Letter thing

Mr. Xxxxxx,
I wish it was under better circumstances that I write to you. As I am sure you are aware, my son xxxxxxx, was the recent subject of bullying on the part of XXXX, XXXX and a student named XXXX (last name unknown - did not attend the same elementary as my son). I wish I could say that the school's interventions thus far have satisfactorily resolved this matter, but I cannot. These students told my son:
1. That he is gay.
2. That he is fat.
3. That he is retarded.
4. That he is a pedophile.
5. That he smelled like cum.
6. That he has the lips of a dick sucker.
What a way to treat an Honor Roll student, let alone any human being!
Not only have I had the displeasure of discussing the ills of society with my 11 year old child, I had to field questions from him regarding homosexuality, pedophillia, and why in the world anyone would ever want to put a penis in their mouth. Wonderful Holiday season conversation!
In addition to the past abuse, my son now tells me that the bullying is still going on, “even after the Dean had met with them". Now XXXX and XXXX are calling him a “tattle-tail” as well as talking about him in his presence as if he does not exist (E.g. “Hey, you know that XXXX kid that used to be in sixth grade…”). It appears as though the interventional steps taken by the school did not have a substantial impact on the perpetrators of this abuse as it has continued.
I do not advocate violence, especially with my children, but if this continues unabated I cannot fault my son if he were to react to this continued abuse in a physical manner. I have taught both my children that violence is a last resort used only in self-defence and that 99% of all situations in school can and should be resolved by speaking with an adult or even directly with the other person that is involved. What do I tell him if talking or telling an adult doesn't resolve the situation? Should I say “Sorry kiddo, I guess you should just ignore it - words can’t hurt you”? But we all know they do….as many tragic juvenile suicides have shown. I will not raise my son to be weak. He will stand up for himself if the school system doesn’t support him. Please do not let it come to this.
XXXX was bullied in 4th grade in a very similar (yet not as graphic) manner. In the end the kids apologized and even became friendly with him in the end. I think this may be a better solution than whatever the school has done thus far.
I expect the following to be done:
1. I expect all three children to apologize for bullying XXXX. The time, place and method of the apology is up to you, but it needs to be made directly to him. Privacy is not a concern in doing this as the kids are already known. It is however, common decency.
2. I expect a response to this E-mail in writing as well as by telephone to include reasoning as to why I was informed of this by my son, but not by the school. Did the school consider this an insignificant event?
3. I expect these children to be referred to the schools counselor to discuss this very specific situation. Bullying itself is an indication for a need of services of some sort, but moreover, the crass and descriptive nature of the abuse warrants some discussion (maybe ask them where they heard these things discussed before).
4. Due to privacy concerns, I do not expect the school to detail the actions taken with regard to the abusers - but I do expect my son to tell me he received 3 apologies.
5. Lastly, I expect the school to take substantive action to drive home the message that these students did not grasp from their previous meeting with the Dean on this issue.
Nothing I have detailed out in this E-mail is extreme or out of balance with the offense. The abuse and bullying must and will stop immediately!
Thank you for your attention to this matter - I eagerly await your communication.