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- Common App Topic #5: Discuss an accomplishment or event, formal or informal, that marked your transition from childhood to adulthood within your culture, community, or family.
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- I grew up learning to rely on myself. Growing up in two countries, three states, and four cities meant that I was frequently placed into new situations without any parental guidance, and because of it I took pride in making my own decisions. My parents were overprotective in the sense that they had a path and goal set for my life; basically, get good grades and become a doctor. I chose all my classes in high school myself- I have never taken a subject I didn't want to learn, and I have chosen STEM over medicine, which my parents have respected.
- During freshman year, I learned about the annual school blood drive. Driven by a desire to do good in the all the ways I could, by all the means I had, I was excited to put myself out there, donate my blood, and make a difference in other peoples’ lives. The first obstacle was realizing that I had to be seventeen to donate. Oops.
- The second, encountered at the beginning of this school year, was my parents’ adamant refusal. I don’t understand why I felt the pressing need to inform my mother of my commitment to donating blood the next day, but as I set my lunchbox down on the counter, I blurted it out.
- She set down the vegetables she was washing, slowly, calmly. She turned around, and told me very clearly, “No.”
- I ignored her and went up to my room, convinced that her heart was simply as stone-cold as the face she had shown me at that moment. I was in the right; I was being a good person, and she was worrying needlessly over some one-in-a-million complication.
- My parents had a very long and serious talk with me that evening, demanding that I not do it. No, not really a talk. They talked. I refused to speak to them.
- I gave blood the next day. On the ride to work, I hid the bandaid with my sweater. My dad didn’t say anything. On the ride home from work, my mom knew I had given blood. She said the color had gone out of my face, and I sat in the backseat, refusing, again, to speak a single word.
- I received no words in response that night; not even a reprimand. The next day, I received an email: “Anne, you can make your own decisions now. We cannot stop you anymore.”
- I was terrified. I considered myself independent, and I placed full confidence in my ability to carry out my own affairs- or at least that was what I told myself. When I received that email, I realized that all along I had been hiding behind my parents. As a child, I could justify anything I did as fulfilling something my parents wanted out of me, placing it all behind a guise of self-reliance. What this one email told me was that I couldn’t do that anymore. The responsibility for my actions would be mine alone to bear.
- It was liberating. What changed with that email was not so much how my parents treated me, for they have always afforded me a degree of independence in choosing my own fate. What changed was how I began to evaluate my own actions. Now, I find myself considering carefully the consequences of my actions- who will this affect? What will it change? Is that really what I want to happen? I used to have a problem with speaking too much, but now, I speak deliberately- I consider what my words will mean and what they may set in motion, and as a result, my friends have begun to trust me more.
- The idea of responsibility terrified me then and it still scares me, just a little. But it is freedom too. The freedom that as long as I’m doing what I really want to, I can do anything.
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