[10:40:28] Jaspreet Jaswal: and since I mentioned it but then spoke already to someone
[10:40:32] Jaspreet Jaswal: http://pastebin.com/iWjmZnXg
[10:41:16] Jaspreet Jaswal: then at the end there yeah a new conversation upset me
[10:41:56] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Okay, I'm going to state the obvious here
[10:42:11] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: there are two other people in the group that have almost a similar situation
[10:42:30] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: and I'm going to do my best to help, but you've got to make me a promise
[10:42:45] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: you're going to help yourself as well
[10:43:16] Jaspreet Jaswal: right
[10:45:13] Jaspreet Jaswal: xrx is like one the last bunch of people I still mostly like and care aout
[10:45:33] Jaspreet Jaswal: even if I'm not trying to be super attached or venting
[10:46:51] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: It's okay to detach yourself from people or groups, but if you're doing that too often then it's clear you need help with social interaction.
[10:47:29] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: because then it becomes clear it's more of a perspective thing than other people being toxic
[10:48:24] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: But that's fine, I'm going to make some fun activities that can help you with that hopefully. I think one of the prime factors is communication
[10:48:31] Jaspreet Jaswal: yeah its gotta be much more a perspective/personality thing
[10:48:57] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: and I'll tell you this. I was exactly like you when I was in Highschool, even after for a while
[10:49:39] Jaspreet Jaswal: and b/c of I seeing those 3 as slightly toxic to me suddenly It was easier to stop caring about them and start running? ahaha
[10:49:59] Jaspreet Jaswal: I'm blatantly trying to avoid Sweden in xrx
[10:50:10] Jaspreet Jaswal: b/c I don't feel ok w/ them
[10:50:10] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: I think you know by now, running without confrontation gets you nowhere
[10:50:33] Jaspreet Jaswal: but the confrontation doesn't go the way I wish so
[10:50:45] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: yes, it's never easy
[10:50:45] Jaspreet Jaswal: at least with family it really hasnt
[10:50:59] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Purrl and Stealthy struggle the same.
[10:51:49] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Why do you feel uncomfortable with Sweden? If you don't mind me asking that is.
I'm not going to try to solve things between you or get involved- I personally want you guys to figure out yourself.
[10:52:14] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: But if you need any advice on trying to solve an issue, I can help you there
[10:52:14] Jaspreet Jaswal: UNDERStandable
[10:52:36] Jaspreet Jaswal: eh...
[10:52:54] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: just tell me if it's a miscommunication thing
[10:53:15] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: that's all I need to know.
[10:54:55] Jaspreet Jaswal: shortly after I joined xrx they did, then soon got upset at two friends breaking off from then, and then their reaction to me finding out really upset me so I started to turn from them, filling in with my paranoia b/c they were still hanging around the mods from a disastrous group that's probably done most of the shattering of me now when it fell apart
[10:55:58] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: I'm sorry to hear that.
[10:56:10] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: But yes, that's more a perspective thing.
[10:57:26] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: May I ask you a question? It's optional to answer.
Do you feel restricted to some sort of freedom at home?
[11:05:14] Jaspreet Jaswal: how so?
[11:05:34] Jaspreet Jaswal: not sure interpreted it correctly
[11:06:11] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Well, for an example, one particular person in the group struggles with parents disallowing them some sort of freedom: ie. not letting them go outside at times
[11:06:49] Jaspreet Jaswal: ah then I think I had it correct
[11:07:19] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: this can be a huge obstacle. Another person in our group has an issue where their parents are constantly calling them worthless
[11:07:34] Jaspreet Jaswal: being told I'm always on games on my laptop, I should not be playing them, I should not be talking to people online
[11:07:40] Jaspreet Jaswal: etc.
[11:09:07] Jaspreet Jaswal: and with family I don't believe them any more, there's no point in telling them anything
[11:10:05] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Yeah, lots of people have that issue.
[11:10:47] Jaspreet Jaswal: so yeah ive definitely warped my perspective/personality with stuff like this
[11:11:01] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: Our parents generation doesn't really understand certain elements of social disability so they get very frustrated
[11:11:04] Jaspreet Jaswal: over the years
[11:11:28] Jaspreet Jaswal: building and building and then Astoria was the shatterpoint?
[11:11:30] Jaspreet Jaswal: mhm
[11:11:53] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: But Like I say to Purrl, it's okay to have some distrust, and it's very normal, mostly for people like you and I who are Autistic.
[11:12:12] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: But if you constantly point out the worst in people and things, you will never be happy
[11:12:21] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: so there needs to be a balance
[11:12:43] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: I heard a lot of stuff about Astoria, and I know.
[11:13:08] ☆ Hiiragi ☆: I hope I can give you some positive experiences in my group that might help you start seeing some good in everything as well.