cass

Her: :-/

Me: ?

Her: Things.
And stuff.
Stuff and things.

Me: what's up buttercup

Her: Well since you ask, Don and I are on the rocks.    No geology pun intended.

Me:how bad?
what happened?

Her: Like ..done bad.
Long time coming.  Lots of communication issues...lots of me feeling alone in my attempts to make things better....and Don not realizing he was being a jerk I until it was too late, and I had exhausted all emotional investment in us.

Me: no chances of possibly working things out or anything?
i love you guys and..
counseling, couple therapy, etc.?

Her: I stopped feeling any romantic love for him about half a year ago, give or take
I doubt any therapy would fix that bit
Wtf
Stupid phone

Me: could dig up how/why those feelings stopped. i remember how you'd talk about him and stuff. i've never been a believer in that flames can die. can always be rekindled, just gotta find the kindling.
you were always one of those couples that were completely in love and it showed...

Her: I know...
And even when we first started dating, there was shit about his personality that I hated so much...but I loved him, and I thought he would chsnge, or we could work together to help him with stuff
And just... 3 years spent trying to get him to help himself... When he didn't seem to give a shit...its exhausting

Me: yeah. i've had friends like that.
too many

Her: I told him that until he gets his own shit together...I don't see how he could have a healthy relationship... Let alone a marriage
Maybe we did jump in too soon. I dunno.

Me: wouldn't be the first couple, if so. won't be the last either, sadly.

Her: Yeah

Me: i dunno
i think i'm biased a little. i love you both and want to see it work. but if it can't, it can't and y'all gotta do what you think is best for both of you.

Her: Yeah

Me: i know you wouldn't do him like elle did me, though.

God no