hi chris, apparently i can send you a message without actualy adding you. don't worry i won't , i just want to ask you some stuff
with everything ending badly with me and jimmy , we have not spoken to each other since october 26. i just want to know how he was after that happened, and if he is doing alright now .
if something bad happened I DON'T WANNA KNOW
just skip over it
You accepted Tori's request.
Christopher
Its fine
So what is your question?
Tori Trinh
it's in the 2nd message
Christopher
he is doing good
is that yoru only question?
Tori Trinh
no
just a couple more
Christopher
ok
Tori Trinh
has he or the family ever said anything about me
wait
Christopher
Not a lot
Tori Trinh
what have they said
Christopher
he said you guys arnt really a thing anymore
Tori Trinh
sigh
Christopher
lol what
Tori Trinh
i know jimmy doesn't tell the truth and only tells you guys parts that make him look good and me look bad
Christopher
alright then
you want to tell me your version?
Tori Trinh
what version did he try and give you
Christopher
lol
how about you just tell me from your perspective
Tori Trinh
it's not my opinion or side , it's simply the facts
Christopher
I dont want to put words in jimmys mouth or say somthing he didnt say
Tori Trinh
he and his parents completely sabotaged the relationship
Christopher
alright so what are the facts
ah ok
Tori Trinh
he doesn't know how to handle a relationship
he did a lot rude and disrespectful stuff
Christopher
It was his first relationship, i dont blame him for not knowing how to handel it
Tori Trinh
it was mine too
Christopher
being rude doesnt really sound like jimmy, can you give me an example?
Tori Trinh
he messed up a lot of stuff you shouldn't in a relationship
well that's the problem
because he doesn't even realizethat what he did was messed up and wrong
Christopher
ah ok
Tori Trinh
right on the 1st date , and throughout the relationship, he kept pointing out that my looks weren't part of the relationship , and when he got together with me it was bascially because of my personality not because i'm attractive
and he apparentlycares more about his parent's happiness and opinion of the realtionship than mine
Christopher
does it make you feel bad that he cares more about your personality then how you look?
Tori Trinh
they tried to control us and dictate what we can and can not do in our relationship and he let them
in a romantic relationship , you're supposed to beattracted to each other
of course i want him to be attracted to my personality
but i also want him to be attracted to Me and he made fell really unnacttrive
but it doesn't matter , we're not together anymore
Christopher
Yeah
So did you have another question?
Tori Trinh
i'm just reaching out because even if he doesn
woops
i'm just reaching out because even if he doesn't i still care and want to know that he's alright
Christopher
May I ask, Do you still have feelings for him?
Tori Trinh
i wish we still could've been friends but whenever i talk to him he makes me furious
no
i just still think about him
and it's still a significant important part of my life
Christopher
You still think about him, but he it makes you mad whenever you talk to him. That is difficult
Tori Trinh
yes it's very difficult
i just want to know what he's thinking and wish we can stillbe friends but we can't with what happened
sorry i'm being emotional
Christopher
So, Jimmy told me that he was still willing to be friends with you. But he doesn't want you to expect anything more from the friendship
Tori Trinh
when
Christopher
He also said to mention that he still cares about your walk with god
Tori Trinh
also said to mention ?
Christopher
I talked to him today
Tori Trinh
when ?
what'd you talk about
Christopher
You, and also how he was doing, ect
Tori Trinh
what did you sat about me
didn't he just turn 19
Christopher
no I dont think so, maybe?
I said his crazy ex girlfriend is trying to hook up with me
Tori Trinh
you were kidding right
Christopher
anyways
any other questions?
Tori Trinh
you were kidding right
Christopher
questions end in a question mark
Tori Trinh
?
Christopher
Na I never told him that I am messing with you
Tori Trinh
i need to think
i wanna make sure i ask you all my questions so i dont have to bother you again
Christopher
so how are you doing?
are you still at citrus?
Tori Trinh
yes still at citrus
i'm working at petco
Christopher
How long have you been at cirtus for now?
Tori Trinh
a while
thank you for asking
where are you working
Christopher
like 4 years now or what?
Tori Trinh
yeah
Christopher
howcome so long?
Tori Trinh
i'm finishing my assoctiates , but i might be transfering to another school soon
Christopher
ah cool, what do you want to major in? animal science?
