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<Said> Her: "heyyyy so sorry! i have been really busy with work and did not look at my messages! let me know maybe we can re schedule!"

<ADallday1> go with the first one

<xxxmoneypower> ah

<xxxmoneypower> wait

<xxxmoneypower> with context

<ADallday1> or what xmp said

<xxxmoneypower> it's different

<Said> Yes

<YJLTGatWORK> ya

<xxxmoneypower> i'd be like

<xxxmoneypower> yo no problem, yeah let's reschedule?what's your number?

<YJLTGatWORK> done and done

<YJLTGatWORK> "it always sounds better from someone else's mouth"

<Said> Yes but the thing is I don't just want the answer

<Said> I want to also explroe and figure out why it's better :D

<Said> The tools to fish, not the fish itself

<YJLTGatWORK> okay so lets look

<YJLTGatWORK> #1 you're being agreeable - yes let's reschedule

<xxxmoneypower> nah

<xxxmoneypower> first

<xxxmoneypower> is

<xxxmoneypower> you're telling her there are no problems

<xxxmoneypower> which is frame control

<YJLTGatWORK> 8===>-- O;

<xxxmoneypower> basically you're opening her up to the idea of, "there are no problems."

<xxxmoneypower> which helps you out when she's like UHH SHOULD I GIVE DUDE MY NUBMER

<xxxmoneypower> WELL WHY NOT

<xxxmoneypower> YOU KNOW

<xxxmoneypower> NO PROBLEM

<Said> But doesnt that make it easier to flake?

<Said> Oh if he doesnt have a problem i didnt respond the first time, i can flake again

<xxxmoneypower> why?

<xxxmoneypower> uh

<xxxmoneypower> no

<xxxmoneypower> you don't know each other

<xxxmoneypower> you're strangers

<xxxmoneypower> it is wrong to hold strangers to standards

<xxxmoneypower> it is right to hold acquaintances to standards

<xxxmoneypower> theres a big difference between people you know, and people you don't know yet

<xxxmoneypower> you should always be more willing to be agreeable with the latter

<Said> But don't people assume standards with strangers based on their own beliefs?

<YJLTGatWORK> yup, and that's most peoples' problem

<Said> Like in cultures or societies

<Said> How do you know someone isnt assuming beliefs on you

<xxxmoneypower> why is that a but?

<xxxmoneypower> that sentence doesn't make sense

<xxxmoneypower> how do you know that someone isn't making assumptions about you?

<xxxmoneypower> is that what you mean?

<Said> Youre saying it's wrong to hold strangers to standards, but don't people do it anyway?

<xxxmoneypower> I'm telling you if you're trying to get laid more it will do you better to be more accepting of strangers and their behaviors, and to apply filters after you know them.

<xxxmoneypower> I think any enlightened person would tell you that, actually?that is is more powerful to be understanding, and then critical as opposed to the other way around.

<xxxmoneypower> Anyways, this is so many light years beyond the question that you asked.

<YJLTGatWORK> rofl rofl rofl

<Cereals> keep going

<xxxmoneypower> The reason the message is good is because you're setting a light hearted frame, you're building compliance, and you're advancing the interaction one step further, and no more or less than that.

<xxxmoneypower> When in doubt, keep it simple, and make it fun.

<xxxmoneypower> You could improve the message by finding some humor in it, but I don't know the bitch so I don't know what she might find funny.

<Cereals> that waws quotable

<Cereals> until you said ¨bitch¨

<Cereals> gj

<xxxmoneypower> I try to keep things down to earth.

<Said> Sure, of course. But what I'm thinking is if you keep something fun and lighthearted it makes it easier to flake on no?

<YJLTGatWORK> why would you want a girl who flakes on somethingl ike that

<Said> Not that I have an issue not keeping it fun or lighthearted

<xxxmoneypower> If you're telling me that being overbearing and boring is a good way to keep people from flaking, I am telling you that you are completely and utterly wrong.

<Said> No that's not what I'm saying, what I'm saying is something fun and light with no personal attachement would make it easy to flake on. Is there any way to keep something fun, light, but investing?

<xxxmoneypower> If she has already flaked, you are in a position of receptivity to something that has already happened. You cannot ask her to unflake, and if she flakes again then you may decide not to follow up with her.

<xxxmoneypower> You are asking to her invest, by soliciting her number.

<Said> Yes^

<xxxmoneypower> If she declines that invitation, then she wasn't interested in seeing you anyways.

<Said> That's what I'm trying to get to,

<xxxmoneypower> ....

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<Said> How to make something fun and light (Which I understood) but at the same time INVESTING enough to ensure low flake rate

<xxxmoneypower> ....

<TheDukeDevlin> The investing is when she gives you her # isn't it?

<YJLTGatWORK> --^

<xxxmoneypower> ?.

<Cereals> I think you know she is invested when she asked for a reschedule