Katee: we need to talk
Katee: I have a lot to say right now. There’s been a lot of issues in our relationship lately, and It’s making it hard for me. IMVU is an escape from my RL situation and stress, and everything with you lately is causing me stress and anxiety and it’s uncomfortable. Before I go on though, I do love you. You are my daughter and that has not changed, but there are things that need to. For everyones sake. I’m taking a page out of your nana’s book, and being blunter then I normally am, so bear with me.
Katee: It's a lot, so Im gonna put everything slowly, but please respond after, alright?
Annxlyn: okay.
Katee: Firstly, since I joined the new family, you have been a lot more active. Maybe you were on before I joined them and just on DND, but I have seen you more in the past couple of weeks that I had for the past 8 months of so… I know it’s exciting having a new family and new relatives but there really hasn’t been much mother-kid time except when we got those photos or you were mad at Vaz (which I will come back to). We’ve all noticed some attention seeking behaviour with you lately. Whether it be with your grandparents, aunts, your brother or even Geer, you want to be in the spotlight. Maybe it’s subconscious but it’s obvious to us.. You veer towards the ones that give you more attention to, like Mim and Nicole. It was really difficult the first couple days after introducing you.
Katee: I’m not sure I you noticed my silence or not, but I felt like I couldn’t even get a word in because you were always demanding there attention in some way. When Johnny finally got back on, you stole all his attention to the point where even he was questioning it.. It’s hard to be in a room sometimes with you because of that. They are my parents afterall, I do deserve some of the attention.
Katee: Secondly, there’s been a lot of going behind my back. Whether it’s what you did with Mia to get Nate to cheat and show his ’true colours’. Or talking to Johnny about our issues & comparing them unfairly to my relationship & the issues /w Nate. You and Vaz and my issues /w that were NO where near the same as Nate and I and your feelings towards them. If you have a question or a concern about something I am saying or doing, come to ME. Not your brother. If you think we are talking about you in the GC, ask me. There’s no need to sneak behind my back to ask him. It’s not fair to put him in that position, nor is it right.
Katee: Thirdly, and this is going back a bit.. but I need to get it off my chest. Mia, the twin and bestie I’ve never even met before. How is it that I’ve never met my daughters twinnie??? Or that you got her without even consulting me and seeing if I was alright with it? Same with the godmother thing.. I specifically said I wanted to meet her BEFORE she became your godmom, but I never even met her once. At that point, I hardly saw you as it was, why was there a need for a godmother at all?
Katee: You post appreciation posts on your story saying things along the lines of ‘I can tell you anything’ but the truth is I barely know what’s going on in your life. I don’t know your friends, I don’t even know who this Eli person is and suddenly you two are together? I know comparing you and Johnny isn’t far, but with Johnny, I know what’s going on.. If he’s not active on VU, He’ll check in. I know he’s got a third date soon with that boy, but I don’t know what’s going on with you. And it’s hard on me always wondering.
Katee: Onto the Vaz thing. Not gonna lie, that whole situation pissed me off. How it was handled from the moment you two started flirting right to you being pissed at him. That was HALF of why I was so against it all. Vaz/Shane is family and you dont get with family. And yes, I know neither of you wanted a relationship, but still look what happened. Shit got fucked up and people got hurt, which hurt the family. It should neve have happened in the first place. At all.
Katee: Lastly, the silly thing that still bothers me. My sex life with Geer shouldn’t be a topic of conversation brought up by you or Johnny unless something is wrong. It shouldn’t be joked about. The earthquake jokes aren’t funny and make me pretty darn uncomfortable. If we got silent, just ask us what we’re doing, there’s no need to say ‘they’re doing the nasty’. We’re grown up, in a healthy consensual relationship, and except for the shit I post on my IG, which isn’t even that bad, We keep it all private.
Katee: I know this is a lot. I know you probably disagree with a lot of it. I know this could turn into an argument, and honestly; I half expect it to. But it all needed to be said. That’s all I’ve got. Whenever you are ready, you are welcome to respond.
Annxlyn: give me a few minutes.
Katee: ofc
Annxlyn: For starters, yes it's true that i've been more active the last few weeks since you joined compared to 8 months ago. It's not you, it's me. I have been active when we first met for a few weeks to months even when you were w/ Athena. After that, I had problems to deal w/ like personal family problems & my mental health. you also know the situation w/ Ani which didn't help me at all. That’s my fault. I guess after meeting the new family I wanted to be around them more to get to know them for you & just got used to coming on so often. It’s not a good excuse, but it’s the truth. When you invited me to chat after feeling like I’ve been neglecting you for the family I tried to put more effort. Effort into making time for you & talking to you more than the family. You have to know that. I’m sorry if I seemed to tell you about my problems w/ Vaz & you feel I only come to you for that, but that’s untrue. I try to message you outside of vu but I’m not really active on insta like that because I have school & work to put first. As for the attention, I have to disagree on that. I am not seeking for attention on purpose at all. I’m sorry that it seems like I do but I’m not. If it seems like that it’s because I talk to those who are speaking to me or try to. I apologize if it seems like I’m taking the attention away from you or Johnny. It’s not intentional.
Annxlyn: Secondly, you’re right I shouldn’t have done the Mia thing without asking for your permission or letting you know beforehand. That’s on me. I only talked to Johnny about my feelings about everything because he’s my brother & I trust him. Along with, I was angry & pissed off about what went down. You’re right I shouldn’t have compared you & Nate’s relationship to mine & Vaz. It’s not the same & it’s unfair to do so. You’re also right on coming & talking to you about it like an adult instead of talking about it w/ Johnny & behind your back because what I did was childish & unfair to Johnny. I only asked about the gc thing because I was curious & it didn’t seem like a big of a deal to me to ask Johnny about it.
