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Signs of a girl being Attracted to you:

 

If a girl likes you:

>Prolonged (5 or so seconds) eye contact, or repeated instances of meeting her gaze and looking away, eye contact, look away, ect.

>Lots of smiles

>Raised eyebrows (indicating interest of some sort) and/or dilated pupils in a well-lit environment.

NARWHAL'S CONTRIBUTION: In all honesty, looking for dilated pupils isn't an efficient use of your time when it comes to looking for signals. This pupil advice is shared a lot but in practice it isn't something youre going to notice unless you are looking at the right place at the right time or if you're Sherlock Holmes.

But some of you may find this useful, so here is a .gif of someone's eyes dilating:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Eye_dilate.gif

>Giggling at your statements that aren't funny at all

>Exposes or caresses her own erogenous zones. She might outline her lips with her finger or subtly point toward her breasts. Specifically, you can look for what is known as the 'head tilt'. With this maneuver, she exposes to you her neck, and although she is facing you, she will not be looking at you directly. Her hair will be behind her back and her head will be sideways and you will have a view of the side of her neck. Basically, if she's into you, she will subconsciously show you that she is fertile by displaying where she's vulnerable and where she wants you to touch her.

>She touches you. This could be 'accidental'. By accidental, I mean that it looks accidental, but really isn't. This prospect can come in many ways. If you're giving her something (a pen, a lighter) and she grabs part of your hand while taking it (assuming that you had a majority of the object exposed and she didn't actually have to touch you to take it), she probably did it on purpose. If you're sitting next to her and her knees, legs, or any other part of her is touching you throughout the conversation, it's not really accidental. We're always aware (if you're not an asspie, that is) of when we're invading someone else's personal space, and we do it on purpose if we want to fuck. She may also find the dumbest excuses to touch you or an article of your clothing. Some chick came up to me and started fondling one of my buttons the other day, saying "I don't know why but this wristband amuses me". She knew damn well why.

>While having the most mundane and uninteresting conversation with her, you may find that she is taking extreme interest in what you're saying. If she's smiling, maintaining eye contact, looking surprised, or exhibiting any of the previously mentioned gestures while you're talking about the weather or some other bland bullshit, she probably wants your sexual organs

If standing:

>Look for the aforementioned head tilt in combination with:

>A display of her curvature (or lack thereof). Hands on hips, one side of her shoulders elevated above the other side (this accentuates her breasts), and one side of her hips will be higher than the other. The stereotypical woman power stance. Look, also, for a wide stance, which indicates openness. The opposite would be standing with her feet together facing away from you. Chances are, that she may also be slightly swaying or dancing back and forth if she really likes you. This gesture, in combination with smiles and eye contact is pretty much an invitation to explore her anatomy.

>Tries to get your attention somehow. Walks in front of you when she could alternatively walk behind you, put something on/take something off of a shelf slowly, or repeat the things you say. It's kind of like the mirroring thing I talked about earlier. She'll pick up the things you say in a group conversation and restate them almost verbatim as if to better help you get your point across

 

Signs of a girl not being Attracted:

>Folded arms

>Not smiling

>Looking at other things or people in the room more than (you)

>Facing away from (you) while

>Conversational abilities on auto-pilot. She'll be talking like she doesn't really care what you say and will be giving lots of "mhm"'s and "oh"'s without contributing much.

>Looks generally uncomfortable

>Continually checks her phone, watch, or other article of possession more than talks to you

>Goes out of her way to avoid you

>You have to work hard to keep the conversation going

 

THESE CANNOT BE 100% ACCURATE. IT DEPENDS ON THE GIRL. I.E SHY GIRLS ARE DIFFERENT.

NARWHAL'S CONTRIBUTION:

I've been in a situation where a girl found out that the guy she fancies was about to walk into the classroom. She got up and ran into the next room to avoid him. Although most girls are generally the same with these tips, there will be some that are very different.

