Hi, Treasure - my name is Stephanie. You've probably never (though there's a slight possibility) heard of me, but I've heard of you a few times from someone I used to be friends with, Chris.

First, I'm soooo sorry for the long message.

I wasn't going to make mention of my dealings with him to you but I was convinced by my friend to make mention or at least provide a type of warning of how he grossly overstepped his bounds recently.

I've known Chris since I was 17, I'm 25 now - we first met playing an MMO quite a few years ago. I'd recently gotten out of a relationship and he sensed that. At the time, as a young girl still in high school and him being a grown man then, I did become to like him. He flattered me constantly and even claimed to love me quite quickly.

If I'd have been older or maybe of a less naive and friendly nature, I wouldn't have put such presedence in his words. In any case, that's so far in the past I won't mention it much.

Out "relationship" was brief and not of any sort of strength as I quickly learned of his controlling nature. I'd not known him for half a year before I found out that he'd keylogged my computer in order to see if I was speaking to any other guys -
This was the first of many things he's done. I only mention it because I realize I should've stopped talking to him right at this point. But I'm overtly nice and trusting and believe in second chances - if I'm this way, I believe you must be this way too as this is the type of person Chris tries to attach himself too.

In any case, I was warned several times by people in this MMO that I ought to not speak to him any longer. But I felt guilty, I wanted to maintain a friendship and so there it went for several years we maintaned some form of contact.

Through his threatening suicide if I were to no longer speak with him and his trying to convince me not to work when I got my first job as he didn't want me speaking to anyone else.. This all lead up to late of last year.

We didn't speak as much as we did. I was contemplating meeting him - not in any sort of relationship aspect but those plans continuously fell by the wayside as I was adamant in my resolve that we'd meet solely as friends and anytime he'd mention it, he'd speak on it as if it was romantic in nature - I kept delaying the plan as I felt it wouldn't be entierly safe for me to meet someone who is tone deaf to my wanting to solely be friends.

In any case, I dated a few people through that time - the "mistake" I made was friending someone who I was interested in on Steam late October of last year.

Chris asked about him. We were at the time only friends and only really met once or twice. Under no provocation, Chris created a facebook account and his primary motivation was to make it so this guy, Arl, would no longer be interested in me -
Chris started an account under the name of Jennifer Johnson. His primary goal in doing that was to become friends with Arl and see any of what I'd post to his facebook account.

In time, Chris, acting as "Jen", tried to insert herself into my friend Arl's life. He began messaging Arl sometime in December of last year and continuously told Arl that "she" liked him and wanted to be with him. Arl was adamant that he was "talking" to me and wasn't interested in anyone else but Arl is also a nice guy with a trusting nature so he remained friendly with 'Jen" as she did message him constantly and primarily spoke to him about video games.

In any case, Arl and I started dating in January. Chris became desperate and added to his story - he claimed to live in my city in Florida, near where I live and requested that Arl visit his "house" mulitiple tmies. He claimed, as Jen, that "she" lived on her own, worked at Spencer's (a place in the mall) and that her mother had died and her father also did. Obviously, these were objectives to gain sympathy from Arl as he began talking to "her" less while we begin dating.

Sometime during the begining of our time dating, Arl asked if I knew Jennifer - as she did say she lived near me. I had no idea who she was, she'd friended me as well but I denied the request, not knowing who she was. Arl said Jen said she was in love with him and wanted to meet him but that it was making him uncomfortable.. Arl's primary line in question was to see if I was trying to "set him up". I vehemently denied this, I would never do such a thing and that was the last time we spoke about "jen" for several months until April of this year.

Slight blip, but after the conversation with Arl, I spoke with Chris. He'd done something of this in the past where he, playing my character on another MMO we'd played, spoke with a guy I was friends with and tried to provoke him into flirting with "me" as evidence that I was "cheating" on him - again, Chris and I never met or had any sort of romance.

In any case, I asked Chris if he was pretending to be this Jen girl - he blew up at me and said quite a few things about how I could even believe him capable. I believed him, I really could not wrap my mind around any person stooping so low to doing that.
So, "Jen" was unsuccessful in breaking up Arl and I during those months so he began to become more drastic. He'd continuously comment on Arl's FB status' and pictures about how hot he was, etc.He left messages om Arl's steam about how amazing he was, how he missed him, etc.  He'd message him vulgar things while Arl and I were hanging out ( all of which Arl would show to me in a WTH nature).

