ew, you have a hairy back. That's nasty."), you have to remain unreactive.
Think about it - does the girl care about the actual aspect of you or does she really care about how It
affects you? If it bothers you or causes you to react?

► You only react to people you perceive as having higher value than you - would you be
bothered if a mentally 111 homeless person said "You're a meanie"?

► By reacting when someone criticizes you and keeping talking and convincing other people
that you aren't what they said, you are showing that the other person is obviously in your
RAS and high status to you. You're giving your power away when you react too strongly to
criticism.

► Basically it says "I don't value my own faculties highly enough to take my own opinion of
myself over somebody else's. I need other people to believe what I believe in order to make it
real. I value other people's opinions more highly than I value my own." You have no trust in
your faculties.



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The Formula: (Dominant Reality)



MOST UNWAVERING^^




• Whoever has the




/^CDXAIKIX\/ ^^^^^^

Certainty ^^^^


most unwavering




certainty and least






emotional reaction






to conflicting views




^"^^ LEAST EMOTIONAL


will tend to have




the dominant




REACTION


reality.









► Most people's views of reality are very subjective and always up for grabs, when you have
the dominant reality people will tend to look to you. Usually people are always pinging, while
a guy with a strong reality isn't (much):




...But as they start to accept the dominant reality, it gets imposed because of absolute certainty:



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■




...Most people are always looking to others and seeking out certainty.

• So if you believe that whatever limitation you have (looks, money, etc) is a shortcoming, then it is. But
if you believe that it's no big deal and completely arbitrary, then it's not. If you want to fix something
about yourself, then do it for you, but realize that it's you who decides whether it's an issue or not.

• When you tal<e a woman out, you have to bring her into your reality. Most guys have it
backwards, they try to think "what would she like?"

► She's gonna take a journey into many guy's realities and stay in the one that gives her the
most good emotions. Let her mess/play around in your reality, which is lOOx more exciting
than what every other guy is doing. That's what she wants.



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The 4 Pillars Of A Strong Reality

• 1 ■ Who you are. Your identity.

• 2. Your values. Taste/opinions. When you Inave tinese, you're not mesmerized by superficial
qualities. You become a naturally screening person.

• 3. Personal boundaries. Strong sense of winat's acceptable in your reality/what's not.

• 4. How you expect people to act around you. Whatever price tag you put on yourself is your price.

• Other Factors:

► How strong your beliefs are.

► How much your beliefs influence people to think and act how you expect.

► How little your beliefs depend on the people around you to reinforce them.

Strength Of Reality Is A Muscle

• The strength of your reality is a muscle - becomes stronger as you get more centered , as you get
more experiences.

• Just like a muscle, you have to break it down first by putting yourself into situations that test
your sense of reality.

► A man always has to be leaning into his fears, pushing his fears, or else he's stagnating.
Living on your edge.

• Progressive desensitlzation and GO OUT is the process to become a good PDA. Any night out
where you've accumulated new reference experiences is a good night. That's why you try the
difficult/challenging approaches, the ones that intimidate you.

• Imagine yourself in your most pimp image, when you feel best, and LAUGH AT IT . You have to
learn to laugh at yourself and let that image go. Let go of trying to control what other people think of
you. LET GO. Express yourself freely without thinking that you have something to lose.

► When you get shot down and feel humiliated, the big pimp image dies, so you learn to stop
looking to second-hand opinions to validate your sense of self. You stop self-seeking in other
people's reactions to you. "The more fire you blast onto you, the more it melts off all the shit
around your core. "

► With every inch by painstaking inch, you COME INTO YOUR POWER.



Coming Into Your Power

• You make internal and external distinctions when
you do this.

► External: what her reactions mean, what
you should/shouldn't say.

► Internal: Not being stuck in your head,
not sheltering yourself with existing
beliefs/assumptions, and being "in the
moment", dynamic. You learn how you
need to be in your head. What
thoughts you allow/don't allow in your
head.

• This is about where you are moving towards
on a day-to-day basis . Every day, you have to
ask yourself if you are growing and leaning into
your fears or not. (see diagram right)




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Masculine / Feminine Polarity

• Very attractive woman will respond to a man who has a stronger reality than her.

• lUlasculine polarity is your grounding amidst the emotional chaos. It is the magnet that draws
women towards you in the form of your deepest self esteem. Total trust in your faculties and ability to
determine reality. (Ex: not value scanning.)

► 1 . Acting only through your own intentions.

► 2. Being entirely uncontrollable and above manipulation.

► 3. Dictating the reality around you rather than being affected by it.

► 4. Being in the moment and walking through the world with ease.

► 5. Having absolutely no intimidation of the girl or the world whatsoever.

► 6. Tapping into the energy inside you, not around you, as a source of your mood.

► 7. Feeling no spikes or lulls of self esteem from any girls' responses to you. You might gain or
lose attraction, but it does not affect your sense of who you are.



