There is a priviledge there though... if you pass, you're less likely to be beaten in the street, assaulted, fired for being obviously trans.

These people could take off the dress and not face that, but they don't. Because they're not a man.

The way you think is really fucked up. It's a little creepy almost? It's like after you transitioned, you became one of those cis people who somehow thinks trans people are coming to "take away" things from them. Do you not have the empathy to look back to when you were transitioning and put yourself in their shoes?

Imagine being your past self just as you started transitioning and someone told you that regardless of how you felt, you were still a man, and how lucky you were that you could just take the makeup off and be a man. How would that make you feel?