Tori Trinh
yeah
Christopher
o
i was just guessing lol
Tori Trinh
what has his family said about me
Christopher
dude I don't really talk to his family that much thehy didnt say anything
Tori Trinh
oh
sorry
i'm just emotionally weak
Christopher
?
what does that have to do with anything
Tori Trinh
that's why i'm asking
i'm just trying not to bother you
Christopher
you are insecure about what his family thinks about you
your not bothing me its fine
Tori Trinh
no
Christopher
I have nothing to do right now
Tori Trinh
i don't give a shit about what his familythinks about me
Christopher
I dont know why you think you are bothering me, I was your friend too
Tori Trinh
i know
but you seemed like you didn't really want to talk
and i was afraid they had turned you against me
Christopher
Well no they didnt lol
Tori Trinh
bevsuse they probably think i did everything wrong
Christopher
just because it didnt work out between you two doesnt mean that it has any effect on me and you being friends
Tori Trinh
i was afraid you just wanted to get it overwith and were thinking like ' oh god her again '
alright well i have another question that mgiht be weird but is really important
Christopher
I am an understanding person, I don't like to cut people out of my life over little things
I always found talking to you entertaining
Tori Trinh
thank you
:)
Christopher
lol ok whats the quesiton
Tori Trinh
now please don'tjudge me or gwt mad whe i ask this next question
Christopher
yeah sure
Tori Trinh
is selena pregnant yet ?
or any the others ?
Christopher
wtf
no
wow lol that was out of the ballpark
Tori Trinh
becausse with the way theeir parents are running things, it's not a matter of if somebody is ; it's when somebody's gonn aget pregnant
Christopher
no she isn't, and I don't think any of them will get pregnaut any time soon, they are all very smart
Tori Trinh
really ?
apparently i know more about them than you do
Christopher
Or you misjudged them
But go on
Tori Trinh
i don't know if i'm supposed to say that stuff because it's their imformation
personal information
Christopher
go ahead dude
Tori Trinh
what ?
Christopher
you said you know more then I do
what do you know? you said you havnt talked to jimmy and I assume his family since october
Tori Trinh
wait are adan and selena still together ?
Christopher
ummm Im not sure
Tori Trinh
when was the last you saw them
Christopher
this summer
but I talked to jimmy and he told me about them today
Tori Trinh
about who ?
Christopher
So why do you say they are going to get pregnate
about his sisters
Tori Trinh
don't you know about selena and adan ?
Christopher
apparently not
Tori Trinh
what happened right they got together
Christopher
she told you this?
Tori Trinh
who ?
Christopher
selena
Tori Trinh
jimmy
and it's come up when we were together
they had a big argument about it right in front of us
Christopher
I don't think jimmy would know or tell you even if he did know, but ill give you the benefit of the doubt, you can color me surprised
Tori Trinh
what ?
Christopher
I have never heard of anything like that with selena
So I find it difficult to believe
But I havnt talked to him that much so idk
Tori Trinh
they act like a normal young adult couple and dont believe inwa iting until marriage
and their parents think they can treat them like 7 year olds and just separate them
and they don;t kno who how to handle kids that aren't kids
people are gonn ado whaever they want dispite what anybody says
Christopher
well, they have a wholesome christian family, youknow
Tori Trinh
so
that's actually the problem
Christopher
I am not saying that it is a problem, it is just different.
Tori Trinh
it is a problem
Christopher
His family is different then mine, and I can respect and appreciate it
As far as I have seen, it has worked well for them
Tori Trinh
their parents are obcessed , but selenade doesn't neccessarily believe the same stuff
no it has not
look at what happened
Christopher
what are you refering to?
Tori Trinh
they destroyed the relationship of me and jimmy
i can't explain everything it takes too long
Christopher
The thing is Jimmy told me he himself agreed with his parents, and felt the same way. It is not good to have the view that the relationship was destroyed by a cause, because that is not what happend. In reality you have to take to responcibilty for some things, and I am sure he is not perfect either. but just because you two ended up not being romantically compatiable, doesn't mean that his upbringing or close relationship with his parents is a bad thing.
Christopher
I am sure if he finds a girl with his same values, he will be able to have a very long and close relationship with her.
