Regret over group like programs

I never liked being "committed" to something like what scouts and ROTC has been portrayed to be. It's just something I don't find right for someone like me, I'm a very "free" person and I like to have as much time to myself, I know that ROTC and Scouts would interfere with that **a lot** and it made me very reluctant to join one. My mom (Forced) signed me up for a fraternity years ago which i'm still in to this day and It's been a nice experience for me, I'll be honest. But my first years into the program I hated it honestly, I hated wearing a fancy shirt and tie every Tuesday and back then I really didn't like the mentor too (But now with hindsight I realized I was a stubborn piece of shit and I wish I could redo my first few months there) But now these years they aren't as strict, Hell the lady last year was fun and she talked about vidya with us.

I feel like I've given the wrong vibe about how I feel about these programs, No I do not dislike them, I more so dislike being told to dress a certain way or uphold someone else's moral code. I know the ROTC and Scouts would probably uphold some grade or academic goal for their kids but I never liked doing it by someone else's terms. In my Fraternity if you have a C or below you're supposed to go to their Saturday academy until its a B or higher, I know it sounds like im a lazy piece of shit right now but I really think thats a bit excessive, and near impossible towards the middle of the year as unless you make a complete 180 in your habits and my teachers never seemed to have an option to really help you at that point. I had my own methods of studying and it still worked without their tutoring so it just felt worthless to me, so I will say their whole have a B or higher gave me more of a motivation for improving myself.

My whole experience is that as an outsider looking in I felt like these programs limited my freedoms in ways that seemed too valuable  towards me and a bunch of first world problems.

Although now 17 I really wish I was in more of these as I was younger as that it would of probably helped me a lot with self esteem and people skills. If I had the choice I would of never gone to that fraternity tbh, but now i realized if I hadn't I wouldn't have a friend to talk about why PC is better than console or some political topics.

I feel like being this young and having regrets is a bad omen for my future