In April, Chris made mention of Arl playing games all the time with Jen. Let me make mention of this. Chris, pretending to be Jen, made a Steam account "Jennyliciuos" t o play games with Arl. He bought games he already OWNED under his own account in order to continue the facade. He spoke with Arl on voicechat and altered his voice to that of a woman's. And to not arose suspicioun, he would play games with Arl as "Jen" and -then- ask me to play games with "him".

He would play games with both Arl and I silmultaneously. . that's how far his facade went.

In any case, in April, Chris began to try to make me doubt Arl's monogamy in that he said he spent all his time playing games with "Jen". I did not care one jot, it was videogames.. not sexual relations and I trusted Arl and still do.

Our relationship did end in any case and Chris rejoiced. He tried to meet again, which I turned him down as he continuously referred to it as dates and asked if I'd be willing to spend a night at a hotel with him (of course not).

So that brings us to now, Arl and I started playing games together. We had no contact as anything but friends. Chris saw that Arl and I were playing (borderlands 2) on Steam. . he then logged onto the Jennyliciuos account and began to talk to Arl and question him about me. and if he and I were together - Arl hadn't spoken to "Jen" since August.

After "Jen" came back into the woodworks, this went on for several weeks. As "Jen", Chris would stay up until well into 4 or 5 am in the morning (he did this earlier this year as well) to support his cause that Arl was spending all his tmie with Chris and not me. (Chris mentioned this to me in April in a bid to have me convinced of Arl's "cheating" ways)

Here's the odd thing - Arl and I broke up in April but Chris continued to pretend to be "Jen" as late as August and commented on Arl's pictures ssaying he was "hot" and "sexy" as late as June, I'm not sure of his motivation.

To wrap this up, Chris began to pretend to be "Jen" - unfortunately for him, he'd made a friend while pretending to be "Jen" on Steam. He confessed everything to her, he trusted her - but she was friends with "Arl" as well. This woman tried to convince Chris to cut it out and be truthful to "Arl", Chris claimed he was going to fess up - however, as early as two weeks ago he admitted to trying to, -again-, lead  Arl on so I would not date him but instead be with Chris. This again is insane, after Arl and I broke up, I began dating someone else ..  I showed no interest in Chris. In the end, this woman on steam, Nuro Firefox I believe, spoke with Arl and sent him copies of the conversation. Arl then sent me the copy, I was so angry I could not stop shaking  and crying - I told my mother, my family and friends and all are convinced that I should take action so that Chris can no longer contact me again (he knows my address etc, he researched it after having my home phone number for a time - though I've blocked him from all social media, Steam, his number, etc)

I did confront chris. He admitted to it but made no apologies.. He proceeded to cry and claim it was due to my breaking his hart and making him feel so suicidal that he thought there was no harm in his actions. Even during that conversation, he claimed to "love" me and that no one else would feel as strongly for me as he did and that all he'd tried to do was "make it so he (arl) didn't like me anymore" or " try to make him admit to wanting to be with "Jen" so you would break up and be with me" or "He (Arl) doesn't deserve you, I'm the one who really cares for you"

This is my main reason in contacting you. I'd be glad of him if he's made a friend. He mentioned you to me quite a few times and his motivation may have been jealousy but I was pleased that he'd found a friend as he always spoke of being lonely.
However, I don't wish for you to discontinue a friendship with him. Chris is fine as a -friend-, I do think he has some mental health
issues that are unresolved as those are not the action of someone of right mind. I didn't want to pry into you alls friendship and I'm not eevn certain if you're as close as he claimed - but if you are, I can only suggest that you not give him an inch.This wasn't the work of days, Chris pretended to be someone else for nearly a year in an effort to control me and my relationships with other people. This w asn't the work of a jealous teen but a nearly 30 year old man.

Everyone tried to warn me to not let him into my life and to cut him off..

I only wish I'd done so as this whole episode has made me question my very nature. I've never had my trust so shaken before.
I'm sooooooooo sorry for the long message! And I think it's fine if you don't respond, I'm not entirely expecting a response but my friend suggested I'd feel guilty if I didn't at least "warn" you - as I was warned as well and I only wish I'd have stopped and listened. I do feel a bit lighter but I feel terribly guilty in putting someone in a seemingly horrible light but I'd feel even worse if another girl went through what I went through

Thanks so much if you read alllllllllllll this - and I wish you the best