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- so if you're really looking at changing
- your beliefs and you're coming from a
- dark place and not so good places a
- couple things that you need and this was
- specifically geared towards an
- individual on one of our calls he was
- talking about stuff like talking about
- change and like this is this is
- something that people don't really talk
- about enough number one thing number one
- thing that I would say you need do not
- go beyond this if you do not have it but
- a community of people you you have to
- have a community of people why because
- so much happens from that like you could
- go in with the mindset of like hey I'm
- just going to be a happier person and
- there's four or five people 10 people 20
- people but all you need is just a few
- you like human beings connect on that in
- such a big way and we're all going in
- different directions of course that can
- get confusing of course that can get to
- a point where it's like it may not be
- helping in different areas but here's
- the thing if our primary purpose our
- primary goal is to be happier just for
- that day good things are going to happen
- so much more is going to come out I
- would put my money on that group of four
- or five people you know that are just
- focused on that and in pursuit of that
- in all different directions as long as
- they could meet and connect and have
- each other's backs on one person with
- all the best information okay in fact I
- would put my money on that more than one
- person with the best coach in the world
- with the best information okay you need
- that community and you know you see this
- over and over again the best athletes
- they have the best coach but they also
- have the best community to you know and
- so you see that combination happening
- over and over again the second thing
- that you need to do and this was a
- specific exercise that comes down to
- being social and like getting the demons
- up and getting that out and in with
- me I'm still always trying to get those
- demons out man it's it's great it's a
- beautiful thing I love it now when I hit
- a point in that process like a lot of
- the stuff that I'm doing with the
- bodywork bioenergetics and you know
- moving my body and getting myself you
- know to express in different ways like
- different points of anger
- me now now I welcome it let me tell you
- something eight years ago I didn't
- welcome it six years ago I
- didn't welcome it when my first phase of
- all this stuff when I was surrounded by
- a community of people was this I wrote
- about it a lot I explored myself in
- massive ways and I talked about it so
- the second exercise that I gave to this
- individual on the call was to talk about
- it man my social journey in social you
- know like excellence or whatever was
- also in tandem with a kind of like a
- emotional mental spiritual journey and
- if you're like me don't let that word
- spiritual throw you off I mean it in a
- way where it's like something bigger
- than yourself to people are bigger than
- you so uh and i think one person talking
- to another person is a spiritual
- connection that is a form of like
- worship for me you know but anyway I
- didn't do my spirituality into Church
- nonetheless so anyway back to this like
- when I was getting involved in pick up I
- wasn't in the greatest space in my life
- like I had a lot of stuff going on I was
- a dad I didn't want to be in the
- relationship that I had had before I'd
- had some relationships with women but
- none were happy and I drank a load
- and I did a lot of drugs and that was
- just what I did man that's how I lived
- now that being said like I didn't have a
- lot of foundation for myself I had a lot
- of insecurities but I was good at
- entertaining I was good at showmanship I
- was good at some certain levels of
- socializing and so pick up I wasn't
- really great with women before that I
- wasn't necessarily bad but dude pick up
- cleaned a lot up for me and I became
- really good all of a sudden some social
- acceptability a community of people that
- looked up to me and people giving me
- money so those were a lot of validation
- things well guess what I didn't it
- didn't make me happy it didn't make me
- happy I kept going going going all that
- sort of stuff and you guys probably
- heard the story but basically what
- happened was was I started to work on
- myself internally well also learning a
- social skill set and this was more
- geared toward the specific question
- asked
- this the exercise that was given to me
- was just be honest so here I am a
- professional pickup artist I'm very good
- at what I do this is in 2008 and a
- friend of mine who was in my community
- on being a sane human being and being
- happy and our primary purpose being you
- know like good people you know that not
- to not to be like screwed up right so
- basically he said you know what man
- you're having a lot of trouble with I
- forget what it was but he's like why
- don't you just be honest to people if
- you want to kill yourself tell somebody
- if you hate the world tell somebody if
- you wake up and you think you're the
- worst person the world or whatever blah
- blah blah blah blah like talk to
- somebody talk to somebody face-to-face
- well here's the deal okay so i did it i
- actually did it and I did it devoutly
- now as I look back on it there were some
- times where I stretched it a little bit
- but i mean like i went up to be one just
- like nah man i'm having a crazy day and
- I need to talk to somebody like what's
- going on i would say that to be i would
- say i would cold approach somebody and
- say that to him and my buddy was
- basically like dude you're socially good
- enough to figure that out and make it
- work well guess what for three months it
- was like a plateau of i was not
- good now this thing that I was good at
- and people were paying me for but there
- was that three-month learning curve
- where I learned how to one be honest
- number two then connect with somebody
- and like build to get them to understand
- that and that was super super important
- and then the third thing which took a
- little bit longer was to learn to have
- some pride in expressing myself and how
- important that is when you put those
- three things together that's
- great matt is something that that
- orchestration of three things is missing
- from the entire social dynamics industry
- that's a bummer so check
- this out like let's look at that if
- I can be honest with somebody ok and not
- have any regard for the connection with
- them or the empowerment and pride in
- myself then I'm going to be too honest
- with people and blow people away i'm
- just going to be it's not what we're
- meant to
- do you know I'm just broadcasting
- broadcasting broadcasting in it
- it's going to turn people off if I'm
- just connecting with people and able to
- get something from them and have them
- understand me but I'm not honoring
- myself and learning to build some pride
- and confidence in myself it to express
- or sacrificing the honesty part then all
- i'm doing is serving someone else ok
- that's where like all this codependency
- comes in and and all these different
- things you know i'm just getting getting
- getting getting and having myself
- influenced by too many people because
- there's connection without the honesty
- and without the expression if i can
- learn to express and gain that
- confidence and importance of expression
- and broadcast that out there but i
- negate connection and honesty then i
- have no empathy then I'm what like what
- a lot of people do and pick up and think
- is the best thing is to just Express on
- the best I'm bladder or letter
- that you listen to me use to me and then
- life gets good well the thing is is
- human beings don't work that way we feed
- off of connection we feed off of truly
- being ourselves like honesty is
- key man expression in life is dependent
- upon those things and when we can
- combine that so much of us changes and
- is allowed to transform and uh dude I'll
- tell you you know what was so good for
- me was daily interactions of that ok
- building relationships relationships off
- of that up getting hurt and then
- having this cool community to come back
- to you to go like oh man I up or
- give advice to somebody else or speak
- with people that were in the same area
- is me the key to a good community and
- what makes it work is of course you can
- be open with them and connect but number
- one there's people where you're at
- number two there's people that have more
- experience than you number three there's
- people that are brand new and that you
- have less experience than yourself
- you're going to see your change not in
- yourself but in the other people that
- are new coming in you're also going to
- have something to work towards with
- other people you know that if walked
- before you and if you can find a
- community they can do all that without
- idolatry without
- kien but if you can see your personal
- goal is something just for today dude
- you have a beautiful beautiful recipe
- and that's a hard balance for people to
- follow
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