When you go out, and you're thinking of some complex
explanation about what's happening, there's 2 words to

simplify it - HAVE FUN.



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Day 3



state

• Here's what to do if your mind is trying to block you from accessing state:

• Principle #1 : You are not your mind.

• You know what a cool guy acts like, because you can recognize one when you see one. There's a
manual in your mind, it's just that your mind won't let you access the manual.

► Imagine you're flying an airplane and your mind has the flying manual for it. It doesn't want
you to take off - it won't give you the manual - but you start down the runway anyway.
You're doing it whether or not you get the manual, like a crazed lunatic. So all your mind
can do is say "okay, okay" and give you the manual to stop you from not crashing.

► This is the same as when Tyler sees a group of girls he wants to approach. "Hmm. I can't
think of anything to say right now. Well, I guess that's going to be awkward." And then he
goes.

► Trust yourself. Force that snap. You don't want to sit there procrastinating and getting stuck
in your head. You want to be like that obnoxious guy to your mind. It's like going into the
ocean, you don't tiptoe in, you jump in. You will mess up every so often, take it as a reminder.

• The best guys can approach with NOTHING in their mind. They're just feeling. They're just feeling
good. This is counter-intuitive, because in almost all endeavors, your logic and intelligence is your
greatest asset, but in meeting women, thinking is your greatest weakness. When you're not thinking a
step ahead, it's cocky.

• 2 principles to get "unclogged". (Never get the "I ran out of things to say" syndrome.)

► 1 . What you have to say is valuable purely because it comes from you.

► 2. What you have to say is interesting, not because of the content, but because she's
interested in what you find interesting.

• If she finishes talking, and there's a silence and you go into your head to think of what you should say
- if there's that type of pause, then probably you're done. But if you stop and keep the tension ,
consider what she's saying, then probably she'll giggle because of the tension.

► You're not retreating into your little bullshit shelter of judgments, interpretations, labels,
comparisons, etc. It's a shelter for you from facing reality for what it is. You're not really
experiencing it.

Polarity

• Like a draw of attention towards you, a magnet. A woman's gonna feel it standing close to you and
either know it's attraction or rationalize it in some way.

• Congruence tests are so the woman can see that you are centered in your own reality, creates a lot

of polarity. Playfully brush them off.

► Another type is when she breaks the rhythm of the conversation and you hold it - get
attraction.

► (SIDENOTE: Advanced supplication - when you are acting indifferent in order to mal<e her
lil<e you.)

• lUIAN -> ACTION, GIRL -> REACTION

► It's why you can't get attraction just by simply reacting well to everything she does. You have
to be the one leading the interaction. She's following.

Chaos vs. Grounding Energy

• One big part of masculine polarity is being at home in the environment. "This is my house. This is my
environment. We're already friends."

► Carrying yourself with total confidence and even playful cockiness.

► Asserting that what you have to say is funny, interesting and worth being heard.

► Positioning yourself as already chosen by every girl in the environment, and you are choosing
the girl that you like.



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• Women draw their state from their environment, men draw state from themselves.

► This means: you can feel happy whenever you want, it's simply a decision you have to make
about where you want your awareness to go. (The limitation that most guys are under is that
SC tells them that constant never ending stimulation is where the happiness is.)

• Exercise: Shift your awareness from outside to your breath. Take a 4 second breath and feel it in
your hands, feet, etc. Stimulation can get you focused on "the little me" (and where you fit into it all),
but when you slow it down, your perception dilates and you feel the depth. Lets you feel good and
enjoy the moment, instead of overwhelmed. You can feel good independently and not look to your
environment for instant gratification.

► Another way to change your state at will is through your physiology. Jump up, clap your
hands, etc will make you feel happy.

• Consciousness vs. Self-Consciousness - Consciousness, us being aware of everything around
us, is a great gift. The problem is self-consciousness. When we're just conscious, that's when
everything flows. You can retreat into your mind to fish things out, but that's all that it is, don't be
always thinking about past memories or future projections. When you're having a great night, it's not
"I am the doer." It's "This is happening through me."

• The energy you need to get in state, you're not gonna find that by feeding off other people's
reactions. You bring it up from yourself.

► It's why guys use tactics - to get some type of positive response and pump their state up. So
when they get success they think it was the tactics, when it was really the state they got,
which they could have had anyway if they had the ability to draw it from themselves and not
the environment. Don't need tactics.

► In fact, Tyler believes that at some point the girl will withdraw lOls completely to see if you
are drawing state off of the environment. A dude who does will start reacting, attraction goes
down. It'll make you feel as if when you make one little mistake, the girl goes away.

• When you have a proactive social strategy (You act the same no matter what the social pressure or
who you're with, not reactive, you don't keep changing yourself for everybody.), you're mal<ing the
choice to be authentic and be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. And you realize that just
by doing that, it'll solve 99% of your social situations automatically.

