m Turns every conversation to him or herself.
? Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs.
y Ignores the impact of his negative comments on you.
y Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you.
y Focuses on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his own behavior.
y Expects you to jump at his every need.
y Is overly involved with his own hobbies, interests or addictions and ignores your needs.
? Has a high need for attention.
n Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases and is flamboyant, loud and boisterous.
y Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can’t handle criticism and gets angry to shut it off.
y Becomes angry when his needs are not met and throws tantrums or intimidates.
n Has an attitude of “anything you can do, I can do better.”
n Engages in one-upmanship to seem important.
n Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming.
n Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him.
n Isn’t satisfied unless he has the “biggest” or “best.”
? Seeks status. Spends money to impress others.
y Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today.
n Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration.
y Threatens to abandon you if you don’t go along with what he wants.
n Does not obey the law—sees himself above the law.
n Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines.
y Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings.
m Tells you how you should feel or not feel.
y Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions.
y Is more interested in his own concerns and interests than yours.
y Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his own.
y Wants to control what you do and say—tries to micromanage you.
n Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own.
y Has poor insight and can not see the impact his selfish behavior has on you.
y Has shallow emotions and interests.
n Exploits others with lies and manipulations.
n Uses emotional blackmail to get what he wants.
n May engage in physical or sexual abuse of children.