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- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- yeah I see it now
- DEN!
- Riddle me this
- What is confidence?
- I want everyone who is willing to take part to answer to me what they think is confidence.
- So I can then correct all of you and tell you all that you're wrong but that's fine have confidence in me
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- faith in somethings capabilities to do summit
- Ikaru - 08/30/2017
- never heard of it, sorry
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- Confidence could be answering this question even after being told your answer is going to be incorrect.
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- And why
- would it be confidence?
- and by the way
- felix wrong
- ikaru funny
- icsw waiting to see if wrong
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- Because telling us we're going to be wrong might already cause us to lose confidence.
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- No1
- And yes
- But mostly no!
- And you're still not defining confidence
- just what confident behavior is
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- so what could it beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
- Also
- am I confident
- Do you think I
- the kurotsunest
- am the confidents
- and if i am not
- then who is
- the confidents
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- Yeah, I wasn't really confident I was answering the question properly
- I don't know why, but I'm having a hard time defining confidence without using the word confidence. It's kind of like I don't know another word for it, even though I should and there are probably plenty of them.
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- self-assurance?
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Almost
- elaborate
- you may be onto something my fishy friend
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- i mean theres a difference between having confidence in someone and behaving confidently(edited)
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Yes
- I'm speaking exclusively about "behaving confidently"
- Although
- They are somewhat similar
- and you can use one to explain the other
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- self-assurance due to knowing/appreciation of your own abilities
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- acting confidently is acting in a manner that inspires confidence by convincing people you are possess traits that make you trustworthy to do x thing(edited)
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- (and this could be slightly worded differently to explain the other)
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Aw shame
- all wrong
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- Not even close?
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Close
- All of you are close
- in some way all of you are correct
- But you are all missing the essence of confidence
- The true bottom line
- the end result of it
- I do want y'all to answer my other question before I ruin the fun though
- am I confident?
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- you're either confident, arrogant or conceited
- depends on how right you are and how much of a goose chase you send us on
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I am not arrogant, sorry.
- Arrogance is a perception of skills you don't have.
- I flaunt the skills I do have
- I am assertive to an agressive extreme
- And somewhat patronizing
- But not arrogant
- And one of the hints to the answer is in what I just said
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- how do you know you aren't arrogant if your perception of your own skills would be flawed to begin with?
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- Being aware of the skills you do have?
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Because I don't brag about something like
- I can write a novel
- or I can fly
- I brag about I am smart
- ANd jesus christ is anyone here about to deny that?
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- you don't have to brag to be arrogant
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- hmmm
- self-assurance about the truth of something?
- would that be correct or closer?
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- You don't have to brag, you have to have a false of perception of skill but I don't display false perceptions of skill
- I don't say I can do things I can't.(edited)
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- from our perspective we have no way of verifying that though
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Therefore
- You also have no way of claiming I'm arrogant
- Because you can't prove or disprove that I am
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- isn't that the same flaw people found with freuds psycho anlysis shtick?
- Ses - 08/30/2017
- Im confident
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Not really
- Ses - 08/30/2017
- I have confidence in my feeling of confidence
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Arrogant behavior is pretty clear but really not the point here
- It's the confidence thing
- You can get back to trying to attack me after that
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- im not trying to attack you, i just saw flaws in waht you were sayin
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- tfw completely ignored :FeelsBlobMan:
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Not self assurance
- The flaws you saw are... Either completely lost on me or not flaws?
- Cause your argument was "I can't prove you can't do the things you say you can"
- But then how can you say I'm arrogant
- You said it yourself that you can't prove that so claiming it is silly
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- well i saw issue in how you were trying to defend not being arrogant, the whole perception thing, and then your examples of behaviour that would display arrogance when the absence of that behaviour wouldn't neccesarily mean you arent arrogant
- thats what i was pickin up
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- While it wouldn't mean I'm not
- It does mean you can't say I am
- You can only observe my behavior through text
- Regardless if I am arrogant you can't possibly say I come across as arrogant if there's no arrogant behavior
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- yeah sure thats fine, strike arrogance off my initial list
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- But I can safely say I'm not arrogant. I am assertive. That was the hint. Assertiveness.
