.snow: so you're not sure about that xd
.snow: mr. nazi cat
.snow: or
.snow: katze
.snow: ok katze broken again .-.
.snow: *pokes* yup broken :c
.snow is now Online.
.snow: atleast talked a little
Raconteur: sorry
Raconteur: my mom called me
.snow: oki
Raconteur: well
Raconteur: i'm actually a bit worried right now
Raconteur: so
.snow: what happened
.snow: .-.
Raconteur: we talked about my dad with my mum
Raconteur: recently we have discovered he is unable to talk to us
Raconteur: like
Raconteur: isn't really looking for our company
.snow: ;/
Raconteur: but we can't really tell this to him because either he won't listen or if he does he instatly starts bringing up other stuff
Raconteur: which is only true from his perspective by the way
Raconteur: and my mother was making jokes about
Raconteur: maybe i'll post something into the newspaper like 'looking for an entertaining partner'
Raconteur: i know her that much it was a joke but eh
Raconteur: i don't know it is unnerving
Raconteur: then i got a call from my instructor because i had sent a text message it would be good if we drove a bit this week as school is starting on thursday which means i will be available significantly less
Raconteur: she called me back and then proceeded to tell me school is about to start for you but also for everyone else so she can't promise anything because she is going to be away on tuesday wednesday and is not sure that she'll be able to come on monday either
Raconteur: so essentially it's never good for her
Raconteur: and i still 20 lessons
Raconteur: need*
.snow: well about driving lessons
.snow: its usually like that
.snow: from what i heard from my classmates
Raconteur: even though my mother and her are good friends and she told her she would teach me how to drive by september
Raconteur: you know that's also my experience but keep hearing the otherwise from others
Raconteur: i guess it boils down to the person but still
.snow: and about your dad thats really hard topic i dont know
.snow: are they getting mad at each other or somthing
.snow: in house
.snow: or just avoiding
.snow: each other
Raconteur: well the thing is
Raconteur: they fight a lot
Raconteur: but fortunately my mom is not the rebellious type
.snow: are they  fighting over some small things like unwashed dishes or stuff
Raconteur: she can put up with a lot of things but she said she would get extremely bored if we (her children) weren't around
.snow: because if yes you could help minimize these situations
Raconteur: mostly about things like when do you get home and where do you stop on the way
Raconteur: these are things i can't supervise
Raconteur: but the root of the problem is my dad isn't interacting with us at all
Raconteur: like
Raconteur: all he does is housework
Raconteur: and then that's all he talks about
Raconteur: says things like 'you'd be all pretty sorry if suddenly stopped ironing your clothes and stuff'
Raconteur: but again
Raconteur: the problem is with the quantity
Raconteur: we have so many clothes you can literally never finish ironing them
Raconteur: and for some reason he's obsessed with cleanliness and can't stop
Raconteur: and you know if you want to do these things a lot
Raconteur: it takes time and this time is deducted from the time he should spend with his family
Raconteur: and i haven't heard this before but my mom also mentioned he complained previously about his children not talking to him
Raconteur: it's because it's extremely hard to scratch a sentence out of him
Raconteur: because he is either working or just doesn't feel like talking
Raconteur: because he is watching tv
Raconteur: and that's usually what they are fighting over
Raconteur: and i'm not afraid something is about to happen soon because it's been like this for some years
Raconteur: but i think my mother's tolerance is waning
Raconteur: and rightfully
.snow: if its like this for years then i dont know how to help
.snow: ;/
Raconteur: it's just becoming more of a sensitive issue
Raconteur: also
Raconteur: my dad also makes this worse by acting like a martyr
Raconteur: that consists of
Raconteur: saying no one is there to help him which is quite the opposite it's just he never asks for help
Raconteur: and describes things different to the reality
Raconteur: for example he goes to these aikido trainings which is good because it helps him to relax blahblah
Raconteur: there were 2 occassions when he shouldnt have gone there
Raconteur: these were
Raconteur: when we had guests and my mother had to cater for 9 people on her own
.snow: oh myy
Raconteur: so obviously she'd rather have him home
Raconteur: and when she returned from work after 3 days
.snow: well now i dont get him at all
Raconteur: and then he announced he's off to training
Raconteur: so they hadn't spoken for 3 days
Raconteur: yet here's the kicker
Raconteur: my dad constantly says that your mother doesn't like that i go to these trainings but that's the only thing i do whereas she often goes out with her friends
Raconteur: which is because he doesn't entertain her any way
Raconteur: they haven't gone out in 2 years i think
Raconteur: or if they have i remember it was like my father's minority complex kicked in and couldn't enjoy the evenings/balls they had attended
Raconteur: because they were organised by the hospital my mother works at
Raconteur: they also confronted each other during holiday
Raconteur: like
Raconteur: my cousin's day is also like this but his wife is a little bit different
Raconteur: like a little bit strange
Raconteur: daydreams all day
Raconteur: and their children don't get along pretty well with each other
.snow: poor cat :c
.snow: im sorry i cant help
.snow: marriage wife kids