Hey guys, ffirst of all I want to thank all the original commenters who helped me see my SO's side and calmed me down enough to take the test.

Well, the results are in and of course she's his. the whole process was absolutely ridiculous, I got an appointment with the doctor and texted SO the time and location, he didn't answer but showed up, and the entire time he didn't say ONE word to me, and he didn't want to touch or even look at baby, and left as soon as they'd taken his sample, despite the doctor asking him to stay so we could go over a few things. once he left I just broke down, and I must say the doctor was really nice, didn't judge me or accuse me of anything, just calmly went over how the test works, and told me babies are often born darker than they actually end up being. Baby was an absolute champ, barely fussed when they drew her blood.

I got the results yesterday. I texted SO the news and asked if he wanted to come over and open it with me. after almost half an hour he finally responded, yes he'd like to come over. I'm thinking he either sent it while on his way or he's not staying very far away because he was here in about 15 minutes. Well, we opened it and read the positive test together. he turned white like a sheet and then just started bawling, I had to shush him because he was crying so loudly.

and finally I got an explanation for his flip out. I mentioned in a comment on the old post that he was an only child to very old parents, his dad died a few years ago, and his mom lives alone a few hours drive from us. I haven't met her often, but she seemed pleasant enough. Turns out she hates me. absolutely hates my guts and always has, I had no idea about this. She's always acted kinda snobby, sure, but I had no idea she disliked me this much.

when SO called her to tell her the good news 8 months back when we discovered the pregnancy she started crying (he never told me this). and as the months passed she continued being super negative about the whole thing, and saying she doubted the baby was actually his, I was below them, poor people cheat because they're raised in a fucked up environment (WTF?!). and instead of talking to me about this, SO kept silent while constantly doubting me more and more. Baby being black just put the final nail in the coffin that his mother was right and I was a good for nothing, cheating bitch.

after telling me all this we just sat in silence for a while. finally he asked if he could hold baby. I was still angry as hell, but decided that holding her was his right, he's her father after all. I went and got her from her crib, let him have her, and he started crying again, which scared her and she started crying too. so they were just sitting there bawling together for a while. finally he stopped, handed her back and asked if he could come home.

I was kinda taken aback, I didn't expect him to just flat out ask that already. I laid out everything I said in the last thread, how insanely disrespectful and childish he'd been, how he'd horribly broken my trust, hadn't talked to me about his mom's poisonous and ignorant comments, completely ignores me for three days not telling me where he is or if he's even alive, and then he just waltzes in and wants to start living here again?

I told him if he ever wanted to have some inkling of a chance of mending the relationship we had to go to couple's therapy ASAP, from now on he will answer my calls and messages unless there's an emergency, he will not be staying here for a while and finally he needs tell his mom to back the fuck off. she will not be seeing baby until she apologizes to me in person.

he immediately agreed, and finally told me how sorry he was for this whole fiasco. I'm not sure if I can forgive him for this, but I'm gonna try. we had an amazing life before this, and I hope that with a lot of work we can have it again. SO also finally told me that he was staying in a hostel, but it's not very expensive so he can stay there for a while longer.

baby is doing great considering how many stress hormones she must have been drinking from me these last few days. her hair is falling out, but the doctor told me it was normal and babies often lose most or all the hair they're born with. I'm hoping her new hair will grow in blonde, that would make her even cuter.

Thank you all for your help on the last thread, my mom agreed with many of you and thinks I'm absolutely nuts for trying to work things out, but I think it'd be best for everyone if we at least give it a shot, especially baby.

TL;DR: I'm not a lying whore, his mom is a bitch, we're trying to work things out.