Autumn2.txt

23:13] Lorelei: what part of
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are you sure? if I find out you've started like, trying to talk to Iris through her door and not only via and agreed upon medium after specific and explicit invitation from Iris I will be upset.
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was hard for you to understand?
[23:14] Lorelei: talk to me.
[23:14] Lorelei: right. now.
[23:21] JadedKitten: Excuse me
[23:21] JadedKitten: I didn't
[23:21] JadedKitten: At all
[23:21] JadedKitten: Until she broke an agreement
[23:21] JadedKitten: She's fucking lying to literally everyone about this shit
[23:21] JadedKitten: She is delusional about this
[23:21] JadedKitten: She really is
[23:22] JadedKitten: She said that her moving out of the way was me "fighting" her
[23:22] JadedKitten: She broke an agreement that we set
[23:23] Lorelei: i reallllllllllly dont think she's the delusional one in all this. I told you a fucking simple fucking rule that was absolutely essential for me to be willing to trust you're actually trying on this
[23:23] JadedKitten: I fucking am
[23:23] JadedKitten: She's not.
[23:23] JadedKitten: I wasn't bothering her at all
[23:23] JadedKitten: And then she breaks this rule
[23:24] Lorelei: what rule?
[23:24] JadedKitten: She. Broke. An agreement
[23:24] JadedKitten: And I went to go get my collateral back
[23:24] JadedKitten: And she was suddenly super fuccking scared of me for no reason
[23:25] Lorelei: you fucking touched her. i dont care if it was a "push" or a "fight". i don't care if she broke an agreement. come to me! i specifically said i wanted you to not speak with or engage with her and that im willing to act as a middle man
[23:25] JadedKitten: I can't
[23:25] JadedKitten: When my computer is off
[23:25] JadedKitten: And my phone barely works
[23:25] JadedKitten: And i did talk through her door in the heat of the moment, and I'm sorry
[23:26] JadedKitten: She threatened to call the cops on me
[23:26] Lorelei: yeah. i know
[23:26] JadedKitten: For what she called a fight
[23:26] JadedKitten: ...
[23:26] Lorelei: she told me
[23:26] JadedKitten: Mhmm.
[23:26] JadedKitten: I will follow this shit if she follows it.
[23:26] JadedKitten: If she's cooperative
[23:28] JadedKitten: Actually, she touched me honedtly
[23:28] JadedKitten: She put her hands on me as I was moving
[23:28] Lorelei: that's not the condition i fucking gave you. the thing i said was fucking unconditional rule whose violation i do not trust you to be the correct judge of.
[23:28] JadedKitten: And then threatened to pepper spray me.
[23:28] JadedKitten: Again.
[23:29] Lorelei: I do not, as it stands, trust you to be an adequate judge of "cooperation" or not.
[23:29] JadedKitten: Why not?
[23:31] Lorelei: because of your failure to give Iris enough fucking space that she isnt scared of being physically assaulted by you.
[23:31] JadedKitten: She never once had to worry about that.
[23:31] JadedKitten: But she is for some reason, so
[23:32] Lorelei: you don't get to be the judge of that, Autumn. whatever her judgement is, that's how she feels, and you've been failing to give her enough space for her to  change that assessment, and that failure's on you.
[23:33] JadedKitten: It's not my fault she's extremely extremely cautious, and kind of a hypochondriac.
[23:33] JadedKitten: But I understand the second part
[23:33] Lorelei: your instinct, when shit goes poorly, needs to be "back off"
[23:34] Lorelei: in every fucking circumstance, right now
[23:34] JadedKitten: I am done with her. I am leaving her alone.
[23:34] Lorelei: any response to things not going your way that isnt "back off and try to sort it out through third parties" is unacceptable to me right now.
[23:34] JadedKitten: I have been leaving her alone, up until this happened.
[23:34] JadedKitten: Okay
[23:34] JadedKitten: Well you should have told that to me before this
[23:35] Lorelei: im sorry if i wasn't more clear before, but im being clear now.
[23:35] JadedKitten: Okay
[23:35] JadedKitten: Well it's done now, so
[23:36] Lorelei: if you can give me, detailed and specific account of the events of today id appreciate it
[23:36] Lorelei: i want to understand what happened and how and why.
[23:36] Lorelei: im upset, but im missing the experience of being there. the details might matter.
[23:37] JadedKitten: I said that I wanted my hard drive, in her computer
[23:37] JadedKitten: She took it out, and came up and walked into my room without permission.
[23:37] JadedKitten: She asked if she could take out her grandpa's hard drive from the computer I was using
[23:39] JadedKitten: I didn't let her back into my room until she told me why, and we agreed on letting her have it to do what she needed to do, and then her giving it back to me.
[23:39] JadedKitten: She said shed take my hard drive as collateral
[23:39] JadedKitten: So I said I'd take some of her headphones as collateral
[23:39] JadedKitten: Then I let her into my room
[23:39] JadedKitten: And she took it out
[23:40] JadedKitten: Then she gave back my hard drive, thinking that that was the deal, and she went to get her headphones back
[23:40] JadedKitten: And she was blocking my door
[23:41] JadedKitten: So then I went to get her grandpa's hard drive back in her room, cus that was not the deal(edited)
[23:41] JadedKitten: And she tried pushing me back
[23:41] JadedKitten: And she couldn't stop me
[23:41] JadedKitten: So I just kept going
[23:42] Lorelei: I'm confused, what was the deal? because as I understand from what you've described, you were both trading harddrives that rightfully belonged to the other.
[23:42] JadedKitten: And I got her grandpa's hard drive from her room
[23:43] JadedKitten: The deal was, that I wanted her grandpa's hard drive back, cus my hard drive couldn't work anymore to boot a computer(edited)
[23:43] Lorelei: ...what would she want with the harddrive if she was just gonna give it back?
[23:43] JadedKitten: She wanted her grandpa's information
[23:44] JadedKitten: Like letters or something
[23:44] JadedKitten: Then the deal was that she'd give it back and let me use his computer
[23:44] JadedKitten: Which I've been using
[23:45] Lorelei: nods.
[23:46] JadedKitten: So then I holed up in my room and locked the door and told her that that wasn't the deal
[23:46] JadedKitten: And I had to explain it to her again a third time
[23:46] JadedKitten: So then she agreed on it again
[23:46] JadedKitten: And I gave her it(edited)
[23:46] JadedKitten: Her grandpa's harddrives
[23:47] JadedKitten: And then she went back to her room and started complaining about how much of a monster and horrible abuser I am
[23:47] JadedKitten: Or whatever she said
[23:48] JadedKitten: Then I went downstairs to complain to her that now i couldn't even use the internet, or barely use it
[23:48] JadedKitten: Cus I didn't have a computer and my phone's connection sucked
[23:48] JadedKitten: And then she threatened to call the cops on me
[23:48] JadedKitten: And kick me out of the house
[23:49] JadedKitten: Again.
[23:49] JadedKitten: And then I started talking to you
[23:49] Lorelei: nods. thank you.
[23:49] Lorelei: ok. need to digest that a bit.
[23:56] Lorelei: this sequence of events makes sense, but i disagree with decisions made during it. i need a moment to get my thoughts into words.