Chanel
If you are...
If you are then its still a poly relationship and since I dont want to date them...
It doesnt work if you date them
Even as friends for her to call me amnipulative when you dont have any money, academics or w.e to manipulate for me to have is really unsmart of her
Can you answer this question.
Um. I know youd prefer staying away from the topic but can you let me know whatbyour relationship is now with elyz and what you are goig to have ours be?
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I consider what we have the primary relationship. I know you a lot better than her, you know me better and we have know each other for longer. Right now I feel that were weird. Because we don't talk much and we fight and just feel like shit, but I'd still want us to be better. Sort of... because I still believe i shouldn't be in any relationship at all, but fucking whatever that wasn't the question. With her, it's different of course. It's actually kind of sexual I guess, but nothing more than photos and role-playing. And I also have her as support too. Like when I told her I was self harming I'm class, she confirmed me and told me I could talk to her if I felt on edge again
And you're saying you don't want me to be around her because of what she thinks of you right
But explain to me how it is right?
Why is your relationship sexual too? Even if its just photos...its really not ok.
What do i have to gain from you? Not money, sex or academics.
Why would I waste time 'manipulating'someone who literally has nothing practical tp give me
Ypu cqn get support from people and not have to call it a relationship
And how is this 'primary'if you constantly tell me to break up and youre constantly sabotaging it? What is primary about that?
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I said why it's primary
Thats not whay primary is wtf
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I can't explain why I'm an asshole
I don't know what I want a lot of the time
Also you are ignoring questions again....explain what im manipulating you for?
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
You're asking so many questions and saying a lot of things i can't reply to fast enough
Like how can you msg me today with lol cute pics
Ok. Ill wait fir to reply to the questions above
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Finish what you were saying first anyways
Or not
Just reply to above questions pls
Can you call in the next hour?
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Yeah...
Ok. Pls answer questions in txt now and Illcall in an hour or so
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Everyone I talked to, not just her btw, said you were manipulating me to keep me in love with you, and controlling me to stay with you was what you did a lot. Because you'd really hurt my feelings to the point of me pushing away from you, then you'd convince me to come back. And sometimes how you'd hurt my feelings and how you'd say my feelings are wrong- that kind of stuff. And tbh, I hate when you do that because it doesn't make me feel good at all. But at the same time I know you don't feel that way about the things you say... But maybe what people call 'manipulation' is you being very influential on me. Because I take what you say very literal and harsh, and you dont realize what your words do to me mentally. And what people see is you being reckless with my sensitivity------next question-Also, how me and her got to this kind of relationship was just me. At first, we'd joke around and habe dirty jokes and stuff, but then one night I just sent her a lot of pictures (not me naked, but like my legs and my underwear ) and she really made me feel positive about myself and made me feel like a hot, cute guy. But she doesn't pressure me for pictures at all. She never has. So its not like she's manipulating me for my body. Like I said, we were friends first. I'm sorry I did that. I just felt very compelled to do that, and I still do because she gives me body confidence.
Im not influential or manipulaive because when I hurt your feeligns its because I want you tp be a better person who learns techniques on how to improve themselves.
Never have i said those things to deliberately bully you
Because yore not rational....if i told you what you dod to my friends and one of which i had and it was really hard to do that
She told me you were crazy and abusive. That you are trying to date other ppl without caring that im not polygamous.
That ignoring me and not wanting to improve means youre lazy and not someone i should be dating
They told me you and my dads situation is different because you are teasing amd dropping hints on usig grindr and havemt even told me youve be dating something 10 years older online
And just the fact that im not only richer, in school and having so many guys and girls ask me out is apparently im the better person to be manipulated
And honestly, i bave told you i like your appearance too. But youll always inore those
My friend thinks i should break up with you immediately because its hurting me. That you want me as a safety fucking net.
I dont feel happy when other guys tell me im pretty
Im happy when you do
Because its easy as fuck to get a compliment no matter what you lo0k like
I dont listen to what my friend says because i told them i can still help and mend a relatoo ship
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
What can you do
And see how you make everything i say meaningless by pitying yourself and going into the other safety net?
Its like 'heres the evidence' and youll be like
'Ok....' 'im tired'
'Just breal up then'
'Wait lol look at this photo'
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Okay then let me do it again
Honestly youre the abusive fucking one. Stringing me along to think 'oj. We can have silly ig post talks again' to lol but fuck u chanel im not doing anything to improve our situation
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Abusive? I WISH you could leave me all the time because Im exhausted and 'lazy', and I already know that won't be good for us in the future
Your friend is right about everything except the past part
You already know I don't care about money or having a safety net. If that was the case then I wouldn't be doing all this stuff, and I wouldn't be begging you to find happiness in someone else
What past part.
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Last *
Last part
You kept promisig me that you want to work hard for our future
How are you not abusive
Fucking cheating on me
How is that not abusive? Fucking telling me lies.
You didnt even say thank you when i bought you the perfume
You didt even say 'you dont need to do this..."
Ive never cheated on you even though I had soooooo many chances to
I wotk hard to live and see therapy and medication and school
Because i wanted our kit and pup
I gave you a compelte essay
Amd offered to pay for a 400 dollar trip here
And all this is ignored because you kust have a feeling thats not even backed by reason mmmm
i have r3asons!
And i have feelings too!
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
When I made those promises I was so much younger and stupider and desperate to be happy. Occasionally i am stupid enough to believe I still have a chance at that and to be a hard worker. I don't have faith in a future like I told you! And sometimes I do care about your feelings, but sometimes I dont care about you or anyone else because I just don't feel like it
And btw I didn't know the perfume was for me but that doesn't matter
I just wanted to at least clear ONE thing up in this
And I didn't want you to spend money on me
1 yeat isnt so much younger
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I'm glad you helped yourself get therapy and take medication and work in school
And anyone who works cam be a hard worker
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I'm 19 almost w0
20
1 year ago when you made the promises isnt long!!!
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
I first made those promises when I was 17
Oh cool 2 years
But you kept going at it foe 1 year
Vlad Myer (ajackrabbitsblood5@gmail.com)
Because I was still stupid and hopefull
Then it went downhill for me and you know it
That's when I broke up with you a lot, took weeks off from you and stuff
Then eventually I met and befriended Elyz