 

 

Signs of male attraction:

Men don't really have a whole lot of unconscious flirting gestures compared with women, because their evolutionary role is (more or less) to identify when a female is interested and act on it. Usually, when guys are interested, they'll make conscious efforts to try to 'win' the girl over. The smarter the guy is, the more subtle his 'advances' are. Some common ones are:

>Texting, calling, or bumping into (you) randomly during the day

>Focusing most/all of his attention on specifically you during group conversation

>Asking you questions far more often than with others

>Offering to do chores for you/drive you places at the drop of a hat. Many women like to take advantage of the guys that like them by exploiting his/their propensity to wait on them day and night. Some women, though, honestly have no clue that some guys are -that- nice because they DO expect something in return.

>Become more talkative/interested when you come into the room

>Vocal pitch raised to 'affectionate' levels when talking with you. Many believe that a guy's pitch will lower because his testosterone levels raise, but this only occurs with very confident males. We're not talking whole octaves or anything, just noticeably higher-pitched. (Take note of how low his voice is normally.)

>Try to assert his dominance over other men. Not in a barbarous manner necessarily, but he might try to 1-up other guys or (my personal favorite) restate another guy's joke that he thinks no one else heard.

And here's something that most guys do unconsciously. I was never the most alpha of males and I caught myself doing this multiple times.

>Crotch displays

Many primate species' males use penis size as a measure of assertiveness. Some species of baboon avoid fighting by standing spread-legged while facing one another with their boners waving around. Human males do a much more subtle version of this behavior, but the effect can be similar. It comes most commonly in the following forms.

Spread-legged is the key here. If he's sitting down on the ground, he might move from a cross-legged position to having his knees up in the air with a foot or more of distance between them. His elbows may also be resting on his knees. One of his knees may also be parallel to the ground while the other is in the air. He may be laying down with his head raised slightly off of the ground and one of his knees sticking up. If he's standing, he will stand straight up (even betas do this) with his chest slightly puffed out and arms farther out than usual to make himself look bigger. Many guys lean back and have their pelvis pushed out farther than the rest of them with their thumbs hanging off of their waistline and their hands/fingers in an upside-down triangle shape pointing toward their groin. Feet pointed outward rather than forward or inward. Men also preen (brush lint off of their clothes or straighten ties/hair).

Just look for the previously listed displays of attempted dominance in combination with extra attention payed to a particular female (or guy if he's gay, although many gay guys take pages from womens' books when flirting) and chances are greatly in the favor of him wanting to get it in.

 

 

 

 

 

Flirting Guide:

Remember flirting is fun. The objective is to show your interest whilst showing you're a fun person and they would want to be with you. So here goes:

>Teasing

Remember - fun, and nice. Don't go full retard

Things to tease about:

>Blonde - This is quite a good one

>Bossy - You can relate this to sex quite easily

>Gullible - Say something being sarcastic, if she flls for it you have ammo

>Wild Side - obvious

Mocking eachother is good, if you take it too far get the fuck out of there. I cannot even say how many times I have seen idiots just be offensive and then be surprised when the girl gets the fuck outta there

>Using body language

Girls like confidence we know this. Here are a few things to use:

>Grin - Not a douche or nervous smile. You know that smile when you're trying to hold back laughter, kinda like that.

>Touching her

>Acting relaxed

>Eye contact

>Mischief

This may seem weird, so I'll explain.

So imagine this. You're at a small get together with some friends and friends of friends. There is a girl who you find attractive and you've done part 1 & 2. Now your both a little bit bored. You look around to see your friends sat around looking stupid, you start ripping on them with the girl. That's not enough. You need to bring more fun for you both.

There really is no better way to bond than to get up to no good. Making trouble in the neighbourhood. So the host have been cooking all day, they're going crazy in the kitchen, and that is when you hide the most vital part of their recipe. Everything, then you sit back relax and laugh. You're so comfortable with eachother then something WILL happen.

Examples:

>If a girl says something nerdy then say "You usually hang out at the library, don't you?"

