https://puu.sh/tp1mY/648febfd78.png https://puu.sh/tp1ok/b308bc82c0.png Please help with this. I don't know what to do, i'm just getting out of something bad myself, I definitely don't know how to help with her. Just don't make it obvious I came to you or sent you those. This just started like 30 minutes ago.


Serephenne - Yesterday at 10:53 PM
Alright
Stephen - Yesterday at 10:54 PM
Ok, thank you.
Serephenne - Yesterday at 10:56 PM
I don't think she will talk about it without being directly asked, but we'll see
Stephen - Yesterday at 10:57 PM
I'm sure you could just ease her into it. Like something along the lines of "how are you feeling" or "what's up". Although you are more clever than me, so you can probably think of something better than that. But do whatever you feel is right.
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Stephen - Yesterday at 11:20 PM
She's just sent me a song on Spotify. Were you able to make any progress with her?
Serephenne - Yesterday at 11:21 PM
I dunno, it's up to her really
I didn't talk about it too long, tried to suggest some things she could do instead
that she hasn't finished
Reminded her about some games and stuff she's been looking forward to, etc
I told her to find some music that makes her feel positive and make a playlist
so
maybe she is trying
Stephen - Yesterday at 11:25 PM
Alright, it seems she might be as our discussion is going more towards music and how it is good for being relatable and that type of stuff, so hopefully she's at least trying.
Serephenne - Yesterday at 11:26 PM
Yeah, there's not much else to do once they are done talking about it
suicide is an escalation, really
It's just depression that isolates itself from other things
the more they think about it, the more hopeless it seems
so
it's really other people's job to distract them
anyone who says they want to commit suicide is very serious about it, but it's very rare for them to WANT to be dead
kind of confusing but
it's kind of a passing feeling
She just needs to be distracted for long enough
and maybe the next day won't be as bad
Stephen - Yesterday at 11:30 PM
Yeah, through personal stuff and through what she has shown me, it is really a feeling that comes in and out through bouts. I'll keep all this in mind next time she tells me about these feelings, since it's better than anything i've ever come up with. Thanks.
Serephenne - Yesterday at 11:31 PM
Well hopefully she keeps the playlist thing in mind
The problem is most people like this don't have a plan in place
and there aren't always people to talk to
She has to learn stuff to do when this happens and she's alone
I think that's the problem
whenever this happens I think she just lays around thinking about it all day without doing anything
Stephen - Yesterday at 11:35 PM
Yeah, that's something that usually happens with people who have these feelings, and she always is offline for the whole day before coming online and telling this to everyone. That's something which she'll have to try and fix, by getting her in patterns of doing something else like the playlist, or perhaps something else whenever she is like this. Without her even thinking of doing something like that to help too, it just happens naturally.
Serephenne - Yesterday at 11:36 PM
Yeah, unfortunately she has to learn the warning signs herself
and act first
cause we can't do that for her
but I don't think she's against the idea or anything, I just don't think she thought about it
so hopefully
since I mentioned it, maybe she'll think of it next time
Stephen - Yesterday at 11:40 PM
Yeah. Even if it doesn't get to her this time, if this happens again and she doesn't do anything to counter it, it should still be mentioned then. It appears to have worked as she's off doing something on Spotify, so hopefully it'll work the next times this possibly happens until it just sticks in her head to do it herself, how ever long that may take.
Serephenne - Yesterday at 11:42 PM
Yeah, it's one day at a time
If she was planning something tonight, at least maybe she has something different to do now
Stephen - Yesterday at 11:44 PM
Yeah, like she said in those messages I sent, she might have self-harmed tonight, which is bad of course. This hopefully will keep her busy and she just forgets about that.