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I feel like she's a completely different person when she's angry she doesn't really admit being in the wrong and I feel like I have to apologise for everything every time we argue and it's not just that we planned to spend time together tonight and I feel like even when I tell her what she's done wrong she doesn't want to acknolwedge it or apologise until things get blown out of proportion and people's feelings get hurt and even then she still won't admit that she did anything wrong rather that she made me upset not the why behind it I don't know what to do anymore I'm tired can you help me
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yes i can
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may i ask for ur age
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20
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ok
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we've been together for almost 2 years now
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what r ur arguements based on
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i guess time spent together
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but these issues pop up
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regardless of the argument
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regardless of who's in the right or the wrong
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so would u say u guys dont spend much time togther
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no
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we do spend time together
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and one of youse get frustrated
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today she felt like i wasn't trying hard enough when we were talking
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but I was
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as much as I could
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and it still wasn't enough
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it made me feel like I'm not good enough
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oh thenif she makes u not feel good enough
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why do you still go back to her
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because when she's not annoyed at me things go really well
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and we were tgt irl for the first year and a half of our relationship
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what is so special about her that you cant let go
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but now we're LDR temporarily
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mhm i understand
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at least until the end of next year probably
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so it's tougher now
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we didn't really havve these types of problems when we were properly together
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whenever she gets angry at me she also decides to just ignore me until she's cooled off and resolved things on her own, but I need to be able to talk things through in order to resolve things on my own end
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but I feel like being in an LDR lets her do that when it wouldnt be possible irl
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mhm communicating is key in a relationship
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exactly
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but I feel like I can't communicate with her when she's angry
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whether it's because she won't listen to me
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or whether it's because she's ignoring me
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it really upsets me sometiems
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i would say jus leave he
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her
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she isnt worth ur time
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sad
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srs if she does this a lot
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its a sign u should leave her
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but I feel like a lot of it is my fault too
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sigh
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why would it be ur fault
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do u aggravate her
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i feel like today at least
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i told her i wanted to spend time later
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so she had dinner and all
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but then i had to have my own dinner right
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so she had to wait for me an hour or so
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yh
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why were u solate
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idk i feel like I could have gone faster right
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i guess
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if she waited for an hour
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it shows u arent commited
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but I told I was having dinner
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and dont care for her enough
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I feel like she could have been doing other things in that time
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rather than waiting for me
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true
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but since she loves u
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shell wait
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no matter if u told her
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I know :'(
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so if shes angry now u know why
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so then when it came to actually spending time together
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ur to blame partially
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so fix up
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we were calling right
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this is gonna sound incredibly dumb
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yh
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but we were on video
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and she basically set it up in a way we couldnt really talk face to face
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and her justification was that
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she waited long enough
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yh
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so she didnt want to
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but i feel like thats self sabotaging
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because it prevented both of us from being able to have a quality convo
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and then it basically spiralled out from there
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was she upset
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not at first
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she found it funny
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thats why u couldnt see her
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i could see her partially
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she basically set it up that she couldnt see me
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but i could see her
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and that made me sad
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oh
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how can she not see you
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she basically set me down facing upwards
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while she was doing stuff on her laptop
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and not really trying to talk face to face
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and i know she could have
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cause we were playing a game together
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and i had her set up like that
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yh
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but she was spiting me from before
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and i felt like that wasnt necessary
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was this the day u left her waiting
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yeah
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why dont u make it up to her
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somehow
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because i would have been fine with it
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to show her how much she means to u
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if she hadnt said that i wasnt talking enough
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do u talk enough
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sometimes i dont admittedly
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but this time i genuinely was
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aww so she should see
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but she didnt
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then she stupid
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im sorry
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and even tho im in the wrong i still dont think it was right for to act like that when she's angry
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but people do lash out in different ways
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so u have to understand
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but it keeps happening
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and I've told her it upsets me
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she justifies it by saying
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then this must be toxic
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that she doesn't wanna say something she'll regret
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if she tries to communicate it through
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yh igu
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sigh