Hey Brii,

Hope you’re doing well.

We very clearly need to talk one on one, and while I anticipate you’ll not respond, I’d appreciate if you read through this at the very least. Despite my vocal stance on Twitter when it happened, there are some things you need to know in response to something that was said last night, from me both as a concerned friend and a general member of the Twitch ANZ community.

I’m a moderator in MilkyPixel’s stream and while I only saw a few of your messages during her stream last night, I’d like to address this one in particular:

“Milky I spent plenty of time asking lots of people about your situation and also Kistrix’s. Both people at the event and people that organised it and other members.”

This letter pertains to Kistrix’s situation specifically.

I’ll preface this by saying that Kistrix and I have been friends for over ten years. In that time I’ve come to consider her one of my closest and most down-to-earth friends. She’s never afraid to speak her mind, she’s always 100% genuine, but she’s also not afraid to reach out to her friends when she needs help and/or support.

It may surprise you to learn that at the Twitch Sydney meet up at Kingpin in September of last year, the first degrading and harassing comments made regarding Kistrix’s body were said directly to me. They made me uncomfortable as both a friend of Kistrix’s and as, you know, a human existing under patriarchy, so I passed them on to Kistrix which also resulted in our at-the-time social group hearing them. I have been, and still am, willing to provide a statutory declaration confirming the exact comment I heard which set everything in motion.

I understand that you may not have known that this was the case, which was potentially why you and I didn’t talk about the matter. However, it’s also clear from the DM screen shots that you didn’t properly talk with Kistrix, you didn’t talk with her husband (who admittedly reached out to Twitch Sydney, not you, via Twitter regarding the matter, but you surely must have seen his tweet), so who exactly did you speak to when you’re claiming that you spoke to “people at the event”? It seems you’re missing a few key individuals.

I would assume that you spoke with the person who made the comments at the very least, and while I won’t ask for the specifics of the discussion, I will mention that a few days afterwards the person in question was live on Twitch and discussing the “fallout” from all of this, tearfully explaining that she “didn’t know what she did” and that “if someone would just explain it so that she could apologise, she would”. If you spoke with her, surely she would have an understanding of what happened and what was said that was inappropriate? At the very least it seems like you only got one side of the discussion, having shut down Kistrix’s complaints and then blocked most of her friends (myself included) who were publicising everything on Twitter after Kistrix’s attempts to resolve this in private fell on deaf ears.

It’s entirely inappropriate, in my opinion, that you came into Milky’s stream last night suggesting everyone “move on” and “find peace” when this has been an emotionally traumatic experience for so many of the people I hold dear to me.

As one of the people originally involved, I’d like to mention that I’ll be in attendance of the Twitch Sydney meet this evening and am willing to discuss this letter in person where there can be no misinterpretations of tone or meaning. This has been on my (and many others’) mind for seven months now and in a way, perhaps it is time to “move on”, but nobody can do so without proper closure, especially the victims. For them, this hasn’t gone away, despite what comes across as a best effort to shut down and prohibit discussion.

Despite your claims of “fearing for your personal safety” (despite my never having made any threat against you, unless you believe holding you accountable is a “threat”) if I were to be Kistrix’s support person during the face-to-face meet that you cancelled, in person I’m non-confrontational and more than happy to have an earnest talk about why things went the way they did, why myself and others responded the way we did, and give a bit of insight about why this is still an issue so long after the initial incident took place.

I don’t expect you to reply, or indeed even agree to talk, but I sincerely hope you’ve read and hopefully understood where we’ve been coming from this whole time. You come across as a passionate and caring person, and I’m sure if something like this affected a long time friend of yours, like it has me, you’d have moved heaven and earth to see justice for them.

With kind regards,
SKYLXRK