>If a girl spills her drink then say "Bartender, I think she's had one too many"

>If a girl is acting a little spoiled say "Looks like somebody put their cranky pants on this morning"

To finish, read this:

http://www.seductiontuition.com/subscribed/Small-Talk-Report.pdf

 

 

 

 

Gaining Confidence:

>Force yourself into situations

Put yourself in a position where you either get a friend to introduce to a random girl or do it yourself. You will be forced to improvise. If you fuck up then move on and try again. You might succeed and end up with a number and feel crazy good

>Prolong conversations

So with cashiers and shit then just extend the small talk. So just say like "You alright?" "What do you think of ______" "I hate people like that person that just left, I hated working on the cash machine"

>Dress better, shave (or have stubble, doesn't really matter aslong as it's controlled),clean

You'll look better and feel better

>Take classes in something/Find a new skill

Take cooking classes or some shit. You should be able to meet new people and find a talent

 

NARWHAL'S CONTRIBUTION:

Hey guys. If no one knows, im officially working beside Advguy on the thread (check out the matching tripcodes)

Here's an addition to the Confidence advice. Some of it may only seem loosely relevant to confidence, but its all good:

>Speak fluently and properly

Mumbling should be a crime. A girl isn't going to be interested in a guy who mutters everything they speak. Also talking too fast isn't a good move either.

You know when you hear someone do that classic cough before a speech, or to attract attention before they speak? This actually has a use. This may seem obvious, but use it. It clears your throat so you can speak at a good volume straight away. Always speak at a good volume. Think before you speak so that you dont have to rush what you say.

>Don't be afraid to follow the crowd

Don't become a mindless sheep of course. Keep certain things to yourself, like your pokemon collection or your gigabytes of shemale porn. Think about the things that average people talk about, and what things could land you in trouble socially if you talk about them. For example:

There's this pathetic kid in my school who probably browses this site. He did a presentation in a Film lesson on Star Wars, and he spoke about the droid models, ammunition used etc. which made him look like a massive nerd, everybody laughed. The way he couldve turned this around was by presenting the same film, since its his passion, but talking about the use of camera angles and dialogue and using this sort of in-depth knowledge. Everyone wins.

So in summary to this, flaunt your passions but not to the point of obsession or creepiness.

>Weightlifting

Luckily for me i live with my parents, and my dad keeps fit with a set of barbells. It'll be different for some people on here.

No matter how thin or flabby you are, give weights a go. Get over to /fit/ and look through their stickies for advice. OR get a trainer who can show you proper lifting techniques. The release of adrenaline gives yo the best, proudest high ever.

People can call you a douche or whatever (one of my old friends said 'so he straightens his hair and does weights... Jersey Shore much) but in the end he's the one who's stubborn, and he hasn't had his first kiss at 17.

That feel when you're with a bunch of girls and you ask them to punch you in your stomach, and they feel that brick wall. It's impressive, and even if you don't have a good looking body in the end you still have that inside knowledge that you push yourself to your maximum physically, and you deserve a reward in the form of sex or whatever.

ADVGUY'S OPINION:

Personally I don't lift or do anything like that, but it's not a coincidence that it's the confident guys that have a good body. Just know you can still get laid without being a /fit/ Do you even lift fag.

 

 

 

 

General Tips:

Okay, so I was with quite a few attractive female friends who know about this thread and they told me to write some shit down:

>Be unique

If they wanted someone regular then they have a huge amount of guys to choose from. They say this is a big reason why I'm successful (which is kind of offensive)

So an example of this would be dying hair, different clothes, tattoos.

>Eye contact

Don't stare, just make sure that you give a fair amount, there's a fine line. So like a 30 seconds then look away for a bit, then again. Don't act intimated by her.

>Find a taste in music

If all you listen to is vidya music - or just don't listen to anything, then this is a great start. I was like this, I just tried everything of every genre. Give me a email and I'll give you a place to start.

Girls look for things in common, so if they're a metal chick (so fucking hot) then they're likely to look for metalfags

>Dress/Fashion

This is common sense. Once again if you have no idea where to start then go on a board somewhere, there'll be someone to give good advice and you'll know when you see it. /fa/ isn't that good... May be worth a try though.