Trust In Yourself

• You are responsible for yourself. Other than a couple close family members or friends that you may
have, who will help you, the responsibility is all yours.

► Your main responsibility is holding your awareness where it counts.

• If you're a business owner, you realize quickly that the people around you have the luxury to whine
and complain, but you don't. You can't blame people or take responsibility on anyone other than
yourself. When you're the leader, there is no one responsible other than you. If somebody else
screwed something up, you screwed it up . Personal responsibility and accountability is what being a
leader's about.

• Most people are constantly playing out all sorts of imaginary mental movies in their minds - about
past events or possible future scenarios and don't know how to be "present" to what's directly in front
of them. They're looking for a way to escape, mentally.

► It's future projections that create the anxiety. Think about it: the moment itself is perfectly

fine. It's so easy to do it when the road is perfectly in front of you and you're in the moment
and you keep your focus on it as it's unfolding. It only gets difficult when you think too far
ahead.

► You are like a plane that has a system where it can land by itself, all you have to do is
ALLOW it to. Then everything's fine. But say you start thinking into the future that you're
gonna crash and burn, then you start jerking the control. "No!" That's like what happens when
guys "get in their own way".

• Most of your thoughts are useless and repetitive. It's good to think when you are acting through
your own intention, (Ex: actively brainstorming, working on something, crunching something out, etc -
"It's thinking time.") But it's not good when you are just being compulsively drawn around because
you are not able to hold your awareness where it counts.



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► If you had a case of amnesia, would your past events still affect you? Then why should they
now? We can learn from the past, but. . .

• You trust in your faculty to carry you forward as the moment unfolds. You experience life more vividly
because you're free of all the distracting, useless noise who's only purpose is to bog you down.

► No matter what happens, you know that your mind will be presented with the right course of
action, not before, not after, but when and only when you need it.



TRUST

(in yourself)

► It's not a belief, it's an understanding. You don't have to keep telling yourself that you believe
it, no, you understand it. - It takes time to calibrate yourself.

► You don't think of the words, you allow it to arise out of you. (Being, not doing.) You're just
the intermediary; don't take credit for what comes out of your mouth.

• Read Ayn Rand - The Fountainhead + Atlas Shrugged.

Walking Through The World With Ease

• Core confidence, having a strong reality, acting through your own intentions, masculine polarity and
being present. When you take all of these and merge them you have WTTWWE.

• There's a certain way of walking through the world that is just a lot more natural. If you're in a
fun environment, merge into that. Don't resist it. It's walking with the current of the world, not
against/above/below it. Knowing you are just a necessary part of the greater whole.

► You don't attach your identity to anything. Not being rich/poor, your current circumstances,
etc.

► You can navigate the complexities of the world with the same certainty and understanding as
you could for just the most basic of facts, like the way you know the ground is stable and the
sky is above you.

► While most people are stuck in what they fear, whining at what they think is unfair, your mind
is dialed only for what's right in front of you. The way fon/vard is to exist in each moment. The
order of things as it is is fine, but at any moment you could just break out and do whatever
you feel like doing, not to impress anybody, but because you feel like it and it's something
that you enjoy.

• WTTWWE allows you to be self-forgetting . Conscious, but not self-conscious. Allows you to be
spontaneous, think of what to say at the right time instead of straining. More importantly, it's this
foundation that makes people want to look to you.

► This is not about a technique, it's something you are. It doesn't mean you can just not
approach anyone or not be social.

► It's not about egoic learning (where you read every single book and check them off your "tick
list" and think you're not a chode anymore), this is about signposts pointing you to a better
way of being.

• Being successful with women is one of those things where, once you "get it", you will look back in
utter disbelief that you ever found it difficult.

► In any type of success, there's like this "glass wall" between the haves and have-nots.

The Bearings That Make Your World Make Sense

• AKA your map/reality. Your view of who you are, what people are like and how they should respond
to you and your view of how the world works and what is possible.

• There are empowering/disempowering realities. In a disempowering reality, the person has their
world make sense to them and they feel comfortable, without achieving the success.

• "Success Barriers" - You think that you want success, but your mind has blocks that it has put up to
stop you from getting it. In getting any kind of success, the further that you push beyond what your
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• Ramifications of a new reality:

► 1 . The doubts that you have the mental energy to learn all the ins and outs.

► 2. The nauseous feeling that you're going backwards in your understanding of the world.

► 3. A sort of instinct that people might not accept the new you.

• Whenever you decide that your idea of reality may not be what you think it is, that puts you into
disarray - which makes your social status go down, so that's why people may have developed an
instinct to ignore outside input. It's better to be confident and wrong than uncertain.

► Having to reconsider your reality Is stressful on you, that's why when it expands so much you
either feel like you need to take a nap or you can't sleep.

