SELECT object_name, cntr_value
  FROM sys.dm_os_performance_counters
  WHERE counter_name = 'Total Server Memory (KB)';

SELECT object_name, cntr_value
  FROM sys.dm_os_performance_counters
  WHERE counter_name IN ('Total Server Memory (KB)', 'Target Server Memory (KB)');

-- SQL Server 2012:
SELECT physical_memory_kb FROM sys.dm_os_sys_info;

-- Prior versions:
SELECT physical_memory_in_bytes FROM sys.dm_os_sys_info;

EXEC sp_configure 'max server memory';