- What is
- assertiveness
- And why is everything y'all are describing as confidence assertiveness
- and not confidence
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- assertivness is proactive behaviour
- confident behaviour doesnt mean you have to do anything
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Assertiveness
- rural - 08/30/2017
- confidence is believing ur dong is huge even if it might not be
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- is not proactive behavior
- Ses - 08/30/2017
- Like me
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- That's arrogance
- or assertiveness(edited)
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- Kurotsune - 2017-08-30 15:08 -04:00
- am I confident?
- And to answer this:
- If we had to follow our close definitions of confidence, I'd say that you give an impression of being confident. But do I believe that you are self-confident (or have a lot of self-confidence)? That I'm not sure of because again, we only have whatever you sincerely tell us. And so far, I can't say "yes" or "no" to that question yet
- rural - 08/30/2017
- arrogance is huge and hard
- confidence is just huge
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- assertiveness: confident and forceful behaviour.
- keyword not being confident but the forceful part
- that indicates you do shit
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Okay I'll just give the answers here
- Cause I have to leave soon
- But
- Assertiveness is actually being secure in your abilities. It's knowing what space you take, metaphorically.
- To assert yourself is to impose your perception of abilities
- Whereas arrogance is a flawed, false perception of abilities. It's a kind of pseudo-assertiveness.
- And there are tests for that by the way I've gottem them
- Ame even made one about me behind my back and told me about it later
- But ultimately
- Confidence is trusting your abilities because you can have zero faith in yourself and be confident
- In fact, the overly religious can be often both insecure and confident
- Does anyone wanna make a final guess with that new information?
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- I disagree
- Assertiveness might require security in your abilities but it doesnt mean that is waht it is
- it seems like you're twisting the word
- cant put my finger on it exactly but somethings off
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Your term
- Was that being assertive was being proactive forcefully
- a quit light search already shows that's wrong(edited)
- And the very sentence in the very wikipedia article already states "Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. "
- Being self-assured means, quite literally, to assure one's self. Of themselves. As in, assure yourself of what you can do.
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- meanwhile the google dictionary defines it as confident and forceful behaviour
- i trust the dictionary mroe than wikipedia
- the root word is assert
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- And the description I'm using comes from the universally used Dorland's Medical Dictionary
- I'm talking exclusively from a psychological standpoint so I don't really care about the grammatical definition of the word.
- Because you don't act with the gramatical definition(edited)
- You act with the psychological one
- So while you are free to disagree what I'm saying isn't really subjective but rather convention. You can disagree with convention. It's not fact, it's just something agreed to be seen as fact.
- And really completely indifferent to the message I want to get across
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- You're using a dictionary to support your credibility on this then dismissing the grammatical definition im using? It's hard to swallow that. Beyond all teh quibbling tho because it's not too important in the long run i still think to be assertive is a proactive thing that comes as a result of being secure, there has to bea better word for before that
- i;d have said confidence but idk now
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I'm not using a dictionary.
- I'm using a collection of works called Dorland's medical dicitonary or doctionaries.
- It's a bunch of different shit that determines how certain terms are used within the field of medicine
- Physical or mental medicine
- So since I am discussion mental medicine and not grammar
- Yes I am disregarding the grammatical dictionary because I'm not discussing language.(edited)
- Grammar determines only the word "assertive" means in english whereas the medical usages determines a state or feeling
- Or symptom or sickness or whatever
- wow
- doctionaries
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- its not that we're discussing language its that it doesnt feel like you're using the language right, im struggling to make sense of it but there is a distinction in there
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- was an unintentional joke
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- to be frank this is largely over my head
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I am using the language right.
- Yes. And we discuss later in private why this happened to begin with
- But right now to carry on
- Confidence (as described by psychology to avoid further misinterpretations) is simply put
- The belief that things will be fine.
- You could say "Wait, but that's optimism"
- And no it isn't
- To use an example
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- that
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Are you going to interrupt or will you actually let me finish first?