• As far as your mind is concerned, your perception of reality does not have to be objective, it just has
to be accurate enough to keep you going and alive. Most people are not too concerned with
objectivity. Otherwise we'd be seeing all sorts of random particles and energies in the air that have
nothing to do with our survival. Flawed or not, if it's kept us alive so far, it's easier to go deeper into
the existing reality than deal with the headaches of thinking through a more complex view of reality

Strength Of Reality (Expanded)

• To make their reality stronger, what some people will do is link up one belief with another

belief. "Of course this is true, because before I did x, and tliat relates to y. "

► We are continually seeking validation of our existing beliefs. People want to find out they
were right all along, not wrong.

► Some people are not capable of having a shift in their thinking because you would be
threatening too much. If one belief turned out to be wrong, it was attached to a bunch of
others. So now they're stuck. This is usually what creates difficult people to get along with.

• So people develop blind spots. A guy who has strong beliefs and thinks he's god's gift to women
will have many blind spots and his state won't go down when he gets negative reactions, because it
doesn't fit into his reality.

► But someone who has weaker beliefs will have less blind spots. They'll see how people are
actually reacting, and are affected if it's a negative reaction. They are addicted to response,
total social calibration, and most people who have it get shy. Sometimes, they get creative
and come up with the perfect line for every situation, (if she says this/gives a certain reaction,
then you say this, and it's all good.) But if he doesn't get the reaction, his state drops.

► There are pros and cons to both. One dude of the first type could be socially out of step and
get blown off, other dude could get bad reaction, have a good comeback, and stick in.

• The "Third" Guv - He can see the negative social feedback, but not focus on It. It's a mix, redefines
our concept of a strong reality because it is simultaneously strong + weak. It's "be like water", you are
adaptable. A strong, but flexible belief system.



Reordering Perception To Preserve The Map

• People do this all the time.

• The ability to quickly sift through ideas and either take them on or reject them is actually a strength
and a skill. The more adaptable you are in allowing conflicting or paradoxical realities to exist in your
mind without being shut down by them, the more readily you can jump between maps, and where

other people would fall flat on their face, you will stand.

► &<: You know that people rationalize value, what's best for them, but there's also the belief
that you want to believe the best in all individuals , even see yourself in them. The people who
see everything through the lens of "The Selfish Gene", value, etc. tend to be so... empty. So
you have to hold the paradoxical realities in your mind without having to resolve them or have
everything make sense - because concepts are limited, they are not reality. (The map is not
the territory.)

• From an evolutionary perspective, your mind doesn't care if your life sucks. You're not gonna
die, so it doesn't matter.



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► Everybody says they would want to be the alpha wolf when asked, but being the alpha isn't
all only good. He has to expend more energy, is responsible for the groups survival, has to
hold down competition for the alpha role.

► When you raise your social value, you're gonna get conflict and haters. They hate that you
have success when they don't, so they find little things to focus on that are true, then blow
them out of proportion and rationalize hating you this way.

► So your mind does not want you to get high status. It's pretty good living being a beta male,
while being that outgoing guy you have to expend more energy. Your friends may not like you
anymore.

• Leader of Men vs. Wandering Nomad theory. There are 2 types of guys who get laid a lot. One is
the alpha, leader of men. The other is the wandering nomad - women seem to be attracted to guys
who have something genetically different about them, like an accent. The genetic reason for this may
be because they want to bring in new genes - it would have been good for the tribe.

Bootcamp Revelation

• Guys would go on program, get great results, and then bitch and whine later that they didn't do good.

► Why? If a guy's reality is that he's not good with women and 4/10 approaches go well, then
instead of focusing on the 4 that went well, he's gonna focus on the bad. Whereas a guy who
believes he's good may only do 2/10 and focus on the 2. Reticular activation system - they're
validating their map of reality.

• See the best in other yourself and see the best in other people. Cut yourself a ton of slack. When
you see the best in other people, you assume they are seeing the best in you. That becomes a part of
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Day 4



Success Barriersf^conf-J

• Success barriers means you think you want something, but if you got it right now you may not
be able to psychologically handle it. (Ex: Being president seems like a good tiling, but it would
mean not only having a few people ripping on you, but whole channels dedicated to it.)

► If you think a girl's more attractive than you perceive yourself as being, then you're gonna

become outcome-dependent and needy. If your unconscious mind understands that you'd be
devastated by being broken up witii, then it's gonna seif-sabotage and try to put you into a
situation where you wouldn't even get the relationship in the first place.

• But being in a position of high status is easy once you understand it, it's no more difficult than being in
a position of low status. In fact, once you've completely come into alignment with it, it's actually easier
than being low status and dealing with all the self hate and mediocrity that goes with that. It's getting
there and dealing with all the new headaches of social pressure is where the success barriers come
in.

• Put yourself into a position where mistakes will occur. (Ex: Tyler had to screw up several
relationships with hot girls in the beginning because he still had insecurities. But the important thing
was, he let himself get far enough to screw up - most guys won't even get that far.)