Tori Trinh
it is possiblr for a relatipnship to be destroyed by that
i was completely immersed in that family,  believe me i know
and yes it is
we're not simply not romantically compatible
i'm nottrying to put all the responsibilty on him , but most of our problems started with him doing sometbhing really stupid
and then his parents decided to step in and became like 50 percent of ourproblems
Christopher
wat did he do that was really stupid
?
Christopher
hello?
Tori Trinh
he's homophobic, he would repeatedly not know what were doing and the day of we have to rethink after i did all this planning and almost was late to work multiple times because of of him ,he made several implacations that women are inferior to men and only inconvenience them , and then let his parent dictate what we can and can not do in the relationship and they have nobusiness in our relationship only we are to decide what happenes in our relaionship
Tori Trinh
among many other things
Christopher
you said all of your problems started him him doing somthignreally stupid
like one event
what was that
Tori Trinh
we had a lot of problems since the begginning of summer
it was fight after fight
i tried as hard as i could
i gave him a lot of chances to improve waht he was doing and he never did
and said he would
i gave him more than i should have
sorry i didn't want this to turn into a negative conversation
Christopher
yeah me neither
Tori Trinh
well is there anthing else you want to know about the relationship
Christopher
Ah so here is my chance to pry
so how do you feel like it ended
Tori Trinh
what do you mean ?
Christopher
ahh well i guess you kinda went over it huh
Tori Trinh
yeah
actually
there's something else i forgot
that even if we work ed out sll those problems it wouldn't ave worked
because he wants kids and i do not
Christopher
ahh ok
Tori Trinh
wait
forgot
what did you guys say about me
when you guys talked
it's just that after we eneded the realtionship i was left still notknowing if he ever thinks about me cares
*or cares
Christopher
talked about how you guys had different ideas for how you wanted the relationship to be like
And yeah he still cares
So what was your goal for talking to me?
Tori Trinh
today?
Christopher
ya
Tori Trinh
when you talked to him todsyay
sorry i'm trying to make sure we're on the same page
Christopher
yes
Tori Trinh
was it in person
Christopher
no
over the phone why
Tori Trinh
just curious
Christopher
So
You find another dude other then jimmy?
Tori Trinh
we tried to stay friends after the relationship , and couldn't do that , because he still was making me furious , and that's when it ended in a big ugly mess
no
Christopher
It has been since october maybe you wanted to?
Tori Trinh
i don't know when i'lbe able to be with another perso without thinkinag bout him
Christopher
dang that is pretty sad im sorry
Tori Trinh
despite everything that happened i still really care
thats' why i'm asking
if you were wondering about my goal
and just wanted to know if he's alright
Christopher
yeah he is good
Tori Trinh
and it'seven harder for me because
i drive by his house all the time
when i drive the pool i swim at and going to school
there's no other path
Christopher
unfortunate
Tori Trinh
so i'm constantly reminded
Christopher
You know I remember I was kinda the guy who set you 2 up
low key
Tori Trinh
yeah
:)
wait where you working ?
Christopher
sears at the west covina mall
Tori Trinh
raging waters was fun
wait seriously ?
i go to that mall all the time
Christopher
yes seriously
Tori Trinh
what if i go in there and run into you
i can't believe you been this close the wholetime
Christopher
then I will say hello
I work on the weekends in the tools department
Tori Trinh
i'll try not to , i mgiht get sad
Christopher
wtf why
Tori Trinh
cus you willremind me of jimmy
Christopher
na i dont think i will
Tori Trinh
messaging you was really ahrd for me today
but i had to
Christopher
you had to why?
Tori Trinh
because i need to know if he is alright
yoy have no idea how happy i am to know he's alright
Christopher
yeah he is good he has his job at mt sac that he likes
and he is doing pretty good in schhol
school
anyways it was kinda gross seeing you two all over eachother anyways lowkey lol
Tori Trinh
what are you talking about we barely tpuched each other in front of people
Christopher
not true
Tori Trinh
what
what did we do that was so disgusting
Christopher
it wasnt disgusting
just kinda uncomfertable
Tori Trinh
?