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- ill interrupt because its basically a rewording of teh first thing i said
- faith in somethings capability to do something
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- No, it isn't
- And if you'd let me finish you'd know why
- I'm almost just finishing this
- If y'all don't like this I'll just not
- But honestly at this point I am more than a bit frustrated
- I am actually trying to give y'all a positive message and if you don't want me to that's absolutely fine but it is grating when it devolves into the message being completely ignored in lieu of trying to prove me wrong just for the sake of doing it
- Or downright trolling
- So if you guys don't like this type of thing
- Sardines - 08/30/2017
- I actually want to know completely, so please don't stop...
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I'm not below not doing it anymore
- Arkhidon - 08/30/2017
- I only just got here, hadn't yet backlogged.
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- So just let me know
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- I mean keep going, i wasnt doing it to prove you wrong i was trying to prove myself right in spite of your arguments
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- Sorry for typing while you were explaining. I was going to say I came close with something I thought of but didn't say.
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I didn't even notice that
- Jericho - 08/30/2017
- Tits
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- I am sorry for being annoyed, I wish I could practice what I preach constantly not get emotionally invested in debate but when the main point is completely lost and we enter a complete useless tangent with something that could've been dealt with in private later
- I do get frustrated
- I'm not going to lie pretend I'm above something I'm not.
- I respect all of you too much to do that.
- I will finish since not doing so at this point would amount to me stomping my feet and storming and I'd like to think I'm not a complete child(edited)
- But please if this is unwarranted tell me I won't do it ever again. I promise.(edited)
- IceCreamSandWitch - 08/30/2017
- You're fine, Kuro. I'm interested in this discussion.
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- after all this if i dont get some closure as to why im wrong in your eyes im gonna just throw my dark souls character into nashandras arms ina loop of pain
- Jericho - 08/30/2017
- It's totally fine
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- To do my example
- And to change it for this very discussion
- An optimist will answer my question thinking they're right no matter what.
- A pessimist thinking they're wrong no matter what
- A confident person simply thinks that regardless if they get it right or wrong, their life moves on.
- Confidence boils down to the knowledge that things will be fine and if you want someone here who is completely confident look further than Pyon
- Ultimately that's confidence. The knowledge that even if you can't complete the task
- even if you fail
- That you will be fine
- While optimism the belief that you will succeed
- Confidence is the belief that you will survive a failure(edited)
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- so what i was talking about was optimism
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- Thank you for time, I'm nearly off shift and I want to drink a galloon of calming tea
- Yes.
- and by the way confidence is both transient and situational
- You can be confident in some situations and not in others
- We tend to see confidence as a general life stance but that's not really true
- That's assertiveness
- Which naturally breeds confidence
- Because it promoted a confident way of thinking
- And so on
- I'm out
- Felix - 08/30/2017
- and optimism can result in confidence which is why i saw it as the same thing ok things are clicking now
- Kurotsune - 08/30/2017
- And before I head off to the gym I realized I'd probably benefit from explaining why I have a specific approach to these
- Namely why I come in saying y'all are wrong are going to be wrong the purpose behind that
- It's actually to cause inner conflict. The only two ways I get actually get you to learn from anyone or anything is to make you doubt your current beliefs and introduce a new concept that makes sense(edited)
- That's what cause your brain to go "oh shit change how we do thinking thing" and actually adapt to new knowledge otherwise you'll just disagree or repeat what I said and not understand it
- When I cause an inner conflict you'll mull over it realize why it makes sense on your own me having to convince you
- The other way by just letting you guys discuss and realize things on your own(edited)
- and I generally only try to do the first one when I don't the think the second will get to what I want to get at
- And I am completely aware that when I do that I am putting myself my ideas to exposition and scrutiny from 21 people and doing that voluntarily which means I really no right to have an emotional response
- Yet I am not perfect and it still happens I fault no one but myself for that and I apologize for it but it is important for my own sake to realize when I have to take a step back and recompose
- And I appreciate the understanding on this matter
- Just to elaborate why I don't propose a gigantic discussion where all present our points and discuss at lengths so that the learning happens naturally
- It's because I'm impatient and I want you to be the best you you can be right now and not two hours from now
- So I manipulation and social engineering to cause a reaction I know will make you open to my points and trust that if I am completely wrong you will either ignore or correct me
- And if that day comes, it'll suck, but I hope when it does I have the dignity to accept it and move on.
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