This Seminar Won't "Fix" You

• Just hearing "be in the moment" won't make you get it. But if you go out, you'll start to see the
connections between when you do bad and times when you do good, and in a year's time you'll be a
lot less in your head than you used to be. The ratio of time you spend in the zone that you want to be
in will slowly tilt in your favor.

• This stuff takes time. You may think that the destination you want to get to is great, and getting there
is the bad part - that's not really true. Life is about moving towards that core self and authenticity, and
the journey that you take to get there - that's meant to be enjoyed. Even if it's difficult, man, that's
your life.

Anticipated Responses / Assumptions

• Everyone has a reality of how they expect to be treated. How you expect the world to respond to you.
This is the core of natural game. You could really make an argument that this is what it's all about.

► 1 . Whether a person of your status can be expected to be treated badly or well.

► 2. Whether people are generally trustworthy or manipulative, friendly or mean.

► 3. Whether there's an abundancy or scarcity of people in the world who could like you.

• Ask yourself:

► Do I like myself?

► Would I hang out with somebody like myself?

► If I saw a guy who looked like me with a really attractive girl, would I be like "What's that
about?" or would I be like "Of course he's with her." (RSD calls it "when you believe that a girl
could like you just for you.")

• People are always doing things to cause their anticipated responses to come true. (Ex: A girl
who has low self esteem and her anticipated response is that attractive guys won't like her - will blow
off guys that approach her more than an attractive girl. She'll have behaviors that keep her model of
reality intact. A self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, a girl who thinks she's attractive who then
meets a guy who shows no interest is gonna start flirting with him.)

► Someone who believes that the world is a friendly place and everyone is his friend is gonna
have all these little behaviors that reinforce his reality.

• People are always trying to maintain their reality. They are trying to make their world make sense.
They're not willing to shake up their reality, they don't want to take on the new bearings. They're
maintain their reality by seeing everytliing through a lens. Take the fucking lenses off! Allow
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► People will go home believing The Blueprint, find an example that contradicts this program
(which inevitably you have to because the world is always shifting around), what a lot of
people do is say "No, that has to go with that principle I learned at The Blueprint." - but that's
exactly what Tyler is trying to teach you NOT to do. He could spend 4 years coming up with
the most accurate map, but it still wouldn't be reality. The map is not the terrain.

Self-Fulfillinq Prophecy

• When, by the strength of your beliefs, the reality that is stored up in your head becomes the reality of
your actual life.

• This happens because your mind is always seeking out evidence, even if it's obscure, to reinforce
your existing beliefs, and because of the confidence you have in those beliefs, you draw people into
your reality and inadvertently get them to act in ways that they don't expect.

► If you approach a girl and fully believe that she's friendly, of course there's a 95% chance that
she's gonna be super-friendly. You can tell when someone expects everyone else to be
friendly (ex: hot girl) to them vs. someone who doesn't just by looking at them.

• If someone tries to tool you, by calling you a smarty pants, etc - there's 2 ways you can interpret it:

► Many people interpret that being called "smarty pants" makes them feel bad. They lose a bit
of state and at some level, the other people can feel it and feel that they called you out and it
reinforces the reality in the other people's minds that they were correct.

► On the other hand, if you don't care, think it's fun, and you treat it as if it was a joke, it
reinforces the idea in the other people's minds that they were just joking all along. -> The
strongest reality wins, you don't have to have the best comeback or the better answer all the
time.

• Anything that you don't like in your life, you don't have to acknowledge it. You only have to
acknowledge the reality that you want and then the self-fulfilling prophecy comes to exist.

Micro Behaviors

• Things much more subtle than most sub-communication. (Ex: Like when you can look a girl in the
eye, and your eyes hold steady, shows you are not running through images in your head. You're
outside your head.)

• You CANNOT consciously control or understand most of these like you can with sub-communication.
You can't and you don't need to - it flows from state/within, and when you are flowing, it's all handled
for you automatically. All that you need to know is how to flow.

Congruence

• If you have full belief in the anticipated responses you know you're gonna get, that's gonna drive your
micro behaviors, and it's what makes you really, really good at this. You're fully assuming that what
you want is the reaction to be is gonna happen.

• Ex: When you're telling a story, you can make a girl laugh on the spots on the story that you want her
to laugh just by believing that she's gonna laugh. It's like this vibe.

Flinching (Or Retreating Into Your Mind)

• When you doubt yourself, it's gonna blow your anticipated responses. If you retreat into your head,
the great assumptions you have won't work. -> You'll come off as creepy.

• This knowledge (The Blueprint) can both help you or hurt you. Can help by letting you see the social
phenomena and do stuff you couldn't previously do. But it could hurt you if you're going through life
constantly asking yourself: "Do I have the stronger reality here?", "Am I retreating into my head? ...
oops, I guess I am."