I'm not claiming to be the most fashionable guy around, just for a average looking guy I get a fuck load of compliments

Haircut is also very important

 

 

 

Texting:

So you don't know how to text a girl? Lets see

Right, so to start off I should say get a style. Don't go from one word replies to sentences in full English. Just pick one. For example mine is basically how I would speak, so full grammatically correct English, with punctuation and shit. But if you want to do "txt spek" then go for it, just get a style and stick to it.

I use texting for two things - Arranging shit and sometimes flirting. I have found that getting straight to the point is a good thing. Obviously though, if a girl wants to chat roll with it. Unless you barely see the girl try to speak to her more face-to-face, I think this is more effective at getting girls.

>Kisses (xx)

Use the same amount as she does. Or if she uses a shit load then just put one or two

>Emoticons

LIMIT THEM. Don't be that faggot using more smilies than words, that really isn't attractive. Use words to portray emotions.

So either

1- Use them the same amount as the girl

or 2- Only use 3 (I would suggest :), :(, ;) ). And maybe just use one per text. So if you're flirting then put in a ;). Or if you're doing something nice for her just one :)

Don't you even dare use any shit like o_O or (^.^) that is just.... Terrible...

 

Right so this is my last texts to a girl incase it helps:

Girl I met at the party a 2 weeks before, same shit (Me plain, her >):

>HI [ADVGUY]! Xxxxxx

Hey, how's things? I'm throwing another party on friday, wanna come?x

>Yes! defo, I don't know where u live tho. xxx

[My Address]

>I might come round before the party ;)

Fuck sure, I'll get something to do and cook you food ;)

>Sounds good, Thursday after uni?xx

Yeah, I'll meet with you in town?

 

NARWHAL'S CONTRIBUTION:

Texting and social media is a good contender for flirting if you are starting out at not being beta, because in a situation like this you are given a lot of time - therefore you don't have to fumble and panic if you slip up or you see a window of opportunity for flirting.

As mentioned by Advguy above, the winky face ;) is great because girls and guys associate it with mischief or flirting, so use it and you wont look creepy.

Also looking at the text conversation above, it reminded me of a few pointers:

4 kisses has always meant that a girl likes you in my past experience. But there are some girls who throw around kisses like proper text whores. Remember 4 kisses or more though because it seems that a girl is going out of her way to add several kisses.

For people with autism: They aren't literal kisses, you fucking mong. Yes i'm talking to you Paul. You know exactly who you are.

 

 

 

 

Random shit:

 

A way to test a girls feelings:

>Like girl

>Not sure how she feels

>Want to test without asking out

>Told her I had a date for the weekend

>She pokerfaced like fuck

After the weekend

>Told her it went really good

>She cracked, looked really sad

>Asked her out, and said I don't think I'm going to see that girl again

>Betterthanexpected.jpg

Another:

Basically the same except I had more confidence

So same up until "she pokerfaced like fuck"

>Instead this girl looked visibly pissed

>I say "So what do you want to see on this date?"

Luckily she was pretty clever and caught on straight away. Went pretty well.

 

By the way, the order of how to ask a girl out is

Message inside a bottle which you throw at and break her window with < IM < Facebook < Text < Phone < Face-to-Face

 

Some links:

http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcoming-insecurity-in-relationships/

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends-Online

http://www.seductiontuition.com/subscribed/Small-Talk-Report.pdf

http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/6643382/How_to_Talk_to_Anyone__92_Little_Tricks_for_Big_Success_in_Re

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http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/6831697/How_to_Be_a_Gentleman__A_Timely_Guide_to_Timeless_Manners_%28

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http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/6744710/Winning_Body_Language___Control_the_Conversation__Command_Att

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http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/6200401/How_to_Analyze_People_on_Sight-Mantesh

 

 

 

 

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Advguy signing out

 

Thanks to Narwhal bro and an anon whom never told me their name!