i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:07 PM
OK give me some advice here
Say someone wants to start a new rp with you
And you're kinda hype about it they set up a server
And without asking you they invite someone to handle rng stuff during it, someone you don't like
What do you do
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:08 PM
And it's for sure not a bot?
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:08 PM
They can see everything
And they're still in the server
There's no role restrictions
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:09 PM
Maybe ask them, 'hey I am not comfortable with people seeing my RP posts in regards to -insert name here- I know they're you're friend, but I am not comfy, is that okay?'
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:10 PM
PFFFFFFFFT This is not going to be a fun conversation
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:10 PM
No, usually saying it to someone isn't usually fun. Specially if you don't know them that well
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:11 PM
Because me not liking the person is sort of new?  As in when I get home from vacation I'm not doing anything with them again, when I got home the first time they were passive aggressive to me in every single opportunity they got
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:11 PM
Do I know this person? And just say you aren't comfortable for RP reasons, that's easier to understand
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:11 PM
And when I asked the friend about it they didn't really respond
Yeeaaahhhh you kinda do
Paige
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:12 PM
Is this for the reminder server thing?
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:12 PM
No, for a RP
I didn't join that because I don't want to join calls at all
I don't want to talk to Paige
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:13 PM
Yiii, it's not for calls just for reminders and bot fuckery
Ah
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:13 PM
They were in call when I joined
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:13 PM
Yiii, they were in call in simply before that
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:13 PM
And I'm guessing that's where they're going to go to escape David
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:13 PM
then both joined
I don't think it's gonna be a call place
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:14 PM
Either way, I don't want any part of that, I muted simply so I'll never join it
If anything I'm trying to distance myself in general
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:14 PM
Maybe tell Alex about Paige then? Give her a heads up about it, and say 'hey can you pls remove them from this because this person isn't going to be apart of my life anymore'
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:15 PM
You know her though, it wouldn't be that easy
At least not for me, I'm her "comic relief"
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:15 PM
You aren't just comic relief, Sav
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:16 PM
It's what she tells me and what she says to me, I believe it
I couldn't shake the feeling that a lot of red flags were going off so I showed the fight to perse but blurred out the names, said a friend sent me it and I don't really know what advice to give to the person who sent me it
Her advice just kind of made me realize that I need to back off
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:18 PM
Maybe think of something to say once you're home, and more relaxed? In a better mindset when you're not so stressed over everything
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:18 PM
Maybe, I'm not cutting ties or anything
Just sort of not letting someone control how I feel as much
We had a good friendship before but now it's shaky at best
When it's good it's good, but when things go a little bit bad it goes to shit for awhile
And then I feel like shit and then I make the people around me feel like shit
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:20 PM
With Alex or with Paige? Or is it a both thing?
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:20 PM
Moreso with Alex
I'm not calling her a bad person or anything either, don't worry
The 'blame' for things getting rocky falls on both people
But honestly, if I get anxious about telling my friend that I don't want to be around someone it's time to back off a bit
I want to be a more positive person because I annoy myself to death with complaining and it sets my anxiety off yet when I do it it's like.... lack of impulse control
Also pls don't tell her this or anything, I don't want to upset her or hurt her or anything
I genuinely want her to be in a better place mentally as well, I know she has a low self esteem and I don't want to do anything to hurt that
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:26 PM
You're going to upset her regardless, when you're deciding to 'move on', not cut ties but you even said you are distancing yourself
You should tell her this stuff yourself
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:27 PM
Why?  You know how she is, she's a proud person, she's going to go "ok fine, then I'm cutting you off completely"
It's what I'd do because I'm the same way
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:28 PM
Then maybe it's better off? You are obviously stressed out enough to have the 'I'm going to end this' every couple of months
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:28 PM
It's what she does when she's hurt, what I do too so I'm not saying that as a bad thing either
Because we're still in a lot of communities together
And I do genuinely care about our RP and stuff
I don't want to be on bad terms
And I care about her as a person too, I want her to get back to how she was feeling when we were first started talking
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:30 PM
That's not going to happen, because everytime you think back to that it's the 'before Paige time', she seems to be back on track with her happiness a bit, her sleep is just being bad for her right now
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:32 PM
Are you annoyed by this?  I wasn't trying to talk shit on anyone or anything, nor did I really have the intent to bring this up at all tbh it just kinda came out like word vomit, but I can stop if you'd like
Can you please promise me that you're not going to tell her?
I'll drop the conversation and won't bring it up again, but please tell me that at least
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:36 PM
I am annoyed by this, only because this came up right after I re-joined Simply and because you are putting a lot of this on Alex and Paige, you haven't been the nicest person lately Sav
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:36 PM
I'm not putting anything on them
I'm saying I'm just going to emotionally distance myself for a bit so I can work on how I feel and then work on our friendship more
I'm not saying "oh she's a terrible friend", I'm not saying "oh I'm so perfect" at all
Again, can you please promise me that you'll let me handle this on my own and not tell her?
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:38 PM
Sure, I can promise that
i have a big sword - Yesterday at 11:39 PM
Thank you, I promise I won't do anything dishonest or hurt your friend
Calsa - Yesterday at 11:39 PM
Alrighty