First off, You've got it wrong, I dont think you are an asshole, and Jen doesnt think you are an asshole, and I had no idea that she said that to you and in any case,
I don't say the kinds of things you think i do to her.

I did ask Exalt, he said, you rejected him till he joined Dino, I didnt ask you because, the last thing i wanted to do, was make more trouble. When I was QQing to jen about
everyone leaving, I only mentioned Exalts name, but in truth, it was that i had like 4 of my members leave in one day. I just exemplified Exalt but in fact there was joker
nuts greed etc.

Disbanding is your decision, but the way i see it, she is just gonna blame herself and feel guilty.

What i see, is just a vicious circle for you, and you can break it. What im going to say is going to sound harsh, but i dont mean it to be in anyway, im just trying to help
so please bear with me.

Many of the times you guys have talked in the recent past, have ended in a fight, and in truth who wants to enter a conversation with someone knowing there is a really
high likelyhood that it will end in some sort of squabble. I knew recently she has really tried to make you happy and when that effort is rewarded with an argument
about something that we do that you dont like, it discourages her and in the end deters those kinds of efforts, in the end it is you that has turned her
away from you, not me. That is the first thing you have to come to terms with, because once you realize that your relationship with her, is completely in your hands,
you can begin to reverse the damage.

You dont need to ignore her when she isnt talking to her because that shows that you dont care, but you need to show her that you are once again, a safe place.
Also you cant be pushy, just show you care but dont force yourself on her. Im sure just as she was turned away slowly, you can get her back again.