LexicatToday at 6:36 PM
hi
why are you messaging me?
JadedKittenToday at 6:37 PM
Because I wanted to know what you think I have done wrong.
LexicatToday at 6:38 PM
You raped Iris.
among other things
JadedKittenToday at 6:38 PM
How do you figure it was rape?
LexicatToday at 6:38 PM
well
she broke up with you prior to the event and you specifically asked her if sexual related things and sex were ok
her answer was "I haven't decided" which is a removal on consent
then when she overdosed on a drug that has ataxia and other mental state reducing effects on overdose
you had sex with her when she was not in a position to consent
and while you maybe have done these things before
prior consent was removed
as such, you raped her and the evidence after mounts very highly of this
JadedKittenToday at 6:40 PM
What evidence?
LexicatToday at 6:41 PM
her account of things after when you talked to her about the event
your persistence in harassing her about it
the fact that literally the event
itself
is enough evidence
but you keep tyring to convince
her it isn't
like
emotional blackmail, harassment, abuse
I could go down the line
JadedKittenToday at 6:44 PM
I didn't harass her.  What I did to her wasn't harassment.  Talking to someone when they don't want to be talked to is not harassment.  I needed to say things to her, whether she wanted to hear them or not.  Just because I am saying those things, it is not harassment, although I do acknowledge that it still isn't nice of me to have done that.

I have abused her in the past, yes.  I feel bad for doing those things, and will try to correct myself of those behaviors.

What do you mean by emotional blackmail?
Yes, I have done that, as a part of my abusing of her.  We are just toxic for each other.
LexicatToday at 6:46 PM
When someone tells you they don't want to talk to you and you continue to yell through a door and message them
that's harassment
JadedKittenToday at 6:47 PM
No, that isn't.  They have the choice to respond or not.
I only had to say things that maybe she didn't want to hear, but I wasn't harassing her.
As for the rape, there are some things about the situation which I don't think you understand.  I do acknowledge that what I did was wrong, and I will be more careful in the future, but this was not rape.  I made a poor judgement, and violated her boundaries.  Rape is a very loaded term, and implies things about the situation which did not happen.(edited)
LexicatToday at 6:50 PM
if you have sex with someone who cannot consent and that situation was not consented to prior it is rape full stop.