► The solution is that we can look at it with a large scope or a much simpler one, which
is "HAVE FUN". When you're in the science lab, be a scientist. When you're out, be a
person. It's perfectly fine to teach and learn this stuff because it helps us, but if we're thinking
about it when we're out, that's only going to go against us. And isn't there a funny irony there
that in working to understand social dynamics more subtly, you could actually become less
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when you're focused on it too much. You have to be able to disconnect yourself from it when
you go out.

Giving Value

• If you believe that women don't enjoy sex as much as men do, if not more, then when you're calling
that girl over, you're gonna feel like you're taking value, like you're trying to trick her into something.

• Having a Inigin level of integrity as a person and knowing that you always offer value to the people that
you interact with is gonna allow you to come across so much stronger .



How To Fully Believe In Yourself:



Trust In A Foreign Set Of Bearings

• When we learn new bearings like now, we have not developed the reference experiences yet that we
could trust in them.

• The process

► 1 . You're learning the ins and out of how the new behavior works.

► 2. You're gathering evidence. Looking at what other people are doing and you're
experimenting.

► 3. You eventually get it to the point where you don't have to think about it anymore. You have

fully trusted in the bearings. Your mind has gone through the process and you now have an
anticipated response , new assumptions. This is called internalization .

• Internalization - the process of trial-and-error that you have to go through to create an assumption
that you never have to think about ever again. For something to be internalized:

► 1. You do it naturally.

► 2. You're in the moment when you do it, because it doesn't require any thought.

► 3. You never have to think about it ever again.

• Your beliefs/assumptions about what will happen if you approach a stranger are, unless you've done
it hundreds of times, second-hand knowledge. It's the same as jumping out of an airplane - you think
you know what would happen, but it's based on second-hand knowledge. Unless you really tried, you
don't know. But because most SC says that you can't, you don't try.

Newbie's Paradox

• A newbie, if he's not confident when he's approaching, is gonna get bad results/negative evidence.
The paradox is that, in order to get that unwavering belief, you need reference experiences in
order to believe it. But you can't get the reference experiences without the unwavering belief a lot of
the time.

• To have unwavering belief you have to get to a point where. . .

► 1. You fully assume that what you're gonna do is gonna work and...

► 2. You have to be totally indifferent to the odd times that it doesn't.

• ...That's how it's gonna be totally relaxed, natural and congruent when you approach. There's no
pride attached to it. It's just a funny thing to do, and you know that anybody else could figure It out if
they were to try. You can't make an identity out of it, believing that you can do all this stuff other
people can't. Don't make it a big deal - you shouldn't have this false sense of superiority just cause
you know how to approach women.

Ego Defense Mechanism

• Telling a newbie to go approach a woman is a lot like telling him to go walk into a wall. There's always
a little dip as he's approaching, that little bit of flinch. That self-protection. It's like dipping your toes
into the pond to see if it's warm vs. JUMPING IN. It's an inability to put your real personality on the
line.

• Ego Defense Mechanism - When you're talking to a girl and your unconscious mind will make you
flinch so that you can tell yourself: "She didn't reject the real me. She rejected the flinching me."



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The Halfway Point Between Fear And Total Belief Is

INDIFFERENCE



• You can't really go out and try to cultivate total belief as a newbie, because what you're gonna
get as a newbie is evidence that you suck. But what you can do is go out and get reference
experiences that it doesn't matter what other people think of you .

► Eventually, you cross something called the indifference threshold . It's true indifference,
letting go of the outcome.

• Confidence is communicating that you're successful with other women. The women's system Is
designed not to feel attracted to you if you're not confident. So if you aren't successful with
women, the system is designed to make you not get girls. It's designed so that you can't get confident
unless you really have what the women want.

► So what you have to do is essentially scramble the system. Pummel your brain with so many
reference experiences that the whole system overloads. You realize that you're still here after
getting blown out a million times, and then you cross the indifference threshold. And now
that you're indifferent, things change. (You go from stifled -> unstifled.)

► When your mind has the click "It's better to be this high value, fun, social guy than it is to
avoid attention and not infringe on anybody, the micro behaviors start to come in. RAS starts
to look at behavior of cool guys more.

• The indifference threshold is something that can be crossed very quickly. Don't try to be confident in
life, just try to be indifferent. Confidence will flow from that point.

Stifling

• When you're stifled, your mind is telling you: "Don't let your voice be heard past this range that is
permissible. Don't take up space beyond xyz range. Don't go interrupting
people, taking up their time and space. Don't do that"

• Stifling happens because, as you change environments you're not totally
certain of what that environment is (possible danger), so your unconscious
mind stifles you in. What happens is your voice is not totally unlocked. You
have to unstifle yourself.

► That richness in your voice is what she's responding to, that
unstifledness. (It conveys that you are comfortable in the
environment at a deep level, unconcerned with taking up space.)