Christopher
it just seemed like a little too much infront of people
in my opinion
Tori Trinh
i have no ides what you're tslking about
Christopher
like when we were at a party you would be all feeling his chest and stuff
it was too much
save it for when your alone
Tori Trinh
that's not too much , well suprise that's what people dp in a relationship
sorry
we tried to not do a lot of stuff in front of people
Christopher
Hey torri its normal to do it when its just you and him alone but infront of other people it is kinda distasteful
Tori Trinh
alright we're just gonna keep going i circles
lets just move on
Christopher
ok
Tori Trinh
anyway
i still wanna thank you for being willing to talk to me
Christopher
so i have always wondered why are you so obsessed with animals
Tori Trinh
haha
it's just who i am my whole life
Christopher
why
Tori Trinh
they're part of the planet and they're fascinating
and especially the intelligent ones
why do you like chemical engineering so much ?
Christopher
Its interesting I guess, but I am not obsess with it or anything
Tori Trinh
well i'm gonna go to sleep soon so do you want to add you or would you rather i not
iun derstand if you don't
did you send that
or did facebook automatically
Christopher
you literally have a whale for your profile picture
wtf
Tori Trinh
a dolphin
Christopher
that is not normal
Tori Trinh
oh my cover photo
wll theyre both dolphins
Christopher
why tho
Tori Trinh
come on now really
Christopher
but why as your profile picture why not a picture of you
Tori Trinh
because they're stuff that's really important to me
that orca ?
i saw that in-person
on my alaska trip
!
isaw wild orcas
1
!
Christopher
maybe you can get a position in whale watching
so if sea world is animal cruelty for housing dolphins
why do you work for petco and an acuarium?
Tori Trinh
what ?
1
!
Christopher
?
Tori Trinh
animal cruelty ?
1
!
Christopher
yeah didnt you say that it was animal cruelty and that shamu was totured or something?
Tori Trinh
no
!
we talked about this
that doesn't make sense
Christopher
ahh so I don't mean to be mean or anything
please don't take this badly
Tori Trinh
no i just don't want you thinking that
Christopher
but have you ever thought about growing your ahir out?
Tori Trinh
i just want people to be educated and use common sense
Christopher
*growing your hair out
Tori Trinh
haha why
Christopher
Maybe it would look better and make you feel prettier
Tori Trinh
look better ?
Christopher
Yeah maybe
Tori Trinh
when did i say i need to feel prettier ?
Christopher
Yesturday
Tori Trinh
yesterday ?
what's wrong with the way i look ?
Christopher
Im not saying there is anyhting wrong with it I am just asking
Tori Trinh
but you said it might make me look better
Christopher
Yeah maybe
Tori Trinh
better implies that there's something wrongw it it now
Christopher
No it doesn't
Tori Trinh
what elese
Christopher
My car looks pretty good, but if I get a new paint job, it might look better
maybe a bad analogy
dont take that the wrong way
oops
what do you mean what else
Tori Trinh
what else would it imply when somebody says to somebody , do this you'll look better and feel prettier
Christopher
I didn't say to do it im just seeding a thought
Tori Trinh
just think about how that might sund to a person or how it might make them feel
Christopher
Hey when I had longer hair and people asked me if I ever had it shorter or said that I should cut it I didn't get mad
but if it makes you feel bad then I am sorry I said anything about it
Tori Trinh
well sometimes it'sjust the way you say it
sorry just forget it
Christopher
Sorry I tried to phrase it in a nice way but I guess it didn't work
Tori Trinh
anyway
Christopher
ya know I moved out of my parents house actually like 16 days ago
Tori Trinh
what ?
Christopher
Kinda had a hard time
Tori Trinh
why
Christopher
well thats why i have a job now to pay for the rent
Tori Trinh
how did you find an appartment like that
Christopher
i found a room on craigslist
Tori Trinh
because i need to
where do you live
just curious
Christopher
i found a room for 550 a month everything included in walnut'
Tori Trinh
that's kind of far
Christopher
well its close to my school
Tori Trinh
you have a roomate , cus that would mske it easier to pay fir rent
Christopher
yes well i have my own room but i live with 3 others
Tori Trinh
woah that's a lot
Christopher
ehh not really
Tori Trinh
sorry i din't respond for a while , i had to go take care of something , talk to you later , i have to sleep
Christopher
ok, goodnight