Annxlyn: Thirdly, the twin/Mia thing. Yes, you’ve never met her but she was always on when you weren’t & etc. I should’ve introduced you to her by instagram & that didn’t cross my mind. I’m sorry. As for getting her, I thought it wouldn’t be a problem. She was not going to be apart of our family as we both had different families. As for the godmother, I shouldn’t have gone ahead & get a godmother w/o asking you first beforehand. But the godmother was Mia’s mom not someone I randomly picked. As to why I wanted a godmother, I didn’t because like you said I was rarely on. Mia’s mom was basically my god mom so I thought it wasn’t a problem to call her that.
Annxlyn: I’m sorry you feel that you don’t know anything going on my life. Hardly does anyone else so it’s not just you. I’m busy & I’m not like Johnny. I forget to check in & that’s my fault. I didn’t know you needed to meet my vu friends? I thought telling you about them was enough. Me & Eli are not together like that. We are only best friends & close. I appreciate wanting to check up on me & be involved in my life, but you forget or don’t know I have my walls up. People leave & I lose trust at least once a week or so. It’s hard for me to open up. I try to be okay & all that bs so you don’t have to worry because I know you’re handling & going through enough already. Don’t need mine added on top.
Annxlyn: As for the Vaz situation, yes everyone warned me & told me it wasn’t gonna work out & etc. I’m sorry you didn’t like our relationship w/ each other. It was my misunderstanding of our relationship & I overreacted without clearly understanding it first. Yes, Vaz may be family to everyone else but not to me. He’s my friend & someone I talk to. As for the never should’ve happened thing. There, I have to disagree w/ you. Me & Vaz acting friendly w/ one another or acting “family” like was not going to work out in the first place. It would eventually escalate if I’m being honest, but I apologize on my behalf of what went down between me & Vaz that impacted the family. Wasn’t meant too. If something ever happens or anything we’ll keep it to ourselves.
Annxlyn: Lastly, I am super sorry if I made you uncomfortable about your sex life. I didn’t know & you should’ve told me from the start. I never want you to feel uncomfortable. I won’t joke about that anymore. In conclusion, I’m not at all that pissed nor do I disagree w/ most of it only a few. Overall, I’m completely tired. School & work drained me the past few weeks, but I’ve been laying low about it. I had to study hence why I was gone for a week & some days. I sincerely & genuinely apologize for all the issues & feelings I’ve caused you to feel these past few weeks. Hence why I’m going to say this. I think you need a break from me. My presence has affected you in ways I never wanted you to be. As for me, I’m going to lay low & give you the time & space you need. I need a break too since I’m completely tired & I’ve been feeling alive, but dead inside but we will not indulge into my problems.
Katee: That’s why I said it was probably unconscious and while you disagree, Im not the only one noticing it.. It’s all of us. I get that you trust Johnny to talk to him about that stuff, but Johnny has been through quite a few siblings because they went behind my back, betrayed my trust or something else. It’s hard on him to be put in that position, once again.
Katee: It’s not about meeting them, you really don’t even tell me about them. I didn’t even know Mia existed until she was suddenly your twin.. Same with Eli. I didn’t know about Eli until you posted a photo on IG (or maybe it was IMVU feed, but one of them)
Katee: I get having walls up, I do. But it’s been a YEAR, over a year now. How much longer will it have to be to get you to see that I don’t plan on going anywhere? It’s the half-assed relationship, no offense, that is gonna push me away. I want to be involved, otherwise what’s the point of having a parent on here, having a kid on here?
Katee: I am pretty much useless when it comes to my fathers health IRL. There’s no much I can do, so helping you kids out makes me feel like im doing something right.
Katee: As for Vaz, I am still 100% against it. That will not change. He may not be family to you, but he is to me. And if something happens, It will complicate shit whether you try to avoid that or not. It is/was completely avoidable, but you chose not to. And that’s fine, but just don’t expect me to be happy about it, alright?
Katee: This kind of conversation is EXTREMELY difficult for me. I’ve been going through a panic attack for the past hour. But it’s not just you, it’s with anyone. I hate confrontation, but it’s unfortunately necessary. Bringing up my issues is not easy for me both IRL and virtually. If you feel like you need a break by all means, that’s perfectly fine. I just hope we can fix these things, because I cnat keep doing this. I know you aren’t Johnny, but I just want a bond with my kid, without constantly wondering what’s going on in her life…
Annxlyn: I did tell you about Eli not much, but I talked about her before I posted a photo on IG.
Annxlyn: I'm not gonna betray your trust or anything like that so don't worry.
Annxlyn: well it's a half-assed relationship maybe I should just leave.
Annxlyn: if^
Annxlyn: & I'm sorry if it's difficult for you to confront issues.
Katee: You really didnt tell me about Eli, until you posted something on your story and I questioned it.. The only one of your friends you actually talk to me about is Kacee..
Katee: I have no worries about you betraying my trust o.o
Katee: and it feels half assed lately because you dont tell me much. Less then you used to
Katee: I get that you've been hurt before, and you dont want to get hurt again
Katee: But so have I. Putting walls up like that just helps to keep out the love too..
Annxlyn: well I don't have the time.
Annxlyn: you're always leaving me on seen so I don't feel like bothering you.
Katee: If I leave you on seen, it's usually by accident. i'm terrible at responding.
Annxlyn: I'll keep that in mind for the future.
Annxlyn: I hope we can be friends for now until I'm okay w/ everything again.
Annxlyn: I'm going to see a therapist because the baby & etc has been tolling on me for awhile.
Katee: I think that's the right move to make
Annxlyn: yeah.
Annxlyn: anyways have a nice night :)
Katee: You too hun