• How to get unstifled and cross the indifference threshold:

► First realize the law of inertia is acting on you. An object at rest will stay at rest unless acted
upon by an outside force. If you're just sitting there with your buddy and then you see some
girls you want to approach, you don't have any momentum. So you need to BE that outside
force to get yourself unstifled.

► To get unstifled you have to do something that's out of character, isn't really you an expands
the energy, time and space that you're taking up.

• 1 ■ The Imitation Game - Imitate something that's not you. (Ex: Lion, crocodile, toaster, rhinoceros, t-
rex, whale.) The club social pressure is pushing down on you, and the club can get on top of you, or
you can get on top of the club.

Social Vibinq

• Logic is the opposite of emotion, they flush each other out. When you're vibing with people and trying
to be to logical, that can break the vibe - Logic is a vibe-breaker. The idea is that socializing and
vibing with people is an end in and of itself. If you're feeling like you have to prove yourself, that's not
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• Emotional states are addictive. Someone wino's addicted to positivity winen you bring up a negative
topic won't focus on it, they'll change the subject. But someone addicted to negativity will play off of it
and explore all the negative ramifications.

► The more often that you access an emotional state, the more synaptic pathways your mind
creates in order to access it again and again.

► Memory is also state-access dependent. When you're unhappy, you'll remember unhappy
memories more and vice versa.

• Why Tyler reads books is not only to get the info that's in it, but to get the presence from that author,
get him into that zone.

• The new social habits that you get from going out are maintained. You don't go back to being
introverted, stuck in your head, logical right after you stop going out.

Logic vs. Emotion (cont...)

• If you're used to being an engineer or computer programmer and you're doing logic all day, a lot of
the time when you go out to that social gathering, you feel alienated/disconnected from the
environment. You see people playing around and you're still trying to compute it.

• A logical conversation is very linear, so you're thinking very linearly - topics that are logically related.
Vibing is not linear, you're just expressing yourself outward. You're shooting images in-between each
other's heads that amuse you and therefore amuses her back. (The value is fun.)

Side Belief: Sex is a natural consequence of chemistry and therefore an inevitability. It's a way to cement
a moment and blow off steam.

Unhitching From Social Conditioning

• You have unhitched from your old identity and the easiness of social conditioning.

► When you're in newbie/intermediate phase, it's like there's a hole in you, an
anxiousness/uneasiness that makes you crave validation and more reference experiences to
reinforce your reality. You want to keep living in the reality because, in abundance, your state
goes up. So you get addicted to reinforcing your reality. (Approaching every girl, getting "pick
up" friends, researching it for hours at a time.) You can't relate to your old friends as much,
because they're stuck in the old reality. So you keep pushing the reality and start to develop a
false self , instead you want to find your centeredness.

• Being a chode is easy - it doesn't require an expenditure of energy, you could go through your whole
life without anybody insulting you, humiliating you, and you won't have to push your edge.

The Concept Of "It Didn't Worl<"

• There was a point in Tyler's life when he was a teen and going through a rough time and thought, "If I
just had X and y and z, then I'd be happy." Then a couple months later he had all the conditions he
had said would make him happy, but it didn't work.

► Think of how celebrities feel when they have all the fame/women, but they're still unhappy.
Because if your conditions are bad, you can blame them, but when you can't blame anything,
you start to feel nuts.

• Later he lives on beachfront Hawaii, nymphomaniac gf, RSD going fine, perfect day and everybody's
happy, but he's not. Thinks "I have arrived, so why am I unhappy still? What the hell is going on
here?" True insanity is when you get what you want, but you still have not become the happy person
that you expected.

• What happens is that you develop an ego - like your "pick up persona" that you need to "put on" in
certain situations in order to get love and respect, and it starves real self esteem. In the same way
that a chode feels the need to show other people his watch, when you learn about social dynamics,
you feel the need to show people your more gregarious self.

► If you've developed a lot of shells around your core personality, then you always feel like you
need to be doing something and controlling the frame, find it difficult to just chill. You feel this
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Ego vs. Self-Esteem

• Society has got most people so fucking scattered, going from stimulation to stimulation. They don't
even realize that confidence and feeling good about yourself is a default state .

• The difference between ego and self-esteem:

► Self-Esteem: you're born with it, it's indescribable, self-sustaining.

► Ego: A rational construct that we come up with as a substitute for self-esteem, when self-
esteem becomes wounded at a young age. Getting status, making money, pulling girls -
allows us to logically see why we should have confidence.

• On the surface, ego makes sense. -> "If I don't have anything going for me, then why should I feel
confident?" It's rational. We come up with reasons why we should feel confident even though it's a
default state.

• There's a very freaky epiphany that happens when you realize that happiness is your default state.
Means that there's been no real purpose to all that you've done in your life. Start to question "Why am
1 doing this if 1 could just feel happy independently?"

