Falling in love with your submissive

Falling in love with your submissive


The fear is that after falling in love with your slave you will go soft. At the beginning everything is new and shiny and with the excitement of a new relationship it's relatively easy to let your instincts loose and be fully dominant.

As times goes by feelings may change however. If the match is right, emotions develop, commitment deepens, investment, materially and emotionally, broadens. What started as an intriguing girl, attractive, submissive and exciting, turns into a compelling woman, which fills our heart with respect and awe. So much so, that there is a risk that the balance of power will tilt in favour of the submissive, such is the deference the dom may feel towards her.

This is where it can go wrong. The sub, whether consciously or unconsciously, will sense that the dom is so besotted with her that she now commands the strongest position. For a submissive this is ruin, precisely the kind of situation where she doesn't want to be in. If the dominant doesn't rein in these dynamics quickly, the end will soon come to be.

There is another possibility however. That those very feelings of admiration and respect will fuel the dominance of the dom. This is the boat I find myself in. If I fancy her I want to grab her by the hair. If I'm in love with her I want to incarcerate her in the darkest and deepest dungeon of my castle. If I'm besotted with her God have mercy on her soul.

Love changes us and I will argue that with the right person you become more of who you are. You have a white cheque to be yourself, instead of trying to accommodate yourself into someone you're not because you sense the real you won't be accepted. With the right match, you become more dominant and more submissive. You delve deeper in your path and how wonderful that feels. You become petrol for each other's fire. Falling in love with your submissive may be the best thing that happened to you.