• You used to have self-esteem, but at some point in your life you were wounded. (Parents told
you not to talk to strangers, not talk loud, social conditioning hits you with "the path to happiness".)
Kids are sponges, soak this in, and...

► What eventually happens is that you don't feel you can be confident just for you
anymore. You feel disconnected from the tribe, not a part of it. Your mind can't just let you
stay that way, unconfident, so it says "What are some logical reasons why 1 can feel
confident?"

► So you start comparing/differentiating yourself from other people. (Self-esteem is based on
common humanity, and ego is based on separateness/differentness.)

• The ego is false because we don't have perfect memories, we twist them more positive/negative so
we can make an identity out of them. Your ego is never as accurate as you think, it's just this little
fake construct that you've made.

► It seems big, but really it's like a little grain of sand stuck to your eye, that's the filter through
which you see the world.

• The ego is made up of:

► Logical evidence : "1 got this girl, this one, that one."

► People's opinions : You try to "find yourself" in other people's opinions.

► Rationalizations : "This person's such a dick and the only reason other people like him is
because they're stupid." Everybody has a story (connected to other stories, etc.) to come up
with their sense of self.

► Comparisons : Life is about the unknown (no one knows where the universe is, whether
we're actually alive, what happens when we're dead, etc.), but what the ego does is it tries to
shelter us from the unknown through labels/judgments/comparisons. Tells us "I know the
environment" and tries to shelter us from the very frightening truth that we are constantly in
the unknown. Our mind says "we have to find a context ."

• Human life is absurd in that we create relationships, do amazing things, all to eventually die. Life will
end. Ernest Beckert: "The fact that someday we're gonna die leads to a denial of death where we can
begin to view the world as an arena for heroism. "

• The ego always wants to kick the next man down so you can show why you're better. Because it's
always looking for context, it has to show that you're more real/tangible. "1 want to be the best."

► It leads to looking your whole life at the surface of things and not the depth. A life of running
around, trying to figure out who you are, to heal that wound.

► But you later realize: "The more personal the wound, the more universal the wound."
We all have stories: "This happened to me, this is my identity", but look at all these girls who
like me, the good responses I can generate.

• The ego is unsustainable because you always have to have reference material to validate it.
It's a black hole that creates neediness. You need evidence that those old wounds don't matter
anymore.

► Are you shaping your reality from this desperate feeling of lack or are you doing it for the
sake of right action? To feel the flow of creativity or to deny the unknown?



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• The now is the only moment there ever is - do not seek happiness in the future, it's now. The way
that you feel now, this is it.

► We're taught from an early age to go to school -> high school -> college -> job -> and when
we retire is the glory. Like a "deferred life plan". We're always taught to measure/grade
ourselves and get to the next thing, get to the future .

► Once you realize, yes there's a future, but this moment is it, then the concept of time become
irrelevant. There's no real use for time.



The Result Is Antl-Cllmatic



• The result can never be as good as the doing. The now. If happiness is default, there's no difference
when you get something. It's ail the same thing. Offering value to people is the best thing you could
ever do.

Value Givers and Value Takers (Tyler's "Method")

• Whenever you're operating through the ego and you're trying to get someone to react to you, that is
taking value. When someone is trying to self-seek by manipulating your reactions, you can sense it.

► But when you're authentic and you're just offering value, it's amazing how people will

respond. Don't make your criteria for success "how they responded". Your only criteria is you
put yourself out there and were true to yourself, just said what you though in the moment.

• Whenever you're just trying to add value, that's an attractant. Take value = repellant.

• The Formula: Everyone is unique, that's their inherent value. And since we have a socially created
reality we always enjoy interacting with people. But if they're giving you knowledge in order to
generate reactions, that's not really giving you authentic knowledge/perspective/vibes = no value
giving.



Offering Value and Self-Amusement

• Self-amusement - you say things that'll pump your own state, not like most other guys who are
thinking "What will she respond to best?" Say things you find funny, even if they're ridiculous. As long
as what you're doing amuses you.

• When you're bringing the party, she's interested, when you're trying to wedge your way into her party,
she's repelled. Emotional state is your full cup. Your centeredness is your value to a woman as a
man.

Ego (cont...)

• Ego starts with the wound at a young age, and you rationalize your identity/uniqueness is that, BUT
IN REALITY WE ALL HAVE WOUNDS.

• You have to accept both your good and your bad. Accept that the more personal it is the more

universal it is, and you have to accept the wound.

• It's when you can look past the surface/glitz/glamour, look past that and realize that we're all human,
there's a click that takes place and you become comfortable in your own skin.

Authenticity

• Everyone was born fine, happy, but them something happened that moved you away from that. But
you can re-find that self-esteem.

• Anything that you think that is bad about you, without self-esteem, is an embarrassment, but when
you have self-esteem, they're endearing quirks. The self is always coming through.



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